Lesson 3 Anger - 3 Anger.pdfTheotherapy “A Journey to emotional Healing” 1 JUST FYI Repressed Anger People repress their anger because they think angry feelings are sinful

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  • TThheeootthheerraappyy A Journey to emotional Healing

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    JUST FYI

    Repressed Anger

    People repress their anger because they think angry feelings are sinful. When a persons anger surfaces in Theotherapy, we may encourage them to express their anger verbally and/or physically by

    using a sock bat or by stomping their feet. After a person has released these negative emotions in a

    way that does not harm themselves or others, they will have a greater sense of emotional freedom. Jesus expressed His anger in a physical manner when Gods temple had been misused by the

    moneychangers (Mark 11:12-17). Anger is not good or bad in and of itselfit is what we do with it that determines whether or not it is healthy.

    MODULE #3

    ANGER

    1. GOD IS OUR MODEL FOR JUSTIFIABLE ANGER.

    God became angry when He was rejected, abandoned, USED, ignored, scorned,

    criticized, and was not wanted. We are created in His image so when we also

    experience the above, we get ANGRY.

    they provoked the Lord to anger because they forsook Him and served Ball and

    Ashtoreths. Judged 2:12 & 13

    Yet my people have forgotten me Jeremiah 18:15a.

    How long will this wicked community grumble against me? Numbers 14:27.

    They have turned their backs to me and not their faces; yet when they are in

    trouble, they say, Come and save us! Jeremiah 2:27.

    they have perverted their ways and have forgotten the Lord their God.

    Jeremiah 3:21.

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    2. WE ALSO HAVE JUSTIFIABLE ANGER.

    We were created for unconditional LOVE. When we are treated with the opposite,

    there is a loss and it produces pain. This emotional PAIN causes anger. The same

    things that make God angry make US angry.

    A. Even though many times our anger is JUSTIFIABLE, when we hold

    ANGER it produces bitterness, malice, desire for revenge, etc. and in the end

    we are really HURTING ourselves.

    Be angry and sin not... (Ephesians 4:26).

    3. WHAT IS SINFUL ANGER?

    A. When we allow the SUN to go down on our anger and are making no effort

    to resolve it. When we go to sleep on it, we often suppress some of the

    emotion attached to it and therefore dont fully resolve it (which will cause it to

    surface again later when we are triggered by a person or event). Or we move it

    to a deeper level of bitterness, malice and the desire for revenge. Another

    example of sinful anger is when we take out our anger on others or on ourselves

    in ways that bring about physical or emotional harm.

    B. When we are in denial and dont want to FACE it, we will tend to

    internalize our anger. Unresolved anger turned inward can cause serious

    depression. This is very unhealthy and can result in actually causing physical

    symptoms (psychosomatic illnesses).

    psychosomatic psy-cho-so-mat-ic- a physical illness or other condition

    caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress.

    C. When we have inappropriate transference. We look to OTHERS to try to

    collect our IOUs. They will never be able to meet our needs or expectations so

    we get disappointed and frustrated, which produces MORE anger.

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    4. RESOLUTON:

    A. Express the anger in a way that doesnt HURT anyone. There are many

    things we can do to validate our anger and express it in healthy ways rather than

    destructive ways. Some healthy ways to express anger are:

    Hit your bed or a chair with a sock bat or scream into a pillow.

    Exercise, jog or hit a punching bag while you process through your angry

    thoughts.

    Journal or write a letter to the person you are angry at (but dont mail it)!

    Tell God all about it. He knows how you feel and can handle it.

    Do a role-play with someone you trust.

    B. Apply Theo-therapeutic forgiveness:

    1. We have to acknowledge what has happened to us, and ACCEPT the

    fact that we are POWERLESS to change it.

    2. We must surrender all desire for revenge or retaliation. We have to let

    go of trying to CONTROL the situation and put it all in the Lords

    hands.

    3. We must develop Theo-theraputic Indifference which is being able

    to say from your HEART, It doesnt matter it you reject me. You

    dont have the power to hurt me.

    C. Appropriate Transference (TRANSFER TO THE LORD):

    1. At the cross, God transferred His ANGER onto Jesus.

    2. We transfer our GUILT and shame onto Jesus.

    3. Christs righteousness can then be CREDITED to us, which is called

    the justification process.

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    Name: ________________________ Lesson Number: (3) Anger

    Date: _________________________

    STUDY QUESTIONS:

    1. Does God ever get angry?

    2. How can a person be angry without sinning?

    3. Give some examples of justifiable anger.

    4. What is sinful anger?

    5. How do you resolve anger in a healthy way?

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    6. What is THEOTHERAPEUTIC FORGIVENESS?

    7. Can you see areas in your life where you are still angry?

    8. Who in your family of origin are you most angry with?

    9. I am most angry with myself for ____________________________________

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    10. I feel enraged at ________________________________________________

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    Upon completion of these study questions please mail them to:

    Marcus Odom, GLF-President

    RMSI / 387496 / 6B-109

    Nashville, Tennessee 37209

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