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JUST FYI
Repressed Anger…
People repress their anger because they think angry feelings are sinful. When a person’s anger surfaces in Theotherapy, we may encourage them to express their anger verbally and/or physically by
using a sock bat or by stomping their feet. After a person has released these negative emotions in a
way that does not harm themselves or others, they will have a greater sense of emotional freedom. Jesus expressed His anger in a physical manner when God’s temple had been misused by the
moneychangers (Mark 11:12-17). Anger is not good or bad in and of itself…it is what we do with it that determines whether or not it is healthy.
MODULE #3
ANGER
1. GOD IS OUR MODEL FOR JUSTIFIABLE ANGER.
God became angry when He was rejected, abandoned, USED, ignored, scorned,
criticized, and was not wanted. We are created in His image so when we also
experience the above, we get ANGRY.
“…they provoked the Lord to anger because they forsook Him and served Ball and
Ashtoreths.” Judged 2:12 & 13
“Yet my people have forgotten me…” Jeremiah 18:15a.
“How long will this wicked community grumble against me?” Numbers 14:27.
“…They have turned their backs to me and not their faces; yet when they are in
trouble, they say, ‘Come and save us!’” Jeremiah 2:27.
“…they have perverted their ways and have forgotten the Lord their God.”
Jeremiah 3:21.
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2. WE ALSO HAVE JUSTIFIABLE ANGER.
We were created for unconditional LOVE. When we are treated with the opposite,
there is a loss and it produces pain. This emotional PAIN causes anger. The same
things that make God angry make US angry.
A. Even though many times our anger is JUSTIFIABLE, when we hold
ANGER it produces bitterness, malice, desire for revenge, etc. and in the end
we are really HURTING ourselves.
“Be angry and sin not...” (Ephesians 4:26).
3. WHAT IS SINFUL ANGER?
A. When we allow the SUN to go down on our anger and are making no effort
to resolve it. When we “go to sleep on it”, we often suppress some of the
emotion attached to it and therefore don’t fully resolve it (which will cause it to
surface again later when we are triggered by a person or event). Or we move it
to a deeper level of bitterness, malice and the desire for revenge. Another
example of sinful anger is when we take out our anger on others or on ourselves
in ways that bring about physical or emotional harm.
B. When we are in denial and don’t want to FACE it, we will tend to
internalize our anger. Unresolved anger turned inward can cause serious
depression. This is very unhealthy and can result in actually causing physical
symptoms (psychosomatic illnesses).
psychosomatic – psy-cho-so-mat-ic- a physical illness or other condition
caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress.
C. When we have inappropriate transference. We look to OTHERS to try to
collect our IOU’s. They will never be able to meet our needs or expectations so
we get disappointed and frustrated, which produces MORE anger.
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4. RESOLUTON:
A. Express the anger in a way that doesn’t HURT anyone. There are many
things we can do to validate our anger and express it in healthy ways rather than
destructive ways. Some healthy ways to express anger are:
� Hit your bed or a chair with a sock bat or scream into a pillow.
� Exercise, jog or hit a punching bag while you process through your angry
thoughts.
� Journal or write a letter to the person you are angry at (but don’t mail it)!
� Tell God all about it. He knows how you feel and can handle it.
� Do a role-play with someone you trust.
B. Apply Theo-therapeutic forgiveness:
1. We have to acknowledge what has happened to us, and ACCEPT the
fact that we are POWERLESS to change it.
2. We must surrender all desire for revenge or retaliation. We have to let
go of trying to CONTROL the situation and put it all in the Lord’s
hands.
3. We must develop “Theo-theraputic Indifference” which is being able
to say from your HEART, “It doesn’t matter it you reject me. You
don’t have the power to hurt me.”
C. Appropriate Transference (TRANSFER TO THE LORD):
1. At the cross, God transferred His ANGER onto Jesus.
2. We transfer our GUILT and shame onto Jesus.
3. Christ’s righteousness can then be CREDITED to us, which is called
the justification process.
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Name: ________________________ Lesson Number: (3) Anger
Date: _________________________
STUDY QUESTIONS:
1. Does God ever get angry?
2. How can a person be angry without sinning?
3. Give some examples of justifiable anger.
4. What is sinful anger?
5. How do you resolve anger in a healthy way?
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6. What is THEOTHERAPEUTIC FORGIVENESS?
7. Can you see areas in your life where you are still angry?
8. Who in your family of origin are you most angry with?
9. I am most angry with myself for ____________________________________
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10. I feel enraged at ________________________________________________
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Upon completion of these study questions please mail them to:
Marcus Odom, GLF-President
RMSI / 387496 / 6B-109
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