Habit 1

Be Proactive

Proactive vs Reactive

Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse

Proactive people make choices based on principles/values

Examples of Reactive and Proactive choices

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What are the consequences of the Reactive choices?

What are the consequences of the Proactive choices?

Reactive Language

I have to I’ll try Others

Proactive Language

I’ll do it I choose to Others

Reactive people feel like

Victims Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they regret Whine and complain Wait for things to happen to them Change only when they have to

Proactive people feel like

They are NOT easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something

about and not about the things they can’t

What can we control?

We can’t control everything– Our skin color– Who our parents are– How others might treat us– Weather

We can control our how we respond to what happens to us

Responding to setbacks

We can turn our thinking around to respond to a negative by making it a positive– An accident– Abuse– Our home life

Becoming more Proactive

Take responsibility for your life

Have a CAN-DO attitude

Just Push Pause

When you have a situation you want to respond in some way think…– Just Push Pause– Use your 4 tools in your toolbox

Self- awareness-stand apart from myself and look objectively

Conscience-I listen to my inner voice to know what is right and wrong

Imagination-I can envision new possibilities I have the power to choose

Human tools in action

Use your principles to help make choices Use your proactive language Turn negatives into positives Have a can-do attitude Use the tools to respond