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How Do You Know That Youre Really In Love?

1. LOVE ACCORDING TO THE DEFINITON OF THE BIBLE

1Corinthians 13:4-8

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not

self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil butrejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails.

LOVE IS PATIENT:

Love doesnt hurry things up. No matter the distance, never grow tired of waiting, never change. It

remains still, firm, pure and strong. Love knows how to wait for the proper time and place.

LOVE IS KIND:

Love is a giver without being expectant. Love rejoices in giving without counting and expecting for

anything in return.

LOVE DOES NOT ENVY (is not jealous):

It doesnt envy whatever your partner has which you dont have. It may be in the form of material

things, characters, kinds of people he/she has in life, achievements and status. It is not even jealous

without any basis and drastic reasons. Jealousy is not always healthy in a relationship though sometimes

it may be a good sign that you dont want to lose your special someone... but getting jealous without

any evidence is IMMATURITY!

LOVE DOES NOT BOAST:

Others get into a relationship that they may have something to be proud about. Others find it cool if

they have girlfriends or boyfriends because it speaks about their charisma. Having no emotional

attachments for a time means youre not attractive enough. Others get into a relationship because they

can boast about their partner. They boast about their beautiful gf or their hunk boyfriend. Real love is

not all about these.

LOVE IS NOT PROUD:

The word proud comes from the word pride. Its when you dont know how to humble yourself.

When something went wrong in the relationship, one wont initiate the apology. Pride makes you resist

one another. Love is not proud.

LOVE IS NOT RUDE:

Love is not rude both in actions and in words. Some couples thought its okay to hurt one another

through a slapping, hurting physically, or throwing harsh words to their partner. Love is gentle in

actions, in words and even through the tone of the voice. Fights and conflicts are normal in a


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relationship. But the way the couple handle them defines whether they have the characteristics of real

love.

LOVE IS NOT self-seeking:

It doesnt just want to satisfy its selfish desire. Others are only after for what they can only benefit from

their partner or from the relationship. Others, at times, they always want to be pleased while in therelationship, when they get offended, they want out. It is not surprising indeed to see relationships

came crushing here and then, leaving many hearts broken. LOVE is not all about oneself. Its about

sacrificing, and giving what you can give to the relationship, not what you can get.

LOVE IS NOT EASILY ANGERED:

Rather, love is considerate, easily understands, not judgemental and not easily get into conclusions. It

does not get easily angered.

LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS:

Love always forgives, and easily forgives. It doesnt keep pains and grudges. It counts no sins and fallshorts of the pasts. It sees no wrongs. It always sees the beauty of the person rather than its limitations,

weaknesses and mistakes.

LOVE DOES NOT DELIGHT IN EVIL BUT REJOICES WITH THE TRUTH:

Meaning the real love has a clear sense of what is right and wrong in the eyes of God, and stands firmly

for what is right. This, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness.

LOVE ALWAYS PROTECTS:

Real love seeks to protect the one you love. If you surely know that these things can harm your partner,

can ruin his/her life, family and future, can cause shame and disrespect to him/her, do away with it. Ifother people mistreats him/her face-to-face or at the back, you have to fight for him/her..

LOVE ALWAYS TRUSTS:

Trust doesnt just rely on feelings. Sometimes you feel like doubting the one you love, but then, TRUST is

a decision. You have to deliberately and intentionally decide to TRUST even in the midst of confusions or

doubts, unless you really have the reason to doubt him/her.

LOVE ALWAYS HOPES:

Even ifit feels like theres no more other way , you still find hope. In the midst of a worst fight or

problems, still the positive spirit is never losing. Thinking and hoping that "everything's gonna be alright

sooner", knowing that LOVE conquers all.

LOVE ALWAYS PERSEVERES:

Think of the times that you feel like giving up, that you feel like quitting. Those are the best times for

you to get reminded that LOVE doesnt easily give up. It perseveres whatever happens. Amidst the

problems, conflicts, persecutions (from family, friends, or other people), real love remains still to the

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LOVE NEVER FAILS:

I believe theres no such thing as perfect love nor relationship in this world, but why does the bible says

LOVE NVER FAILS? We are all prone to failures due to our imperfections. But God revealed to me the

truth that that is because, REAL LOVE lasts forever thats why it never fails. When all else fail, love still

remains and endures until the end, no matter what.

2. Real Love is like the love of God for humanity (AGAPE LOVE).

Agape means in spite of:

-who you are

-your weaknesses

-bad habits and characters

-poverty and wealth

-sickness and health

-deformity

-social status

-academic attainments

3. Real Love seeks Approval of Families/Parents, friends and spiritual mentors:

>>Parents should be aware, though parents really have something to say at first, but dont fear, rather

open to them; make your family your circle of best friends whom you can confide anything. By then,

your relationship will be well-guided. As you both grow in your relationship together, you will also grow

in the relationship with each others family too.

>>Friends Support: friends who also have relationship with the Lord is more preferable because they

certainly have the wisdom of the Lord to advice and watch over you. They have the positive influence

that would edify your personal life and your relationship as well.

>>Spiritual mentors also has impressive role to preserve the relationship. Open rebuke from spiritual

leaders undeniably hurts, but the right heart knows how to listen and to submit and willing to change for

the better.. :)) One of the greatest things that could happen to your life is having some people who

speak over your life. Its all for your own good.

4. LOVE BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN YOU

>>Love increases self-esteem

Love builds your self-confidence up, it makes you become tougher and courageous, you become active

and diligent in everything you do

>>Love encourages doing better

When you found love, the real one, your performance is getting better, in school, in work, in church

ministry, in social relationships and even at home.

>>Love makes you a better person

The changes start at home. When you become more diligent in household chores, you forget about


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frowning, and even your spiritual maturity levels up. You emit a different kind of aura. The way you face

problems in all aspects of your life also change.

>>Love is always after for whats best for you

whatever thats good, it is being pursued, not just the things that can make you happy for the meantime

but compromises each others future.

5. LOVE IS GOD-CENTERED

>>Living up God's standards and values

Love follows the principles in the bible. The fact that LOVE comes from God, only God knows how it

works. Real love also submits to the spiritual mentors counsels.

>>Helps each other to become strong in the Lord

One of the key determinants whether a certain relationship is founded in real love or not, is that the

relationship should help strengthen each other spiritually. One prays for the other and vice versa. Youhelp each other strengthen in the Lord and not to be the reason to draw each other away from the Lord.

Part of conversations always include asking how is your devotional?, hows your prayer life? or what

are your prayer requests?

>>Fears the Lord

This is considerably very important. The fear of the Lord must be the driver of the relationship. We can

fear our parents or our spiritual parents for that matter, when they are around but freely compromises

when they are not. If the relationship fears the Lord, wherever you both are, whoever you are with or

without, you are conscious from sinning and compromising because you dont want to grieve and

displease your God.

>>Jesus is the centre of the relationshipJesus must be pleased first. He also is the first refuge and consultant when relationship is failing; even in

decision-making He is involved. If the Lord is the centre of the relationship, there is inner joy, inner

peace and security in the relationship and there is a relatively different level of trust and faithfulness to

each other. No matter how almost-perfect a relationship may seem, without the Lord, it can be easily be

easily shattered at any moment at a certain circumstance. The Lord is the ultimate author and source of

real and lasting love. If you have Jesus in your relationship, youll have the sweetest lasting relationship

ever!

Dedicated to:

My one and only LOVE Vincent Allen Terre

Authenticated by:

His wifey Eugenie Villanueva

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