grief series in process
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Insight into the process of making Ellie Harrison's The Grief Series: a sequence of seven arts projects dealing with bereavement. With contributions from collaboratorsTRANSCRIPT
The Grief Series in process:
Making performance, installation, photography and
interdisciplinary art.
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Contents
Introduction…………………………………………………………………………………page 3
Part 1: Etiquette of Grief………………………………………………………………….page 4
Part 2: The Reservation…………………………………………………………………...page 6
Part 3: What is Left………………………………………………………………………....page 18
This booklet is designed for performance makers that are interested in the processes
that are being used to create the Grief Series. You will notice the names of the many
collaborators in this booklet. This enables you to get a clear picture of the thoughts
and rationale behind the series from multiple viewpoints. Each section refers to one
performance or artwork from the Grief Series.
Each project has a signature image. If you are reading the other two booklets on
grief in pop culture and perspectives on grief from counselling, you can quickly see
how the theories and articles have influenced the projects in Grief Series by looking
for the pictures. Wherever you see a picture next to a theory or article it means that
article has had a clear influence on the art work produced.
Key
Part 1 Etiquette of Grief
Part 2 The Reservation
Part 3 What Is Left
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Introduction
This charts the development of each project in The Grief Series, as well as the
formulation of the series itself. There are contributions from Ellie and her
collaborators.
The Grief Model
Ellie: After Etiquette of Grief had been completed I felt a slight frustration at the
amount of ideas that had to be left out due to the constraints of time and medium.
Some of my ideas would be more suited to photography or installation than
performance. Throughout the process I had become somewhat of a grief magnet
for other peoples stories and observations and I wanted to allow space for these
other voices. With such a rich subject matter, more work needed to be made. The
grief model seemed like a useful structure for a series rather than picking an arbitrary
number of works, and the stages provided a way of varying the tone of each piece.
The interdisciplinary nature of the series allows me to work with exciting artists from
different disciplines who will push my practice and by placing it in a variety of
contexts, the work will reach new audiences. I’m also aware the series needs to
keep evolving and changing with the medium being a vital part of that…seven
performance pieces about bereavement might wear a little thin. And so The Grief
Series was born.
There are a number of both five and seven stage grief models and so there isn’t a
definitive model. I have simply used one that I thought would serve a making
process best. Whilst I enjoy the model as an opening stimulus for art making, in a
therapeutic context I think the risk with models is that they can be taken too literally
and can become prescriptive. A clinician told me about a client who was
concerned that they hadn’t got their grief ‘right’ as they had missed one part of the
model. For me the model might be used more as a validation of what someone
might be feeling in the wake of a bereavement rather than a blueprint for a
‘correct’ processing of it. My experience has been that any of these feelings might
come and go at any time and some recur while others fail to resonate at all. Even if
the model is a good indication of the feelings that might arise for someone, it rarely,
if ever, occurs in a clean, sequential fashion. I hope the model provides comfort for
those that need it, not as a code of conduct for people in pain and as the starting
point for some interesting art work. My approach to the grief model is reflected
through the series. Showing an awareness of the model but allowing the work to
develop organically, letting it go in different directions depending on the
environment the work is developed and shown in.
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Part 1 Etiquette of Grief. A solo performance by Ellie Harrison.
Video by Matt Tullett, Outisde eye by Ollie Smith and Matt Rogers,
Design by Hannah Sibai and Parveen Ghir.
Ellie: I usually start my process with something to say or at least a theme: something
that bothers me or something that I love. If I’m going to spend a while working on it
and even longer touring it, it really has to matter to me. I knew I wanted to make a
show about bereavement, my own experiences of it and the awkwardness I have
encountered when discussing it. I was also fascinated by the response to Princess
Diana’s death which neatly linked in to my autobiography as my niece was born the
day Diana died. Next I make lists. Lots and lots of lists. With the Etiquette of Grief it
has been lists of death in films, in music, in art. These lists are included in the pop
culture edition. I also tend to find objects as starting points. These are all things that I
might bring into the rehearsal room.
A major starting point for the show was an outfit: A pink suit, white gloves, pearls.
I then work out what I’m trying to say, I might structure an argument comprising two
opposing sides or conflicting ideas. I often borrow structures and from everyday life
to make work. A recipe, a game of ‘I have never’, a speech at a wedding have all
appeared in my previous work as a device to give my thoughts structure. This time I
had written a fairy tale. My most significant bereavement has been losing my mother
and as she was a writer (primarily for children) a children’s story seemed apt. A friend
had also told me about a children’s book that had been written about Diana’s life.
Something along the lines of ‘once upon a time there was an ordinary girl who lived
near the palace and every day she saw the prince riding by and then one day she
was invited to a party at the palace. Diana met the prince and they fell in love and
got married and the whole land rejoiced.’ Quite how this story ends, I’m not sure. So
the fairy tale formed the spine of the work.
In a play, characters surprise each other, moving the plot forward. In solo work you
have to surprise yourself or give yourself something to bounce off: competing with
photographs of myself, a task like handing out biscuits, or playing games with the
audience were all features of my previous work.
So I went in to a space with some ideas and some objects to bounce off: The
costume, the fairy tale, some photographs of dead people. The story featured water
and so I decided the show should take place in a seven foot paddling pool.
Obviously. Not just any paddling pool, this was to be a Diana memorial paddling
pool. The material that emerged seemed okay, although it can at times be testing
to sit in freezing cold water, on your own in a space, talking about your dead family
for hours on end. I scratched the show and there was a particular section where I
listed the people I had lost with accompanying photographs. I had done something
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similar in ‘Dressing the part’ where I listed everything bad that had ever happened
to me and the audience always responded positively. It wasn’t new territory but
something about the way I presented it this time meant that all I could see were
people shifting uncomfortably in their seats, not knowing which way to look.
I use autobiography. Sometimes it works and sometimes I fail. This was definitely the
latter. A word of warning; nothing about your life is inherently interesting to anyone. I
have learned this the hard way. When you have just bared your soul to an
audience and you come out into the bar and someone you respect says ‘but your
work is usually so intelligent…’ it can feel crushing. So after some moping, it was back
to the drawing board. I started again from scratch.
The trick was to make them as interested in my life as I was. People couldn’t hear my
autobiography so directly. I had to be more playful with it, conceal it more. I was
strangely angry at my audience for the very thing I was trying to say through the
work. That talking about bereavement can be embarrassing. So the piece had to
become about not saying it. I decided my autobiography would only work if there
was some kind of decoy, something to lighten the mood. The more bleak the
autobiography, the more silly the pop culture had to be. I ended up giving a large
proportion of my autobiography to a digital alter ego wearing the pink suit and
pearls from the start of my process. A kind of amalgamation of the Queen, Margaret
Thatcher and Delia Smith. The second draft of the show was much better but I won’t
ruin it too much in case you end up seeing it.
This sense of contrast between the bleak and the playful, respectful and irreverent is
becoming a feature of the series.
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Part 2 The Reservation. A one to one performance/installation in
collaboration with Jaye Kearney.
Jaye: When Ellie approached me about working with her all she
knew was she wanted to make a durational performance for non-
theatre spaces. We had both just finished making studio pieces, fussy, set-heavy,
fiddly, long get-in studio pieces and now what we wanted to make was the
opposite. Something portable, that we could tour to festivals, throw in a suitcase
(now trunk) and just rock up.
We also knew that the piece would be part two of seven in Ellie’s Grief Series.
Corresponding to the seven stage model from psychology, part two is ‘Pain & Guilt’.
We knew that we wanted to look at that period after the funeral when it becomes
harder (and less acceptable?) for people to express their feelings of loss.
What followed was a year long process of discussion, trial and error, research, play,
soul-searching and gentle tweaking.
There are ideas, sections of texts, images we have used that I can track the exact
origins of and who came up with them but there are great chunks of the final
performance that seem to have been entirely organic and intuitive that I could not
say if they originated with one or other of us. I do not recall any big sticking points,
battles for supremacy or in defence of one of our own ideas but perhaps that is the
rose-tinted glasses of success talking? First and foremost I do think this was a success.
Just because what we made isn’t anything like we envisioned at the start doesn’t
mean it wasn’t right.
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Step by Step
We stared by compiling lists, as performers often do. Lists about Elephants, lists about
death and grief, lists of moments of cinematic tears.
We considered the demands of the two main elements: durational work and site-
specific/site-generic work.
Durational work
What would the demands on the performers be, physically and mentally
How long should it last? Would it be one piece that repeated at intervals or a
single event over an extended period of time? Was the length a
conceptually significant number of hours?
What did we want the audiences’ experience to be? Would it be something
that was perceived to be totally open (Punchdrunk’s It Felt Like A Kiss had
only one route through the building but once inside the length of time spent
in each space was dictated purely by the audience member, for the most
part) or task related?
Would it be something that could only be experienced once or could
audience members drop in an out? In order to warrant a repeat viewing the
audience would need to see some kind of development.
Ellie felt certain that the work should include some kind of task that it should
accumulate something. That there should be a visual record of all those that had
gone before as a reflection on the fact that grief is something that we all face in life
at some point.
Site-specific
We agreed that rather than site-specific we were looking at a site-generic piece, a
piece that could tour to similar non-performances spaces, such as empty shop units.
What we needed to decide was:
Exactly what we needed from those sites in order to replicate the work as
closely as possible each time e.g. Power outlets, windows, load bearing bars
for anything that might need to hang, access.
How would the space/lighting change throughout the day and how much
could we/would we want to contain that?
What dressing, equipment could we supply in order to make the space
appropriate?
How would we manage the audience journey through the space and what
levels of staffing would we need?
What level of technical support would the piece require?
We talked about how to make a space neutral. Could we cover it in dust sheets?
What atmosphere did that create? We had also talked extensively about keeping it
mobile, of being able to pack our trunks and arrive, possibly as elephants on
parade. This meant keeping it low tech.
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The first R & D
From the offset we needed to see how it felt to work in a non-performance space
and see what influence the space might have on the ideas we had. We made a
plan for three days of R&D in an empty shop unit in the Corn Exchange. We thought
it was important to bring a range of skills and perspectives to the development of
the show so we worked with a scenographer, costume designer and a video artist.
We wanted to work with a costume designer because initially we felt that is where
the Victoriana and elephant elements might be most apparent and that the
costumes might involve an amalgamation of the two.
We started by considering EVERYTHING that might be in the show and began to
whittle the ideas down.
We hadn’t created a plan, or agreed who was supposed to lead. I think perhaps we
should have. We kept it very open. There was a lot of talking, a lot of tea. It was
frustrating. It was fun.
We went in to those three days wanting to look at:
Water/Tears: real tears and Movie tears, Dead celebrities
Victorians – mourning rituals, weeping veils…
Elephants – the poem The Elephant in the Room
The space we were in had three chambers and we played at using them to create
discreet areas that could be revealed as we went along to create a physical
journey. We didn’t want this to be too linear and we played with how distance and
perspective added or detracted from the experience. We used bird hides to create
very intimate spaces where the performer could interact directly with a participant.
We considered what would happen if we videoed this and played it back to the
participant or relayed it to others. We created a gallery of Elephants and started
playing around with an idea of an Elephant sanctuary or elephant specialists.
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At the end of three days the things we had really enjoyed and wanted to take
forwards were:
Intimacy: Distance and proximity, Hides/’safe’/intimate spaces, Discomfort
with tears
Elephants, Safari, Trunks/baggage
Exhibition/installation
Hotels/domestic spaces
We had to let go of the Victoriana as it felt there were too many themes competing
for supremacy. We were trying to say too much.
After the Corn Exchange Ellie felt strongly that we needed to try a domestic space.
The reason we liked the idea of hotels rather than a home is that they are full of
other units, so potentially lots of other people doing the same and feeling the same
as you. We also liked the idea of being inside an institution, the Scratch was set in a
large organisation, with staff, a professional persona but that it offered a retreat, a
hideaway, a home from home. Hotels rooms are private, comfortable and familiar
but not quite home.
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From five down to one…
After the Scratch we experimented with shifting the emphasis from the audience
having supporting roles as ‘carers’ to directly addressing needs they might have and
giving them the starring role.
Without any kind of certainty we began looking at the question
“What if this is a one-to-one performance?”
We were very lucky to be able to secure some R&D time in the Queen’s Hotel in
Leeds, two lots of five days.
Right from the very start Ellie had talked about wanting to tackle the more taboo
elements of grieving in this piece - post-funeral, public grieving, lengthy grieving
processes. After Etiquette of Grief she had found that people wanted to talk to her
about their loss. As though she had opened up a safe space to do that.
Ellie and I also compared stories of when we had been silenced by others in ours
times of loss. Knowing how this felt we wanted to look at ideas of what was
considered 'appropriate' and 'normal'. During our R&D in the hotel we discovered a
lecture by a man called Henry de Mena who's words really struck home. There was
no such thing as 'typical' grief though there were many common issues. Time and
impatience with the grieving was common. There was a clear need for
communication, sympathy and acceptance in grief at whatever stage and that
many people were not getting what they needed.
Having already played around with politicising this, playing on discomfort and
proximity and having the focus on those on the outside of the grief in both the R&D
and Scratch performances we turned our full attention back to the grievers.
The Scratches had mainly served to confirm the things we were already beginning
to suspect.
1. How could we tackle such a personal issue in a group scenario? Was there
any benefit for the audience in being in the space with others or might it be a
hindrance?
2. While the elephants were a nice device were there too many metaphors
going on?
3. How could I control 3 audience members when they had all the ‘power’ in
this scenario, and when I had no previous experience of this kind of work.
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During Queens
After the Scratches we almost went right back to the drawing board. For our first five
days in Queen’s Hotel we shelved everything we had made so far while we explored
other things. Some of it came back later. Most of it didn't.
To introduce a more structured approach than our time in the corn exchange we
had set ourselves the challenge of independently creating one or more one-to-one
performances, lasting only a couple of minutes each, and trying them out on each
other. Afterwards we would talk about what we had enjoyed about them, as
performer and as participant.
We liked:
Personalised invitations/physical invite/love letter? Hand written
instructions/questions
The participant letting themselves in/self-discovery
the elephant in the room
shower/sound of crying
light from the TV
Ellie: It felt like the answer was loud and clear
“This has to be a one to one performance.”
Jaye: The room became the third collaborator in the piece offering possibilities and
raising a number of questions:
How did we navigate the bed, namely how could we desexualise it? How did
we get around any seedy connotations of inviting audiences to a hotel room
for a solo experience?
How could we create a protective bubble around the space to avoid letting
too much of the real world in? How did align our intentions with the day to
day running of the hotel?
The en-suite bathroom offered an additional space to play in. We thought
about the image/sound of crying in the shower. Tears mixing with water. A
safe space. A private space to grieve.
As with all collaborations compromises have to be made. Some things that I really
would have liked in the show just didn't make it. I'm sure Ellie has several of those too.
The main one for me being the sound of crying in the shower. For me there was
something deeply resonant and heart-wrenching about the disembodied sound of
private pain. It was haunting and hard to listen to but maybe it was too visceral, too
potentially distressing. It began to jar with idea of 'taking care' of our audience.
There are still tears in the bathroom but they are now just far less literal.
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Ellie: I think centrally there was an issue of how to communicate tears. If either myself
or Jaye took on the role of griever we may have to sustain the crying over a number
of hours. This ruled out natural or realistically acted crying (I certainly couldn’t sustain
that) and meant we had to represent crying in a more abstract way, if we used it all.
Also if Jaye or I were the griever it made the performance difficult in terms of who
was responsible for whom. If the audience are caring for us, even in the fictitious set
up of Elephant rehab, who is caring for the audience in the real world? Who is
facilitating the encounter? I am a firm believer that the best way to free an
audience up is to give them rules and make them feel that there is someone else in
charge so they will not be held responsible if it all goes wrong. If they feel safe they
can and will invest heavily in participating. If we put them in charge of caring for us I
can’t help feeling it would be placing unfair pressure on them and come across as
laziness on our part. We need to be in charge so they can invest fully.
Drawing on the work I have undertaken with Cynefin and my own work with Pointed
Arrow, I wanted to find structures to tie these fragments or mini experiences
together. Cynefin make sensory labyrinth theatre by creating a labyrinth structure in
hills, fields or rural spaces. Labyrinths are designed as spaces for reflection,
meditation and transformation and appear in many different cultures. The
participant follows one continuous path that twists and turns into a central point. It is
thought that the journey to the centre is about shedding layers so that you might be
in an exposed/open state in the centre where transformation might occur. The
participant then continues forward on the path winding back out (and perhaps
building themselves back up) before arriving back next to the place where they
started with a renewed perspective. I wanted to see if we could adapt Cynefins
structure of voyage, transformation and return for use in an urban environment. The
Reservation starts with a journey where participants are encouraged to literally feel
the weight of baggage and be prepared for the installation section of the
encounter. They journey with a guide who then leaves them to contemplate and
navigate the space alone. By using a one to one format, we are already removing a
sense of group response where individuals might adapt their responses to fit in.
However we felt that even the gaze of a performer/facilitator might be inhibiting at
a potential moment of vulnerability for the participant. In the same way as the
participants of Cynefins’ Caerdroia have spaces in between encountering
performers/inhabitants, we wanted to facilitate a space where they could navigate
the room alone and tailor their own experience. The facilitator would then check on
the participant and interact with them before guiding them out of the space. We
also wanted the participant to be able to create a further section of the
performance in their own time by engaging in the action of eating the cake and
remembering. This also drew out another of Cynefin’s hallmarks; stimulating each of
the senses. We put activities in the room that worked with smell, taste, touch, site
and sound as a means of helping the participant to engage viscerally and
emotionally, rather than on a purely cognitive level.
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Jaye: Music is one element that made it in to the show for a number of reasons, not
least to break the ominous silence of the empty room the audience are left in (the
ticking clock was also introduced for this purpose). Music is a powerful tool for
evoking memory, as I have talked about a little on my blog. One of our outside eyes
suggested that what we wanted was the equivalent of Now That's What I Call
Grieving but looking back I think that kind of commercial element would have jarred
a little, as some have said the Dead Celebrities do, being so impersonal. Instead we
compiled a list of songs, from the obvious; the Diana version of Candle in the Wind,
to the personal; songs played at funerals we had been to. Along the way we
plundered iTunes playlists (yes there are grief playlists) and suggestions gathered via
Twitter til we had our selection of 25 Songs To Grieve To.
Issues
After our initial showings we found ourselves being challenged on our ethical
responsibility to the audience, to ourselves, to the dead?
First and foremost, considering the potentially revealing and sensitive nature of the
content we needed to know we could ‘take care’ of our audience member. We
invited several people to experience the piece in order to identify issues and fine-
tune the structure and execution of the piece.
For the piece to work we needed the audience to invest. It was a case of risk vs
reward and in order for the audience to invest we needed the experience to feel
personal(ised) even if it was to be repeated. While the space had to remain generic,
with certain tasks and interactive elements, the performance had to be perceived
to be just for/about them.
Clear communication was key in managing expectations, engendering trust and
allowing the audience to feel safe in the space. Everything had to be considered
from the language used in the publicity, the communication via the venues, the
ushers role in meeting and greeting the audience to the hand-written note the
audience receive when they arrive.
Ellie: As with many performance pieces, but to a large extent with The Reservation,
the piece is never finished until it is met with an audience. We have learned things
along the way and relaxed into it. The more we have got to know the structure, the
more free we are to abandon it. In fact the piece is never really finished because
each participant and so each interaction is unique. The thing that has accumulated
over time is that the more we perform, the less I expect it to be the same. It is finished
at the end of each interaction and then a minute later it is unfinished as we wait for
the next participant to arrive.
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“The attention to detail was perfect – from everything down to the hand written,
personally addressed letter I was handed on arrival. It made a statement: ‘this is
about you’, so right from the outset it felt like I was being given permission to
talk/share my feelings… Looking back it just underlines for me how powerful art can
be at unlocking difficult things, at encouraging people to share and understand,
and at making them comfortable doing so. It was truly a privilege to take part in this
show – although it didn’t feel like I was taking part in someone’s show, it felt like it
was mine." Annabel Turpin
"In the whole experience I felt looked after, calm, amused, sad at times. I laughed
but most of all I felt like there was an open, respectful dialogue between performer
and audience member." Audience member
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Part 3 What is Left. A participatory portraiture project in
collaboration with Roshana Rubin-Mayhew.
Ellie: What is left is a series of portraits and texts. Roshana and I go to a participants
home to take a portrait and interview of them with an object they have from
someone they have lost. We are working with 10 participants initially and this will
expand to fifty over time. The project will culminate in a book of fifty portraits and
texts.
Underpinning the project is an ethos of gift. The participant gives us the gift of their
time, their object is a kind of gift from the dead to the living and each participant
receives a framed print of their portrait.
Roshana and I knew we wanted to work with a diverse group from different
backgrounds and cultures. I have been involved in several projects of this type
before, mainly with the company I am part of Pointed Arrow. Pointed Arrow make
work on a particular route or in a number of specific geographic locations. When
mapping routes or choosing sites we make a conscious effort to include different
types of places: the urban and the rural, vibrant cities, suburban estates, small
villages or historic sites for a particular community. Our participants are diverse
because they are the people living or working in the different kind of spaces we
have chosen. The space nurtures the diversity. We often work in Leeds and so can
afford to hang around these areas, get to know them and the people that inhabit
them.
Roshana and I want to work with participants across the UK so that the project is
geographically diverse, representing a range of perspectives in terms of age,
gender, faith perspectives and ethnicity. We found ourselves asking:
How do we find diverse range of participants without being tokenistic?
I had comedic visions of an awful process that involved ringing various organisations
we know nothing about and asking if they have anyone who fits a specific criteria
who also happens to be bereaved…or may be bereaved in the near future?
Dreadful.
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Through my research I had read Attig’s theories on what we refer to as web weaving
In bereavement, we also “suffer” in the sense that when we lose someone dear, we
experience loss of our wholeness. It is as if each of us were a web of connections to
the things, places, other people, experiences, activities, and projects we care about
(Attig 1996 pp. 134-143). By extension, it is as if our families, communities, and all of
human kind are joined as webs of webs. Our life stories, and those of our families and
communities, are filled with weaving and reweaving of webs of connection,
patterns of caring within which we find and make meaning. Bereavement strikes a
blow to these webs, to our personal, family and community integrity. The weaves of
our daily life patterns are in tatters. Much of the weaving that comprises our
individual and collective life histories is undone.
Attig, T, (1996), How we grieve, Chapter 2, Relearning the world: making and finding
meanings, p.36, Oxford University Press
Perhaps it was about repairing and reinforcing the webs we already had, people
and organisations we already knew and working outwards to find our participants.
Perhaps being involved might have the potential for participants to feel connected
to the other people involved in the project, a small part of reweaving their web.
This was important to me as there has been an invaluable and moving by-product
of the all the work in the series so far: conversation. Almost more important than the
work is the fact that people come out of the work and have conversations about
bereavement that they might not have had otherwise; with me in the bar after
they’ve seen it, with each other on the train home from seeing it, on social networks
with people they only know through twitter. The series is to facilitating a space for
people to talk about bereavement without shame but often with humour and often
with sadness. I wish I could say that this was my intention from day one. It wasn’t. It is
now. I want to make creative projects that provide a space for dialogue. The Series
has slowly started to accrue a group of people round it: of collaborators working on
the series, of audiences of organisations supporting it or feeding in to it in some
way…it is becoming, in a very quiet and lovely way, a community. Team Grief.
So we started having conversations, asking about. It is sort of an anti-structure in that
we don’t know where it will lead us, or who to. I imagine we will visit new people and
revisit people we haven’t seen in far too long and see people we see all the time in
a new way.
We are just at the start of the process. We will keep you posted. In the meantime,
here are two behind the scenes shot of Roshana and one of our participants.
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