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English User Rating: / 0 Poor Best Parent Category: English Use EFT’s Choices Method to Tap for Unconditional Love Dear EFT Community, In this excellent article, Dena Przybyla shares how she uses Patricia Carrington’s Choices Method with clients to tap unconditional love into any memory. She has found that doing so fills the clients’ lives with that loving energy. -Stephanie M By Dena Przybyla One of the most effective uses of EFT that I have found in light of the importance of having unconditional love in our lives, and especially in our childhoods, is an adaptation of "Choices Tapping," developed by Patricia Carrington. No matter what your childhood experiences, it is never too late to have a childhood that contains the energy of unconditional love, for unconditional love is a resource state that is available to every one of us. You might ask, "How is this possible? The past is the past—it cannot be altered!" First you must connect with two important truths. First, that linear time is an illusion; and second: while we may not have control over what happens to us, we do have control over the meaning we make of it, and the story we choose to take on as part of our personal mythology. The Unified Field Quantum physics teaches us that nothing is fixed—past, present, and future are all happening now, simultaneously. Linear time is illusory. There is no such thing as "time" at all—past, present, and future are all occurring in this moment. Linear time is strictly a human construct, not a spiritual one. With the energy of our thoughts and intentions, the “past” can be altered at any time, and these changes alter our “present” and “future.” This is because...(dramatic pause)...the past, and all that we perceive, is actually inside of us. We created it, and continually create it. There is no "out there." The Observer Effect EFT Tapping - Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) | Use EFT’s Choic... http://www.eftuniverse.com/refinements-to-eft/using-efts-choices-metho... 1 of 5 19-Oct-14 5:10 PM

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Use EFT’s Choices Method to Tap forUnconditional LoveDear EFT Community,

In this excellent article, Dena Przybyla shares how she uses Patricia Carrington’s

Choices Method with clients to tap unconditional love into any memory. She has found

that doing so fills the clients’ lives with that loving energy.

-Stephanie M

By Dena Przybyla

One of the most effective uses of EFT that I have found in light of the importance of having unconditional love in our lives, and

especially in our childhoods, is an adaptation of "Choices Tapping," developed by Patricia Carrington.

No matter what your childhood experiences, it is never too late to have a childhood that contains the energy of unconditional love,

for unconditional love is a resource state that is available to every one of us.

You might ask, "How is this possible? The past is the past—it cannot be altered!"

First you must connect with two important truths. First, that linear time is an illusion; and second: while we may not have control

over what happens to us, we do have control over the meaning we make of it, and the story we choose to take on as part of our

personal mythology.

The Unified Field

Quantum physics teaches us that nothing is fixed—past, present, and future are all happening now, simultaneously. Linear time is

illusory. There is no such thing as "time" at all—past, present, and future are all occurring in this moment. Linear time is strictly a

human construct, not a spiritual one.

With the energy of our thoughts and intentions, the “past” can be altered at any time, and these changes alter our “present” and

“future.” This is because...(dramatic pause)...the past, and all that we perceive, is actually inside of us.

We created it, and continually create it.

There is no "out there."

The Observer Effect

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Anything that exists only exists because someone observed it to be so; without an observer, it never happened. And the observer

is never objective. We see what we’ve been “programmed” to see, based on our formative experiences. To borrow a phrase, we

see the world not as it is, but as we are.

This means we have a choice.

I have worked with a number of people using the Choices EFT technique, and the results have been nothing short of life

altering. It works because our thoughts and intentions have tremendous power.

The technique begins like this:

Think about your first primary caregiver. Think about your relationship with that person when you were a child, and think about it

now. (If they are deceased, think about your last recollections of the nature of this relationship.) How would you characterize the

relationship?

One man I worked with, whom I will call "David," made this assessment about his mother: "It always felt like she was actually

rooting against me. Rooting for me to fail."

When he came to this realization, we did quite a bit of tapping to quiet his reactions of horror, and then anger, and ultimately deep

sadness and disappointment.

However, with this technique, once one gets to the raw truth of one's experience with the first "observer" in life, the next question

is, "How would you have preferred it to be?"

David's solemn response was, "I always wanted her to be my biggest fan."

Creating a New Story

And so we had our Choices Setup Statement. I had him tap the Karate Chop point and state three times:

"Even though it has always felt like Mom was rooting against me, rooting for me to fail, I choose to feel and live as though

Mom were my biggest fan, and that she loves me unconditionally."

You see, it's never too late to infuse unconditional love into any memory, any experience, any relationship we’ve ever had. Even if

someone has never experienced unconditional love from another human being in this lifetime, I've found in working with clients

that there is always a part of everyone that has never forgotten what unconditional love feels like.

So, unconditional love, the best resource of all, is a built-in resource that we all have access to.

Also, the truth is that, in nearly every case, our parents intended to love us unconditionally, even if they were unable to do so. And

if they had another chance, they would strive to be more unconditionally loving.

I then had David tap the negative reminder phrase around all of the points, to neutralize it:

"It has always felt like Mom was rooting for me to fail."

Some specific trigger memories substantiating this belief came up, and we tapped them down to 0, one by one.

He then tapped a round that alternated the negative phrase and a positive choice phrase at each point:

"It felt like Mom was rooting for me to fail."

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Alternated with:

"I choose to feel and live as though Mom is my biggest fan, and that she loves me unconditionally."

Some additional aspects came up reflecting David’s disbelief that this would work, and we routed his belief back to the truth:

Unconditional love is the Source and base of everything.

We finished with an all-positive tapping round:

"I choose to feel and live as though Mom is my biggest fan, and that she loves me unconditionally."

By then, David was feeling much more hopeful, and much more empowered.

"You mean, I really have a choice in all this?!"

"Absolutely!" was my heartfelt reply, having seen the power of the mind transform many lives. "Now," I said, "Let's move on to your

dad.”

Based on David’s recollections and perceptions of his experience with his father, we put together the following tapping sequence

(after addressing specific memories around the belief).

Choice Setup Statement, 3 times:

"Even though it feels like Dad thinks I'm a bother, and that I'm in the way, I choose to feel and live as though Dad thinks I am

awesome, and that he loves me unconditionally."

(Note: While some might see the term "awesome" as a slang term, this is the way my client always dreamed of being seen by his

father, so it was important to include words that resonated with him.)

One round, negative Reminder Phrase:

"It feels like Dad thinks I'm a bother, and that I'm in the way." (Tapping on aspects and specific incidents as needed.)

Another round, alternating:

"It feels like Dad thinks I'm a bother, and that I'm in the way."

And:

"I choose to feel and live as though Dad thinks I am awesome, and that he loves me unconditionally."

And one all-positive round:

"I choose to feel and live as though Dad thinks I am awesome, and that he loves me unconditionally."

And then one final positive round, alternating both parents' positive statements:

"I choose to feel and live as though Dad thinks I am awesome, and that he loves me unconditionally."

And

"I choose to feel and live as though Mom is my biggest fan, and that she loves me unconditionally."

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The New Normal: Integrating Change at the Cellular Level

By now David was absolutely beaming. He had never felt this empowered. Other emotions and memories came up, memories

that supported his old perception and beliefs that his mom was rooting against him, and that his dad felt he was in the way.

We tapped each memory and aspect down to 0, one by one.

His system was fighting the change because he had believed otherwise for so long; but little by little, the preferred reality, the one

in which he felt unconditional love from his parents, seemed more plausible. At a certain point, it became more about changing the

habitual thoughts and feelings in his body.

We did so with the Setup Statement:

“Even though my body, cells, and neurons were used to feeling anxiety about Mom and Dad not loving me, I’m choosing to

feel calm, peaceful, and fully tuned in to unconditional love in my body, mind, heart, and spirit.”

As homework, David tapped through the Choices routine for both parents daily.

A couple of weeks later, he had this to report:

"I got an e-mail the other day from my dad, and as I was reading it, I noticed that my self-talk was, 'This is from a guy who thinks

I'm awesome. How great to hear from him!' My whole attitude toward my dad has shifted. My attitude toward myself and my life

has changed. And I swear, it feels like my mom IS more supportive, and that my dad really DOES think I'm awesome!"

Often, we get what we are looking for in life, good or bad. It’s as though once we create an expectation within ourselves for an

experience, we immediately start to find evidence of it. We’ve tuned our receiver to perceive and take in all that supports our

dominant beliefs, filtering out the rest.

David had previously suffered from a chronic anxiety disorder for many years, causing near continual anxiety ranging from a 6 to a

10 on the SUD scale at any given point in his day.

He now reports that he has been nearly free of anxiety since starting Choices tapping for unconditional love. He is reprogramming

his unconscious mind, his living history, with the reality he prefers, the reality he chooses.

We all have the power to do this.

The thing to remember is that unconditional love is everywhere—we can’t escape it. It is, in fact, the very fabric of who and what

we are.

Often, it’s just a matter of remembering this and reconnecting with the energy, which is the Source and base of everything—the

Unified Field.

It is my sincere belief that a reconnection to the powerful energy of unconditional love within us can heal or correct most anything.

One last comment:

The traditional Setup Statement in EFT is:

"Even though I have [this problem] . . .

I DEEPLY AND COMPLETELY LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF."

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Indeed, the traditional statement has unconditional love built right into it! I would advise everyone who practices EFT to really say

this part of the statement with deep feeling, with the intention of fully tuning in to this amazing energy of unconditional love.

Unconditional love is our birthright; it is where we have come from, and where we will return—and, ultimately, it is who we are.

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