Itse gore nnya go tsaya maikarabelo a botshelo jwa gago

ADV KUNI DITIRAADV KUNI DITIRA

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Melelwane

Re na le bothata ba go re nnya re sa utlwise ba Re na le bothata ba go re nnya re sa utlwise ba bangwe botlhokobangwe botlhoko

Jaaka dintlo re tshwanetse ra nna le melelwane Jaaka dintlo re tshwanetse ra nna le melelwane Prov 25:27Prov 25:27

Ka maikaelelo a go dira se siameng kgotsa go Ka maikaelelo a go dira se siameng kgotsa go iphapanya le dikgotlang, re tsaya mathata a e iphapanya le dikgotlang, re tsaya mathata a e seng a ronaseng a rona

Sekai go lwala ga mme, mohiri o senang Sekai go lwala ga mme, mohiri o senang maikarabelo, mathata a sa feleng a tsala, maikarabelo, mathata a sa feleng a tsala, mogatsake o sa goleng mogatsake o sa goleng

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Magora le molelwane go shupa gore ke Magora le molelwane go shupa gore ke simolola fa ke feletsa fa simolola fa ke feletsa fa

Galatians 6:5 o mongwe le o mongwe o Galatians 6:5 o mongwe le o mongwe o tshwanetse go rwala mokgeleo wa gagwetshwanetse go rwala mokgeleo wa gagwe

Re tshwanetse ra tsaya maikarabelo a karolo Re tshwanetse ra tsaya maikarabelo a karolo tse di rileng tsa matshelo a ronatse di rileng tsa matshelo a rona

Melelwane e re thusa go boloka tse Melelwane e re thusa go boloka tse disiameng mo gare disiameng mo gare

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Melelwane

BOUNDARIES

Melelwane e boloka diperela mo gare le dikolobe Melelwane e boloka diperela mo gare le dikolobe kwa ntle 7:6kwa ntle 7:6

NNYA e lemosa ba bangwe gore o motho ka bo NNYA e lemosa ba bangwe gore o motho ka bo wena - you exist apart from themwena - you exist apart from them

A eya ya gago e be eya – le nnya e nne nnya Matt A eya ya gago e be eya – le nnya e nne nnya Matt 5:37 and James 5:125:37 and James 5:12

Se ka fana o belaela – cheerful giver 2 Corinthians Se ka fana o belaela – cheerful giver 2 Corinthians 9:7 9:7

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Ikitse gore o mang, o rata eng, ga o rate engIkitse gore o mang, o rata eng, ga o rate eng Nako dingwe o tshwanetse wa tloga mo o leng gone fa Nako dingwe o tshwanetse wa tloga mo o leng gone fa

motho a go utlwisa botlhokomotho a go utlwisa botlhoko Take time out to reflect and regroupTake time out to reflect and regroup Rona re tshaba go nna re le esi, re tshaba bodutu, mme se Rona re tshaba go nna re le esi, re tshaba bodutu, mme se

se dira re mamelange le tse dibotlhokose dira re mamelange le tse dibotlhoko Ditlamorago tsa go tlola molelwane – NO trespassing – Ditlamorago tsa go tlola molelwane – NO trespassing –

Tresspassers will be prosecutedTresspassers will be prosecuted

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Melelwane

Tsaya maikarabelo a ditiro tsa gago Tsaya maikarabelo a ditiro tsa gago O kotula se o se jetsengO kotula se o se jetseng Re na le boikgetheloRe na le boikgethelo Kgaitsadi ya morwa o letlhaswa o Kgaitsadi ya morwa o letlhaswa o

ikgethetse go sala mo gae fela a fufegela o ikgethetse go sala mo gae fela a fufegela o mongwe fa a amogelwamongwe fa a amogelwa

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Melelwane

Ithute gore nnya

Ruta bana gore:Ruta bana gore: Ga ke dumelane le wenaGa ke dumelane le wena Ga ke na go kgonaGa ke na go kgona Se se utlwisa botlhokoSe se utlwisa botlhoko Stop - emisaStop - emisa Se o ga se a siamaSe o ga se a siama Se o ke phoshoSe o ke phosho

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Go tshaba gore nnya

Re tshaba gore nnya gonne re tshaba:Re tshaba gore nnya gonne re tshaba: Go utlwisa ba bangwe botlhokoGo utlwisa ba bangwe botlhoko Kgaogano le go siiwaKgaogano le go siiwa Go o tlhaiwa ka ditsela tse dintsiGo o tlhaiwa ka ditsela tse dintsi Go swabaGo swaba Gore go bonwa re ikgantsha kgotsa re le selfishGore go bonwa re ikgantsha kgotsa re le selfish Matswalo a rona a over-critical and sensitiveMatswalo a rona a over-critical and sensitive

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Bothata ba go tlhoka melelwane

Fela go bangwe ba ba re nnya le fa o re wa ba Fela go bangwe ba ba re nnya le fa o re wa ba thusathusa

Ga ba rate go kopa thusoGa ba rate go kopa thuso Go batho ba sa reetseng Nnya ya gagoGo batho ba sa reetseng Nnya ya gago They are bullies, manipulative or aggressiveThey are bullies, manipulative or aggressive Bangwe ba tshameka ka maikutlo a gagoBangwe ba tshameka ka maikutlo a gago Ba dira o ikutlwe e kare o phoshoBa dira o ikutlwe e kare o phosho

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Bothata ba go tlhoka melelwane

Ba bangwe ga ba re fe nako ya go fola – ba re Ba bangwe ga ba re fe nako ya go fola – ba re utlwisa botlhoko motho a ba lebelela o lebaleutlwisa botlhoko motho a ba lebelela o lebale

Ba bangwe re dira bojotlhe go se ba kgopise – we Ba bangwe re dira bojotlhe go se ba kgopise – we walk on eggshells walk on eggshells

Bangwe ga ba rate go tsaya maikarabelo a ditiro Bangwe ga ba rate go tsaya maikarabelo a ditiro tsa bone. Ba rata batho ba ba tsayang maikarabelo tsa bone. Ba rata batho ba ba tsayang maikarabelo a mantsi mo dikamanong – those who shoulder all a mantsi mo dikamanong – those who shoulder all the responsibilities in a relationshipthe responsibilities in a relationship

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Go aga melelwane

Go na le batho ba ba sa goleng – e dula e le Go na le batho ba ba sa goleng – e dula e le bana bana

Proverbs 7:7Proverbs 7:7 Rona jaaka batsadi ga re rate go amogela Rona jaaka batsadi ga re rate go amogela

nnya go tswa mo ngwaneng:nnya go tswa mo ngwaneng: Fa o gana ke tla go ….Fa o gana ke tla go …. O tla dira jaaka ke rata kgotsa…O tla dira jaaka ke rata kgotsa…

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Go aga melelwane My-way-or-else e ruta bana go dira fela go My-way-or-else e ruta bana go dira fela go

go kgatlisa - go kgatlisa - pretendingpretending Go re o na le boikgethelo e ruta bana go Go re o na le boikgethelo e ruta bana go

tsaya maikarabelo a ditiro tsa bonetsaya maikarabelo a ditiro tsa bone Rona re tshaba gore ba dire diphoshoRona re tshaba gore ba dire diphosho Ga re rate ba tshameka le bana ba bangwe - Ga re rate ba tshameka le bana ba bangwe -

ba tla ba utlwisiwa botlhoko, ba tla ithuta ba tla ba utlwisiwa botlhoko, ba tla ithuta mekgwa e sa siamang; ba tla ja mobu!!!mekgwa e sa siamang; ba tla ja mobu!!!

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Go aga melelwane

Re dira gore bana ba se ke ba gola, ba ithuta go Re dira gore bana ba se ke ba gola, ba ithuta go tsaya maikarabelo, re re ra ba ratatsaya maikarabelo, re re ra ba rata

Fa ngwana a lla a itabanya re a tshoga re mo fa se Fa ngwana a lla a itabanya re a tshoga re mo fa se a se batlanga se batlang

Fa e le bagodi ba tswelela jalo le Fa e le bagodi ba tswelela jalo le ditantrumsditantrums Se sengwe ke go gagamatsa nako enngwe o Se sengwe ke go gagamatsa nako enngwe o

tlogelela felatlogelela fela Re ba tlhakanya ditlhogo - Re ba tlhakanya ditlhogo - confusedconfused

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O kotula se o se jetseng

O tla kotula se o se jetsengO tla kotula se o se jetseng O tla ja mofufutso wa phatlha ya gagoO tla ja mofufutso wa phatlha ya gago Re thusa fo duela motlakase, re duela Re thusa fo duela motlakase, re duela

melato ya bonemelato ya bone Ba ba senyanga ka madi re dula re ba rata re Ba ba senyanga ka madi re dula re ba rata re

ba ntsha no melatongba ntsha no melatong Ga ba utlwe ka letlaloGa ba utlwe ka letlalo

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Ithute maikarabelo

Ke a go rata fela ke nna ga ke wenaKe a go rata fela ke nna ga ke wena Nka se golele Nka se golele Nka se tseye botlhoko jo o tshwanetseng go Nka se tseye botlhoko jo o tshwanetseng go

bo utlwabo utlwa O na le maikarabelo a gago, ke na le O na le maikarabelo a gago, ke na le

maikarabelo a memaikarabelo a me

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Tlhompha melelwane

Re tshwanetse ra tlhompha melelwane ya Re tshwanetse ra tlhompha melelwane ya batho ba bangwebatho ba bangwe

Go tla go utlwisa botlhoko fa motho a gana Go tla go utlwisa botlhoko fa motho a gana go go thusa fela o na le tshwanelo ya go ganago go thusa fela o na le tshwanelo ya go gana

A re letlelele batho ba dire kgetho ya boneA re letlelele batho ba dire kgetho ya bone Se lebelele batho go dira se wena o neng o Se lebelele batho go dira se wena o neng o

tla se dira tla se dira

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Rotloetsa Re rata thata – Re rata thata – wewe lovelove tootoo muchmuch Re direla batho go feta mo re kgonang mme Re direla batho go feta mo re kgonang mme

re be re sa itumela fa moragore be re sa itumela fa morago Go itima go go sa tlhotlhediwang ke le rata Go itima go go sa tlhotlhediwang ke le rata

go tlisiwa ke go tshaba gore: go tlisiwa ke go tshaba gore: motho o tla kgenamotho o tla kgena Re tla latlhegelwa ke leratoRe tla latlhegelwa ke lerato

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Tlhotlhelediwa

Re tshaba:Re tshaba: bodutubodutu Go utlwa botlhoko fa re sa thuseGo utlwa botlhoko fa re sa thuse Go sa ikutlwe monate gore nnyaGo sa ikutlwe monate gore nnya PaybackPayback – re ikutlwa e ka re re kolota batsadi – re ikutlwa e ka re re kolota batsadi Kamogele – re lateletse kamogeloKamogele – re lateletse kamogelo Re ikamanya thata le o latlhegetswengRe ikamanya thata le o latlhegetsweng

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Go tlhopa

NotNot differentiatingdifferentiating betweenbetween harmharm andand hurthurt Re tshaba gore nnya go nne ba bangwe ba tla Re tshaba gore nnya go nne ba bangwe ba tla

tenega kgotsa ba utlwa botlhokotenega kgotsa ba utlwa botlhoko Re tshwanetse ra bua nnete - Ephesians 4:25Re tshwanetse ra bua nnete - Ephesians 4:25 Re tlhoka gore ba bangwe ba re bolele nnete Re tlhoka gore ba bangwe ba re bolele nnete

le fa e utlwisa botlhoko – se se tla dira re le fa e utlwisa botlhoko – se se tla dira re gole – re baakanye diphosho tsa ronagole – re baakanye diphosho tsa rona

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Tsaya kgato ya pele

Ga re matlhatsipa – Ga re matlhatsipa – victimsvictims - - agag shameshame Re tshwanetse nako nngwe ra thubega – ra Re tshwanetse nako nngwe ra thubega – ra

phatloga fela - ra tshwara tau ka manganaphatloga fela - ra tshwara tau ka mangana Ra tlogela go nna re amogela tse di sa Ra tlogela go nna re amogela tse di sa

siamang – go amogela tshotlakakosiamang – go amogela tshotlakako Re ithute go bua – go lemosa motho fa re sa Re ithute go bua – go lemosa motho fa re sa

itumelaitumela

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Go eletsa sa o mongweGo eletsa sa o mongwe Eva le Adam ba ne ba eletsa go nna jaaka Eva le Adam ba ne ba eletsa go nna jaaka

Modimo – kitso ya molemo le bosulaModimo – kitso ya molemo le bosula Ba bangwe ba lebelela diphitlhelo tsa gago Ba bangwe ba lebelela diphitlhelo tsa gago

mo fatshe – ba dinyenyefatsa ka ba fufegamo fatshe – ba dinyenyefatsa ka ba fufega Go gala go dira re se kgotsofale Go gala go dira re se kgotsofale Re fufegela ba bangweRe fufegela ba bangwe

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Go eletsa sa o mongwe

Melelwane le ba losika

Mogatso ke wa pele mo botshelong jwa gago Mogatso ke wa pele mo botshelong jwa gago Gen 2:24 le Matt 19:5Gen 2:24 le Matt 19:5 Banyalani ba tshwanetse ba tlogela batsadi ba Banyalani ba tshwanetse ba tlogela batsadi ba

bone bone Rona re lelela Rona re lelela disalarydisalary tsa barwa ba rona tsa barwa ba rona Re lwantsha dingwetsiRe lwantsha dingwetsi

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Melelwane le ba losika

Fa go le kgotlang batla motswedi wa kgotlang eo -Fa go le kgotlang batla motswedi wa kgotlang eo - A o bolela o mongwe o ko thoko -triangulationA o bolela o mongwe o ko thoko -triangulation A o tsaya maikarabelo a bokgaitsedi ba gagoA o tsaya maikarabelo a bokgaitsedi ba gago A o tlholega gore ba tseye maikarabeloA o tlholega gore ba tseye maikarabelo

A o dira se go nne o tlhoka go ratwa, go amogelwaA o dira se go nne o tlhoka go ratwa, go amogelwa Ithute gore nnya mo go tse di sa siamangIthute gore nnya mo go tse di sa siamang

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Melelwane le ba losika

Nna le boitshwareloNna le boitshwarelo Batho ba re utlwisa botlhoko – go tshwarela Batho ba re utlwisa botlhoko – go tshwarela

go bolela gore o phimola sekoloto sa motho go bolela gore o phimola sekoloto sa motho – wa mo itshwarela gotlhe-gotlhe– wa mo itshwarela gotlhe-gotlhe

Fa o sa itshwarele go bolela go na le se o sa Fa o sa itshwarele go bolela go na le se o sa ntse o se lelela mo mothong oo – ntse o se lelela mo mothong oo – motlhomong o ntse o batla lerato?motlhomong o ntse o batla lerato?

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BOUNDARIES WITH FAMILY

Gongwe o lelela gore ba go a mogele, ba go Gongwe o lelela gore ba go a mogele, ba go rate, ba go tseye tsiyarate, ba go tseye tsiya

Motlhomongwe o nagana fa nka leka ka Motlhomongwe o nagana fa nka leka ka thata o tla nthata.thata o tla nthata.

Batho ba bangwe ba itsi gore ba reng go go Batho ba bangwe ba itsi gore ba reng go go utlwisa botlhoko – which buttons to pressutlwisa botlhoko – which buttons to press

Balosika gantsi ba re utlwisa botlhoko ka Balosika gantsi ba re utlwisa botlhoko ka dipuo tsa bonedipuo tsa bone

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Go gontle ebile go a itumedisa go itima go Go gontle ebile go a itumedisa go itima go thusa ba bangwe feela e tshwanetse e nne thusa ba bangwe feela e tshwanetse e nne kgetho ya gago e seng pateletsokgetho ya gago e seng pateletso

Kgalemela bana se ka ba otlhayaKgalemela bana se ka ba otlhaya Ruta bana go tsaya maikarabeloRuta bana go tsaya maikarabelo Ba rute go bua ka maikutlo a boneBa rute go bua ka maikutlo a bone

Melelwane le ba losika

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Ruta bana gore tse dingwe ba tshwanetse go Ruta bana gore tse dingwe ba tshwanetse go di leteladi letela

Bana ba rona ga ba dire tiro ya bone ya Bana ba rona ga ba dire tiro ya bone ya sekolo ka nako mme ke rona re feleltsang re sekolo ka nako mme ke rona re feleltsang re taboga go e dirataboga go e dira

Life orientation project for winter holidaysLife orientation project for winter holidays

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BOUNDARIES WITH CHILDREN

Le ojwa le sale metsiLe ojwa le sale metsi Ngwana a sa le monnye o tshwanetse go itsi Ngwana a sa le monnye o tshwanetse go itsi

nnyannya Ngwana o itseng gore o tshwanetse go ema Ngwana o itseng gore o tshwanetse go ema

pele a tla bona sengwe o ithuta gore pele o pele a tla bona sengwe o ithuta gore pele o bona sengwe o tshwanetse wa se rerabona sengwe o tshwanetse wa se rera

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Melelwane le bana

Nnya mo botshelong e simolola ka:Nnya mo botshelong e simolola ka: Nnya ya batswadiNnya ya batswadi Nnya ya bomorarrago/kgaitsediNnya ya bomorarrago/kgaitsedi Nnya ya ba rutabanaNnya ya ba rutabana Nnya ya ditsalaNnya ya ditsala Nnya ya bahiri - Nnya ya bahiri - employersemployers

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Melelwane le bana

Go tswela ga nnya mo botshelong:Go tswela ga nnya mo botshelong: Mathata a boitekanelo – go ja thata, go nwa Mathata a boitekanelo – go ja thata, go nwa

bojalwa kgotsa botshelo jo bo se nang bojalwa kgotsa botshelo jo bo se nang maikarabelomaikarabelo

Nnya ya molao – mapodisa, lekgotla le kgolegoNnya ya molao – mapodisa, lekgotla le kgolego Fa o sa rute bana melelwane ba feletsa ba ipona Fa o sa rute bana melelwane ba feletsa ba ipona

ba rata go laola ba bangwe controllingba rata go laola ba bangwe controlling

ChildhoodChildhood determinesdetermines adulthood – adulthood – ntsantsa e e bonwabonwa marothorothongmarothorothong

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Melelwane le bana

Go ditsala tse dinngwe tse di ratang go laolaGo ditsala tse dinngwe tse di ratang go laola Ditsala tse di a go gatela – o utlwa ka tsonaDitsala tse di a go gatela – o utlwa ka tsona Fa o dumela se, go bolela gore go tswa ko gae o Fa o dumela se, go bolela gore go tswa ko gae o

ne o rutilwe go ikgatola kgotlangne o rutilwe go ikgatola kgotlang Fa o ikutlwa o sa itumela ka se tsala e se dirang Fa o ikutlwa o sa itumela ka se tsala e se dirang

itse gore phosho e goneitse gore phosho e gone Se dumele motho go tshamekela mo godimo ga Se dumele motho go tshamekela mo godimo ga

tlhogo ya gagotlhogo ya gago

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Melelwane le ditsala

Banyalani ba ba ngwe ba rata fa ba itumetse re Banyalani ba ba ngwe ba rata fa ba itumetse re itumele, fa ba tlhoname re tlhoname, fa ba sa rate itumele, fa ba tlhoname re tlhoname, fa ba sa rate go bua ke tidimalo mo kgotlago bua ke tidimalo mo kgotla

Nako tsotlhe wena o dira se se ratwang ke eneNako tsotlhe wena o dira se se ratwang ke ene Le wena o motho o na le dikgatlego di seleLe wena o motho o na le dikgatlego di sele Ga se nako le nako mo le tla bonelang gongweGa se nako le nako mo le tla bonelang gongwe

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Melelwane mo banyalaning

Fa rre/mme a ile a fapoga, a nna le nyatsi, Fa rre/mme a ile a fapoga, a nna le nyatsi, nako ngwe o tlhoka nako ya go fola nako ngwe o tlhoka nako ya go fola

Go thata go boela gape o tshepaGo thata go boela gape o tshepa Fela lemoga mongwe le mongwe o tlhoka Fela lemoga mongwe le mongwe o tlhoka

nako ya go nna le batho ba bangwe jaaka nako ya go nna le batho ba bangwe jaaka ditsala – ditsala – boysboys timetime – – girlsgirls timetime

Proverb 31 mosadi wa makgontheProverb 31 mosadi wa makgonthe

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Melelwane mo lenyalong

Mogatso o senang maikarabelo o tshwanetse a Mogatso o senang maikarabelo o tshwanetse a utlwa botlhoko ba ditlamorago ba ditiro tsa gagweutlwa botlhoko ba ditlamorago ba ditiro tsa gagwe

Rre/mme wa go omanya, wa go kgatlapetsa wena Rre/mme wa go omanya, wa go kgatlapetsa wena o dula o morata le go fetisisao dula o morata le go fetisisa

Rre o nwa madi otlhe le ditsala o dula wena o mo Rre o nwa madi otlhe le ditsala o dula wena o mo tsholelatsholela

Mme o senya madi o dula a reka a sa tswa go reka Mme o senya madi o dula a reka a sa tswa go reka – wena o dula o mo fa madi – wena o dula o mo fa madi

Mo bolele gore fa o ka dira gape ke tla … Mo bolele gore fa o ka dira gape ke tla … 34

Melelwane mo lenyalong

Ko tirong o dira le tiro e seng ya gagoKo tirong o dira le tiro e seng ya gago O jara maikarabelo a tiro eseng a gagoO jara maikarabelo a tiro eseng a gago O dira O dira overtimeovertime thata thata Ga o kgone go itse se se botlhoka le sa pele Ga o kgone go itse se se botlhoka le sa pele

ke se fengke se feng Badirimmogo ke batho ba go leng thata go Badirimmogo ke batho ba go leng thata go

dira le bonedira le bone

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Melelwane ko tirong

Nako e ngwe re lebeletse gore tiro e nne ko gae Nako e ngwe re lebeletse gore tiro e nne ko gae mo re tla bonanag tse dilatelang:mo re tla bonanag tse dilatelang: Tshegetso ya se mowa -Emotional supportTshegetso ya se mowa -Emotional support Go amogelwaGo amogelwa Go ratiwa - leratoGo ratiwa - lerato Go tlhomphiwaGo tlhomphiwa Go tlotlomatsiwaGo tlotlomatsiwa

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Melelwane le badiri-mmogo

Re tsaya mathata a kwa tirong re a isa gaeRe tsaya mathata a kwa tirong re a isa gae Ga re kgone go tlogela tsa kwa tirong kwa Ga re kgone go tlogela tsa kwa tirong kwa

tirongtirong Gongwe ga re rate tiro e re e dirangGongwe ga re rate tiro e re e dirang

Ke titjhere kgotsa ngaka go kgotsofatsa Ke titjhere kgotsa ngaka go kgotsofatsa batsadibatsadi

Nna wena – be your true selfNna wena – be your true self

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Melelwane ko tirong

Batho ba tswa mo ba tsena mo tirong e nngwe – gBatho ba tswa mo ba tsena mo tirong e nngwe – g Ba lebala gore Modimo o ba file dineo Exodus Ba lebala gore Modimo o ba file dineo Exodus

36:1-2- Modimo o re file kitso e re ka e dirisang 36:1-2- Modimo o re file kitso e re ka e dirisang mo tirong ya ronamo tirong ya rona

Batla tiro e Modimo a go fileng yone:Batla tiro e Modimo a go fileng yone: Dirisa talente ya gago – kgalalelong ya gagweDirisa talente ya gago – kgalalelong ya gagwe

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Melelwane le tiro

Psalms 75: 6-7 Go tsholetsiwa (promotion) Psalms 75: 6-7 Go tsholetsiwa (promotion) mo tirong go tswa ko Modimomo tirong go tswa ko Modimo

Re direla Modimo e seng batho– Colossians Re direla Modimo e seng batho– Colossians 3:23 -243:23 -24

Fa o bone tiro dira ka bojotlhe jwa gago Fa o bone tiro dira ka bojotlhe jwa gago Ecclesiastes 9:10Ecclesiastes 9:10

Se dire fela go tsamaisa nakoSe dire fela go tsamaisa nako

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Melelwane le tiro

O tshwanetse wa nna le melelwane le wenaO tshwanetse wa nna le melelwane le wena Go ja go tlola tekanyoGo ja go tlola tekanyo Go dirisa madi go feta ka mo o Go dirisa madi go feta ka mo o

tshwanetsengtshwanetseng Go reka o sa rulaganyaGo reka o sa rulaganya Go dirisa madi botlhaswaGo dirisa madi botlhaswa Go tshela go feta bokgoni ba gago Go tshela go feta bokgoni ba gago

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Melelwane le wena!

Go dula o le thari Go dula o le thari Go se iphe nako e lekaneng go dira sengwe Go se iphe nako e lekaneng go dira sengwe Batho ba dulang ba le thari ba re senyetsa nako ya Batho ba dulang ba le thari ba re senyetsa nako ya

rona rona Go tlisiwa ke eng:Go tlisiwa ke eng:

Go nagana gore nka dira tsotlheGo nagana gore nka dira tsotlhe Go sa rulaganyeGo sa rulaganye Go ipolela gore ba nkitse ke be ke ntse ke le thariGo ipolela gore ba nkitse ke be ke ntse ke le thari

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Melelwane le wena

LelemeLeleme Le tshwana le mollo (James 3:9-10)Le tshwana le mollo (James 3:9-10) Tlhopha mantswe a gago (Proverbs 10:19)Tlhopha mantswe a gago (Proverbs 10:19) Re tla arabela ka tse di maswe tse re di Re tla arabela ka tse di maswe tse re di

boletseng (Matt12:36)boletseng (Matt12:36) Mantswe a ka aga a ka thubaMantswe a ka aga a ka thuba Leleme le siame fa le agaLeleme le siame fa le aga

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Melelwane le wena

Thobalano – go tlhoka go ikgalemelaThobalano – go tlhoka go ikgalemela Go sa kgone gore NNYA go keletso ya boaka Go sa kgone gore NNYA go keletso ya boaka Bojalwa le diritifatsiBojalwa le diritifatsi Gantsi re gogelwa mo dikamanong tse di sa Gantsi re gogelwa mo dikamanong tse di sa

siamangsiamang Fa o na le bothata ba tse rapela Modimo o go Fa o na le bothata ba tse rapela Modimo o go

thuse gonne gantsi go thata go ditlogela ntle le thuse gonne gantsi go thata go ditlogela ntle le tshegetsotshegetso

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Melelwane le wena

Leka go sheba gore motlhodi wa mathata a Leka go sheba gore motlhodi wa mathata a go dirisa bojalwa, diretebatsi ke a feng?go dirisa bojalwa, diretebatsi ke a feng? E ka nna go sa ithuta gore NNYAE ka nna go sa ithuta gore NNYA Go sa ithuta go itimaGo sa ithuta go itima Go sa tlhaloganye dikeletso tsa gagoGo sa tlhaloganye dikeletso tsa gago Ga o tlhoke go itshilafatsa ka thobalano – Ga o tlhoke go itshilafatsa ka thobalano –

thobalano e mo lenyalong e ntlethobalano e mo lenyalong e ntle

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Melelwane le wena

Gongwe o tshaba go nna le dikamano Gongwe o tshaba go nna le dikamano gonne o ile wa utlwisiwa botlhokogonne o ile wa utlwisiwa botlhoko

O lwantshwa batsadi ba gago – we are O lwantshwa batsadi ba gago – we are rebelling rebelling

O fitlha kutlobotlhokoO fitlha kutlobotlhoko Re leka phethelela go kgotsofatsa – Re leka phethelela go kgotsofatsa –

overcompensating overcompensating

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Melelwane le wena

Itataise go baya melelaneItataise go baya melelane Fa e le gore o tlhoka lerato, kamogelo jalojalo Fa e le gore o tlhoka lerato, kamogelo jalojalo

simolola go itse seosimolola go itse seo Amogela go se kgone – you not perfectAmogela go se kgone – you not perfect Reetsa dikgakololo tsa ba bangweReetsa dikgakololo tsa ba bangwe Amogela ditlamorago gore di go ruta sengweAmogela ditlamorago gore di go ruta sengwe Potapotiwa ke batho ba ba lerato le tshegetsoPotapotiwa ke batho ba ba lerato le tshegetso

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Melelwane le wena

Batho ba tla tenega fa o re NNYABatho ba tla tenega fa o re NNYA Ba nagana go re o tlamegile – go ba thusa Ba nagana go re o tlamegile – go ba thusa Motho o go tenegelang fa o re NNYA ke e Motho o go tenegelang fa o re NNYA ke e

ne a nang le bothata e seng wenane a nang le bothata e seng wena Mo tlogele a tenege - o tla siamaMo tlogele a tenege - o tla siama Se mo letlelele gore a go kginise ka gonne a Se mo letlelele gore a go kginise ka gonne a

tenegiletenegile

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Go gana melelwane

Batho ba tlo go dira o ikutlwe o le molatoBatho ba tlo go dira o ikutlwe o le molato A o ka dira nna jalo morago ga tse dintsi tse ke A o ka dira nna jalo morago ga tse dintsi tse ke

go thusitseng ka tsona? go thusitseng ka tsona? Gore eng o sa naganele motho o mongwe ga Gore eng o sa naganele motho o mongwe ga

nngwe fela mo botshelong jwa gago?nngwe fela mo botshelong jwa gago? A wa itse gore re itimile go le go kae gore wena A wa itse gore re itimile go le go kae gore wena

o tswelele?o tswelele? Fa go tliwa mo nneteng ga ka go kopa gore o Fa go tliwa mo nneteng ga ka go kopa gore o

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Go gana melelwane

O ikutlwa o le molato fa:O ikutlwa o le molato fa: o re NNYAo re NNYA O sa letlelele mongwe go tshamekela mo go O sa letlelele mongwe go tshamekela mo go

wenawena O kgaogana le balegae mme o simolola O kgaogana le balegae mme o simolola

botshelo ba gagobotshelo ba gago O sa thuse batho ba ba senang maikarabelo O sa thuse batho ba ba senang maikarabelo

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Go gana melelwane

Fa o re NNYA ba dirisa Beibele:Fa o re NNYA ba dirisa Beibele: Fela o ipitsa Mokreste? Fela o ipitsa Mokreste? Beibele e re o tlhomphe batsadi ba gago?Beibele e re o tlhomphe batsadi ba gago? Beibele e re o ingotle – Beibele e re o ingotle – bebe submissivesubmissive!! O na le bothata ba semowa fa o itshwere jalo!O na le bothata ba semowa fa o itshwere jalo!

O na le tshanelo ya go dirisa madi a gago jaaka o O na le tshanelo ya go dirisa madi a gago jaaka o rata – kgotsa botshelo jwa gagorata – kgotsa botshelo jwa gago

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Go gana melelwane

Beibele e re re fane (Beibele e re re fane (givegive) ) Fela e seng re fane ka sengwe le sengwe se Fela e seng re fane ka sengwe le sengwe se

motho o mong a se kopang – re fane re motho o mong a se kopang – re fane re itumetseitumetse

Ba bangwe ba tla go dirisa gonne ba na le Ba bangwe ba tla go dirisa gonne ba na le madi go go feta mme ba itse gore wa tlhoka madi go go feta mme ba itse gore wa tlhoka – e.g. prostitution, crime, – e.g. prostitution, crime,

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GO gana melelwane

TlhekefetsoTlhekefetso Fa e le gone batla thushoFa e le gone batla thusho Bolelela motho o tla tlhaloganyangBolelela motho o tla tlhaloganyang Nako dingwe o tshaba go bua gonne o fa Nako dingwe o tshaba go bua gonne o fa

batho ba ka itse ba tla sheba mogatso ka batho ba ka itse ba tla sheba mogatso ka mokgwa o mongwe -spouse’s reputationmokgwa o mongwe -spouse’s reputation

Bothata ke gore o tla swa o didimetseBothata ke gore o tla swa o didimetse

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Go gana melelwane

Nako ngwe o tla tshwanela o gane go thusa Nako ngwe o tla tshwanela o gane go thusa motho o nang le ditlhoko (motho o nang le ditlhoko (peoplepeople withwith realreal needsneeds))

O tshwanetse wa thusa fela fa o kgonaO tshwanetse wa thusa fela fa o kgona Nako tsotlhe gopola - dira go fitlhela mo o Nako tsotlhe gopola - dira go fitlhela mo o

kgonang e seng go fetakgonang e seng go feta Le fa o ka rata ga o Modimo – o motho mme Le fa o ka rata ga o Modimo – o motho mme

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Go gana melelwane

Morago ga tshotle itshwarele ba ba molato le Morago ga tshotle itshwarele ba ba molato le wena -Forgiveness is not Reconciliationwena -Forgiveness is not Reconciliation

Fa o tshwarela motho ga a tlhoke le gore Fa o tshwarela motho ga a tlhoke le gore ntshwarele ntshwarele

Mo tshwarele mo pelong ya gagoMo tshwarele mo pelong ya gago Poelano – reconciliation – e tlhoka gore Poelano – reconciliation – e tlhoka gore

motho a amogele gore o phosho mme a boe motho a amogele gore o phosho mme a boe mo mekgweng/ditirong tsa gagwemo mekgweng/ditirong tsa gagwe

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Boitshwarelo

Lebelela tatlhegelo ya gago - grief and lossLebelela tatlhegelo ya gago - grief and loss Se dule o lelela motho o sa tlholeng a go rata – o Se dule o lelela motho o sa tlholeng a go rata – o

ka se dire motho a go rate fa a sa tlhole a rataka se dire motho a go rate fa a sa tlhole a rata Se nagane gore fa nka dira ka thata ba tla nthata, Se nagane gore fa nka dira ka thata ba tla nthata,

kgotsa ba nkamogela.kgotsa ba nkamogela. Gagolo batho ba ba go utlwisang botlhoko ke ba Gagolo batho ba ba go utlwisang botlhoko ke ba

ba gaufi le wena – ba losikaba gaufi le wena – ba losika

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Boitshwarelo

Pheletso

Go thata gore NnyaGo thata gore Nnya Go tlhoka go itataisaGo tlhoka go itataisa Re tshaba gore batho ba tla tenegaRe tshaba gore batho ba tla tenega Bala Beibele o rapele o kope matla ko Bala Beibele o rapele o kope matla ko

ModimongModimong Ithute gore nnya, simolola ka tse dinnyeIthute gore nnya, simolola ka tse dinnye Ke maikarabelo a gagoKe maikarabelo a gago

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Pheletso

O na le tetla ya go :O na le tetla ya go : Se fe lebka go re NNYASe fe lebka go re NNYA Tsaya tshwetso gore a o rata go thusa kgotsa Tsaya tshwetso gore a o rata go thusa kgotsa

nnya nnya Fetola monaganoFetola monagano Dira diphosho le go tsaya maikarabelo a Dira diphosho le go tsaya maikarabelo a

diphosho tseodiphosho tseo Re ga ke itseRe ga ke itse

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Pheletso

Mo bofelong gopola:Mo bofelong gopola: O ka gana thus0 – ga wa pateletswaO ka gana thus0 – ga wa pateletswa O ka nna seelele mo tshwetsong ya gagoO ka nna seelele mo tshwetsong ya gago O ka nna wa se tlhaloganyeO ka nna wa se tlhaloganye O ka nna wa re ga ke kgathale!O ka nna wa re ga ke kgathale!

NNYA! NO! NNYA! NO!!!!NNYA! NO! NNYA! NO!!!!

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Ke a leboga

Ke a lebogaKe a leboga Ke a leboyaKe a leboya EnkosiEnkosi NdiyabulelaNdiyabulela

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