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Corresponding Author:R. Emerson Dobash, Professor of Criminology, School of Law, University of Manchester, Oxford Road, Manchester, UK M13 9PL Email: [email protected]

What Were They Thinking? Men Who Murder an Intimate Partner

R. Emerson Dobash1 and Russell P. Dobash1

Abstract

The focus is on cognitions of men who murder an intimate partner and includes thinking prior to and after the murder. Based on the Murder in Britain Study, the qualitative accounts of various professionals included in the casefiles of 104 men convicted of murdering a woman partner are used to examine beliefs about intimate relationships, orientations toward violence and previous violence to the victim, as well as subsequent denials, rationalizations, and justifications. We conclude that these and other cognitions are important elements of intimate partner murder and must be challenged and changed in efforts to eliminate nonlethal abuse and murder.

Keywords

intimate partner murder, orientations, cognitions

Violence against women is now recognized as a worldwide problem that affects millions of women. The problem was initially “discovered” by feminist activists in Britain and the United States in the 1970s and various remedies and interventions were proposed. Most focused on the plight and needs of victims and a few were directed at the violent behavior of abusers. Initially, the focus was almost exclusively on the most urgent and pragmatic issues of providing emergency shelter and long-term housing for women attempting to escape from violent men and improving the responses of the police and the justice system. Accompanying both were concerns about what men might be thinking when they abuse and the rationalizations and justifications they might use for such actions. In both Britain and the United States, the primary concern from the outset was about the victims of vio-lence, although there was also some early interest in male abusers (Parliamentary Select

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Committee, 1975; U.S. Commission on Civil Rights, 1978). Since then, the flood of com-mentary and empirical evidence has appropriately focused on abused women, their plight, their experiences of violence, and their insights about the abusers. In addition, abuser pro-grams have amassed a body of “practice-based” knowledge about the actions and thinking of men who abuse (Gondolf, 1987; Morran & Wilson, 1997; Pence & Paymar, 1993). This knowledge is invaluable, but there is relatively little systematic qualitative research about the motivations, intentions, rationalizations, and justifications of men who abuse and almost none about men who murder an intimate partner. Here, we seek to extend this knowledge by examining the cognitions of men who murder an intimate partner, focusing particularly on their beliefs, orientations, rationalizations, and justifications. To do this, we use qualita-tive data from the Murder in Britain study based on a subset of 104 men convicted of murdering an intimate partner. The casefiles of these men contain a wealth of information provided by a variety of professionals involved with them prior to and after the murder. To date, little is known about what they might have been thinking at the time of the murder and their subsequent orientations to the murder and the victim. To position this analysis, we briefly examine literature about intimate partner violence and a related body of work about more general responses of offenders to their “untoward” (problematic) behavior.

Men’s Responses to Abusing an Intimate Partner: Cognitions, Rationalizations, and JustificationsSystematic, qualitative research about the orientations and cognitions of abusers is sparse, and there is even less research focusing on the cognitions of intimate partner murderers. Much of the research about abusers focuses on socioeconomic characteristics and various aspects of problematic behavior such as alcohol abuse and psychological profiles (for a review see Dobash & Dobash, 2003; Dobash, Dobash, & Cavanagh, 2009). Knowledge about their cognitions has mostly been derived from women who have been abused. Their accounts are often fulsome discussions of the violence as well as the relationship and the context and circumstances in which it occurs (see Dobash & Dobash, 1979; Martin, 1976 for early reports).

Obtaining direct qualitative evidence about the cognitions of abusers and men who murder an intimate partner is fraught with obstacles ranging from a total refusal to discuss the violence to a reluctance to discuss relevant motivations, intentions, and orientations. Both abusers and murderers usually offer abbreviated accounts of the violence and begin at a point that implicates the woman or others, and reduces or eliminates their own culpa-bility (Adams, 2007; Dobash & Dobash, 1979; Dobash, Dobash, Cavanagh, & Lewis, 1998, 2000). Ptacek (1988) interviewed 18 men in a community program for abusers. He found that they excused their behavior by citing such things as “frustration” and “loss of control because of alcohol,” attempted to justify the violence and/or denied any wrong doing, and also claimed that women exaggerated the violence and its consequences. Despite the claim of “loss of control,” men cited clear objectives for their use of violence: Silencing her; punishing her for “wrongdoings”; frightening her into behaving as he demands; and teaching her a

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lesson. In her interviews with 15 abusers, Bograd (1988) found that more than one half justi-fied their violence and blamed the victim because she failed to meet his expectations of a “good wife.” Violence was purposeful and aimed at achieving a specific end. Anderson and Umberson (2001) reported similar patterns in their interviews with 33 abusers who excused and justified their violence and considered their actions to be rational and purpose-ful, yet paradoxically also viewed themselves as “out of control.” Again, the men viewed the women as responsible for the violence because they were seen as inadequate partners and/or mothers who failed to live up to his expectations. Similarly, Borochowitz’s (2008) study of 18 batterers in Israel revealed justifications based on the man’s idealized view of what a woman partner should be, and violence was used to punish a “disobedient” wife.

Similarly, in our own in-depth interviews with 122 convicted abusers and 136 women partners of abusers, the men offered a range of exculpatory and excusatory explanations for their violence (Cavanagh, Dobash, Dobash, & Lewis, 2001; Dobash et al., 2000). Abusers often engaged in “selective forgetting” and cited “lack of memory” when discussing their violence, but they also engaged in “selective remembering” in their accounts of violent events. Using Goffman’s (1971) concept of “remedial work,” we found that abusers offered “accounts,” “apologies,” and “requests” as they sought to deny, mitigate, and discount their violence. Yet, in a somewhat contradictory fashion, they simultaneously sought forgive-ness and absolution from their partner suggesting, “I didn’t do it,” “It was nothing,” “You need to forgive and forget.” Forgiveness and redemption are sought and often given as women seek to placate their partner for the sake of the relationship and/or the children or because of a fear that the violence will escalate if the apology is not accepted and/or the relationship reconstituted. At once, the violence is purposeful yet the account is paradoxi-cal in that it obfuscates culpability while also seeking absolution and forgiveness (Cavanagh et. al., 2001). Through this process, men seek to “convince” the woman of her culpability and to reconstitute the relationship on his terms. For their part, women engage in numerous strategies of negotiation and resistance in attempting to survive the relationship and/or to reconstitute it as nonviolent (see also Dutton, 1996; Hyden, 1994). Although Goffman’s schema is useful, the concept of “requests” has limited value in this context because requests were often “demands” underpinned by violence and/or threats.

As indicated above, systematic, qualitative research on the cognitions of men who mur-der an intimate partner is very limited. Adams (2007) interviewed 31 men convicted of murdering their intimate partners. He found them to be rigid in their attitudes and self-centered. They denigrated their partners and blamed them for the violence. He concluded that controlling, abusive, and violent behavior usually escalated over time and was evident in a vast majority of cases. Among most of the men, he found strong notions of ownership, possessiveness, and jealousy, even though a sense of “ownership” was usually denied. For a few, the relevant motivation appeared to be more related to the retention of financial or material assets (Adams, 2007; see also Dobash et al., 2009). Using qualitative material from 121 homicide files from the Office of the Coroner of Victoria, Australia (1985-1986), Polk (1994; Polk & Ranson, 1991) found that about one third of the cases involved an intimate, sexual relationship. He concluded that for those in which a woman was killed, there was

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usually a history of jealousy and violence toward the woman, and he characterized these homicides as arising from “masculine possession” and “sexual ownership.”

Evidence about the actions and orientations of violent abusers and intimate partner mur-derers parallels reports of men who use violence in other contexts, especially violence against other men. Toch’s (1969) early interview study of men convicted of a violent offense revealed how they attempted to justify their violence and how it was integral to their iden-tity. This and a wealth of other evidence provides strong support for the notion that men’s violence against other men often valorizes the perpetrator and sometimes even valorizes the male victim (Bourgois, 1996; Chagnon, 1983; Descola, 1996; Dobash & Dobash, 1984, 1998; Polk, 1994; Spierenburg, 1998; Toch, 1969) But, is a man valorized when he uses vio-lence against a woman? Is the act valorized? Is the actor valorized? Does violence against a woman partner enhance a man’s sense of self-worth and esteem? In many ways it does. In other ways it does not. From their point of view, these offenders often see themselves as norm enforcers upholding “high values,” such as the sanctity of marriage, the family, and motherhood. In this sense, violence is viewed as acceptable when women are defined as “out of line” with the man’s notions of the appropriate behavior for a wife, mother, or housekeeper. In these and other circumstances, men feel justified in using violence to enforce their will, act as judge, jury, and enforcer of their rigid notions of normative stan-dards for women, and treat their woman partner as a devalued object or “a mere branch” of themselves (Borochowitz, 2008, p. 1170). Whether the interpretive lens is feminist, socio-logical, psychological or psychoanalytic, the findings suggest that men who use lethal and nonlethal violence against their women partners are highly controlling and use violence to enforce their own moral order and to punish perceived transgressions from it. They lack empathy with the victim of their violence, and their beliefs and orientations provide them with a cognitive foundation for justifications and rationales for the violence, which means that they may have little or no remorse for its use.

Responses to Other “Untoward” Acts: Cognitions, Rationalizations, and JustificationsSocial and behavioral scientists have long been interested in the narratives associated with individual and collective responses to problematic behavior, including violence. In an early, foundational attempt to describe responses to untoward behavior committed by juvenile delinquents, Sykes and Matza (1957) identified various “techniques of neutralization” and posited that rationalizations and justifications, along with expressions of shame or guilt, suggest at least a marginal acceptance of the conventions being violated. The techniques of neutralization that justify and rationalize deviant actions include the following: Denial of responsibility, of injury, and of victim status, as well as condemnation of the condemners, and an appeal to some higher authority. Such norms and values not only rationalize the “deviant” behavior but also prepare the groundwork for other such acts (Sykes & Matza, 1957; see also Lamnek, 2003).

Drawing on English moral philosophers and interactionist perspectives, the early work of Scott and Lyman (1968) viewed the nature of “accounts” offered for “unanticipated and untoward behavior” as basically exculpatory and of two types: Excuses and justifications.

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Excuses vary and involve an admission that the act was “bad, wrong or inappropriate,” but also include a denial of responsibility. Justifications are attempts to “neutralize” an “act” and at the same time to include a claim that the act was permissible or inevitable under certain circumstances. Of importance to this analysis is the discussion of “sad tales” with the wrongdoer reconstructing their biography to create the impression of a “dismal past” that “explains” and thus “justifies” their deviant behavior (Scott & Lyman, 1968, n. 29, 52).

Justifications and excuses are not always acknowledged or accepted because their accep-tance by an “audience” depends on a shared sociocultural background including expectations of what is appropriate within specific relationships and situations. In giving the account, the offender’s demeanor is important in terms of how it is received, for example, “contrite and apologetic” or “cold and unemotional.” Throughout the interactive process of giving and receiving an account, the offender is engaged in “alter casting,” attempting to construct a specific situational identity that may be more or less successful with the “audience” that receives and interprets it. For example, a murderer may present himself as a reasonable man who was “pushed beyond his limits” by the actions of an “unreasonable” woman, a scenario that until recently was embedded in Anglo-American legal systems in the “reasonable man” defense for murder (Daly & Wilson, 1988). Yet, the audience may not accept an account and may instead deem it “unreasonable” or “illegitimate.” According to Scott and Lyman (1968), the gravity of the offense is extremely important in this process of negotiating and/or accepting an account.

Working on moral development, psychologists have also focused on the interpretations and perceptions of individuals engaged in problematic behavior, including violence. This constitutes the foundations of much of the current cognitive-behavioral work with offend-ers, where Bandura’s (1991) research has been extremely important. He argues that indi-viduals must have the ability to engage in “self approving” and “self-critical” reflection that depend on the evaluations of others and develop within a social context. The fully functioning adult is capable of meaningful self-sanction and is concerned about the adverse effects of their behavior on others. Mature adults are empathetic, self-sanctioning, and able to consider the reactions of others. Reprehensible, antisocial, and harmful behavior involves a different moral reasoning, one based on weak empathy, near absence of the mechanisms of self-sanction, and a range of ideologies, beliefs, and “cultural prescriptions” that allow “reasonable” people to act violently. Violence and other forms of oppressive behavior can be made “righteous through cognitive restructuring” (Bandura, 1991, p. 73).

Bandura (1991) discusses a number of mechanisms associated with attempts to justify and/or excuse collective and/or individual violent behavior. “Advantageous comparisons” involve interpretations of one’s own destructive conduct as “trifling or even benevolent” compared to the acts of others, and violence is perpetrated for a high moral purpose such as the prevention of the “reckless” behavior of a spouse. “Displacement and/or diffusion of res-ponsibility” obscures the relationship between acts and their impact with consequences defined as unintended or “dictates of the situation” and, as such, personal acts are disowned and agency denied. “Disregard or distortion of consequences” involves selective inattention and cognitive distortions wherein individuals attempt to distance themselves from the consequences of their acts. “Dehumanization and impersonalization” involve divesting victims of human qualities, thus blunting self-sanctions when individuals are no longer seen as worthy of

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respect or fail to obey. “Attribution of blame” involves assigning responsibility for the violence to the victim. This is especially apparent in justifications for physical and sexual violence against women, particularly when it is culturally condoned or weakly condemned. As Bandura (1991) observed, “anticipatory self-censure” is eliminated when the traumatic effects of sexual assault are “twisted into pleasurable ones for the victim” (p. 93). With “disengagement of self sanctions and self-deception,” offenders distance themselves from the act and the victim while attempting to enhance their own sense of self. They remain intentionally and vigorously uninformed regarding their violent acts. When presented with conflicting evidence or interpretations, they are incredulous, challenge the authenticity or relevance of the account, and/or twist it to fit their own views.

Tavuchis’ (1991) philosophical “sociology of apology” is an exploration of appropriate and meaningful responses to untoward behavior that is critical of a focus on “accounts” because, as he argues, they merely describe excuses, justifications, and defenses that are primarily “placatory” or “evasive.” In addition, they are attempts to distance the self from untoward acts and to avoid responsibility by invoking categories of causality such as “inca-pacity, accident, ignorance or coercion” that do not include “authentic’ regret.” He notes that in the sociological literature on “accounts,” there is little or no discussion of regret, sorrow, and remorse, yet these are essential aspects of a genuine apology in which the offender has no excuse, justification, or exculpatory account in his efforts to reform or seek forgiveness. He notes that in Goffman’s discussion of apology, the individual splits the self into one side that is guilty and the other that is separate from the act which, for Tavuchis, does not constitute an apology. Instead, it is essential to accept responsibility for injurious actions and accept that it was wrong, harmful, and inexcusable. As such, an apology is marked by “self-exposure to justifiable retribution.”

The active engagement of third parties, such as professionals working within the prison service, is essential throughout the process of retribution and reform, and they are never impartial observers. Offenders attempt to avoid this painful process by employing a range of strategies. For Tavuchis (1991), these include: Remaining silent, denying allegations, challenging the validity of facts or interpretations, impugning the motives of third parties, and attempting to completely avoid discussion of the offending behavior. Some offenders find it impossible to apologize and remain fixed to a position of denial and/or deflection of responsibility. Inauthentic apologies are often proffered and constitute a social type: “The congenital or compulsive apologizer [that] makes a mockery of sorrow and debases for-giveness.” Inauthentic “self-blame” constitutes another form of diversion and may be seen as a form of self-praise as the “conversation remains fixed on the subject of supreme interest and importance” (Tavuchis, 1991, p. 35).

In examining the cognitions, rationalizations, and justifications of men who murder an intimate partner, we consider what they might have been thinking as they engaged in such an extreme act of violence. The two literatures—about intimate partner violence and about other types of offending—provide a brief summary of what is known or theorized about orientations of offenders to the commission of “untoward” or deviant acts, the rationalizations they employ, the normative “rules” they apply to justify their behavior, and the multiplicity of tactics they use to avoid taking responsibility for their actions and/or engaging in relevant changes in personal orientations or actions. Common to the literatures are the notions that

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deviant acts occur within a context to which the perpetrator brings a set of rules, norms, or ideas about what is correct or to be expected, demanded, or allowed. In the case of inter-personal violence, these are used as indicators of the wrongdoing of the victim, justify the “corrective” action of the perpetrator, and allow the sense of self to remain intact and untainted in ways that might otherwise accrue to one who perpetrates violence. The con-text, with its rigid set of rules and expectations, provides the stage for enforcement through violence and justification by virtue of maintaining standards of behavior deemed to be “appropriate.” There are numerous steps along the way from deviant act, to denial, to accepting responsibility, to feeling regret, and possibly to personal change. Throughout, these are interwoven with the specific issues relating to each individual but are lived out within a wider cultural context of gender relationships that must be considered if this pro-cess is to be understood more fully and if that understanding is to be brought to the process of positive personal change of those who murder an intimate partner.

The StudyThe Murder in Britain Study was a 3-year investigation of all types of murder that used three sources of data: The extant Homicide Indexes for England/Wales and for Scotland; the casefiles of 786 men and 80 women convicted of murder; and intensive interviews with 180 men and 20 women serving a life sentence for murder at the time of the study. Both the casefile and interview data sets are unique and allow for an intensive examination of different types of murder not previously possible. Each data set contains extensive infor-mation about the childhood and adult backgrounds and life circumstances of offenders as well as the situations and circumstances of the murder. All original data from interviews and casefiles were gathered by a team of four senior researchers with many years of expe-rience studying violent men and victims of violence.1 The casefile data set is based on systematic analysis of the files of those convicted of murder, not manslaughter, and includes both quantitative and qualitative data (Cavanagh, Dobash, & Dobash 2007; Dobash, Dobash, Cavanagh, & Lewis 2004; Dobash, Dobash, Cavanagh, & Medina-Ariza, 2007; Dobash, Dobash, Cavanaugh, Smith, & Medina-Ariza, 2007; see Lewis, Dobash, Dobash, & Cavanagh, 2003 on interviews).2 Here, we focus on the qualitative data drawn from a subset of 104 casefiles of men convicted of murdering an intimate partner and examine their beliefs, rationales, and justifications. The material is representative of the observations of the professionals who were dealing with these men and is grouped into several themes relevant to the commission of the violence and to interventions oriented to changing such behavior and the supporting attitudes and beliefs.

Casefile Data SetAs indicated, these findings focus on men only and are based exclusively on those convicted of murder. In Britain, a conviction for murder (but not manslaughter) leads to a mandatory life sentence with a specified tariff, which is a recommended minimum number of years to be served, usually about 12 (Ashworth & Mitchell, 2000). Because of this indeterminate sentence, offenders must address their offending behavior before being released and, as a

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consequence, extensive records are kept throughout their sentence (Parole Board, 2009). As such, the casefile of every convicted murderer is extensive and sometimes extends to over 100 pages in length. Casefiles contain information about the murder and the offender provided by the police, forensic experts, solicitors, trial judges, psychiatrists/psychologists, medical staff, social workers, probation officers, school teachers, family members, witnesses, and the offender. Before the trial, the police gather extensive information about the murder event and the offender including previous convictions, intimate relationships, employ-ment, and the like. Details about intimate partner relations, present and past, were gathered by the police from neighbors, relatives, and previous partners as well as from social workers, probation officers, general practitioners (doctors) and others.

Once in prison, those convicted of murder are assessed and interviewed by a range of prison staff (prison governors, psychologists, probation officers, and prison officers). Periodic formal reviews are an essential aspect of these assessments, and these materials are col-lected into the prisoner’s casefile. This provides information about progression through the prison system and is used for parole decisions and the setting of a release date. Casefiles include details about: the offense and orientations to it; previous convictions; presentence reports from medical, psychiatric, and probation professionals; summaries of progress in prison (e.g., taking responsibility for the offense, dealing with associated patterns of think-ing, and problematic behavior such as substance abuse); progress on relevant programs associated with risk reduction; discipline problems; and a range of reports from others (Parole Board, 2009). Such extensive record keeping applies only to those found guilty of murder, not manslaughter, and it is this level of information that provides the opportunity to examine lethal violence in much greater detail than usually possible and to extend exist-ing knowledge about this event and those who perpetrate it. All of this information was used to construct the casefile data sets.

At the time of the study, the original casefile of every man and woman convicted of murder was held in prison headquarters in London (for England/Wales) and Edinburgh (for Scotland) and a second copy was located in the prison where each offender was residing. For the casefile data set, a systematic sample of every nth case of murder was selected from each archive (London and Edinburgh) along with all cases of convicted murderers in each of the prisons identified as a strategic site where interviews were to be conducted. The lat-ter ensured that casefile data were collected for all the men and women who were eventu-ally interviewed. Prisons were selected as strategic sites to include both men and women offenders, institutions located in different parts of the two jurisdictions, and prisons hold-ing those convicted of different types of murder.

Qualitative Documentary AnalysisThe approach to the qualitative data in the casefiles is an example of documentary content analysis, a methodology integral to disciplines such as history and media studies (Altheide, 1987; Atkinson & Coffey, 1997; Miller & Alvarado, 2005; Prior, 2003). It is reflexive, analytical and, as in this study, often begins with prestructured categories and concepts that may be altered during the course of the research or the analysis, which may be numeric

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but is usually textual. Here, an initial pilot study involved collecting data at several loca-tions within the two jurisdictions of England/Wales and Scotland. This was followed by the main study, which included recording quantitative data directly into SPSS and qualitative textual data directly into Word documents that were then coded and transferred to the qualitative software package QSR/NVivo (www.qsrintertnational.com; Richards, 2006) for subsequent analysis. For this analysis, materials were initially recorded into broad categories reflecting theoretically informed and empirically grounded concepts. A subse-quent reflexive stage sharpened the initial categories through a deductive and inductive process involving lengthy discussions among the researchers to ensure that the categories were representative of the materials. Each researcher was responsible for the data that they had collected, and coded it into the relevant categories in the QSR file, which contains 26 main nodes and 124 subnodes (nodes = categories in QSR). Examples of main nodes include the following: Type of murder; victim–offender relationship; significant substan-tive issues about childhood, adulthood, substance abuse, and previous offending. Docu mentary analysis, like all methods, has its limitations. As discussed above, the origi-nal information within the casefiles came from numerous sources and original docu-ments beginning with early childhood, schooling, and offending and following through to reports from various professionals within prison. As might be expected, reports from various sources reflect the differing concerns and foci of each source that, while adding up to a very large and comprehensive dossier of information relevant to the research, might also contain information that is contradictory in ways that challenge the reliability and validity of the findings. To assess the overall level of agreement among various contributions to the casefile, the researcher who read and coded the file judged each casefile accordingly and ranked it for the level of agreement from high to low. Across the casefile data set, the consistency of agreement among the various contributors was high or very high in the majority of cases and low in only about 6% of the cases. Certain methodological perspectives might characterize the observations of professionals as simply reflections of some overarching administrative or organizational imperatives, or as mere “texts” with no experiential anchor (Cicourel, 1968; Prior, 2003). We do not hold this position, but instead consider the assessments of the various professionals as addi-tional evidence about the offender and the offense to be used in extending both knowledge and understanding.

FindingsAs indicated, this analysis is based on 104 cases of men convicted of murdering a current or former partner in the context of a marital, cohabiting (unmarried couples in coresidence), or serious dating (but not cohabitating) relationship. We have drawn representative materi-als from QSR nodes that focus on the victim–offender relationship, previous violence within the relationship, orientations to the victim and the murder event. Although some of the quotes are from offenders, most of the narratives are from the various professionals who regularly interview and/or work with the offenders in prison and thus their observations are particularly important.

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We begin where the perpetrators often begin: With total denial of the murder. For a variety of reasons relating to the workings of the justice system as well as orientations of the perpetrator, the initial response to the act of murder is often one of complete denial. Although this is not usually maintained throughout the process from trial through impris-onment, it is often transformed into various forms of denial of responsibility for the murder or refusals to discuss the murder and issues relating to it. However, professionals working with such offenders deem it essential to deal with such issues in their efforts to affect per-sonal change. Once in prison, the relevant professionals see the overcoming of denial and acknowledgment of the commission of the act as an essential starting point and a continual point of reference throughout the ongoing process of personal change.3 As such, we begin by briefly considering the issue of complete denial.

This is followed by a consideration of the history of nonlethal violence to the woman who is eventually murdered and problems with women in intimate relationships, issues of authority, control, possessiveness, and others that have been established within the litera-ture as relevant to men’s orientations to women partners and to their use of violence against them (including murder). Abusers and other violent offenders are generally nonreflective, reluctant to acknowledge and/or address their problematic behaviors, and rarely genuinely self-critical. One of the tasks of those who attempt to assist such men to change their behavior is that of assisting them in acknowledging their past and understanding how it relates to their present violent behavior. As suggested in the literature, the cognitions of violent offenders are often distorted and their accounts of the violence frequently constitute attempts to deny, deflect, and/or otherwise mitigate responsibility. Professionals’ reports of the orientations of offenders illustrate these points. Failure to empathize with the victim and a lack of regret or remorse for the murder are integral aspects of the problem that the professionals attempt to address and are viewed by them as significant aspects of the refor-mative process. Yet, as shall be shown, many of the men strongly resist these efforts and cling to their original cognitions and rationales.

Complete Denial of the MurderThere are many facets of denial: Of the murder itself, of previous abuse of the victim, of responsibility for the outcome of the event, of problematic relationships with the victim and/or women in general, and many others. For some, denial is absolute, whereas for others it is conditional and based on various rationales and notions that absolve the perpetrator of responsibility. When initially interviewed by the police, about one half of the men denied that they committed the murder, many pleaded “not guilty” at their trial, and about 15% maintained complete denial even after being found guilty and throughout their period of imprisonment. It should be stressed that denial is a complex and evolving process relating to varying contexts including the legal processes of arrest and trial where denial may be used in an attempt to avoid prosecution, conviction, and long-term imprisonment. Even after conviction and imprisonment, some continue to deny the act as a strategy for avoiding various forms of interventions aimed at reformation and personal change within prison.

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The following examples of denial of the murder come directly from the perpetrators and from professionals.

I couldn’t believe it. And it actually took me five or six years really to actually accept the fact that she was actually dead. Because I’ve never really seen anything in the papers confirming she died, or anything like that. I’d actually only ever seen one document where it’s actually said “deceased.” It took me years to accept that she was actually dead. (1042cf)

I never thought my wife had died. I thought she was in a deep sleep. (1026cf)

He is willing to do Anger Management [program]. He says that such a course would be relevant in assisting him to deal with the anger he feels regarding what he claims is his wrongful conviction. (1038cf)

He continues to vehemently deny committing the index offense [murder]. Until his attitude changes little progress will be observed, no programs will be scheduled and specific intervention work ignored. (1090cf)

History of Nonlethal Violence to the Victim and a Previous PartnerIn addition to attempting to engage about the murder, the various professionals working with offenders in prison also seek to explore previous violent behavior either to the victim of the murder or to others. The purpose of this is for the offender to begin to acknowledge his own biography of violence in its various manifestations. Some men more readily acknowledge both the murder and previous forms of violence, whereas others continue to deny or minimize both. Although a small proportion of the men had no known history of previous violence either to the victim or to others, most did have such a history (Dobash et al., 2009). Of the 104 men who killed an intimate partner, their casefiles revealed that 59% had physically abused the woman they ultimately killed. In addition, of the men who had been in a previous intimate relationship, 57% had abused a former partner, and in that sense appeared to “specialize” in using violence against a woman partner (Dobash et al., 2004, 2007). Still others were generally violent in differing contexts, often involving other men. The information in the casefiles illustrated that a history of violence often existed, began early, and became persistent and severe. Nonetheless, this history was often denied in the exchanges with professionals.

The quotes from professionals illustrate limited admissions of previous nonlethal violence to the victim of murder or a history of persistent violence in most of these relationships:

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He says he only ever hit his wife once before but denies a long-standing history of domestic violence. (910cf)

He states that on one occasion “it did come to blows with my wife. If I remember, I only hit her twice.” (938cf)

He began using violence on her from an early stage in their relationship. He would strike her about the head, giving her black eyes, split lips, and bruising. She never reported this to the police. (1074cf)

During the first year of the marriage, he used violence towards his wife. He assaulted her whilst he was drunk which resulted in her sustaining bruising to her arms and legs. This was reported to the police and he appeared in court where he agreed to be bound over to keep the peace. (934cf)

[Previous attack] It was a frenzied, vicious attack by a man who was intent on caus-ing serious injury. She was struck all over the body [with a pickaxe handle] causing a wound requiring several stitches to her head and a large number of cuts and severe bruises to various parts of her body. (1060cf)

There were a number of occasions when he was violent toward the deceased. Prior to her death, she received a severe beating in which she had sustained something in the order of 140 separate injuries. (1008cf)

This is not the first occasion that he has attacked a woman with whom he has had a relationship. He was responsible for a prolonged attack on another girlfriend. Following a domestic dispute between the accused and his ex-girlfriend, he assaulted her by grabbing her round the neck with both hands and squeezing tightly. He then punched her in the face with his clenched fist, knocking her backwards where she hit the back of her head on the fireplace, cutting her head. She received fractures to wrists, a broken nose and bruises and swelling to her face. (1136cf)

Acknowledging the murder, previous violence to the victim, and a personal history of violence are essential aspects of beginning the process of personal change and constitute significant challenges to those who engage with the men while in prison.

Problems With Women in Intimate RelationshipsMen who are violent to an intimate partner often present a general pattern of difficulties and failures in their relationships with women. According to the reports of the profession-als and the official records, the men who killed an intimate partner frequently had numerous problems in relationships with women including the following: Broken relationships;

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conflict within relationships; and objections to her family and friends. According to infor-mation in the casefiles, 75% of the men were viewed by professionals as “Having problems with women.” About half of the men had had only one intimate relationship of a “permanent” nature, whereas others had several such relationships. Most of the relationships were fraught with conflict and were characterized by professionals as under the control of the offender:

[Throughout his adult life], he has displayed evidence of a difficulty in maintaining stable relationships with women. (864cf)

[He] needs to work on his attitude to and relationships with women. He has a history of relationship problems with a propensity to use violence against females both within the index offence [murder] and previous convictions. (1136cf)

He now recognizes that he needs to look at his attitude to women. There are many issues in his treatment of his wife prior to her death that need addressing. She was a tiny, frail young woman, who was oppressed. His almost total omission of thoughts on his feelings for his wife and daughter may reflect the degree of regard he had or has for them [near zero]. (1026cf)

Authority and Control. Issues of authority and control were often evident and were the source of conflict and violence. The comments reflect notions that the men appeared to hold about themselves in relation to a woman partner, for example, men are in control, have authority, should be obeyed, and the like. They also reflect implicit notions about how a woman partner should behave and her subordinate position to him as well as the notion that departures from his expectations deserve or even require correction and punishment, including the use of violence. Such views would seem to reflect distorted notions about what constitutes a “normal” relationship between a man and a woman partner.

[Man’s account] “She come with a mouthful [arguing with him] so I broke her record player. Then I went upstairs and poured paint on her clothes to stop her from going out.” (1060cf)

There would appear to be a common thread running through all of the defendant’s descriptions of his relationships. He has tended to become involved with younger women, in some cases significantly younger. In his two marriages, he describes the need to teach his wives how to behave, how to cook, clean, and housekeeping. Failure to conform to his high standards on the part of his wives resulted in friction, arguments, and “taking his temper out on doors and walls.” The overall picture to emerge is that of a man who feels a great need to control his partners, and very pos-sibly his children. He denies the chronic abuse of alcohol and of the habitual use of domestic violence to impose his will upon his family. He presented in interview as

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a charming man, polite, anxious to cooperate. However, he appears to be a rigid man, with little capacity for flexibility in his relationships with women and to be a man whose need is to control their actions and behavior, both inside and outside the home environment. (1090cf)

Earlier reports suggest his actions may relate to an attempt to exert emotional pres-sure on the women involved. He denies using violence within his relationships but acknowledges that he has sought to gain control by instilling fear. He self reports identifying women as “sluts” and “princesses” and has stated that he prefers rela-tionships with women who are less intellectually able than himself. (1036cf)

Possessiveness, Jealousy, Estrangement, and SeparationAlthough any and all areas of conflict may occur in intimate relationships, whether non-violent or violent, some appear to be more salient in cases involving murder. Here, issues of possessiveness, jealousy, estrangement, and separation seem to be of particular impor-tance. Heightened possessiveness and jealousy are commonplace in most abusive relation-ships and frequent, temporary separations are relatively common (Dobash & Dobash, 1979; Dobash et. al., 2000), but evidence from the Murder in Britain Study and other research suggests that this combination of factors may be particularly salient when men kill an intimate partner (Adams, 2007; Block & Christokas, 1995; Campbell et al., 2003; Dobash et al., 2009; Dobash, Dobash, Cavanagh, & Medina-Ariza, 2007; Dawson & Gartner, 1998; Polk & Ranson, 1991; Serran & Firestone, 2004; Wilson & Daly, 1993, 1998). Men’s possessiveness and jealousy, as well as fears and anger about separation and abandonment, are often difficult to unravel and sometimes bear little relationship to the reality of their marital state or the behavior of their woman partner, but the casefile accounts reflect a heightened intensity that is palpable.

The defendant was a jealous and obsessive man. In the early years, he quite unjus-tifiably accused his wife of having affairs. Even in recent years he caused two of his adult children to undergo DNA testing to prove that he is not their father. In fact the tests proved that he is. He continues to look for evidence of his wife’s infidelity. (938cf)

Although the defendant and the deceased were divorced and living apart, the defendant was consumed by an obsessional jealousy of the deceased’s relation-ships with other men. It was this jealousy which motivated the killing. He is fully capable and has no reservations about assaulting females. When accused is shunned or abandoned by women he is obviously prepared to go to extreme lengths to seek retribution. (946cf)

He became increasingly jealous and constantly pestered her to have him back. He became such a nuisance that she felt it necessary to leave her home and move back

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to her parents’ home. He refused to “let go” and was clearly upset that his ex-wife was seeing another man. The most distressing thought to him was imagining his ex-partner having a sexual relationship with another man. (934cf)

The relationship between the accused and the victim had deteriorated and indications are that she wished to terminate the affair. No doubt in an effort to dissuade her from this course, he carried out a prolonged and vicious attack against the deceased. (1136cf)

[Prior to the murder, he had beaten her so severely that she was in hospital] In the days prior to the murder, it became increasingly evident to him that his wife, who was now refusing his hospital visits and stated that she was frightened of him, did not intend to return to the family home. (1102cf)

As the relationship developed she confided in friends that he was becoming more possessive and she was thinking of terminating the relationship. The relationship became tense and the victim made various attempts to break it off. She told friends of strange and silent phone calls she was receiving and was convinced it was the accused. He had made up his mind what he was going to do with the woman who no longer wanted his attention—she was going to die. (1132cf)

If I can’t have her nobody can. If she pinches the kids I’ll go round the boyfriend’s house and burn it down. If they weren’t in, I’d hunt the town for them and put a knife through her. (914cf)

Orientations to the Murder: Denying Responsibility and Blaming the VictimThe above is a compressed examination of the context of intimate partner murder. It is presented here to provide a characterization of the behavior, orientations, and thinking of many of the men who kill an intimate partner. This characterization provides insight into cognitions/beliefs/orientations that the various professionals must deal with as they attempt to engage these men in the task of addressing their behavior and their responsibility for it. The act of murder is the starting point of this work but the task is one of uncovering the numerous aspects of thinking about what they did and why they did it in a process aimed at trying to get them to think and act differently. These include what occurred in the mur-der event and their responsibility for the murder, orientations toward and relationships with their intimate partner, empathy with the victim, and remorse for the event. This is an unfolding and developing process with an aim of engaging the man in moving from a point of denial of the event and responsibility to one of accepting culpability and responsibility not only for the murder but also for attending behaviors and supporting beliefs. Integral to this process is a reformulation of the various beliefs and cognitions that minimized and justified the acts of violence to those that appreciate its enormity, the damage done, and the necessity for personal change.

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The literature about men who use violence against women stresses the frequency with which they deny the violence, minimize its severity, and use various justifications and excuses, including blaming the victim for their use of violence and deflecting responsibility onto such things as alcohol. Although minimization of the violence, denial of responsibility, and blaming the victim are common among those who commit all types of violence, for these men they appear to be normative and deeply enmeshed in their personal views about women in general and about intimate partners in particular. These orientations justify the use of violence and negate responsibility for its use.

Denial of Responsibility for the Murder

He acknowledges that they [his wife and daughters] were afraid of him and is pre-pared to describe himself as “no angel” and remembers writing threatening letters, but he has yet to come to terms with his actions as being responsible for that fear and his violence. (1120cf)

It’s convenient for him to see himself as mentally ill. He tends to present his behavior as a mystery which he can’t solve, and isn’t responsible for. He presents as a mixture of frankness and denial of responsibility. (611cf)

He sees it as a domestic offence and [as such] the tariff is too high. [He stated that] “The police said this was premeditated which I deny. It was an ‘accident’ which happened while I was drunk and that’s why I contacted the police after it happened.” (612cf)

He maintains that his wife actually placed the knife against her own stomach and because it was a filleting knife and very sharp it sliced into her and he found her in the kitchen with the knife stuck in her stomach. He accepts responsibility for his wife’s death in that he caused irreparable damage and severe internal bleeding when he pulled the knife out as she fell forward. He does express guilt and remorse and accepts responsibility for the death of this wife, he says if he had not pulled the knife out then she probably would have lived. (918cf)

[He] continues to claim death was an accident—she fell on his knife. (646cf)

Blaming the Victim for the Murder

The last thing he said in the interview was that he thought all this had happened because “I felt they [the victims] deserved to be taught a lesson.” (1062cf)

[A man who killed two women partners] Whilst accepting full responsibility for this offense and expressing shame and remorse, he has no real insight into the circum-stances leading up to the offense. [He claims that] the women he killed “made me feel inadequate.” He described the first wife he killed as “a very bossy woman.” (838cf)

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I blamed [victim] for not getting an erection. I’d had bouts of impotence in the past, not particularly with her. But I certainly blamed her for my failure to get an erection when I got into bed with her after I had killed her. This was one of the reasons why I hit her—I totally lost it. (613cf)

Insists his behavior stemmed out of severe provocation from his wife’s actions. He is keen to describe himself as a “henpecked husband.” [He] says she had gone on and on at him, he “snapped” and reached for a hammer. [He viewed her as a] “nagging ungrateful wife” [and himself] as a “bullied husband.” (940cf)

They argued about her affair and her being reluctant to return to him and he flew into a temper. He punched her in the face. In his account to me he maintained that he did not know whether he killed her or she killed herself [she was strangled]. He said that her behavior was “too much for a sick man to put up with.” (252cf)

Although still in denial, he acknowledged that he was previously violent towards his partner but that his violence [including the murder] was justified because she was a drug-user, she was having an affair and she was never in the house. (1050cf)

Orientations to the Victim and the Murder: Empathy and RemorseAs discussed in the literature, the process of reformation is based on acceptance of res-ponsibility for the act as well as a genuine sense of guilt and remorse about the murder and empathy with the victim. In this study, 36% of men expressed no remorse and 49% expressed no empathy with the victim even after they had spent a considerable period of time in prison. Accordingly, professionals working with those who commit murder are concerned that the perpetrator take responsibility for the act, empathize with the victim, and express genuine remorse for the murder. In doing this, they are alert to diversions from this process that include a refusal to participate in discussion about the murder, deflection of responsibility, and the use of self-pity to reinforce resistance to the process. Lack of empathy and remorse are associated with the sense of justification for using violence and, as such, are emphasized as the professionals work with these offenders. Although some men express genuine sorrow and remorse, others are deemed to lack sincerity, and some remain adamant in justifying the murder and associated behaviors.

Lack of Empathy and Remorse

He showed very little emotion while recounting the details of his offence and there was little to indicate any remorse. (1062cf)

He describes his offence with little insight into the thoughts, feelings and motivations of his wife and his daughters. (1120cf)

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He displayed very little emotion and seemed rather cold and distant. There was no remorse and no spontaneous expression of guilt. I was particularly struck by his failure to display any distress in giving his account and his pre-occupation with the intellectual aspects of making sense of the evidence. (864cf)

He is extremely dangerous, a complete absence of remorse, compassion or pity for his victim. (1132cf)

I could find no evidence of spontaneous empathy or appropriate remorse apart from the effect on himself. He demonstrated limited victim empathy when considering the consequences of his actions upon others [and] illustrated a lack of consequential thinking. (944cf)

It is as if it [the murder] occurred in a vacuum that had nothing to do with him. Having had so much time to reflect, I am amazed at this lack of insight. There is no searching for questions on his part and he does not appear to be questioning any aspect of his own behavior. Her death causes him great concern and he struggles with this but this concern is not extended to his violence. The regret seems to be that he went too far, the beating being somehow deserved. He shows little victim empa-thy. In fact, at present he takes very little responsibility for very little. He sees his wife’s death almost as an accident. It is not kicking and thumping her that he sees as wrong; it is going too far and producing a fatal result. Further work needs to be done on relationship and thinking skills, as well as victim empathy. During the course of my interview with him he referred to his victim as his “ex-wife.” He perceived his violence and his role in his relationship with his wife as arising from his wife’s behavior and not a problem located within himself. (910cf)

Remorse

He is deeply sorry for what he has done. (1044cf)

“I committed murder. I killed my wife. Though I said I was drunk a bit, there was no excuse, I killed my wife. I am guilty no matter how it happened. I am guilty, and I deserve to do [time in prison].” (1001cf)

He has expressed deep regret and absolute remorse for his actions, at times to the point of tears. He still declares his feelings for her and has also sought to apologize to her family. (1040cf)

He talks openly about his offence, shows remorse and still maintains his love for [her]. (835cf)

I believe this man’s extreme remorse to be sincere and genuine. (925cf)

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I am sure that the remorse he expresses for his offence is both genuine and profound. (1093cf)

Resistance to Engaging in the Process of ChangeAlthough some men express genuine remorse for the murder and empathy with the victim, others remain adamant in their views about the murder and their rationales for it. Such men pose a particular challenge to those professionals who attempt to engage them in the pro-cess of changing their orientations and, ultimately, their behavior to prepare them for release from prison and future engagement in daily life, particularly any future relationship with an intimate partner. The difficulty of that task is illustrated in the following quotes.

[Woman psychologist] He used direct, fixed eye contact throughout the interview and when challenged about aspects of the offence his tone of voice and evident irrita-tion led me to believe that if I was to carry on with the line of questioning he may have become angry or even aggressive towards me. This deterred me from asking certain questions of him. His behavior towards me during the interview gives cause for concern given that his offence consisted of violence towards a female. (914cf)

He declined to answer any further questions as he felt [he had already told me] that he had previously struck his wife during the course of arguments over her alleged affairs and therefore there was no reason to discuss the matter [murder] further. (938cf)

At the beginning of the program, he presented as highly motivated, stating that he wanted to become a better person and not cause any further harm to others. But he tended to lapse into self pity and begin to use minimizations and distortions. (1024cf)

Whilst I have invariably found that he demonstrates some emotion when trying to [discuss the offense], I am not wholly persuaded that there is any depth to it. [For him, becoming emotional] is a useful tool to avoid looking at the offense other than superficially, particularly when his emotional state renders him speechless! I believe that he manipulates and controls the amount of discussion concerning the offense and related issues by this mechanism, particularly as his composure returns as soon as the topic changes. He is without remorse. He is plausible and highly manipula-tive. Before his release is considered any evidence which may suggest that he no longer represents a danger to the public (and in particular to women with whom he might make contact) will need to be examined with care. (1114cf)

He is an extraordinarily self-assured, obstinate and cynical man. He is entirely satis-fied in his own mind that he presents no risk whatsoever and is unable to accept that his previous convictions for violence and his well-known boozing in prison should be any cause for concern. He is obsessed with the notion that he is being victimized

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by staff. This is a self-absorbed, arrogant man who refuses to cooperate with the prison and then blames them for his failure to progress. (1120cf)

Despite the positive assessments on a violent offender’s program, he had a tendency to present as someone who was not willing to acknowledge that he had a problem with his violence and therefore saw little need to apply himself to the program with much enthusiasm. (1044cf)

Summary and ConclusionsThis examination focuses on the cognitions of intimate partner murderers and is based on the reports of various professionals included in the casefiles of 104 men convicted of mur-dering an intimate partner. The results parallel and extend the findings of existing research about intimate partner violence and explanations about how violent offenders view their behavior. These results indicate that the majority of the men who murdered an intimate partner had problems in intimate relationships and a history of serious, repeat violent abuse of the woman they kill. The relationships were characterized by conflict, abuse, and controlling behavior as well as jealousy and possessiveness in which men used violence to enforce rigid standards based on their beliefs about relationships between intimate part-ners. Although a few completely deny the murder and continue to do so even after being found guilty and imprisoned, others justify and rationalize their behavior to avoid respon-sibility for it. They deny agency and responsibility, often by placing blame elsewhere. For some, this includes “sad tales” about adversity in childhood and/or adulthood, including victimization by the system, such as police, courts, and prison. For others, the focus of blame, and thus responsibility, is placed upon the woman victim. He sees her as at fault because of her “flaws” as an intimate partner, mother and/or housekeeper. Accounts about the flaws of the woman that justify the violent response of the man are, at base, reflections of his beliefs about the appropriate behaviors for women and men in intimate relationships.

We would argue that these orientations are fundamental in the inability to accept res-ponsibility for and feel remorse about the murder, and to empathize with the victim. As such, this would appear to be an essential starting point for those professionals who work with these offenders as they attempt to engage them in a process of personal change. According to Duff (2002), a moral philosopher who has offered a critical account of restor-ative justice, those who deal with offenders “need to get the offender to attend to, to think about the wrong that he committed” (p. 99). Like Tavuchis (1991), he argues that interven-tions with offenders must have a retributive element. The offender must look back to his offense, accept responsibility for his actions, and enter the painful process that inevitability follows if this is done in an authentic and meaningful fashion. “Blame, criticism and cen-sure must be burdensome” and the offender “must accept the process of being confronted with his wrongdoing” (Duff, 2002, p. 90).

These findings have implications for research relating to nonlethal abusers and intimate partner murderers as well as for policies and practices relating to them. The evidence pre-sented here points to the vital importance of including the study of violent men in the overall

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examination of intimate partner violence. It also illustrates the utility of using qualitative materials from formal documents, such as the casefiles used in this analysis. The specific findings suggest that the beliefs, orientations, and cognitions of men who use violence against a woman partner are of extreme importance in any effort to understand and alter this behavior. The task is necessary, but difficult. It must be both retributive and reforma-tive: Retributive in that the man must recognize and own his behavior and reformative in that he must begin the process of personal change by renouncing the excusatory and exculpatory accounts that he has used to justify his violence.

Acknowledgments

For facilitating this research, the authors wish to thank HM Prison Service (England), the Scottish Prison Service, the staff in each of the unnamed prisons in which the research was conducted, and the men and women who agreed to be interviewed. The authors also wish to acknowledge one of the journal reviewers who offered helpful comments of an earlier draft of this article. This article was completed during their stay at the School of Justice and Social Inquiry, Arizona State University, United States where they are distinguished visiting professors.

Declaration of Conflicting Interests

The authors declared that they had no conflicts of interest with respect to their authorship or the publication of this article.

Funding

The authors disclosed receipt of the following financial support for the research and/or author-ship of this article: The Murder in Britain Study was funded by a grant from the ESRC, Economic and Social Research Council, UK.

Notes

1. The research team included Rebecca Emerson Dobash, Russell P. Dobash, Kate Cavanagh, and Ruth Lewis.

2. The 3-year study was completed in 2000 and the majority of offenders were sentenced in the 1990s. At the time of data collection, the approximate numbers of men and women in prison for murder in the separate jurisdictions was England/Wales: 3,000 men and 115 women, and Scotland: 500 men and 10 women.

3. This is not to discount the possibility of an unsafe conviction, but we would argue that this is very unlikely in cases of intimate partner murder.

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R. Emerson Dobash is emeritus professor of social research, School of Law, University of Manchester, UK, and distinguished visiting professor, School of Justice and Social Inquiry, Arizona State University, USA. She has published numerous books and articles on violence against women and male abusers and was coprincipal investigator of the Murder in Britain Study (funded by ESRC). She is currently working on further delineations of intimate partner murder.

Russell P. Dobash is emeritus professor of criminology, School of Law, University of Manchester, UK, and distinguished visiting professor, School of Justice and Social Inquiry, Arizona State University, USA. He has published widely in the area of violence against women and violent men, and was coprincipal investigator of the ESRC-funded Murder in Britain Study. He is currently working on male-on-male murder and the sexual murder of women.

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