deciding if you are going to fight him or leave the marriage?

Fight or Leave?

From Overcoming Emotional Abuse.comNeil Warner

Nora Femenia, Ph.D.

http://overcomingemotionalabuse.com/


Why Do People Stay?Many people feel they need to stay in a relationship, even if they know it is abusive, because:

●They have "nowhere to run"●They are holding onto the

hope that this is "the only way my husband knows how to love." ●They can't imagine that

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Benefits of LeavingWe recognize and respect these reasons.

But sometimes leaving is what you need to do in order to preserve your emotional health. Leaving can be a "forever decision" or can be a short break where you to recover some space and time to think.

Permanent or not, it will serve the purpose of sending a strong message that you will not tolerate the abuse.

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Do You Leave?●Do you doubt your memory or sense of reality

because of your partner's strong opinions?● Do you doubt your own judgment about what’s

best (or worse, ask him what's best for you)?● Do you feel that you can’t do anything or go

anywhere without his permission?● Do you feel depressed, dejected or like you have

no interest in being alive?● Does your partner hurt you physically?

Yes to a majority of them? You need to take a break!Join us at http://overcomingemotionalabuse.com/


Most Importantly...

Do you feel afraid of your partner?

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Don't Ignore the SignsAnswering yes to most of these, especially the last one, are signs that you should not be staying with your partner right now. Leaving your partner will give you the opportunity to discover who you are and what you want from life without the influence of your abuser.

You can reconnect with friends and family you have lost contact with, or reach out to a community of support that your abuser has been isolating you from, and these people will give you access to a different feedback about who you are, what can you do, and what's your own place in life.



Put Him on the SpotAs we said before, leaving sends your abuser the signal that you will not tolerate abuse; that something has to change. The responsibility then rests on your partner - will he change because being in a relationship with you is more important than feeling the power of controlling you?

Or will this be the final confirmation for you that he isn’t willing to change?

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Take Time to ThinkThis is a serious decision to make. You have been thinking, praying, dreaming of being somewhere safe and happy.

If you have children, you have also been wishing to be able to rescue them from this abuse. But they can give you a strong motivation to change. The responsibility (and power) to give them a safer home is totally yours.

Whatever it is, make a decision for the immediate future. If you put the decision off, you'll be allowing things to go ahead as they are.



Points to Remember1. When you realize the seriousness of the

situation, and its impact on you and your family, you are faced with a question: is it best to stay and try to moderate his abuse, or is best to leave?

2. Now you are responsible for this decision: if you want to be able to live in peace and appreciation, you need to consider leaving him. If you have refused to consider leaving because of lack of resources, then think of the price you are paying for staying without challenging the abusive situation. So, if you stay, challenge him!


Always remember what’s what you want:

How to contact us:Conflict Coach Dr Nora Femenia:

Creative Conflict Resolutions, Inc.

http://conflictcoach.me/services/getstartednow/

(1)954 607 2186

[email protected]

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