family affair
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Colossians 3:17–21
Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.
The over arching principle
Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.
1 Peter 4:11 (NASB95) 11 Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the
utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.
1 Corinthians 10:31 (NASB95) 31 Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all
to the glory of God.
1 Peter 4:111 Corinthians 10:31
Everybody in order
Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Subject to = to arrange in a military fashion under the command of a leader or a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden.
Fitting
Psalm 96:13 (NASB95) 13 Before the LORD, for He is
coming, For He is coming to judge the earth. He will judge the world in righteousness And the peoples in His faithfulness.
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Why?
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:22–24
Honor & Respect
God created men to be respected
When you honor your husband you honor God
Unconditional Respect and unconditional love
God has ordained order
CreationAuthorityChurchRelationships
All things need to line up under the sovereignty of God
Respect for order is a God principle.
What she needs
Love that is expressed1. Quality Time2. Words of
Affirmation3. Acts of Service4. Physical Touch5. Gifts
What she doesn’t needEmbittered-sharp, pointedSharp words, piercing attitudes
Order
Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord.
Obedience out of love for God and love for your mom and dad
The family should all model submission
A promise
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.
Ephesians 6:1–3
Divine orderThere is blessing in following
God’s order.Eph. 6:3, 1 Peter 3:1;7God
HusbandWife Children
What’s a dad to do?
Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.
Don’t feel resentment
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4
Not Children’s Church
You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.
Deuteronomy 6:7
Father and Son Combo
We will not conceal them from their children, But tell to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, And His strength and His wondrous works that He has done.
Psalm 78:4
Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6
How blessed is everyone who
fears the LORD, Who walks in His ways. When you
shall eat of the fruit of your
hands, You will be happy and it will be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine
Within your house, Your children like
olive plants Around your table.
Behold, for thus shall the man be
blessed Who fears the LORD.
Psalm 128:1–4