Help Fight Domestic Help Fight Domestic ViolenceViolence

Presented by Dee LynnPresented by Dee Lynn

From Abuse to EmpowermentFrom Abuse to Empowerment

PROVIDING SUPPORT AND RESOURCES

FOR VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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Domestic Violence is any kind of behavior that a Domestic Violence is any kind of behavior that a person uses to control an intimate partner through person uses to control an intimate partner through fear and intimidation. fear and intimidation.

It includes physical, sexual, psychological, verbal and It includes physical, sexual, psychological, verbal and economic abuse. economic abuse.

Examples include battering, name calling and insults, Examples include battering, name calling and insults, threats to kill or harm one’s partner or children, threats to kill or harm one’s partner or children, marital rape, or forced abortion. marital rape, or forced abortion.

An Overview of Domestic ViolenceAn Overview of Domestic Violence

WHY MEN BATTERWHY MEN BATTER

Men who abuse Men who abuse generally share some generally share some common characteristics. common characteristics. They tend to be jealous, They tend to be jealous, possessive and easily possessive and easily angered. angered.

They hold a view of They hold a view of women as being inferior.women as being inferior.

Many use or have used Many use or have used alcohol and drugs alcohol and drugs

WHY WOMEN STAYWHY WOMEN STAY

Fear:Fear: For themselves, For themselves, for their children, fear for their children, fear that they cannot that they cannot support themselves.support themselves.

Hope:Hope: They hold hope They hold hope he’ll change or they he’ll change or they can change him can change him through love.through love.

An Overview of Domestic ViolenceAn Overview of Domestic Violence

““In the beginning, I was young…he was handsome. In the beginning, I was young…he was handsome. He said I was beautiful, smart, worthy of love…He said I was beautiful, smart, worthy of love…

he made me feel that way. And so we were married, walking joyfully he made me feel that way. And so we were married, walking joyfully together down a church aisle, our union blessed by God. together down a church aisle, our union blessed by God.

Then came the angry words…the verbal tearing apart…Then came the angry words…the verbal tearing apart…Now I was made to feel ugly, unintelligent, unworthy of any love, Now I was made to feel ugly, unintelligent, unworthy of any love,

God’s or man’s.”God’s or man’s.”

““Next came the beatings… unrelenting violence.. Next came the beatings… unrelenting violence.. unceasing pain. I shouldn’t stay, but this is my unceasing pain. I shouldn’t stay, but this is my husband…promised forever. He says I deserve it… husband…promised forever. He says I deserve it… maybe I do… if I could just be good. I feel so maybe I do… if I could just be good. I feel so alone… doesn’t God hear me ?”alone… doesn’t God hear me ?”

“Finally came the release, the realization. Its not me, it’s him... I am worthy of love, God’s and man’s”

Organizational Chart – WISH – “When In Search of Hope”

WISHWISHMISSION STATEMENTMISSION STATEMENT

Advocating for victims of domestic violence as well as Advocating for victims of domestic violence as well as abused & at-risk youth. We are their courage when abused & at-risk youth. We are their courage when they have none, their friend when lost and alone, and they have none, their friend when lost and alone, and their hope to a new life. By providing advocacy, their hope to a new life. By providing advocacy, education, evaluation, intervention, prevention, education, evaluation, intervention, prevention, referrals and information resources, referrals and information resources, WISHWISH will help will help free victims of domestic violence. free victims of domestic violence.

WISH seeks to provide individuals with one-on-one WISH seeks to provide individuals with one-on-one guidance and support while determining their specific guidance and support while determining their specific needs. WISH serves as a means to provide hope and needs. WISH serves as a means to provide hope and guidance to the victims. With the support of our guidance to the victims. With the support of our Community Partners, WISH connects victims to the Community Partners, WISH connects victims to the resources they need to begin a new life. resources they need to begin a new life.

With the collaborative resources of With the collaborative resources of WISHWISH, we are able to tap , we are able to tap into various community resources. This community into various community resources. This community collaboration consists of citizens, community leaders, collaboration consists of citizens, community leaders, corporations, public entities, and community agencies united corporations, public entities, and community agencies united to ensure individuals (“When In Search of Hope” - WISH), have to ensure individuals (“When In Search of Hope” - WISH), have the necessary choices and resources to get to the final the necessary choices and resources to get to the final solution of their problem. solution of their problem. “From Abuse to Empowerment.”“From Abuse to Empowerment.”

These entities participate in the capacity of Community These entities participate in the capacity of Community Resource Partners for the organization and provide services in-Resource Partners for the organization and provide services in-kind to the victims. Other resources are acquired as needed. kind to the victims. Other resources are acquired as needed. We are not a duplication of services from other non-profits. We are not a duplication of services from other non-profits. WISH addresses the WISH addresses the rootroot of the problem; to end the cycle of of the problem; to end the cycle of abuse. abuse.

WISHWISHCOMMUNITY RESOURCE PARTNERSCOMMUNITY RESOURCE PARTNERS

FriendshipFriendship One-on-one guidanceOne-on-one guidance Danger AssessmentDanger Assessment Safety Plan DevelopmentSafety Plan Development Resources and InformationResources and Information Evaluation Program – individualized planEvaluation Program – individualized plan Apprentice Program – future employment opportunitiesApprentice Program – future employment opportunities Youth Program – Life Skills Program (bully/respect) Youth Program – Life Skills Program (bully/respect)

geared towards youth, to end the cycle of abusegeared towards youth, to end the cycle of abuse Inmate program – Geared towards the perpetrator – to Inmate program – Geared towards the perpetrator – to

end actions of abuse end actions of abuse Speakers Bureau – Speakers Bureau – We are available to speak at various We are available to speak at various

events, organizations and meetings events, organizations and meetings Workshops/Support Groups/Women’s Volunteer AuxiliaryWorkshops/Support Groups/Women’s Volunteer Auxiliary Collaboration of Community Partners providing in-kind Collaboration of Community Partners providing in-kind

servicesservices

WISH OFFERS:WISH OFFERS:

FRIENDSHIP

EDUCATION ADVOCACY

INTERVENTION

EVALUATION

PREVENTION

WISHWISHCYCLE OF EMPOWERMENTCYCLE OF EMPOWERMENT

Evaluation/Danger AssessmentEvaluation/Danger Assessment - - A "standardized safety A "standardized safety assessment" means that all victims identified as being in assessment" means that all victims identified as being in an active abusive relationship are asked a series of routine an active abusive relationship are asked a series of routine questions regarding their personal safety. All victims are questions regarding their personal safety. All victims are asked the same series of questions. asked the same series of questions.

Apprentice ProgramApprentice Program -- Local companies participate as Local companies participate as Community Partners. In this role, they provide training to Community Partners. In this role, they provide training to the victims and later give them employment opportunities. the victims and later give them employment opportunities. We are trying to empower the victims with choices and We are trying to empower the victims with choices and financial stability. This in turn will give them the financial stability. This in turn will give them the confidence to control their own life and to have the power confidence to control their own life and to have the power to leave their situation.to leave their situation.

WISH PROGRAMS:WISH PROGRAMS:

Youth ProgramYouth Program -- Bullying and Respect are only a few of Bullying and Respect are only a few of the  programs we have developed to teach abused and at-risk the  programs we have developed to teach abused and at-risk youth life skills in the hopes of preventing and ending the cycle youth life skills in the hopes of preventing and ending the cycle

of abuse. of abuse. 

Our curriculum includes activities such as role playing along with Our curriculum includes activities such as role playing along with other life skill tools designed to teach youth how to respectfully other life skill tools designed to teach youth how to respectfully understand and treat each other. We are trying to provide understand and treat each other. We are trying to provide intervention with this program. When youth, who might be in a intervention with this program. When youth, who might be in a home situation of domestic violence see that the situation that home situation of domestic violence see that the situation that they are in is NOT normal, WISH hopes to break the cycle of they are in is NOT normal, WISH hopes to break the cycle of abuse from perpetuating. abuse from perpetuating.

It is our firm belief that attention must be devoted to primary It is our firm belief that attention must be devoted to primary and secondary prevention, particularly with children and young and secondary prevention, particularly with children and young adults.  If not, we feel domestic violence will continue to be more adults.  If not, we feel domestic violence will continue to be more of an issue in our community in the years to come. of an issue in our community in the years to come.

WISH PROGRAMS:WISH PROGRAMS:

Inmate ProgramInmate Program - - Our program experience in sharing a women’s true story Our program experience in sharing a women’s true story and journey through domestic violence (with inmates within the and journey through domestic violence (with inmates within the correctional/judicial system), has proven to be successful in educating correctional/judicial system), has proven to be successful in educating perpetrators of domestic violence. perpetrators of domestic violence.

Our program includes the following topics:Our program includes the following topics: Defining domestic violenceDefining domestic violence

Myths about batteringMyths about battering

The cycle of violenceThe cycle of violence

The effects of domestic violence on childrenThe effects of domestic violence on children

Characteristics of a healthy vs. unhealthy relationshipsCharacteristics of a healthy vs. unhealthy relationships

Our ultimate objective is to assist inmates in developing a strategy towards Our ultimate objective is to assist inmates in developing a strategy towards making a positive change in their life. We want inmates to understand how their making a positive change in their life. We want inmates to understand how their actions have affected the victims of domestic violence. We hope to help them in actions have affected the victims of domestic violence. We hope to help them in taking the steps to stop and prevent the cycle of abuse. taking the steps to stop and prevent the cycle of abuse.

Other forms of prevention will come from speaking within the community (service Other forms of prevention will come from speaking within the community (service organizations, youth groups, women’s groups, medical organizations, etc. and organizations, youth groups, women’s groups, medical organizations, etc. and educating the community as a whole.educating the community as a whole.

WISH PROGRAMS:WISH PROGRAMS:

FriendshipFriendship - - The most important goal of the program is to The most important goal of the program is to provide friendship, someone who has been there who can share provide friendship, someone who has been there who can share their pain, give them hope and provide information and resources their pain, give them hope and provide information and resources to help them get their life back. To let them know someone cares to help them get their life back. To let them know someone cares and they are not alone.and they are not alone.

One-on-one GuidanceOne-on-one Guidance –– An in-depth process, where we work An in-depth process, where we work with the victims to determine individual resources and needs.with the victims to determine individual resources and needs.

Danger AssessmentDanger Assessment -- A "standardized safety assessment" A "standardized safety assessment" means that all victims identified as being in an active abusive means that all victims identified as being in an active abusive relationship are asked a series of routine questions regarding relationship are asked a series of routine questions regarding their personal safety. All victims are asked the same series of their personal safety. All victims are asked the same series of questions.  questions. 

WISH SERVICES:WISH SERVICES:

Safety Plan DevelopmentSafety Plan Development – – Once the Danger Assessment has been Once the Danger Assessment has been completed and the severity of situation is reviewed, a plan of action is completed and the severity of situation is reviewed, a plan of action is determined. The Safety Plan helps to guide them in a positive direction to determined. The Safety Plan helps to guide them in a positive direction to the appropriate resources that can help to ensure that they have hope, faith the appropriate resources that can help to ensure that they have hope, faith and belief in a new tomorrow with enhanced possibilities. and belief in a new tomorrow with enhanced possibilities.

Resources and InformationResources and Information - - Various resources and information are Various resources and information are available to help educate the victims on many levels. available to help educate the victims on many levels.

• Educating them on the actuality that what they are enduring is ABUSE. Educating them on the actuality that what they are enduring is ABUSE. • Educating them on the various signs of abuse.Educating them on the various signs of abuse.• What they can do to get help.What they can do to get help.• The steps necessary to create a safety plan for them.The steps necessary to create a safety plan for them.• How to actualize the plan and put it into motion.How to actualize the plan and put it into motion.• Educating them on the tools/resources that they will need to have in Educating them on the tools/resources that they will need to have in

place before they leave their situation.place before they leave their situation.• Educating them on the various resources that are available to help Educating them on the various resources that are available to help

empower them on this journey.empower them on this journey.

WISH SERVICES:WISH SERVICES:

Community EducationCommunity Education – – is provided through information is provided through information resources, workshops, seminars and literature. We will resources, workshops, seminars and literature. We will expand community education regarding Domestic Violence expand community education regarding Domestic Violence via media; print, radio and TV and billboards. The via media; print, radio and TV and billboards. The WISHWISH website is available as well.website is available as well.

Youth and Family EducationYouth and Family Education –– Educating both youth and Educating both youth and the family are essential in ending the issue of domestic the family are essential in ending the issue of domestic violence within the community in the years to come. violence within the community in the years to come.

In conjunction with our youth program, we acknowledge the In conjunction with our youth program, we acknowledge the importance of involving the parents. importance of involving the parents.

WISH COMMUNITY WISH COMMUNITY OUTREACH:OUTREACH:

Educational InstitutionsEducational Institutions - - Local colleges will be involved Local colleges will be involved through outreach programs in support of through outreach programs in support of WISHWISH by supplying by supplying apprentices for office staff, marketing and food for events. apprentices for office staff, marketing and food for events.

Educational TrainingEducational Training – – Colleges are contacted to furnish Colleges are contacted to furnish educational/training opportunities for the victims.educational/training opportunities for the victims.

TherapyTherapy – – Referral to local domestic violence organizations Referral to local domestic violence organizations who have therapy consultation services. who have therapy consultation services.

WISHWISHRESOURCES AND INFORMATIONRESOURCES AND INFORMATION

Referral ServicesReferral Services - For those services that - For those services that WISHWISH does not does not provide we will refer victims to the necessary agencies. provide we will refer victims to the necessary agencies.

Community CollaborationsCommunity Collaborations – – WISHWISH avails itself of avails itself of community collaborations/partnerships when providing community collaborations/partnerships when providing services to victims of domestic violence. As previously services to victims of domestic violence. As previously stated, we will invite various community partners to join us stated, we will invite various community partners to join us in our effort to gain resources for the victims. in our effort to gain resources for the victims.

WISH WISH RESOURCES AND INFORMATIONRESOURCES AND INFORMATION

Become a WISH Corporate SponsorBecome a WISH Corporate Sponsor Become a WISH Corporate Partner Become a WISH Corporate Partner Become a WISH Community Resource Partner Become a WISH Community Resource Partner Become a WISH DonorBecome a WISH Donor Become a WISH VolunteerBecome a WISH Volunteer Become a part of the WISH SOLUTIONBecome a part of the WISH SOLUTION

WISHWISHHOW YOU CAN SUPPORT WISHHOW YOU CAN SUPPORT WISH

YOU HAVE THE YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO HELP ABILITY TO HELP

THEMTHEM

IT’S YOUR CHOICE IT’S YOUR CHOICE

ALL IT TAKES IS A ALL IT TAKES IS A CARING HEARTCARING HEART

WON’T YOU BE THAT WON’T YOU BE THAT PERSON?PERSON?

Free At LastFree At Last

““PEOPLE HELPING PEOPLE”PEOPLE HELPING PEOPLE”

All of us need to and can be part of the solution.All of us need to and can be part of the solution.If you see abuse, it is your responsibility to report it. If you see abuse, it is your responsibility to report it.

To become a sponsor, To become a sponsor, community partner or volunteer community partner or volunteer

Contact: Dee LynnContact: Dee LynnWISH - When In Search of HopeWISH - When In Search of Hope

Phone: 704-277-4270Phone: 704-277-4270Email: Email: dee@wishforhope.org

P.O. Box 49552, Charlotte, NC 28277P.O. Box 49552, Charlotte, NC 28277

WISHWISHWhen in Search of HopeWhen in Search of Hope