foundations of healthy relationships health education
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Foundations of Healthy Relationships
Health Education
Bell Ringer Jan. 29th
“If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?
And why are you waiting?” ~Stephen Levine
Personal Health Inventory
Self-Inventory: Read each statement below and respond bywriting yes, no or sometimes for each item. Write a yes
onlyfor items that you practice regularly. Save these responses.
1. I treat others with respect.2. I am a team player.3. I am a trustworthy individual.4. I often use compromise to resolve differences.5. I am willing to work at my relationships.6. I communicate well with others.7. I am a good listener.8. I ask questions if I’m not sure what is being said.9. I use eye contact when communicating with others.10. I am aware of my own body language.
Think Quick !
List 10 characteristics that you think are needed for a healthy relationship
Rank the characteristics in order of importance, and explain why you ranked each as you did.
Healthy Relationships
Relationship A bond or connection you have with other
people
Relationships allow us to meet our needs to be: LOVED SAFE SECURE VALUED RECOGNIZED
Healthy Relationships
All relationships have (+) and (-) effects on your health
Healthy Relationships demonstrate (+) effects on all areas of your health.
Healthy Relationships are based on: What?
Shared values Shared interests Mutual respect
Healthy Relationships
Family Relationships Immediate Family Extended Family
How do healthy family relationships enhance all sides of your healthTriangle?
Teach values, manners and socialize you. Food, Clothing,
Shelter
Give you love, care and encouragement
Healthy Relationships
Friendship Relationships Significant relationship between 2 people that is based
on caring, trust and consideration
Friendships contribute to enhancing your health by: Sharing similar values (M/E and Social) Share hobbies and interests (Physical, Social, M/E) Sharing friends (Social and M/E) Positively influencing self-esteem and self-concept (M/E) Helping to resist negative influences (Physical, M/E,
Social)
Healthy Relationships
Friend or Acquaintance? Acquaintance- relationship less intimate than friendship
Not as much caring, trust or consideration Talk to less, do not share same information, do not turn to in
time of need.
As teens, we see all people as a friend, however, is that true?
Questions to ConsiderQuestions to Consider1. Do you have more friends or acquaintances? Why?2. What causes you to call someone a friend or
acquaintance?3. Create 2 lists: Benefits of spending time alone &
with friends
Healthy Relationships
Community Relationships Citizenship
The way you conduct yourself as a member of the community
Work together to promote the safety and well-being of the entire community Community Watch Donation Drives Volunteer Programs Obey laws Food Bank Golden Rule
Healthy Relationship Characteristics in Action
Work in groups of 2 or 3 Compare your lists that you created earlier Choose the top 2 characteristics that you
can all agree on Prepare a skit that demonstrates those
characteristics to promote a healthy relationship
Prepare a 2nd skit that demonstrates what happens to the healthy relationship when those characteristics are not present
Bell Ringer Jan. 30th
Explain how healthy family relationships improve a persons 1. physical 2.social 3.mental/emotional health
Bell Ringer February 2nd Define Citizenship. What are 3 examples of ways that
you can get involved with your community? Why would this positively impact your personal health?
Bell Ringer February 4th 1. Create your own “I” message sentence to a friend
who is asking you to skip your fathers 50th birthday party to go to the movies.
2. Describe the 4 techniques for Active Listening.
Building Healthy Relationships & Communication
The 4 C’s to Building Healthy Relationships
For a relationship to succeed and be healthy, the people involved need certain skills.
4 C’s Communication Cooperation Compromise Character
Communication
Communication The way you send and receive messages from othersWhat are some ways we communicate?
Effective communication is a 2 way street
There are 3 basic skills necessary for effective communication1. Speaking2. Listening3. Body Languagehttp://www.ted.com/talks/clint_smith_the_danger_of_silence#t-32892
Cooperation Working with others to accomplish a goal
Nonviolent Communication
NVC: A way of communicating that leads us to give from the heart. We humans need to be reminded that we were always meant to RELATE to one another. Speaking and listening in a way that
connects us to ourselves and each other that allows our natural compassion to flourish.
NVC replaces habitual patterns of defending, withdrawing, or attacking in the face of judgement and criticism.
Communication that Blocks Compassion:
1. Moralistic Judgements: implying wrongness or badness on the part of people who do not harmonize with our values.
Analyzing others are actually expressions of our own needs and values. Judging others promotes violence.
2. Making Comparisons: Comparisons are a form of judgement, and can start to make people feel miserable.
3. Denial of Responsibility: We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
Question to consider: How Do You Feel About Reality TV Shows???
“ People don’t watch these shows to engage with them in a genuine way, They watch so they can look down on people. I call it “ Masterpiece
Stupidity.”
Communication Styles
3 Communication Styles Passive (“Mrs. Go Along”)
Inability or unwillingness to express thoughts/opinions Do not stand up for their beliefs
Aggressive (“Mr. Pushy”) Always try to get their way Use bullying and intimidation
Assertive (“Mr. and Mrs. Stand Up”) Express thoughts and feeling without hurting others However, they respect the thoughts of others
Compromise
Compromise Giving up something so that all can reach a
satisfying solution WIN-WIN SITUATION
Involves a “give and take” which can strengthen relationships
All must be satisfied with the solution Do not give up your values or beliefs to
compromise on a situation
Character in Relationships
There are 6 major character traits present in all HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
1. Trustworthiness2. Respect3. Responsibility4. Fairness5. Caring6. Citizenship
Can you identify these
Character Traits?
How to Resolve Conflicts
Conflict: Condition that exists any time 2 people disagree. Conflict Resolution: Process of ending a conflict through cooperation and problem solving. Steps for Conflict Resolution:
1. Get calm and think before you speak2. Remember, tone of voice is essential! Speak in a calm voice3. Ask questions to gather all the facts4. Utilize Active Listening Technique!5. Focus on the problem, not the person6. EmpathyAvoid: Name callingClashing EgosBlaming or threating comments- Use “I” MessagesDefensive body language
LETS RECONCILE OUR DIFFERENCES!!!!!
“I” vs. vs. “You” messages
I-messages simply state a problem, without blaming someone for it.
This makes it easier for the other side to help solve the problem, without having to admit that they were wrong.
Ex. "I felt let down," rather than "You broke your promise"
“I” vs. vs. “You” messages
“I” statements “YOU” statements
Non Threatening Threatening
Neutral Opinion Initiates defensive response“Attacking”
Can be difficult Automatic reaction
“I” Message vs. “You” Message
Aggressive (“You”) MessageWhat not to say
“You idiot! You took my client and cost me money. You owe me big time.”
“Why are you always late? It’s really annoying.”
Assertive (“I”) MessageWhat to say
“I’m upset that my client was taken away from me.”
“I worry about you when you don’t show up.”
How to construct and “I” sentence
I feel _________________________________ (say your feeling)
when you _____________________________ (describe the action)
because _______________________________ (say why the action connects toyour feeling)
Warm-Up Feb. 4th
1. Create your own “I” message sentence to a friend who is asking you to skip your fathers 50th birthday party to go to the movies.
2. List the 4 C’s for building healthy relationships.
3. What is conflict resolution? What is the most important thing to remember when you are dealing with a conflict?
Listening Skills
Hearing is not listening!!! Active Listening
Listening while involving yourself in the conversation
The average listener retains and understands about 30% of what he/ she hears
Paying careful attention without judging or interrupting
80% of our waking lives are spent hearing.
Techniques for Active Listening
1. Restating Restate or summarize what the other person said
2. Clarifying Ask questions to show your attention
3. Encouragement Provide statement/gestures to encourage more
conversation “I see”, “Un-Huh”, Head Nod
4. Empathy1. Try to understand their feelings2. Put yourself in their shoes
Body Language Skills
Body Language = Non-Verbal Communication The message you send to others based on
the way your body looks. Eye contact Posture Gestures Behaviors
As much as 65% of face - face communication is non - verbal
Technological Advances
Cell Phones E-mail Text Messaging Internet
Chat rooms
Questions to Debate
1. Has the advancement of technology improved or hurt the communication skills of today’s youth?
2. Is e-mail an effective method of handling relationship issues? How about texting?
3. Should teens be permitted to use online chat rooms or blogs?
Bell Ringer Feb. 5th
Describe 3 ways that technology has helped the communication skills of todays youth and 3 ways it has hurt the communication skills of todays youth.
Alright, So how do I start/maintain a conversation
with a person I like? Say “Hello” and introduce yourself Learn about the persons interests/ Find
Commonalities Talk about things you both can discuss
Surrounding, School, Likes/Dislikes, Hypothetical
Listen to the other persons responses Make “Eye Contact” but do not stare Use previously taught skills
Conversation Starters
Focus on other person, not self Stay positive Avoid controversy (religion, politics, ect..) Examples:
You look really nice, where did you get….(item) Have you seen any movie lately, what did you
think? What kind of music/TV/activities do you like? What do you normally do for fun? Have you ever (activity) ….? Do you like sports (other topic)? Have you ever been to (Place)?
Constructive Feedback
No one is perfect! Sometimes, people do things that you
do not appreciate. Ex. Make you late for a movie Ex. Name calling or blaming.
Constructive Feedback- non-hostile comments that points out problem and encourages improvement TIPS: “I” Messages, Tone, Body Language
Feedback Sandwich
When giving Constructive Feedback, use this method to help communication with others.
Step 1 (+)- Give compliment
Step 2- Inform person of the problem in a non-threatening way
Step 3 (+) - Offer steps for improvement
Character Essay
Directions: Think about a relationship situation where you had
the opportunity to demonstrate good character traits.
Pick your top 3 character traits (Examples: respect, trust, honesty, loyalty, reliability) Each paragraph will demonstrate a different character trait.
Write 3 paragraphs (5-6 sentences per paragraph) describing the situation and how you responded. What would have happened to your relationship if you had done something different (opposite)?