How to stop self sabotaging your relationships and reclaim the control over yourself?

Have you ever said something, done something and/or acted in a way that perplexed you? Know you wanted

something but then acted in a way that went contrary to what you desired.

For example: You were excited about a new relationship opportunity, but found yourself becoming increasingly

needy or began to feel less excited or found yourself making an excuse for why that person does not suit you. Also

heard a voice in your head saying “I am not ready for a relationship, I am not interested”. The sad thing is most

individuals follow these internal voices, thinking these are actually the source of their guidance and their internal

guidance system helping them make positive life choices. Whether that is your critical voice or fear that generates

these warning signals, they ultimately control your decisions, feelings towards others.

These behaviors run by the fear of rejection, intimacy, and abandonment. So it often tends to fall into self

sabotaging behaviors such as manipulation, avoidance, overeating, jealousy, drug and alcohol usage, affairs and so

on, in order to try and “protect” themselves from being rejected and from experiencing an old unconscious pain.

With these things running in the unconscious mind, it doesn’t sound like there is much control over choices you

make.

Do you know that such self sabotaging tendencies are

1. Automatic and outside of the individual’s conscious control,

2. Driven by deeply buried subconscious programs rooted in early negative memories of rejection, abuse,

abandonment, humiliation, and so on.

3. Like a self fulfilling prophecy which only leads to what the person most fears i.e. rejection

Live in the present and enjoy a fulfilling relationship?

An individual in a relationship or an individual seeking/desiring a life partner, may not understand why they do the

things they do, or act the way they act. Having such issues one may seek help with a relationship councilor or get

himself/herself a book in order to read and learn about what they can do differently to change their reality. The

thing that limiting about this is that, all relationship conflicts are driven by these unconscious programs and no

source of knowledge is going to stop the unconscious motivations and the negative effects these things have on

individuals. An individual’s behavior, level of attractiveness and charisma are blocked as a result of them being there,

leading individuals to feel desperate, unattractive and more vulnerable to ineffective tricks, such as “get your ex back

in 30 days programs” and “techniques to win a person’s affections”.

Individuals who have experienced early life abuse, neglect, abandonment, humiliation, rejection, and so on have

stored negative memories of those experiences as well as the emotional pain of those events. If you feel

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undesirable, unattractive and lack charisma, this pain exists as feelings of sadness, rejection, worthlessness, failure,

inadequacy, insecurity, feeling unwanted and unlovable, self-hated, needy and go on blocking all source or natural

charismatic authentic self expression and ultimately leading individuals to run to relationships to compensate for

what these wholes and pain in there self esteem lacks.

These feelings behave like , what I have termed “emotional landmines” that “go off” releasing all of the old

emotional pain whenever a person experiences, perceives or anticipates some form of rejection or a slight

resemblance to old negative emotional experiences from their past. At these moments, as a way of attempting to

protect themselves from experiencing new slights as well as being overwhelmed by the re-emergence of the old

emotional pain, they often get triggered into employing unhealthy and self sabotaging tendencies such as: trying to

control their partner, avoidance, having affairs as a way to get the needed “love” and validation from someone else,

as a way of feeling safe, secure, loved, wanted, and so on.

Now I think you can see such programs are only self-destructive and destructive to the person and their relationship.

Unfortunately for many people these negative tendencies get automatically triggered leaving the person feeling like

a passive victim of the damage they do.

What many don’t realize is that these negative self sabotaging programs are also driven by the negative memories of

old experiences stored within the subconscious mind. Much like a “computer program” however they can now be

permanently deleted or erased thereby leaving the person feeling consciously in control of themselves and able to

make healthy self respecting choices.

So what can one do to reclaim full ownership of these behaviors programs and actions, a decade ago it was

discovered that a person can systematically clear all self sabotage, for committed individuals a free I hour session is

available

Felicity Muscat is the founder of ‘The Institute of Self Mastery” established to help conscious individuals fulfill the

most authentic expression of themselves in relationships, self confidence and creating success effortlessly.

If you have tried other modalities that have failed, then take this as you are ready for change. I offer a free

introductory telephone/Skype coaching consultation that will help you get started on your journey back to your

peak, performing empowered and alive self today. Or if you want to learn more or have a read of other success

stories, feel free to download the One of Felicity’s eBooks on Effortless Success, the Right way in Relationships,

Esteem, and Self Mastery

Felicity Muscat, a former Psychologist, is an international self esteem, self empowerment, self mastery and

relationship expert, self empowerment life coach, relationship & success coach, author of three bestselling books

and level 3 mind resonance coaches.

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