islam s10 islamic family values
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Famil ies have problems l ike other cultures
Distrust, rejection, gossip, abuse and bitterness may occur
Sometimes alcoholism, immorality, unemployment, and other problems
Finances Saudi Arabia – a few are rich: Most are poor – 23% of income in
USA Strong group orientation Many are in refugee camps, war
situations
Family relationships Virtually all cultures
You need to understand the LOCAL language and culture
Love, loyalty, and struggle with usual problems of all people occur
Family relations are strong – as well as negative feelings if anything interferes
Two key values Honor is t ied to the group
Controls behavior Arbitrates justice Hope to the group
Shame – damages the group Group solidarity gives value and
worth
One way to learn Sometimes asking for help wil l open
the door to understanding the family and values
We need to be open in our own struggles and victories through Christ
Keys to understanding Arabic language
Superiority Exaggeration Shading truth to protect family Over-assertion Repetit ion Shaming
Keys to understanding Islamic values
Finality of the Qur’an and Hadith Determinism Fatalism Resistance to change Tied to the past Popular Islam
Keys to understanding Bedoin Ethic:
Group solidarity Mutual responsibil i ty Hospitality Generosity Courage Self-respect Protection of women
Priorities Cooperation in larger groups
Firing is often diff icult May keep workers just because family
supports your business even if the worker is ineff icient
Some ladies wil l pool money for larger purchases
Feasts Id-al-Adha – at the end of the
hajj, obligatory slaughtering a sheep (by all Muslims who can afford it) celebrating Abraham’s sacrif ice of his son (they claim Ishmael)
Feasts Id-al-Fitr – 3 day festival at the
end of Ramadan, visit ing friends, wearing new clothes 10 t h month
Feasts Maulid al-Nabi – the birthday of
Muhammad on the 12 t h day of Rabi al-Awwal.
Usually not a public holiday – 3 r d month
Feasts Laailat al-Baraa – the night God
registers all the deeds men do in the following year.
All births and deaths recorded. Stay awake all night – some fast,
more feast
Feasts All feasts are religious Nominal Muslims enjoy them too Respect –
Do not eat in public during Ramadan Close off ices & institutions on major feast
days
Feasts Christians may use Christmas, Good
Friday and Easter as celebrations. Celebrate in culturally appropriate ways Emphasize the spiritual significance
Some Muslim countries allow Christmas or Easter programs at government expense
Feasting - Ramadan Hearty meal before dawn Until sundown, no food, drink, sex,
except for women who are menstruating, pregnant or nursing, and the sick and elderly.
Travelers may make up the fast later
Feasting - Ramadan First 3 days usually no schools or
businesses, then feasting. Some reverse and sleep during the day
Ramadan holy life Time to pray and come close to God
and the community Extra public prayers Extra food and great hospitality
Breaking fast: Id al-Fitr Big feast for several days Lots of visit ing Often go to family, ask
forgiveness
Family life Family is extremely strong Honor is given to age, and to the man At age 25, the oldest son has
responsibil i ty also for his mother The oldest son must maintain family
honor, and protect his sisters
Rhythm of Muslim life Common to mankind – eating,
sleeping, working Muslim faith – 5 pil lars of faith Calendar of Muslim festivals Rites of passage – birth to death
Muslim calendar Muslim calendar is lunar and 354 days
long This is why the dates keep shift ing,
including Ramadan – about every 35 years it is back to the beginning
Calendar starts AH (anno Hegirae – 16 july 622 AD)
Muhammad on best women Loved by her husband and her
relatives Humble in her husband’s presence Always l istens to him Adorns herself and is cheerfully his
joy Virtuous, retir ing, and modest before
others
Birth Customs None commanded by the Qur’an At birth wrapped in swaddling clothes,
priest repeats call to prayer, gives alms
7 t h day – Sacrif ice – aqiqa Male – two sheep or goat Female – one sheep or goat
Birth rites Aqiqa – if not performed, God wil l not
call up the child by parents name. Things wil l not go well; but doing it brings good luck and protection against satan
Meat – 1/3 to poor, 1/3 to midwife, rest to family
Birth rites Child named 7 t h day – by oldest male
or pious man By 4 years, 4 months, 4 days – teach
the child the Bismil lah Circumcision time varies – some say
7 t h year Sometimes animistic practices too
Women’s honor Very important – women MUST retain
virginity unti l marriage, and remain faithful after marriage
To maintain honor, family may disown, maim, or kil l the women to reestablish family honor
Women’s honor Women dress and behave modestly Never alone with a male who is not a
male from the extended family Young ladies marry according to family
wishes Children honor and obey adults, even
as adults
Women’s honor Women and children respect male
authority Rearing a son brings honor; no
son is a shame
Women’s honor Pregnancy outside wedlock is the
ult imate shame ISIS has raped women and told
them the only way to regain family honor was as a suicide bomber
Marriage A social contract Imam gives a message, and asks
each if they accept the other. They are in separate rooms
Marriage Man promises to give a certain
amount of money if he divorces the woman
Man may have up to 4 wives; must treat them equitably
Marriage There is a feast afterwards Sometimes arrangements for
marriage are made in advance, and then children do not want to honor them. This creates big problems
Funerals Before death, affirm faith in Allah – if
necessary a substitute can do it for him Close eyes, recite the Qur’an, point
feet toward Mecca Special people wash the body in a
special way
Funerals Burial service outside Angels come to ask about earthly
deeds. They must not be kept wait ing, so bury quickly in a white shroud without a casket
Family stays home 10 days and others come to visit