how to create healthy boundaries
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How To Create Healthy Boundaries For Nonprofit
ProfessionalsPresented by : Sheena Greer
Welcome Everyone!
…But this work often takes a toll.
You’re incredibly busy making the
world a better place…
Definitions and different types of boundaries.
What We’ll Discuss Today
1 What are boundaries?
Some common traits and theories.
2 Why we’re vulnerable
Step-by-step ideas for creating change in your habits.
3 How to start naming & claiming
Some common workplace issues and how you can combat them.
4 Strategies for your workplace
My name is Sheena Greer
- Held every kind of role, from programs to marketing to fundraising to making the coffee.
- Focus on simple, powerful communications.
- I also have a dark secret…
I’ve been working in the nonprofit
sector for the better part of a decade…
Definition
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a
person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable,
safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around
him or her and how they will respond when someone steps
outside those limits. They are built out of a mix of beliefs,
opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.
Six Types of Boundaries
(your stuff)Material
(your space)Physical
(your feelings)Emotional
(your soul)Spiritual
(your body)Sexual
(your thoughts)Mental
Violations Can Be Confusing
Material Mental Emotional
(and sometimes difficult to put your finger on…)
Do You Have Boundary Issues?
say yes when you mean no
feel guilty for saying no
act against your beliefs
stay quiet to keep the peace
over-giving to feel “useful”
Do You Have Boundary Issues?
allowing yourself to be
interrupted
allowing yourself to be overly
involved in problems
your needs come second to results
not expressing yourself if someone
says something you find offensive
accepting physical touch when
you don’t want it
Who works for nonprofits?
Do-Gooder
Passionate
Hero
Community
Minded
Bleeding Heart Humanitarian
Selfless
Dan Pallotta – Nonprofit Pathology
“Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not
because they’re more compassionate than others but because
they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted
narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care-
taking or to self-neglect.”
Dan Pallotta – Nonprofit Pathology
“Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not
because they’re more compassionate than others but because
they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted
narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care-
taking or to self-neglect.”
Dan Pallotta – Nonprofit Pathology
“Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not
because they’re more compassionate than others but because
they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted
narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care-
taking or to self-neglect.”
At some point,
we have to ask
ourselves why.
Common Nonprofit Challenges
No resources
Pay inequality
Leadership
Dysfunction
Silos Misconceptions
Wicked problems
13 Steps To Better Boundaries
Know
Shift
Define
Communicate Prepare
Discuss
Structure
Manage Reward
Reciprocate
Flex
TrustRevisit
4. Communicate Your Boundaries
Do some boundary homework
Define some past violations
Strategize and discuss
Expect this will be difficult
8. Manage Your Time
When you’ve maximized your time, it will be harder for people to steal it from you!
The Bully Dirty Dozen
Insults Invasion Contact Threats
“Jokes” Emails HumiliationPublic
shaming
Interruptions2-Faced
Attacks
Dirty
Looks
Silent
Treatment
Naming and claiming boundaries
takes time and commitment
Know
Shift
Define
Communicate Prepare
Discuss
Structure
Manage Reward
Reciprocate
Flex
TrustRevisit
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