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Intimacy and Mobile Devices
John Rooksby
Talk at Nottingham University 14/3/2014
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– Boyfriend retrieves girlfriends phone while Strictly Come Dancing is on
• Intimacy can be a whole host of things– Kissing, holding hands, being
close, looking into eyes…– Intimacy is category-bound
(mother-child, couples, … )– Intimacy is a moral issue
• There are (“thorny”) differences between talking about, and doing intimacy– Both are orderly and category
bound– But doing intimacy does not
involve the same forms of reasoning as talking about it
– Intimacy is ‘ascribable’ within courses of action
“These days, insecure about our
relationships and anxious about
intimacy, we look to technology for
ways to be in relationships and protect
ourselves from them at the same time.
… We fear the risks and
disappointments of relationships with
our fellow humans. We expect more
from technology and less from each
other.”
• Intimacy can be had with and
through technology, but is changing
• A bleaker view than other sociologists
(e.g. Giddens also sees a shift, but to
‘confluent love’)
“When it comes to a sense of intimacy…
young people make ready and skilled use of
modes of connection that are instantly
available but with the concomitant failure to
pursue riskier, yet potentially more meaningful
relationships with one another. Only those
young people able to resist the Narcissus trap
and the Circean lure of apps-of-the-moment
are likely to form a meaningful identity or to
forge intimate relationships with others.“
(Gardner and Davis)
• Intimacy with and among young people
• Intimacy as meaningful and valuable
• Recommend resistance to tech, and
appropriate styles of use
“Here you see a family, they may be sitting together in the living room, but, they’re all using their own devices”
Yvonne Rogers (TEDx Barcelona)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J92H-oFexYM
“And then in the most beautiful places like this Japanese garden, in spring, this couple should be looking fondly into each other’s eyes, being romantic, but no what they’re doing is they are totally immersed in their own mobile devices.”
Yvonne Rogers (TEDx, Barcelona)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J92H-oFexYM
Source: The Guardian (originally published 1928)
Source Unknown (widely shared on Twitter and other social media)
Simmel (1908) discussed how people in cities avoid eye contact and do things like read newspapers when they are close to others.
[Use of WhatsApp] is togetherness and intimacy enacted through small, continuous traces of narrative, of tellings and tidbits, noticings and thoughts, shared images and lingering pauses. This friendship has a history and an ongoing trajectory into the future. It has a rhythm whereby people are coming together and then parting knowing they will come back not to the same space but through the next act of communication, the next expression of ‘what’s happening’. Some of this is in and through WhatsApp, but more of it is through a sharing of lives, a being together.
O’Hara et al – Everyday Dwelling with WhatsApp (CSCW2014)
Intimacy in HCI
• There is a widely recognised relationship between overuse of digital devices and diminished intimacy– Recognised in and beyond academia– But often as a moral problem concerning other people
(teens, women, parents)
• Intimacy is largely ‘talked around’ in HCI (and related fields). – We consider intimacy-through-tech without considering
intimacy.
Intimacy as a Design Problem
• Rogers
– Shared devices, and/or interactions across people’s devices
• O’Hara et al (and many others)
– Technologies to help us maintain intimacy when away
• Gardner, Schofield, Turkle
– Appropriate styles of use
– Resistance
• Many beyond this
– E,g, Branham, “Design for couples”
• But - We are designing for intimacy without knowing what it is– What is the question?
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– Argument
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– Girlfriend looks at boyfriend and is given chocolate
The Examples Show…
• The use of mobile devices (in the videos) is enmeshed with TV watching, talking, eating, talking, and so on– It is not that devices are used instead of other activities,
but they are used in and with other actions.– The question might be: how as these activities
interwoven?
• Many examples of intimacy can be found – Looking into eyes, cuddling, talking– Devices can be a part of this: sharing, fixing, retrieving
• Intimacy is embedded in courses of action
So what is the Problem?
• Shared devices?– Devices are already shared– Sharing, retrieving and so on are incorporated into
intimate acts
• Practices to support outside the home?– Intimacy is not itself an action, but us in actions
• Styles of use– There already appear to be certain styles of patterns of
use: for example, a partner has the rights to look or get first look.
– Appropriate use is a topic of argument
Questions?
This work was done in collaboration with: Tim Smith, Alistair Morrison, Matthew Higgs, Mattias Rost & Matthew Chalmers.
References• Yvonne Rogers (2013) “Society Minds, Technology Doesn’t”, talk at TedX Barcelona: https
://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J92H-oFexYM
• Simmel, G. (1908) Sociology: Investigations on the Forms of Sociation. Berlin: Duncker & Humblot.
• O’hara, K., Massimi, M., Harper, R., Rubens, S., Morris, J. (2014) Everyday Dwelling with WhatsApp. Proc CSCW 2014, Feb 15-19, Baltimore, MD: 1131-1143.
• Turkle, S. (2011) Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other. Basic Books.
• Gardener, H., Davis, K. (2013) The App Generation. Yale University Press.
• Schofield Clark, L. (2013) The Parent App. Understanding Families in the Digital Age. Oxford University Press.
• Tolmie, P. (2010) Everyday Intimacy. Recognising Intimacy in Everyday Life. Lambert Academic Publishing.
• Branham, S., Harrison, S. (2013) Designing for Collocated Couples. In Neustaeder, C., Harrison, S., and Sellen, A. Connecting Families. The Impact of New Communication Technologies on Domestic Life. Springer. 15-36.
• Giddens, A. (1992) The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies. Polity Press.
• Kendon, A. (1990) Conducting Interaction. Patterns of Behaviour in Focused Encounters. Cambridge University Press.