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Existential Coaching

Existential CoachingSasha van deurzen-smith

Types of CoachingTypes of Coaching:Personal (Life Coaching)Executive CoachingCorporate CoachingNiche CoachingGroup Coaching

What is CoachingAC Definition:"A collaborative solution-focused, results-orientated and systematic process in which the coach facilitates the enhancement of work performance, life experience, self-directed learning and personal growth of the coachee."

What is Coaching?Future focussedGoal oriented (insight oriented)A therapeutic and co-constructed method of self-development Assumes a basic level of robustness in the clientUnregulated and in its infancy

Client Groups and Case StudiesAutism Spectrum DisorderThere is a need to be truly phenomenologicalCombination of depth and pragmatismA next step from therapyAlready able to self-reflect and face challengesNeed to continue into practical applicationsPeople who dont know what they want The greatest gift for an existential coachAlready embracing uncertainty a blank slate

Coaching and TherapyContracting

Deciding who to refer:Examining robustnessExamining sense of personal responsibilityExamining any obvious ethical issues

Egs: 1) depression, suicidality 2) AS guy 3) strict Jane6

Doing-focussed Coaching

Wheel of Life

SMART Goals (Locke, 1968)

GROW Model

Merits of a Doing Approach

Often what the client is expecting as an outcome

Can get the job done quickly

The client may simply be struggling on a practical level

The Being may come from the Doing

Dilemmas

How can we bridge the gap between genuine self-acceptance and striving for better?

Is the client accepting herself as a being-for-itself?

Must there always be a goal?

If the client knows the goal, and a doing approach is sufficient to reach it why havent they done it yet?

Doing as a side-effect

How do I want to feel?

Who do I want to be? How do I want to be?

What moves me?

The ProcessWorking with what comes up and being confident that this holds insight

Forging a philosophical connection

Fumbling through the absurdity until we get to the meaning

The ability to sit together and try to identify what has so far been only implicit in the life of the client

How do I want to feel?

Feeling as an End-PointChanging the target can have a profound effectThis foregrounds a sense of being rather than reducing it to a side-effect

How do I want to feel at the end of the day/after this is finished?

What do I need to do to get there?

Emotion = energy It must be channelled just as physical energy must be

Working with Existential Tensions

Who do I want to be?

Alter EgoUsed to explore another side of oneself without feeling attached to current identity

Imaginary FriendsAct as an advisor or confidante. Someone whose knowledge we trust more than our own provides access to tacit knowledge

How do I want to be?

Being with OthersNeutralAbsorbent

Being with OthersDomineeringInfluential

Imagination and image workCan be used to gain insight into a situation or dilemmaTo generate new ideas of the future or new choicesTo bring about a particular mood or actionTo find humour and freedom within a constraining situationTo exercise and nurture the creative brain

Image work

What moves me?

InspirationNoticing patterns of motivation and intentionArtEmotional responses to the dialoguePeople are often shy to talk about inspiration and need to be encouraged to explore the impact.E.g. I know it was stupid, but it really stayed with me

When was the last time you were moved to tears by a piece of art?

The Self and the Soul

The 4 Worlds and Doing

Motivation as a Push and Pull

How can we better align the push and pull in order to gain momentum?We need to understand the full impact of a change.

What will the client be giving up? How can they account for this rather than pulling the rug out from under their feet?

A 4 Dimensional Inventory

Case Study: The Push

Case Study: The Pull

Zimbardos Time Perspective InventoryPast NegativeRelive painful experiences, rumination, regretPast PositiveTake pleasure in reflecting on the pastPresent FatalisticIt doesnt matter what I do, que sera seraPresent HedonisticImpulsive, carpe diem, just want to enjoy selfFuture Planning, goal-setting, to do listsTranscendental FutureReligion or faith based, life after death

MinkowskiPresent: zone of activity, which includes all the other zones of timeRemote past: zone of the obsolete and of history, including ones own life myths Mediate past: zone of loss and regret Immediate past: zone of remorse or griefImmediate future: zone of expectation Mediate future: zone of wish and hope or dread and anxiety. Remote future: zone of prayer and ethical action and also of ultimate meaning of life.

What Existential Coaching ContributesCreating lasting, heartfelt changeEnabling people to become philosophers in their own livesUncovering alternative ways of being and getting to know onesselfOwning up to ones own responsibilities (whether we act on them or not)Encouraging a kinder, gentler way of being that does not shirk the challenges of life

Thank You for Listening

MA in Existential CoachingPGDip in Existential CoachingPGCert in Existential Coaching

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