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Interviews with Equallyokedtarians Implications for the social sciences about equallyokedtarianism Social Psychology 777X 2000 - 2007

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Page 1: Field Interviews - Social Psychology 777x - Liberal Arts and Humanities

Interviews with Equallyokedtarians

Implications for the social sciences about

equallyokedtarianism

Social Psychology 777X

2000 - 2007

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Disclaimer Disclaimer • Note – This survey report concerns the matter of

‘equallyokedtarianism’ only. All interviews conducted that were included in this survey listed herewithin are about ‘equallyokedtarianism’ exclusively and NOT about any ONE SINGULAR feature or trait of an equallyoked couple. Those have not been included, in fact omitted. There were such couples who were singularly focused. …However, couples who were focused singularly on any ONE component of the interview while identified as being ‘equallyoked’ were NOT reported in this itemized survey summary.

Random Surveys: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10☀ ☀ ☀ ☀ ☀

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Key Interview Topics - 1Key Interview Topics - 1• Traditions – as a family heritage• Values – a recognized social mores• Beliefs – and insights about being ‘equallyoked’ • Assumptions – that are held about theirselves• Norms – couples who were normally animate in

expression about not being uequallyoked• Standards – of family subculture as an

understanding of equallyokedtarianism

Random Survey# 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10☀ ☀ ☀ ☀ ☀

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Key Interview Topics - 2Key Interview Topics - 2• Methods of – communication and socializing• Membership – among other couples of the

same civil identity or diverse civil identities• Identifying with one another– with other couples

of the same civil identity • Change – one individual outside of an

equallyoked relationship desires to be in an equallyoked relationship

• Status – as an equallyoked couple – as equallyokedtarians

Random Survey# 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10☀ ☀ ☀ ☀ ☀

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Traditions – as a family heritageTraditions – as a family heritage• “We both were taught in our families of origin

‘who’ we were – …our ‘civil identity’ – and what it means to be equallyoked” (note: NOT the concept of equallyokedtarianism as a societal membership).

• Comment: Differentiating between equallyokedtarian couples who were indoctrinated by family tradition rather than those who paid for or used a family heritage DNA testing service was significant but it was not cited herewithin nor pursued.

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Beliefs – insights couples have Beliefs – insights couples have about being ‘equallyoked’about being ‘equallyoked’

• “Do we believe that we are equallyoked? Yes, we believe we are equallyoked. We both believe the same. So, we trust that it’s the right thing to do.”

• Note: This equallyoked couple were forthright about their beliefs and shared tht fact that they both hold the belief in being, “…not unequally yoked.”

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Assumptions – that are Assumptions – that are held about their selvesheld about their selves

• “We assume that we are. …well, I as we see it, anyway. …at least we are close enough to being equallyoked.”

• Comment: From my point-of-view, without a formal psychosocial assessment I really could see that this couple was indeed ‘close enough’ (as they put it) to being ‘equallyoked’ truly.

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Values – a recognized Values – a recognized formal social moresformal social mores

• “We maybe we aren’t members of high society. out and about in society

• Comment:

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Norms – were animate in expression Norms – were animate in expression

about not being unequally yokedabout not being unequally yoked• “Hell, we aren’t unequallyoked.” Just because

we don’t have a good income and college education and members of high society. …we do have each other. Yeah, we’re equallyoked”

• Comment: This couple did believe they were

equallyoked. Making it clear by their attitude that they were not abnormal - they were animate about not being unequallyoked.

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Standards – of equallyoked Standards – of equallyoked couples as a subculturecouples as a subculture

• “We don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t litter … so many of our ‘couple’ friends are unequallyoked. …and we do have some friends who are equallyoked and they all seem to know it. ... upholding the same standard as we have.”

• Comment: Within the circle of friendships of this couple they do have sets of couples/friends who hold a different set of standards and those who did and were - equallyoked.

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Methods of – communication Methods of – communication styles styles andand publically socializing publically socializing

• “We (call) talk a lot with some of our family members who are also in equallyoked relationships.” … “We do have friends, couples, who are equallyoked and we text them about going out with them – dating as two couples.”

• Comment: There was not any communication nor an explicit understanding about whether these couples who dated as ‘couples’ (and who were equallyoked) were attending specifically equallyokedtarian activities.

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Membership – Membership – among others of the same among others of the same civil identity or diverse civil identitiescivil identity or diverse civil identities

• “We are equallyoked. Our family were members of an international dance club ..we eat… drink.. dance …(smiling) we faithfully attend an important annual society dance.”

• Comment: This couple, who were openly ‘equallyokedtarian’ represented too by their attire and accented their membership in a society organization implying that their dance club was an (equallyokedtarian) societial affair.

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Identifying with one another– with other Identifying with one another– with other couples of the same civil identitycouples of the same civil identity

• “ Yes we are equallyoked. Hay, we all speak the same second language (laughing)..yes, we are equallyokedtarians (with a smile). (They walked away holding hands talking in another distinct foreign language to one another).

• Comment: This couple seemingly had their own definition of equallyokedtarian with a rather good sense of humor. It is noteworthy here to report that they were of course very obviously equallyoked (by civil identity), however.

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Change – outside or inside – one Change – outside or inside – one desires to be equallyokeddesires to be equallyoked

• “Since we are not equallyoked, I would like to get out of this relationship into an equallyoked one.”

• Comment: I was very influenced by the attitude of the interviewees. I felt I was in the midst of a crisis decision on the part of the couple. Whether by annulment or divorce, the change would have to be brought about by one or both expressing the fact that they were not equallyoked and would like to be.

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Summary of InterviewsSummary of Interviews• A couple who ‘believe’ they are equallyoked share

sometimes the very same civil identity, sometimes share similar civil identities, and there are those who only ‘belief’ they are equallyoked by their own vague understanding. Equallyokedtarians are couples identified within a multicultural society sometimes are indeed aware that they share in the ‘same’ civil identity, some are aware they are very similar civil identities or there are some couples whose civil identities are skewed afar off from each individual in that dyad yet somehow ‘belief’ they are equallyoked. Some couples have strong influence within their own group concerning their civil identity. Sometimes an equallyoked couple possess no insight about being equallyoked, yet they are indeed equallyoked, yet being so, is outside their own awareness themselves. Some are equallyoked unstated.

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A “Reference Couple”A “Reference Couple”• An ‘equallyoked’ couple as a ‘reference

couple’ for research in the social sciences?• It is plausible that the ‘equallyoked’ dyad is as

diverse as there are people yet they all are valuable research indices for conducting studies.

• Double blind controlled clinical trials with certain identified equallyoked couples, providing they are not globalist manipulated, and without any local or state police, nor governmental intelligence meddling/interference could be considered authenicated as - truly fair – for a proven social scientific outcome.

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College Level StudiesSome Suggested Schools:

SociologyOakwood University, Grinnell College, Occidental College, Shaw University, Gallaudet University, Central State University,

Social PsychologyKentucky State University, Livingstone College, Claremont McKenna College, Reed College, Swarthmore College, Cheyney University of Pennsylvania,

Civil Rights and/or Community HealthEast Texas Baptist University, Presbyterian College, Franklin College, Sewanee-University of the South, Inter American University of Puerto Rico-Barranquit, Benedict College,

Marriage Family and Child PsychologyHampshire College, Pomona College, Hiram College, Oregon Health & Science University, Wilmington College, Saint Augustine’s University,

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