Going out and Marriage

Going OutFor males and females, going out with

each other serves a practical purposeBefore choosing a life partner, you

have to know what you wantSpending time in several different

relationships is one way to find outYou can make observations and

practice relationship skillsYou can learn the qualities you like in

a partner

Also try out communication skills to see what works and what doesn’t

All of this is work for preparation for a possible long-term relationship in the future

Establishing rulesFamilies will often set rules about

when a teen is allowed to go out alone with someone

Going out with someone has many new and challenging responsibilities.

Families will think carefully about where, whom, and how long

Spending time alone vs. group

Spending time alone:- Can bring a sense of security - Feels comfortable- Downside: relationships can be limitingGroup dating:- Safer- Less expensive- Less nervous- Less reasonability for keeping the

conversation going at all times

Different culturesAmish:- Not till the age of 16 are males allowed to look at the

opposite gender without getting in troubleAfghanistan:- Dating is rare because marriages are arranged by

parents. They attend different schools and the curfews are different for girls and boys

Australia- Will go out in groups until 18 or 19 yrs. old. Girls ask

boys and pay for dates tooIran- Dating is against the law. Teens are separated until

marrying age. Where it has all been pre arranged

Central and South America- Dating is not allowed until 15. Dating is done in groupsJapan and Korea-High school students don’t date. They spend time

studying instead. Dating begins in college, boys will do the asking and also pay

Europe- Dating is sometimes done in groups in certain parts of

Europe- In Spain students join pandilla or a group of similar

interest. Boys and girls both do the asking and pay also.

- In Russia, boys and girls meet at clubs or dances where they can chat

MarriageWhen choosing a marriage

partner. Look for the following:- Spend enough time learning

about the other person- Know the person’s personality- Feel about certain traits and

habits of the person

Teen MarriageThe pressure on teen marriages is so

strong that many end in divorceIn one study almost 40% of females who

married in their teens ended up in divorce

Teen marriages don’t allow themselves a chance to pursue their education and career goals.

Take the time to learn about themselves helps them make smarter decisions about what they want once they do get married.

Marriage within different culturesSudan

- Many has to offer a sheep or cattle for the loss of their daughter’s labor in support of the family

China- The groom’s family will present a whole roasted pig to

the bride’s family as an engagement giftIndonesia- Not uncommon to have 1,000 guest at the reception.

Bride and grooms are required to meet each one in a receiving line before the reception can begin

Denmark- Custom for the groom to disappear during the recepetion

so all the single men can kiss the bride. The bride will also leave at some point so the groom can kiss all the single girls

Sweden- The girls will get an engagement ring. When they

get married they will also receive a wedding band and a motherhood ring also. Sweden wives wear three gold rings

Mexico- Custom for the guest to form a heart- shaped

circle around the bride and groom during their first dance

Poland- As the groom and bride enter the reception. The

veil is removed from the bride representing the transition from maidenhood to married women. The groom will wear a funny hat to symbolize happiness and laughter in the marriage.