Do this instead.

If you’re on your own when you would prefer to be sharing life with a partner, I suggest that it is

important that you take time to consider what really matters when it comes to that ‘special

someone’ — your soulmate, or whatever you prefer to call them.

Perhaps, like many discerning singles, you have been limiting your chances of finding and

keeping love for reasons that are worth questioning, such as requiring that they must have a

particular interest or color hair?.

Maybe, as for Jane, a woman who contacted my consultancy recently, you are narrowing the

field of potential partners, and causing yourself unnecessary and perhaps lasting disappointment.

As many a successful lawyer, Jane’s focus has been on her demanding career at the expense of

her personal life. Now, at the age of 41, she is feeling pressure to have a child before it’s too late.

I was somewhat surprised during my phone conversation with Jane when she made it clear

that she was not prepared to meet men any older than 42.

Given that it takes time to develop a relationship — and the potential challenges women can

have conceiving as they age — I explained that most men aged 42 who want to have a

family have a preference for a younger woman, a preference that is reasonable.

When I advised her that we did, however, have eligible male clients in their mid to later 40’s and

older who are youthful, energetic and open to having a child, she was not interested in talking

further.

Hopefully, she does not have cause to regret for the rest of her life how she limited her wish

list, excluding some great potential partners .

Guys also can be blind to a potentially great relationship. I recall when a handsome man in his late 40′s took me by surprise when he said that he’d been

out on hundreds of first dates over his life, but had never had a second.

He told me he was sure he would recognize the woman who was the ‘special someone’ for him

in hours — if not minutes!

Maybe, like him, you’re a man — or woman — who expects there to be instant chemistry when

you first meet and so rarely have a second date even though you really enjoyed your time

together.

While the hormone rush of meeting someone who really ‘turns you on’ may be a wonderful high

and something you wish for, it can be risky business as the basis of a lasting relationship.

Unfortunately, all too often that initial “high” ends up as the low of hurt and disillusion as the

hormones settle. That is when the reality of incompatibility becomes apparent.

Several years ago, I had the pleasure of hearing a lecture given by Ann Teachworth, a highly

respected American psychologist and author of Why We Pick The Mates We Do.

Read more: http://relationshipadvicewithyvonneallen.com/2017/08/is-waiting-to-meet-your-

soulmate-the-reason-why-youre-single/

So do not allow your idea of a soulmate or “Mr./Mrs. Right” get in the way of

finding the real partner who might be perfect for you — in ways you may never

have been able to guess!

Yvonne Allen is an author, public speaker, and matchmaker who is also a well-

known media consultant. Visit Yvonne Allen’s website or discover her eBooks on

Amazon if you’d like to know more about finding your ideal match and reach your

goals for love!