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December 2015 Amazing Women
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Letter from the Publisher
The holidays are upon us... and we all know what that means, the new year is right around the corner. Are you a person who makes New Year’s resolutions or sets goals for the New Year? If yes, that’s a good thing as studies have found that those who plan and set specific steps have a better chance of meeting their goals. I like to say “How you end one year is how you start the next.” It’s my way of acknowledging that we need to take action NOW if we want the New Year to be different, more productive, more suc-cessful, less stressful—what ever the case may be, why wait another few weeks to make the changes you know you need to make 2016 one to remem-ber! Get started now and you won’t be sorry.
In this special holiday edition we’ve added a fun section showcasing some great holiday recipes be-ing shared by our contributors and readers. You may just find something new to “spice-up” your standard holiday fare. Perhaps a new family tradi-tion or special dish that your friends and family all look forward to. “We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.” Edith Lovejoy Pierce Everyone at Raven International Media Produc-tions wish you the holiday season of your dreams. Be safe, stay well—we will see you next year! Remember to enjoy this special time, you deserve it!
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ON THE COVER
Emmy Winning Singer-Songwriter
Janie Lidey shares her Christmas
Traditions Page 5
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Editor-In-Chief, Creative Director Peggy Knudson
Forgive and Celebrate Making It Through the Holidays …………………….……………………..………. 46 Mary Smith-Moore
Your Vision and Your Business, It Matters…...11 Christina Suter
Ending the Year Right …………………………………...16 Terri Levine
I Had the Blues, But I Made it Better By Writing a Song …...………………………………………………....…… 57 Dean Olson
Create Automated Wealth for 2016……………… 62 Joe Louis Burroughs
An Interview with Grammy Winning Music Engineer Khaliq Glover ………..………..………….... 50 Raven Blair Glover
The Art of Entertaining.. Does the Size of Your Audience Really Matter? ………………………………. 54 Janie Lidey
Why You Don’t Have a Gratitude Practice (Even
Though You Know You Should) ……………………...19
Michele PW
Ten Ways to Have a Truly Happy New Year .....22
Michelle Roberts
Exercise the Power of Archer Parenting ………...23
Patricia Varlack
Say Yes In the Face of Fear ………………..…………..25
Rev Nanci Adair
3 Steps to Finish Strong ……………………….. …...…30
Melva J. McGlen
Achieve All Your New Year’s Resolutions..…..... 32
Sherry Prindle
Follow Your Stars to Success and Fulfillment .. 35
Dr. M. Kelley Hunter
Goodbye 2015, Hello 2016 ………………………………….. 38
L.J. Jackson
The Embroidery Hoop ………………………………………… 40
Michele Downey
13 Things to do NOW to Make 2015 One to
Remember ……….………………………………………………… 43
Anna Sheller
Special Holiday Recipe Section ………..64
December 2015 Amazing Women 6 Janie Lidey
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ON THE COVER
Each year as the holidays draw near, my little family asks me, “Mom, what do you want for Christ-mas?” And every year I respond with, “I want Peace, Love and Happiness.” Of course they then say, “Mom! You know what we mean. What do you really want for Christmas?” at which point I repeat, “I really want Peace, Love & Happiness.” I guess when you’re living a life filled with gratitude, the material gifts that are offered up at Christmas time become unnecessary. When your heart is filled with the joy that comes from living gratitude every day, there is no need to unwrap anything more. From the time I was born until age 11, I lived in the small town of Bedford Massachusetts. It was there in that little neighborhood that I first learned what peace, love and happiness felt like. My family lived on a little street where the houses all were lined up in a row and every home in our neighborhood was filled with a set of parents, anywhere from two to ten kids, a dog, a cat, and an occasional mouse or hamster. I believe the seeds that were planted
there on Paul Revere Road were what helped me grow into a Peaceful, Loving Happy Human Being. One of my favorite memories from our home in Bedford took place each year on Christmas Eve. We had a tradition in our house of sitting at the dining room window huddled around one of those old fashioned plastic candles with the or-ange bulb on top. From there we would peak through the thick white wooden window panes, each of us carving out our own view of what would soon be coming down the street. And even though there were no reindeer pulling him in a sleigh, the sight of the station wagon coming around that bend at the end of the road that we knew had Santa in the back seat was about enough to make the eyeballs pop right out of mine and my brother and three sisters little heads. We would watch him stop at each house, get out of the car with a big red Santa bag and waddle up to the front door with a Ho! Ho! Ho! and a great big smile. After unloading his satchel, he’d march back out to the car with an empty bag, hop inside, fill it back up and do it all again at the next house. We had to watch him stop about six or seven times before he pulled up in front of our house and we got to have our very own spe-cial visit with Santa Claus. When he got to our door, we would run from the dining room win-dow into the living room where we would sit in front of the fireplace next to the Christmas tree, ready for that magical moment that only hap-pened once a year on the night before Christ-mas. Santa would pull out a package, read the name on it and almost always pick the right one of us to give it to. What was in the package was never as important as the feeling we had on our way to that magical moment. On Christmas day, our house was like a big box that was filled with Peace, Love & Happiness. Grammy Helen, Gram Hazel and Grampy would all come to stay on Christmas Eve and when Kris, Billy, Susie, Me and Carol would wake up at the crack of dawn Christmas morning, Grampy would be there telling us we had to have a good
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breakfast before we opened our presents. We could peak in our stockings if we wanted to but then it was off to the kitchen for some of Grampy’s pancakes or a slice of Grammy Helen’s fresh baked Christmas Braid Bread. After spending the morning together opening pre-sents, laughing, saying a lot of thank yous and shar-ing lots of Christmas hugs, we would usually make our way to the backyard to go ice skating on the rink that Dad would build for us each year when the cold came. And that was followed by a big tur-key dinner, pie and ice cream and finally, our little bodies worn out from the long day of festivities, Mum would tuck us into bed, say our prayers, sing a song or two and send us off to La La Land. Looking back on all of this and realizing how blessed I was to grow up in a house filled with so much Love probably explains why I feel the way I feel about Christmas now that I am all grown up. A few years ago on Christmas morning, I looked un-der the tree and saw three boxes, one on top of another, and they had my name written on them. My son Tristan had wrapped each box up so neatly (he was nine at the time), and they went from a large square box on the bottom, to a medi-um box in the middle, and a small box on top. The top box was filled with Peace, the middle one with Love, and the bottom with Happiness. I have al-ways somehow felt like the luckiest girl in the world and on that Christmas morning, I was the luckiest mom in the world. And now, when my husband Sean and our son Tristan start their Christmas list each year, Peace, Love and Happiness are at the top of the page. This Christmas ~ may you be blessed with Peace, Love and Happiness. I wish you Blessings & Mira-cles all the year through. With Love, Janie
ON THE COVER
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It
can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”
Melody Beattie
There Will Be Peace Music & Lyrics by Janie Lidey and Matt
Wilder https://soundcloud.com/janie_lidey/there
-will-be-peace-1
Based out of Anchorage, Alaska, Janie Lidey is an Emmy award winning Songwriter, Inspirational Speaker, Author and
Performing Artist. After twenty-six years as a choir and guitar teacher in the public schools of Alaska, Janie retired early so that she could make the world her class-room. Seeing the impact she was having on the hearts of her high school students made her feel a responsibility to inspire hearts on a global level. With her music being played in over thirty countries worldwide, Janie is passionate about raising your vibration though the magic of a song. http://janielidey.com
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Your Vision and Your Business; It Matters
By Christina L. Suter
The end of the year is always a time for reflec-tion in both our personal and professional lives. As we prepare for the New Year, I implore small business owners, sole proprietors, and entrepre-neurs to be clear on their business vision. Every one of us who started a business or a company started with a vision; we started with the desire to make a difference. We could see how we could do better, provide a better service, or offer a better product. From taking care of dogs to selling cars, every business started with a vi-sion. We, the visionaries who first saw how we could run a business could do nothing but think about it as it consumed our thoughts, and for me, my vision kept me up at night. That vision is core to your company, to your sales, to your strategic plan and the growth of your company. What is your vision? Get out a piece of paper and a pen, or whatever digital device you prefer to note-take on and write down what your vision is. (If you’ve never written down your vision before, it’s particularly important that you do so right now.) What was your original vision? It could be the same as it is right now, especially if your business is new.
Your vision is what made you build the company; it’s the map and guide for where the company is going. As an entrepreneur, it’s you driving the bus trying to reach your target market, not your em-ployees.
1. The Product: There are elements that are core to your vision and what makes it work. There are core elements that state what your business does, what it does better than others, and how it affects your customers or the outside world. Does your business improve lives by giving your cus-tomers or clients freedom? Does your busi-ness make people feel more alive? Does your service make their lives easier? Does it make parenting easier? Even if your job is to help animals, how do you serve them?
2. The Owner: In your vision, what role do you play? How do you envision yourself feeling and participating? Would you have a 4-hour workweek? Would you be wealthy or a philanthropist who gives back? Is your vision tied to your purpose on the planet? Do you want to make a difference? What would the implementa-tion of your vision feel like to you? Would you feel confident and fulfilled? Would you feel satisfied? Along with your vision, write out a mission statement as part of your marketing. Your mission statement is generally made up of those two, and sometimes it includes a third component.
3. Clients/Target Market: Enrollment- you sharing your vision with someone in a manner that causes them to become en-gaged in what you’re sharing. They be-come excited about it, and they want to know more about what you’re doing. Dur-ing this enrollment, you aren’t trying to convince them of anything, you’re just
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sharing your vision with them in a way that helps them to understand. In speaking of your business and vision, you highlight what they get out of it, what value they receive, how it improves their life or even their child’s life, their dog’s life, etc. Your son Johnny will enjoy and ben-efit from our service because it will help raise his self-confidence. Although you aren’t directly selling your product or service, you’re enrolling and engaging. The reason you must, is to get the permission to make a difference in their world. If you don’t enroll them, you don’t have the permission to make a difference in their lives. Be able to en-roll others in what you’re doing, your plan, your vision, product, and service in order to have permission to sell to them.
The Enrollment Process:
1. Make sure you use your vision.
2. Highlight what part of the vision can be for them.
3. Give them details about your product or service.
4. Ask a minimum of 3 questions about them. “What are your kids involved in?” “What school do they attend?” “How old are they?” This allows them to see the benefit, your excitement, the sincerity and the authenticity that you believe in what you’re saying. Your enrollment conver-sation gives you that permission.
Your ongoing strategic plan: Where do you want your company to go? What does your business look like in 10 or 20 years? Multiple locations? One location? Are you still there every day? Nationwide? Global? How much in sales are you making or how many products are you selling? It doesn’t matter how big or small your vision is, it just matters that you know it. In your strategic plan, start 40 years out and ask, where do I want to be? Get clear on that and then cut that back to 20 years and be clear on what it’d take for you to achieve that vision. What are the development milestones of your company? If you back up to 10 years from now, are you the CEO no longer engaged in the daily running of the store? Do you have managers you trust running your stores? Five years from now do you want one location that the manag-er runs while you look for a second location? At the 5-year mark you may be at the stage where people in your area recognize your product. Whereas in 2 ½ years your brand is still being developed, and you’re getting your name out there. In order for that to happen, that means that this year you need to open your first store, which means finding beginning capital. The strategic planning works backward and it starts with your vision. If you’ve owned your company for a while, you may have gone from vision to execution and realized that the business has taken over your life. Or your target market has completely changed your business model. You, the 5-8 yr. business owner, I urge you to re-anchor your vision. If you’re 5-8 years in, then by now you’ve been given feedback from your target market and from the world. That feedback shows you how you need to fine-tune your vi-sion so that it meets the needs of your current target market. You’ve been given feedback about yourself and what your target market re-ally needs, that is valuable information that will propel your business forward.
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Write a new vision. Write the new vision for your business from where you are now, and write it from a place of freedom, not disappointment. Recommit to your business and your new vision. Now that you’ve been through the process, now that you’ve learned and done the work, reevaluate, and rewrite. You cared when you first started, and you still care now, if not, you would have stopped by now. Write how you see yourself, your product, and how you’re touching your customers and making a difference in their lives. What size do you want your business to be in 10-40 years? Use that new vision to go through the steps I listed. How you end your year will be the guidepost for how you start your new year. Set yourself up for success in the future by finishing strong in the present. Ground Level Consulting is a consulting prac-
tice that works the way an entrepreneur
works, dealing with the pressing problems of
a business on the ground level and in real
time. Since launching Ground Level, Christina
has provided support throughout southern
California and the western United States, to
numerous small businesses and real estate
investors at all levels, as they moved beyond
surviving to thriving.
Since 2002, Ground Level Consulting has helped numerous small businesses thrive in southern California and the western U.S. region. Owner Christina L. Suter gained experience by starting and selling several successful small businesses of her own over 20 years before she decided to share her expertise with other business owners. Are you a small business owner and you feel like your back is against the wall and you’re ready for a change? Contact Christina for a free 30 mi-nute session on how you can improve your small business. Please mention this ad for your free session. You can reach Christina at: www.groundlevel-consulting.com [email protected]
“When I first worked with Christina many years ago, I was excited about the possibilities she helped me to see. Now those possibilities are a reality and I am enjoying a more relaxed life that supports utilizing my gifts to a much fuller ex-tent.”
Miranda Alcott, M.A. NonVerbal Communication
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As the founder and lead
consultant of Ground
Level Consulting, Chris-
tina L. Suter brings two
decades of real-world
experience as a serial
small business owner
and real estate investor.
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Ending the Year Right By Terri Levine
As we come to the close of the year are you ex-
cited about the New Year or are you stressed
with unfinished items from this past year? Are
you concerned about what transpired during
the year or excited about the upcoming year?
No matter what sort of year you have had, you
have the opportunity to end this year really
strong and lay the foundation for an awesome
New Year!
Follow these tips to ending your year and you
will begin your year from a powerfully grounded
place and create a more successful year.
1. Acknowledge Your Success: Make a list
of all the things that went well and that
you accomplished and that you are grate-
ful for. This can be anything no matter
how small it might seem. Success doesn’t
have to be grandiose. Little things can add
up to big things over time. What were
some of the highlights of the year? Maybe
you read many books or listened to audio-
books or you engaged in more minutes of
exercise or you spent time meditating.
No matter what you achieved be sure to
capture it on paper.
2. Create a Celebration: Rarely do we stop
and celebrate our success. We typically
pass right over them and don’t stop to
acknowledge our accomplishments and
instead make light of them and mark them
as unimportant. Instead, create a celebra-
tion of your successes. Host a celebration
with friends and family sharing your ac-
complishments over the past year. You
can have a dinner party or a night out or
just a simple toast to you and your accom-
plishments.
3. Keep a Journal With Your Accomplish-
ments: Be certain you write down your
accomplishments in a journal even if you
missed them during the year. In fact I rec-
ommend you write little notes of thanks
and gratitude for each one. Write a thank
you note in your journal for each one. You
can express gratitude for creating a new
eating habit, a new work ethic, giving up a
toxic relationship, creating stronger bound-
aries, or anything you have accomplished.
Being grateful and thanking and appreci-
ating yourself for your own accomplish-
ments is a great way of noticing what you
achieve.
4. Letting Go of To Do’s: Your To Do’s will
never be done until you are “To Done” and
in the grave! They are never ending.
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Stop counting accomplishments by what
you get done and start measuring your
success by what priorities you accom-
plish. Never create things to do. Only
create a few priorities that you want to
accomplish. Reflect now on the past
year. What were the real priorities in
your life and work? Did you make pro-
gress on those? Notice the steps you
took and celebrate and honor yourself
for the steps you took no matter how
small.
5. Notice Incompletions: Take notice of
what you did not get to complete. Don’t
beat yourself up. Allow yourself to for-
give and move on. If there is time to com-
plete any of them and they are still im-
portant to you go do them. If not, let
them go. Remember, priority items only
are your focus. You can hire people to do
the small things in life.
6. Remove Energy Drains. What has been
sucking away your energy? Think of what
has distracting you or drained your time,
energy, resources or money. Decide to
stop engaging in anything that didn’t
serve you and fuel you and juice you. If
something blocked you or held you back
you or someone did you want to remove
that person or item from your life. Learn
to say no to people and experiences that
don’t add value to your life. Give gratitude
to the people and experiences for being in
your life
when they were and know they were
there for a reason and that now it is time
for you to let them go so you can have the
freedom you desire and deserve.
7. New Year/New YOU!: Get excited about
doing something new and being someone
new. You have the opportunity to do
something you haven’t done before year
end. What activity have you wanted to try
that you can try before the year ends?
I’ve been afraid to go on a big rollercoast-
er. I can challenge myself to go for it!
When we engage in an activity we haven’t
done before we create inner change and
we change ourselves. Don’t wait for the
new year to make the change. Do it now!
Go ahead and try these ideas right now. Don’t
wait for any New Year resolution. Get yourself
ready now so that your new year can and will be
EXTRAordinary because you have created a solid
foundation in this year.
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Bestselling author, Terri Levine, was named one
of the top ten coaching gurus in the world by
www.coachinggurus.net and top female coach
in the world. She has been assisting businesses
worldwide creating the right inner mindset and
outer actions for business growth.
Terri is a keynote speaker, popular TV person-
ality and host of The Terri Levine Show: Busi-
ness Advice You Can Take to The Bank
www.iheart.com/show/209-The-Terri-Levine-
Show/. Dr. Levine has more than 30 years of
business experience, encompassing work with
more than 5,000 business owners and is found
at www.todayscoaching.com.
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Recently in the U.S., we celebrated Thanksgiving
— one of my fave holidays. I mean, how can you
go wrong when you combine great food, football
and gratitude?
This time of year I always like to talk about grati-
tude, and today, I wanted to talk about what’s
stopping us from having a gratitude practice.
It’s not like it’s any big secret that taking time
each day to celebrate what we have to be grate-
ful for pays off in massive returns. Super success-
ful people like Tony Robbins have a daily grati-
tude practice (which they credit for growing
their business and their success). And I just saw
the results of another study where people who
practice gratitude have stronger immune sys-
tems, feel happier and more optimistic, and are
more generous and compassionate.
So, let’s talk about what may be stopping us
from cultivating a daily gratitude practice:
“I don’t have time.”
Okay, so I get it. When you start to look at all the
various daily rituals you’re encouraged to do, the
list can start to look pretty daunting. Meditation,
journaling, exercise, inspirational reading, pray-
ing — not to mention all the other things you
have going on with family and work and friends
and volunteering — oh, and don’t forget about
that 8 hours of sleep every night, not to mention
working on that side creative project you’re trying
to get off the ground…
Yeah, trying to wedge a gratitude practice into all
of that can feel pretty daunting.
But, what if you could keep your gratitude prac-
tice pretty simple? Maybe it’s just a couple of
minutes at some point in your day — maybe when
you first wake up, maybe in the shower, maybe
when you’re stuck in traffic, maybe right before
you go to sleep — you take a minute and think
about something good in your life and really feel
how grateful you are.
Now, yes there are practices where you keep a
gratitude journal and write it in every day, and yes
I have no doubt if you did that it would be very
powerful. But, if you don’t do it because you can’t
seem to find the time, it’s not going to do you
much good. Besides, my understanding is the key
to a gratitude practice is how you feel — so if
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Why You Don’t Have a Gratitude Practice (Even Though You Know You
Should) By Michele Pariza Wacek
December 2015 Amazing Women 20
you focus on that (versus trying to do a grati-
tude practice the “right” way) you’ll attract
more things in your life for you to be grateful
for.
“I can’t think of anything to feel grateful for.”
Yes, I get that too. There are days where it cer-
tainly feels like the only thing you have to
grateful for is the fact you dragged yourself out
of bed in the morning and didn’t allow yourself
to go back to bed until that night.
And, I know on those days, telling you how
lucky you actually are (you have food in your
kitchen, a roof over your head, you’re still
breathing, etc.) doesn’t help. If anything, it
makes you feel worse.
Ironically, the times you need your gratitude
practice the most is when you least feel like you
have anything to be grateful for.
So, start small. I knew a woman who was in a serious rough patch — her business was tanking and the bills were pilling up and nothing seemed to work. So she started practicing gratitude. She would
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up her fridge and focus on how grateful she was
for the food in there. She would look around her
house and feel grateful for being able to live
there. And, after a few weeks of focused grati-
tude, her business started to turn around.
Just start wherever you can and see what hap-
pens.
“Is this really going to work?”
That’s a great question. I actually can’t guarantee
it will work for you
I can tell you that it certainly seems to work for
other people. And I can also tell you that you’ll
probably feel a lot happier when you’re feeling
grateful.
So, for myself, what I would say is why not give it
a try? Even if it doesn’t work, it only takes a few
minutes and if nothing else, you’ll feel a heck of a
lot better (and that alone is worth something).
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Make this New Year a great year by living your
life well every day. By incorporating these good
habits into your life moment by moment, you
will have a wonderful year to celebrate.
Slow Down Take time in each moment to savor your
precious life. Keep a diary or journal of
your adventures. Pause at the beginning
and end of each day to celebrate your joys
and accomplishments.
2. Take care of yourself
Eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep.
Treat yourself to loving, nurturing self-
care.
3. Acknowledge your family and friends
Communicate with the people in your life.
Tell them that you love and appreciate
them. Note their positive qualities and the
joy they bring to your life.
4. Take time throughout the day to renew
yourself
Take a walk, read a poem or a novel, listen
to music- do the things that bring beauty
into your life.
5. Clean up what needs cleaning up Make amends, fix what’s broken, clear away clutter, forgive what needs to be forgiven, and let go.
6. Commit to a project
Set out on an adventure, no matter how
small. Tackle an important problem, learn a
valuable skill, and improve an aspect of your
life. Set achievable goals and work toward
them on a daily basis.
7. Support something you believe in
Give time to a cause, group, individual, or
family who needs your help. Plan to do
something every day to make the world a
better place.
8. Remember that you always have options
Look for ways to increase the number and
quality of the choices available to you,
knowing that sometimes your best choice is
acceptance of what is.
9. Laugh, every single day
Look for the humor in every situation. How
important will this problem be in twenty
years?
10. Always take time to dream
Dreams are what will give your life its pas-
sion, its joy-and its direction. Take the time
to develop your dreams so they will one day
become your reality.
-comers, and can comeback from any challenge .
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Ten Ways to Have a Truly Happy New Year
By Michelle Roberts
Michelle A. Roberts is
professional speaker
& published Author
from the Atlanta, GA
area. She specializes
in training and en-
couraging Women
that they are over-
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Archer Parenting is a conscious, consistent and
focused parental style that can be implemented
as early as during pregnancy. In Archer Par-
enting, children are like arrows and spiritual laws
are like bows. You have the power to point your
children into the direction you want them to go.
The following 3 bows are how you as a parent
can effectively point (direct) your arrows
(children) to be successful as individuals and as
part of society in general.
1. Archer parenting includes setting an inten-
tion to win. If you are expecting, even before
your child is born, set an intention, choose
and give your child names with great mean-
ings. Let these be great meanings which you
would like your children to embody or be-
come.
Whenever you or someone else calls your
child’s name, the meaning and the intention of
the meaning in the child's life will echo in the
universe and the universe will echo back. Un-
consciously others will be propelling your child
into his or her intended destiny. By doing so,
everyone will be helping you point your child in
the direction you want it to go. Always remind
your child of the meaning of his/her name and
what great things you intended for him/her.
This is a good way to boost your child's self es-
teem.
What if I did not intentionally name my child
with a specific name?
If you already named your child, you can always
double check or investigate the meaning of his/
her name on the Internet. If you discover that
your child’s name has a negative meaning or
has no meaning at all, I recommend that you
change your child’s name at the census office.
Of course explain your intentions first to your
child. If you have a teenager, you will need to
explain to him/her what you want to do and
ask his/her permission to change the name.
2. Archer parenting includes claiming territory.
Constantly declare positive things about your
child into your child’s life, starting from in the
womb. If you are pregnant, daily declare posi-
tive affirmations over your child’s life as you
put your hand on your belly. Program and tell
your unborn child what a great, successful, vic-
torious, wealthy, good looking person, etc., he
or she is.
After your baby is born continue to daily speak
great things to and into his or her life. Death
and life are in the power of the tongue. In psy-
chology we have the saying "self-fulfilling
prophecy," meaning what we say comes to
pass, either negative (curse) or positive
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Exercise the Power of Archer Parenting
3 Ways to Successfully Prepare Your Child For the
World By Patricia Varlack
December 2015 Amazing Women 24
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positive (blessing). We all have the power
to create by speaking things into being.
Too many parents are very negative in this
respect. Often a parent would say to a
child for example, you are just like your
dad or you are just like your mom. And
the" just like" is never meant in a positive
way. When as a parent you choose nega-
tive affirmations, you are setting your child
up for failure. So the key is to consciously
and consistently switch from cursing to
blessing.
3. Archer parenting includes becoming one
with the arch and the bow.
As an archer, you need to properly posi-
tion yourself to become one in alignment
with your shooting gear. If you want your
arrows, your children to go in the right di-
rection, you need to model which direc-
tion you want them to go.
If you train up a child in the way it should
go through modeling, which is the way
through which children learn the best, you
will have greater success in achieving your
aim. In other words, you have to check
yourself first to see if your life is in accord-
ance to how you would like your children
to live before telling them how you would
like them to live
Too often parents tell and show something
completely different and act shocked
when the child ends up doing differently
than what they always told the child to do.
Actions speak louder than words. We will
automatically teach our children integrity
when our positive words compliment and
go hand in hand with our positive actions.
And finally please note that Archer Parenting
will not only benefit the children but also the
parents who practice it. If for example you call
your daughter Princess, a conscious Archer
Parent will need to be a Queen or a King to
train up a princess accordingly. An Archer Par-
ent has to be a positive parent to consistently
speak positivity into her child's life because you
cannot give what you do not have. And an
Archer Parent is a role model to her children.
Noting the overall benefits for parents and
children of Archer Parenting, why not exercise
the power of Archer Parenting starting today?
Patricia has published 8 books, including "How to Gain Spiritual Muscles", "The Different Faces of a Dysfunctional Family", "How to Cook and Eat your Boss", a quarterly Christian women's magazine called "Greater Things" and writes articles on nu-merous topics for local newspapers. Patricia is also the director of Instruction Center for the Wise, where she is a teacher, conference speaker and life coach. You can follow Patricia on face book and twitter.
Patricia Varlack resides in the Dutch Caribbean where she is president of Greater Works Foundation, which pro-motes writing through organizing writers con-ferences and writers critique groups.
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Think about the last time you allowed fear to
stand in the way of doing something you want-
ed to do. According to a google search, our
number one fear is of failure. There are more
people afraid of failing then there are people
afraid of dying.
I’m not talking here about Big fears.
I’m talking about the fear that prevents you
from going after your dream.
The dream of starting your own business or ra-
dio show.
The fear of going out on a date.
The fear of closing on a new house you hope to
call home.
Just last night I was on Skype with my brother
Bob. Back in January of 2015 he took out a new
healthcare policy that provided a free member-
ship in any one of several local gyms. Why not
take advantage, right?
Last year Bob shed unwanted pounds and looks
fantastic. However, the very fact that this was
something new led him to procrastinate.
First he chose a gym close to his home that had
not opened their doors yet.
The fear of the unknown was looming, a new loca-
tion, new people and a new body.
Present was the fear of ridicule, the fear of rejec-
tion and the eminent fear of loneliness.
The free membership was for one year. The gym
opened in Feb. Bob didn’t start going until July.
And guess what, he liked it.
When we are stopped by fear, the very thing we
are afraid of comes to pass. Bob was afraid of
meeting new people and stayed home.
In my book Achieve The Summit of Your Dreams I
talk about internalized fearleaders.
Remember that saying, sticks and stones may
break my bones but names will never hurt me?
It wasn't true.
Take for example the bully on the playground. Per-
haps your parents applied too much pressure. As
so many parents and schools today place upon the
gifted the burden of enormously high expectations.
Then come the friends who unknowingly ask, “Do
you really think you should?” A friend who squash-
es your sense of adventure with well meaning cau-
tion with a statement like, “It really isn't safe to
travel out of the country alone.”
Then there are the life partners who say, “We
can’t justify an expenditure of this magnitude at
this time.” “I'd love to support you but have you
thought this through?”
Fearleaders are the people in our lives who put a
wet blanket over our passions.
Fearleaders question your instincts, evaluate and
dissect your brainstorms, minimize your needs
and find rational excuses to say no.
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December 2015 Amazing Women 26
Often it isn't even the current fearleaders in our
lives that cause the most trouble. Rather it is the
internalized critical voice from within.
The voice of fearleaders that haunt you from the
past reminding us of our previous mistakes.
The internal voice. The stories we tell ourselves.
I can't do it.
I'm not up to the task.
I can't do it well enough.
I can't ever seem to finish what I start so
why begin again?
And if you have succeeded in the past your inter-
nal fearleaders will have you saying, I can't do it
again.
I loved hearing Elizabeth Gilbert, during the in-
troduction of her Ted talk, address the expecta-
tions of her fans.
After the wild success of her book Eat, Pray, Love
her fans flocked around asking her, “What’s
next?” At first she succumbed to fear, and be-
lieved her internal voice saying, “I can’t do it
again.”
Yes, you can. UKandu
Here is precisely what you can do.
I suggest you give your fearleaders time to ex-
press their concerns and listen politely to them.
Give your fearleaders a cup of herbal tea.
If you try automatically to banish a critic, even
that internalized critical voice, it only gives the
critic additional power.
When you discount your fears they grow stronger.
Acknowledge their presence and then proceed to
redirect their energy. Once your fears feel that
they have been heard they will be less invasive
and consume less of your valuable energy.
More of what you can do. UKandu
You can replace your fearleaders with cheerlead-
ers. Cheerleaders come in all shapes and sizes.
Cheerleaders are people who encourage you.
Cheerleaders also do not have to reside among
your friends and family to cheer you on. Although
it’s terrific when cheerleaders are close, the
memory of someone's love can also be a powerful
force. Even sports heroes, historical figures, fic-
tional characters can all provide inspiration.
The essence of my book Achieve The Summit of
Your Dreams and my UKandu radio show is all
about taking inspired action. So let me tell you
about the title UKandu and where it comes from.
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Kandu spelled Kandu is the story of a woman
who ran a teahouse with her sister up in the
mountains. Climbers came to the teahouse be-
fore and after climbing the greatest mountains
in the world. Kandu began to dream of one day
assisting the climbers as a Sherpa.
Only women Sherpas were unheard of in Nepal
at this time in history. Kandu sold the tea House
and studied mountaineering.
If Kandu can you can too.
Cheerleaders are active. They're able to com-
fort when you are hurt and quickly assess how
soon they can support your next action. Cheer-
leaders today are sexy, high energy, well orga-
nized, spirited individuals with a message.
Cheerleaders want you to win.
Time for tryouts.
Who would you want on your team? Bring into
your mind a person who has one or more of the
above mentioned attributes.
Cheerleaders, not unlike our internalized fear-
leaders can have a powerful impact on how we
play the game.
My book Achieve The Summit of Your Dreams
which I've mentioned a couple of times already;
goes into much greater length on how to use
your cheerleaders to your advantage in a life
coaching strategy I all the GoalModel Method.
The GoalModel Method teaches you how:
To win.
To succeed.
To know without a shadow of a doubt that
you can.
In the book I call cheerleaders, GoalModels.
The simplest definition of a goalmodel is a person
you admire. Someone who inspires you.
Part of the function of each of your goalmodels is
to cheer you on. The GoalModel method of life
coaching is an achievement method I created for
your success.
It's fair to say you don't need just one cheerlead-
er you need a whole team.
I've heard it said that we have an itty-bitty shitty
committee in our heads. This committee is taking
up rent free space in our brains, conducting a
symphony of fears. We have such an easy time
giving ourselves crap. We need a whole team of
cheerleaders if we want to overcome that num-
ber one fear.
Remember google’s top listed fear? The fear of
failure.
Right now I'm going to tell you a story about
someone I admire, actress, Cicily Tyson.
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Cheerleaders are
people who won't
commiserate with
you for very long.
Feeling sorry for one-
self is not a charac-
teristic of a cheer-
leader. They simply
wouldn't make the
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Following an audition for a part in the movie
‘Because of Winn-Dixie’ Cicily Tyson’s own
fearleaders convinced her she wasn't going to
receive the role. Cicily told a national audience
that she could not get out of bed for two weeks
while waiting for the studio to call. More than
all the wonderful work that she's done in edu-
cation and the enormous talent that she has
shown the world, more than all of it, I just love
that someone who we think of as having it all,
can admit that she couldn't get out of bed.
I like using this example because it illustrates
how everyone gets frightened.
I'm an ordained interfaith minister, a licensed
counselor with a Masters degree in counseling
psychology, as well as an ICF certified coach.
Common knowledge in the field of neurosci-
ence is the fight or flight syndrome. There is a
third leg on that stool. In addition to fight or
flight there is a freeze response.
How true this is in the Cicily Tyson example?
How true this is in most of our lives? We be-
come paralyzed in the face of fear.
There is someone who has gone before you.
Back in 2006, I believe it was, I was interviewed
by Dave Buck, President of Coachville. One of
his cheerleaders was Thomas Edison. Dave was
inspired by Edison’s drive to create light with-
out a flame.
Here is an example of an inventor creating some-
thing that had never been done before.
Even so there are many people who have been
obsessed with an idea and not giving up on it, un-
til they make it a reality. Do I know for certain
that Thomas Edison had his own cheerleaders?
No. I am certain of after years of studying suc-
cess principles and successful people that they all
had mentors.
One of my favorite quotes is from Thomas Edi-
son. In an interview Edison was asked, Why don’t
you quit? What keeps you from stopping in your
effort to produce the lightbulb when you have
failed 9000 times? Edison replied, I have yet to
fail. I have learned 9000 ways not to make a
lightbulb.
What's different about my GoalModel method of
life coaching is that you don't have to pay out
tons of money to be part of an exclusive master-
mind team, to hire a mentor or have a conversa-
tion with someone currently our of your reach.
Don't get me wrong. I'm all for you investing in
yourself. I joined A Taste of Mentoring group with
Jeff Herring, whose content marketing strategies
have impressed me for years. You can look for-
ward to hearing Jeff on my UKandu radio show in
the future.
I’ve invested in the Talk to Cash Mastermind with
Raven Blair Glover or as she likes to be known
Raven the talk show maven and crowned the
Queen of Blab. Raven is the creator of Amazing
Women of Power radio. Her mentor is Lisa Sa-
saevich who I also admire. However mentoring
directly with Lisa is presently out of my reach.
Lisa can be on my GoalModel team.
Without spending a penny and without leaving
my home I can learn from Lisa, how to overcome
fear.
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I can Say Yes in the Face of Fear and go after my
dreams and so can you.
If one mentor is helpful imagine how powerful
a team of mentors will be.
Let’s recount the 3 keys in this article.
1. Give your fearleaders a cup of tea
2. Be inspired by someone who has gone
before you.
3. Replace fearleaders with cheerleaders.
Rev. Nanci Adair, LCPC, CCS, CUG, ACC The exec-
utive producer and host of UKandu radio Mon-
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Network AWOP247.com www.UKanduradio.com
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Call me via 207-780-
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There is an old adage, which says, “How you start
is how you finish.” After hearing people con-
stantly complain about how they can’t wait until
the year is over at the end of “every” year, I
doubt if anyone believes “how we start is how
we finish.” You see, the arrival of the New Year
usually brings with it excitement, new prospects,
and seemingly a zeal to take on the world! Yes, it
seems we dream bigger, work harder, and do
more at the beginning of the year than we do
near the end of the year.
Somewhere between toasting to the New Year
and eating leftover turkey five days after Thanks-
giving has past us by, we lose our enthusiasm.
Now, the projects and dreams we couldn’t wait
to launch at the beginning of the year doesn’t
seem to excite any more. In fact, it has been
weeks since we have even thought about it.
This doesn’t have to be your story, not this year
or any other year.
There are 3 things you can do to assure your year
will finish strong.
1. As entrepreneurs, visionaries, business owners,
parents etc. life for us can become hectic caus-
ing us to short circuit and burn out by the end
of the year. Like computers our minds can be
overloaded with so much to think through and
process until we are no longer able to operate
at full capacity. We begin to slow down a great
deal. We become tired, worn out and usually
not as quick or sharp as we were at the begin-
ning of the year. When a computer is over-
loaded, freezes, or slows down we are often
instructed to reboot.
The process of rebooting starts with shutting
down. You shut down the computer in order to
restart and refresh the hard drive in an attempt
to make it function at a higher capacity once it
has been rebooted. The same thing applies for
the person who is experiencing year-end burn
out. The person who can’t seem to find the
strength to finish strong. The first step is to
shut it down. Take some time for yourself. Go
to the spa, spend the day resting, reading, lis-
tening to some relaxing music or taking a nice
long walk. Whatever you do, try not to think
about much including work, clients, or business
for at least one full day or maybe more de-
pending on your situation. You will know how
much time is required for you to re-
charge. Rebooting will revitalize, refresh, and
re-energize you to get back up with the
strength you need to complete those unfin-
ished projects.
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2. Again juggling work, business, and wearing
various hats can be a challenge and more im-
portantly it can cause us to lose focus. You
can’t finish strong when you have lost sight
of the main thing. Re-focusing is much like
rebooting, only it doesn’t just require a physi-
cal shut down, it requires a mental shut
down.
You can accomplish this by putting an end to
all negative thoughts and declarations, which
goes something like this, “I’m exhausted, I’m
only one person, there’s no way I’ll ever
finish this project. Yada, yada, yada!!! Before
you know it you are making daily confessions
about what you cannot do. The barrage of
negativity will ultimately take a toll, causing
you to lose sight of your goals.
Whenever this occurs you will need to re-
think, reevaluate and rework your plan. This
could be something as simple as going back
to your vision board, or business plan you
created when you first had the thought to
start your business or special project.
It’s like revisiting a time in your life when
creativity flowed freely and you were at the
top of your game. Going back to the place it
all started is a good way to help you snap out
of the cycle of stinking thinking that stops
you from focusing in on your goals; therefore
hindering you from finishing strong. Simply
put, you need to get re-focused!
3. This is the final step in the process to assure
you will be able to finish strong. It should come
as no surprise, that during the time we are
suffering from burnout, and losing focus of our
goals some things are lost. This may include
the ability to dream, to take action and/or the
capacity and strength to complete assign-
ments.
No matter what the loss, you must work to re-
claim it. You have to be determined to regain
and get back your cutting-edge. You didn’t
come all this way, to lie down and die. You
must fight against the urge to give up, and
throw in the towel. Instead, you need to assess
the damage, count the cost and think about
what you are leaving on the table. Think long
and hard about what it is worth to you then go
back and pick up the pieces.
Revive your dream, re-establish your vision,
and restructure your plan. In other words, you
have to refuse to accept failure and get back
every God-given promise that has your name
on it. Trust God to carry you through to com-
pletion. He is always willing to finish the good
work he created in you. This my friend is how
you can finish strong!
world including the USA, West & East Africa and South Amer-ica, where those who have received her message through workshops and conferences have reported tremendous im-provements in their personal and professional lives. Native to Washington, D.C., Melva is a graduate of Liberty University and founder & CEO of multiple businesses. The developments in her career have brought her to reside in Houston, Texas.
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As the year comes to a close, think of all the
possibilities you can create with a new begin-
ning in a new year. Rather than give up on reso-
lutions, learn and take the right steps to achieve
them.
1. Begin with Your Ideal Lifestyle:
Draw up an hour-by-hour plan for your
ideal day. Draw up an ideal week. Draw
up an ideal month. Write up a vision of
where you would like to be one year from
now.
2. Use Your Values as a Basis:
Think about your values, and list what is
important to you, your priorities. Com-
mon areas include Family, Health, Spiritu-
ality, Career, Happiness, Growth, Causes,
Wealth, Home, Travel, Hobbies, Friends,
Self…
3. I recommend doing this in a mind map
like the one pictured on the next page.
Give each value a color code, and break
each down into sub categories.
4.
Do a time log of a week of your life. Color
code items on the time log in accordance
with their corresponding values.
5. Look at the areas with no color, and de-
termine if you may have missed a priority.
It may be your intrinsic priority, which is
something you naturally give priority to. It
is part of your fiber and closely tied to
your beliefs and experience. You need no
accountability to follow through on it; you
honor this priority every day and are very
satisfied with this area.
When I did this and found large areas of
white. I looked for commonalities, and real-
ized they were all things I was doing for ad-
venture. I identified adventure as an intrinsic
priority, and made sure to honor it as a part of
my lifestyle.
6. Re-Engineer Your Actions to Match Your Ideal:
Create a schedule that rearranges the use of
time as you logged it into a plan that more
closely matches your ideal lifestyle.
7. Create Resolutions that will help you achieve
your ideal lifestyle. We can only hold 7 plus or
minus 2 things in short-term memory, so
break anything with 10 or more moving parts
into tasks using mind maps.
8. Break Down Resolutions with Mind Maps
Take any goal, dream, or project you have not
yet accomplished and write it in a circle, then
think, “What steps do I need to take to
achieve the goal.” Branch the main steps off
of the center, then break the large pieces
down, breaking the large sub-tasks down—
continuing until the last layer of every branch
is a task.
How do you know you’ve reached a task? You
know exactly what to do—you have no questions.
For example, if you wanted to write a book and
started mapping out the steps but got stuck, that
would indicate that you probably don’t know
what to do next. In that case, write, “How” (short,
keyword entry for “find out how”) on the map,
then branch off the ways to research what to do.
Perhaps you would come up with, “book,”
“group,” and “Internet” as entries (short, keyword
entries for “find a book,” “join a group,” and
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Mind Map
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“search the Internet”) Going to a bookstore to
get a book on how to write a book is a task.
As a side note, what is a task to one person may
be a project to another. I could search the Inter-
net and it would be a task, but if I asked my
mother to do it, I would have to explain some
steps. Keep this in mind when you give someone
a work assignment. If you have been doing the
job for a long time, you might not remember
that there are steps in the process that must be
broken down for someone less experienced.
Once the project has been broken down, it’s
easier to decide in what order to perform the
tasks, what can be done simultaneously, and
what resources you’ll need. Without the map,
we just start . . . and stop . . . and realize while
we are doing it what the steps are. Rather than
work on a project with the steps hidden, get
them out and get organized.
Assign one resolution per month. By working on
one resolution at a time, you can stay focused
and achieve twelve in a year, so prioritize, and
schedule.
Schedule and Achieve
In order to make goals happen, we need to cre-
ate a breakdown structure supported by an ac-
countability structure on multiple levels.
Start by envisioning anything you want. Set mid-
range and short-term goals while scheduling spe-
cific weekly tasks. It is also important to identify
your INTRINSIC priority and a KEY priority – the
one that if accomplished will most facilitate the
achievement of all the others.
Compose a set of DAILY actions that restructure
habits and drive momentum and integrity. There
need to be some boundaries or non-negotiables in
place to create commitment.
Perhaps the most important part is the telescope.
So many of our day-to-day tasks are designed to
keep us the way we are now. Make sure you can
see a straight line to your larger big-picture goals.
If I do these daily actions, weekly plans, monthly
objectives, etc., can I reach my overall goals? If
not, restructure the smaller steps to lead to the
ultimate goal using projects-to-tasks breakdown.
Achieve all your goals with the help of a coach. Or
what about becoming a life and executive coach
yourself? Visit http://
professionalcoachacademy.com/ for more infor-
mation.
Have the faith and courage to believe in yourself.
Combine that with the motivation and structure
outlined here, and you have yourself a very pro-
ductive new year!
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"We saw his star as it rose and have come to do
Him homage."
—Matthew 2:2-3
At Christmas, we celebrate the birth of the Holy
Child, and remember the Star in the East that
guided the Wise Men to his birthplace to honor
Him with precious gifts. These Magi were star-
gazers, readers of the heavenly cycles. Humans
have ever looked to the heavens for universal
wisdom.
Your Story in the Stars
We all seek a connection to something greater
than ourselves. The Great Spirit knows who you
are and sends you into the world at a specific
time and place to accomplish your life purpose.
Your cosmic blueprint, or planetary birth chart,
shows the basic building blocks to your success
and happiness in life. When you know what
these are, you can work with them. Often,
though, we get off-track early on. We may not
feel truly seen by those close to us or encour-
aged to follow our hearts to find our true path.
We are often told what to do, with little choice
to make our own decisions. Our upbringing and
early experiences impress us with a deep, sub-
conscious sense of identity that often obscures
our true essence. Social influences tell what to
think and how to behave. If we are not express-
ing who we really are, we eventually come to
feel lost and unhappy inside, no matter how
successful or accomplished we may appear to
others. There is a sense that something is
missing. Sometimes we look in the wrong places to
satisfy that emptiness.
We all have a story. The story of our lives is often
told through our early experiences, what other
people tell us about ourselves, the impact of
events in our lives, by our successes and, often,
our failures. What is your true story? You can find
it in the stars. When you change your story, you
change your life.
Your Cosmic Blueprint for Success and Love
The most important purpose of your cosmic blue-
print is to awaken your self-awareness, so that you
see yourself more clearly and more fully. Self-
awareness is the key to self-empowerment. More
of us are interested in finding and fulfilling our true
Life Purpose—which is not just about having suc-
cess in the eyes of the world, but about being of
service, living up to our capabilities and making a
meaningful contribution to the world. I believe it is
also a spiritual quest, a longing of the soul to feel
connected to something greater than our small
selves. It's about loving others and ourselves, with
a sweet smile deep in our hearts.
Your cosmic blueprint shows this greater connec-
tion, indicating how the life force moves through
you. As you live your life, the blueprint takes form
and continues to demonstrate that you are truly
seen and supported by the heavens. Your unique
map offers personal guidance as ongoing planetary
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By Dr. M. Kelley Hunter
December 2015 Amazing Women 36
cycles unfold day-by-day and year-by-year.
The two big areas of life that people ask me about most often are:
1. career success
2. love relationships.
"There is a time to every purpose under Heav-
en," says the Bible.
Haven't we heard again and again that "timing is
everything"? Your particular planetary pattern
indicates your natural talents and abilities, your
strong suits and skill sets to develop and apply. It
shows what you bring to the table in any situa-
tion and where to focus your career for your best
success—and to fulfill your life purpose. It also
indicates timing. By following ongoing cycles, we
can note the best times to take action or to step
back, to open a business or to close one, to buy
or to sell, to think things through or to ask for
support, to consolidate gains or to take ad-
vantage of opportunities to grow and expand.
Sometimes we are just not thinking clearly or are
confused by the many options we have in front of
us. Perhaps we are overly optimistic about a great
new idea or seduced by the glitter and glamour of
a new job offer. Is this the right time?
Is this company the right one? Are we ready to quit
the job and open our own business? We have
doubts; we hear conflicting opinions from advisors
and those close to us. We need some clear infor-
mation and a confirmed sense of timing.
I knew when it was the right time for me. Even
though all things were not totally in place, the cos-
mic indicators were clear that I was in a transition
time. I needed to take a leap onto the proverbial
bridge across the waters, even though I could not
see the other side. There were warnings that my
health would suffer if I stayed in the job and living
situation where I was. My daughter had graduated
high school. As a single mother I was now free to
make new choices. I left that stale job, simplified
my lifestyle and had "a little help from my friends."
It took courage and creativity, but I took back my
life and "did it my way" (with divine guidance). My
self-confidence and motivation grew. I developed a
consulting practice and started to write and pub-
lish articles. I organized a conference. I furthered
my education, wrote two books, and found oppor-
tunities to meet and work with interesting people.
I gained a reputation in my field. It was time.
Is it time for you?
Looking for Love with all the Right People
Most often we start out making relationship choic-
es based on old patterns, without really knowing
what we are looking for. Your cosmic blueprint de-
scribes those patterns that are impressed early on
and how they serve you in some ways and under-
mine you in other ways. Habits, fears and self-
doubts dim when you shine the light on uplifting
factors essential for your emotional wellbeing and
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December 2015 Amazing Women 37
happiness. Your personal blueprint also suggests
your love style— what your heart truly desires
and the kind of person who will be your best
match.
This is not a simple question and the answer is
not the same for everyone. Some of us want to
build a rich home life, raising family and animals,
cooking and entertaining friends and neighbors
at our welcoming hearth. Some of us are adven-
turers, our need for independence to sometimes
go off and do our own thing. Some of us want to
live and work with a person we deeply love and
respect, to share bedroom and office, creating a
partnership on many levels. Some of us want all
of those experiences at different times in our
lives! What is right for you?
Two people meet: what is this relationship about? Sometimes we try to make a relationship into something it's not meant to be. When there is a strong attraction, we may have a blind spot due to wishful thinking. We don't see that per-son for who they are but for who we want them to be. Or we accommodate the other person for the sake of relationship in a way that under-mines, not only the relationship itself, but also our own self-esteem.
A couple came to me with questions about their relationship. She was a quiet person, who needed to feel close, cherished and protected. His emo-tionality was full of drama and fire. He needed a partner who wanted a spicy tango. It relieved them both to have their needs recognized. They could even laugh to hear their typical conversations so clearly scripted. There was no one to blame. Nei-ther of them was wrong. They were just not right for each other. Planetary patterns can illumine any type of rela-tionship, not just romance and partnerships. Parents and children, siblings and friends come to understand and accept the other as an individual, then more able to work around any troubling dy-namics between them. Business colleagues can see how best to best harness their individual strengths for joint success. As we consult the heavenly cycles of the stars and planets, we tune into the universal stories that convey the wisdom of the ages. We find our own stories, waking us up to the truth of who we are. Be inspired to a deeper level of self-awareness and self-confidence to fully express your unique being and life purpose. We need empowering images to open our minds to new ways of thinking and being. Follow your stars into this third millennium, an ear when we Amazing Women (and Men) of Power are truly coming into our own. contributes to various journals and anthologies, and publishes her own Cosmic News email news-letter. Visit her website, http://heliastar.com or her Facebook page, Kelley Hunter, AstroMytholo-gy.
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December 2015 Amazing Women 38
A couple of months ago, I attended my friend’s
beautiful wedding and it got me to thinking. As I
listened to them put their own spin on their
commitment and promises to one another for
the rest of their lives.
I wondered, “How many of us take the same ini-
tiative to honor, cherish, and hold our dreams
sacred?” especially as we prepare to say Good-
bye 2015, Hello 2016!
I must confess that 3 years ago I made a commit-
ment to be married to my dreams, I even used a
ring I had bought for myself as a symbol and re-
minder of my commitment, but after making that
commitment, much like in a marriage I experi-
enced challenges that I had no idea I would
face. And honestly, some of them were so chal-
lenging that I found myself considering the
dreaded “D” word as I found myself separated
from my dreams, wondering if we could make it
and if all the challenges, struggles, and resistance
showing up was all worth it.
Were my dreams and I meant for each other or
had I made a big mistake? I wondered as I
searched my heart.
Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever sepa-
rated yourself from your dreams, put them on the
shelf or back burner…or even considered divorcing
your dreams because making your dreams come
true would require more effort and commitment
than you initially anticipated?
As the saying goes, “Anything worth having is
worth working for and waiting for”, right?
The good news is we can renew our vowels to our
dreams at any given moment. We can break the
cycle of waiting to the start of a new year or put
our dreams on the shelf because they didn’t work
out the first time. Starting today, we can start
over; we can begin to shift, change, and grow! Like
walking down the aisle just take one action, one
step at a time.
Because saying “I do” to your dreams is really say-
ing, “I do” to you!
Here are 3 Key tips to stay committed to Your
Dreams as you take a look back at 2015, and start
to explore and decide what to create for 2016.
1. Write down your dreams, what worked,
what didn’t work, and where you’d like to
be.
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Goodbye 2015, Hello 2016 By LJ Jackson
December 2015 Amazing Women 39
2. List all the reasons you are passionate and
what attracts you to your dreams (regardless of
what anyone else says). Next ask yourself what
your dreams mean to you and why you want to
celebrate what worked in 2015 and follow
through on for 2016.
3. Then, renew your vows to your dreams and
decide that as long as you live and have breath in
your body, you are going to do what it takes to
honor, cherish, and have a satisfied and fulfilling
relationship with your dreams. Giving them the
time, energy, and respect they deserve so that
you can look back years from now happy and
glad you put the effort, time, and energy needed
to see your dreams come true.
Years of experience heling 10000’s achieve break-throughs and see their dreams come true. LJ has degrees in Psychology, Counseling and guidance, and also received Life Coach training through RMT, the official premiere life coach training program of Tony Robbins. Recognized as an Inspirational Women of the Year by Women’s Network Radio (WNRN), VIP Professional of the Year by NAPW for 2014-15; and selected as a Women of Outstanding leadership by IWLA for 2014/2015. LJ is currently accepting applications, apply online at www.personalpowerwithin.com!
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December 2015 Amazing Women 40
“We needed to learn, like our old friend Dorothy
from Kansas, that there’s no place like home,
because there is no place but Home. When we
learn that God is everywhere, that Love fills all
space, and that Truth is the very Ground of our
Being, we may surely release the little to em-
brace the All.” Taken from “The Dragon Doesn’t
Live Here Anymore” by Alan Cohen
“Behold the turtle, who makes progress only
when he sticks his neck out”
“To be free, to be able to stand up and leave
everything behind-without looking back. To say
“Yes”- Dag Hammarskjold
I looked over these separate readings and start-
ed a journey in my thoughts. I am prone to go-
ing off in my head with these kinds of thoughts
since I was a little child. Maybe it was the artist
or writer in me. Somehow I get comfort from
these musings.
I wanted to share my most recent reflections, as
it is the ending of a year and the beginning of
another. It’s also the holiday season. It’s a truly
mixed bag for me.
The holidays always hold great promise and joy but
equally as much challenge or potential for crisis
and challenge. For most of my clients, who have
been affected by friends and family with mental
illness and/or addictions, it has been a little like a
“pop” quiz. It seems that there is always a greater
potential for a crisis during the holidays. Families
don’t seem to fit into the Rockwell paintings and
rehearse the problems they have.
It’s as if this “pop quiz” by the Universe gets to see
how much my clients have learned in terms of the
tools of self-care and boundaries. It’s my busiest
time of year for my business in terms of problems
and new clients. The house is usually on fire and I
don’t have time to inspect the foundation, I simply
need to help them get the fire out as fast as possi-
ble. As in a medical triage in my nursing days, we
need to keep the client and or/family alive and do
first things first. It’s often a tough business.
As a marriage and family therapist for over 30
years, I have often seen myself as The Good Witch,
Glinda, with her wand in the movie OZ. (I even
commissioned Bob Womack, an incredible pop
artist, to paint a picture of me being the Good
Witch, Glinda, as I have it in my mind).
My job has always really been about convincing my
clients that they were like Dorothy and had the
Power all along.... their own personal pow-
er. Despite all the evidence to the contrary, and
circumstances that obscure their vision, I know
that they have free-will choice. This is the secret
power that they have if I can convince them. I ab-
solutely know it. I have no doubt that this Power
exists.
I must admit that even for myself, though, these
“appearances to the contrary” look pretty darn
convincing.
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The Embroidery Hoop By Michele Downey
December 2015 Amazing Women 41
Whether taking the form of loss (relationships,
people, love, money, career, job, security, death)
or in the form of overwhelming obstacles, I, too,
have been pretty convinced it appeared hope-
less. This strange paradoxical doubt has passed
in time. I never doubted for my clients, howev-
er. I could always see clearly what they own for
their Power.
Sometimes, I think that my severely mentally ill
clients (the ones with Bi-Polar, Schizophrenic or
Schizo-Affective disorders) do better than the
“normal” growth or marital therapy clients. At
least the mentally ill ones, who have experienced
the psychotic and delusional thoughts, can be
trained over time (and with medication) to focus
on what is in front of them to do. They can be
taught during that period to ignore their feelings
and thoughts when they are having though dis-
tortions or problems with their de-stabilizing psy-
chiatric medications. We focus on the moment,
and “this too shall pass” and “be like a soldier”
and do the self -care routines that they have
learned, whether they want to or not. They have
enough humility and practice over time to not
even engage the negative or distorted thoughts,
(as tempting as it would be to believe those
thoughts).
In the moment, I, too have the same dilem-
ma. When I am feeling sad, depressed, or discon-
tent with my life, I am faced with the same chal-
lenges. Although I may not have the intensity they
do, I have to remind myself, that some things are
not, in that moment, real. Fear underlies all of my
actions and can take over at a moment’s notice if I
don’t have my “directions”. I must remember that
I have the power of choice.
I tell my clients that even if the thoughts are too
strong, they have the power of choice to pick up
the telephone, go to a support group, pray, medi-
tate, exercise, sleep or be in the company of some-
one who understands. They can find comfort in
their pets or someone whom they love. They can
distract themselves with a humorous movie or a
good book. They can start making their gratitude
lists beginning with things like “eyes to see, ears to
hear, heart to love, food in my stomach, roof over
my head, gas and a car, etc.” They have the power
of choice. This is the power to choose what to fo-
cus on. What they can do, rather than what they
cannot do. I, too, must remind myself of these
tools in my toolkit.
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I have a therapy poodle. I call him my “Thera-
Poodle” and he has been assisting in my work for
many years. His very gentle presence comforts
even the most seriously disturbed.
I have seen him work in groups with my clients
and individuals in ways that I had believed at one
time was not possible for a dog to do. I had to
ask my clients to give me a reality check at times
when his work was so powerful. Never once was
I told I had imagined it. The power of animals to
heal is without a doubt one of my first lines of
defense when I work with people.
I can’t always help my clients. Despite my educa-
tion, professional training and years of experi-
ence, I have my limitations. If they are willing
and open-minded, I can still only agree to walk
with them on their journey, reflect back what I
see and be compassionate with their choices. I
also have to be firm and set limits and bounda-
ries for myself. In doing so, I model what they
need to do. I can share my own experiences
(strength and hope) and/or my fail-
ures. Ultimately, however, the journey, the
choices, and the growth end up being theirs, and
theirs alone.
Last week, I heard my daughter say in her wisdom
that when she was having a hard time with her lat-
est pregnancy, she remembers the stitch work sto-
ry. A Nazi Holocaust survivor was sharing and look-
ing down to complete her stitch work as she
spoke. When she was done, she asked everyone to
look at the backside of the work. There were plen-
ty of knots and thread that made it look messy and
completely chaotic. However, when she turned it
around to show the completed front of her em-
broidery hoop, the beauty of her work was easily
seen. She said that this was how God had used
everything that happened to her, which she had
seen as the backside of the stitchery. Unknown to
her, all along, the Divine Design always had a beau-
tiful plan and only recently had she seen the fin-
ished work.
I try to remember that there are no accidents in
each of our lives and anything can be used for God
or Good if we have the proper perspective.
I think that some of that same experience of humil-
ity is necessary to recognize that
I teach best what I most need to learn. I am hon-
ored when I can share a part of my client’s jour-
ney. It has the power to strengthen my
own. Ultimately, we are all One, whether we are
the teacher or the student, the therapist or the cli-
ent, the healer or the healed. It’s called being a
Spiritual Being while living in a human condition.
Michele Downey is an RN LMFT in private practice since 1987. As a radio show host, Michele engi-neers and produces the show called “Design for Living” on “The Amazing Women of Power” by Ra-ven International.
December 2015 Amazing Women 43
During the holidays, it's easy to slip into busy
mode. We finish one task only to start another.
By the time New Year's arrives, we are just grate-
ful for a little rest before launching into the new
year.
Now is a good time to do something to make
2015 memorable. Look over this list, or come up
with your own!
1. Call a friend you haven't seen in a while.
Reconnect. Calling an old friend and catching
up on old times reminds you that you have a
life, and that people still care about you! The
holidays provide a perfect excuse to dial and
see how things are going.
2. Paint a picture.
Do you remember finger painting as a child?
Mixing the colors on a piece of paper and cre-
ating a unique expression of your emotions
was so freeing. Look for a business that spe-
cializes in helping people discover the artist
within. Often called "Paint and Sips", you
spend 2 hours with your favorite wine in a
group of people with an instructor who
guides you in how to make your own wonder-
ful painting. Now you have a tangible remind-
er of your inner artist!
3. Dance with your children!
Music and children and laughter go together!
Dancing is a great form of exercise. Just mov-
ing around gets those endorphins into action.
Setting aside the usual inhibitions and con-
necting with children in your life (or if you
have them, grandchildren!) will lift your mood.
Remember to take pictures while you're at it.
4. Spend the holiday working at a soup kitchen.
Science has discovered that serving other peo-
ple relieves depression. And giving to others
less fortunate than ourselves helps us feel good
about ourselves. I still remember the first 20-
mile walkathon I did for the March of Dimes.
My blistered feet ached that night, but I felt
sooo good about sacrificing for a worthy cause.
5. Buy a toy for a child and give it to the Marine
Corps’ “Toys for Tots"
When I was little, I didn't understand the say-
ing, "It is more blessed to give than to receive."
As an adult, I found it was true. And giving
builds a sense of abundance in our lives. Find a
picture of a child who has benefited from the
toy drive to remind you of the joy you are
spreading in the world.
6. Visit the residents at a nursing home.
Brighten your day by spending time with a
nursing home resident. They often have amaz-
ing stories that will keep you enthralled. Make
this a practice throughout the year. Most folks
in a nursing care facility are forgotten by family
and friends, except at Christmas. Make this the
year you make a difference in someone else's
life.
7. Open your home for 3 hours to your neighbors
and offer light refreshments.
My husband and I are planning to do this. You
can create a cozy place for people to stop in
during a busy day of Christmas shopping to
drink a warm cup of cider and eat a few cook-
ies. The next time you see your neighbors in
their yard, you will have a new connection and
a new friend.
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13 Things To Do NOW to Make 2015 One to Remember
By Anna Sheller
December 2015 Amazing Women 44
8. Read a good book.
I love a good book, don't you? Escape for a little
while in another world with a good book. His-
torical fiction is my favorite, and yours may be
different. But find something you can get lost in,
and schedule some time for reading.
9. Visit a children's hospital and read a book to a
sick child.
Good books help children in a hospital escape
their circumstances, too. Giving time to another
human being benefits both of you. Time with a
book can be the greatest gift you can give.
10. Commit to journaling for 30 days, only writing
about the things you are thankful for.
You get what you focus on. Do you want good
things? Then focus on the good in your life by
journaling. Writing things down forces you to
focus on those things, plus you are creating a
record for you to look back on later.
11. Write a thank you note to your pastor or rabbi
or minister, letting them know how they have
made a difference in your life.
Writing a note of thanks to your minister is a
form of giving. They tirelessly prepare for their
messages, often without knowing the impact
they are having on people's lives. Letting them
know how they have helped you will bless them
more than a box of chocolates.
12. Give your spouse or significant other 15
minutes of your undivided attention.
Time. It is our most precious resource. Sharing our valuable time with our spouses is one of the greatest gifts we give them. If this is not your habit, then start with 5 minutes and work your way up. Put away your cell phone and social media, and just spend time getting to know them again.
13. List your successes for the year and write
thank you notes to the people who helped
you achieve that success.
Everyone knows the value of listing your suc-
cess, but few thank the people who helped
them achieve that success. Schedule time to
write thank you notes or include them in your
Christmas letter. Not only does this
acknowledge how they have helped you, but it
also builds relationships that lead to future
success.
Does that get you started? Hopefully, this list is
gets your juices going. 2015 is nearly over, so do
something to make it a year to remember!
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Anna Scheller is a Diamond Level Sales Trainer with Eric Lofholm International. After studying sales she grew her corporate housing company, and discovered that she had a talent for coaching. Mar-ried to Phillip Scheller for 33 years, she is also the proud mother of 7 children. Anna
is our newest host on Amazing Women of Pow-er, with her show, Sales Mastery. She believes that good sales people also take time to take
December 2015 Amazing Women 46
Forgiveness Is A Process—remember, you don’t
forgive someone for his or her sake—you forgive
them for your sake. (On a side note, I just read
that as “sake,” the drink. I think that means it’s
time for me to get some sushi!
Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it
mean that you’ve given the message that what
someone did was okay. It just means that you’ve
let go of the anger or guilt towards someone, or
towards yourself. But that can be easier said than
done. If forgiveness was easy, everyone would be
doing it.
“When you hold resentment toward another, you
are bound to that person or condition by an emo-
tional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness
is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
Katherine Ponder
“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is
no forgiveness without love.” Bryant H. McGill
“A happy marriage is the union of two good for-
givers.” Robert Quillen
“Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you
for hurting me.” Anonymous
“Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expecta-
tions that the other person apologize or change.
Don’t worry whether or not they finally under-
stand you. Love them and release them. Life
feeds back truth to people in its own way and
time—just like it does for you and me.” Sara Pad-
dison
“Once a women has forgiven her man, she must
not reheat his sins for breakfast.” Marlene Dietrich
“Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of
life.” George MacDonald
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover
that the prisoner was you.” Louis B. Smedes
“We are all on a life long journey and the core of
its meaning, the terrible demand of its centrality is
forgiving and being forgiven.” Martha Kilpatrick
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of
love. In return, you will receive untold peace and
happiness.” Robert Muller
“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on
the heel that has crushed it.” Mark Twain
“Always forgive your enemies—nothing annoys
them so much.” Oscar Wilde
Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness
When someone you care about hurts you, you can
hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of re-
venge—or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
By the Mayo Clinic Staff
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or
words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized
your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a
project or your partner had an affair. These
wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of an-
ger, bitterness or even vengeance.
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Forgive and Celebrate Making It Through The Holidays
By Mary Smith Moore
December 2015 Amazing Women 47
But if you don’t practice forgiveness, you might
be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing
forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope
gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can
lead you down the path of physical, emotional
and spiritual well-being.
What is forgiveness?
Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of
resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act
that hurt or offended you might always remain a
part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its
grip on you and help you focus on other, more
positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even
lead to feelings of understanding, empathy, and
compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the oth-
er person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it
doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can
forgive the person without excusing the act. For-
giveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go
on with life.
What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
Letting go of grudges and bitterness can
make way for happiness, health and
peace. Forgiveness can lead to…
Healthier relationships
Greater spiritual and psychological well-
being
Less anxiety, stress and hostility
Lower blood pressure
Fewer symptoms of depression
Stronger immune system
Improved heart health
Higher self-esteem
Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?
When you’re hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, y9ou might find yourself swal-lowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injus-tice.
What are the effects of holding a grudge? If you’re unforgiving, you might…
Bring anger and bitterness into every rela-tionship and new experience.
Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can enjoy the present.
Become depressed or anxious.
Feel that your life lacks meaning or pur-pose, or that you’re at odds with your spir-itual beliefs.
Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.
How do I reach a state of forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. To begin, you might:
Consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time
Reflect on the facts of the situation, how you’ve reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being.
Actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you, when you’re ready
Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offend-ing person and situation have had in your life
As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and under-standing.
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December 2015 Amazing Women 48
12 Steps to Avoid Disappointment This Holiday
Season
1. Identify your main thing.
2. Slow down.
3. Realize perfection is not possible
4. Don’t push your expectations on to others
5. Make room for rest
6. Offer forgiveness quickly.
7. Remember memories are made in the mis-
takes
8. Realize the meaning is in the giving, not the
gift.
9. Admit you can’t change others
10. Know when to stop
11. Stay within your budget
12. Embrace spirituality
The holidays can be a most wonderful time of
year. The season is often marked with family,
tradition, and giving. And no matter our age, it
stirs up fond memories and creates new ones.
The holidays can indeed bring out the best in all
of us.
But despite all the hope and preparation, often
times holiday expectations go unmet. Meals
don’t turn out right. Kids get crabby. Family
members bicker. Gifts are not received as fond-
ly as we expected. And before we know it,
shades of disappointment begin to creep in as
we realize the season will not measure up to the
pictures we had in our minds.
Keep in mind the above steps and you will have
a much merrier holiday season.
From my heart to yours, may your holidays this
season be truly happy.
Author, Keynote Speaker, Member of the Amaz-ing Transformational Speaking Troop, Alumni of the Platinum Mastermind, Products Faith and Forgiveness Strategies for the Wounded Hearted and Five Fabulous F’s to Take Your Life From Just Surviving to Thriving.
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Mary Smith-Moore, Founder and Executive Producer and Host of Christian’s Destined to Reign is the 2014 Talk Show Host of the Year. Three time award winner,
December 2015 Amazing Women 50
Aka Khaliq-O-Vision , is a Grammy Award Win-
ning Mixing Engineer/Producer whose clients
include Prince, Michael Jackson, Justin Timber-
lake, Angie Stone, Herbie Hancock, Christina
Aguilera, Marcus Miller, Jeffrey Osborne, Jamie
Fox, Patti LaBelle and many more!
Khaliq was one of the original musicians who
worked on the “We Are The World” project with
Michael Jackson and other noted celebrities. As
a result he received a Grammy as one of the
participating music engineers. He was also one
of the musicians who was asked to work on
“This Is IT” movie after the passing of Michael
Jackson.
Raven: Let’s start out by catching the audience
up a little bit about you. Just briefly, how did
you get started in the music business Khaliq?
Khaliq: Well, it’s truly one of those things
where kind of by accident in a way—it only
came I guess at age 13-15—finding yourself. My
father used to be a drummer but he never really
encouraged me to get into music because it’s a
rough business. But of course, I had to toy
Around with some of his stuff every now and
then and hoped that I wouldn’t get caught but
eventually he ended up getting me a guitar and I
just toyed with that and started playing it, teach-
ing myself to play. And to make a very long story
short, after dealing with many vocal bands back
east in Pittsburg where I’m from, I ended up mi-
grating out here to LA and to record the songs
that I was writing, I had to figure out some equip-
ment that a publisher saw my talent and gave
me some free time to come in and just record
whatever I wanted at night but I had to mind the
equipment on my own. I just dug in and pulled
out manuals and experimented and tried to fig-
ure it out on my own. Over the course of maybe
a few years, a guy that was a friend of theirs was
watching me do that and saw that I was serious
and one day he offered me a job. He said “How
would you like to have a job working for Kenny
Rogers and maybe learn about engineering?”
Raven: Wow—how cool is that?
Khaliq: I stumbled into it because like I said I was
a guitar player. I’m not a technical engineer. I
didn’t go to school for it and that wasn’t my first
focus. I haven’t even considered it at all but after
I got into it, I liked the nuances of being around
all these different stars I was working—at that
time Kenny Rogers had a studio called Lionshare
that had nothing but the greatest people at that
particular time. The top artists were all migrating
there. I was very lucky .
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An Interview with Grammy Winning Music Engineer
Khaliq Glover
December 2015 Amazing Women 51
Raven: My goodness, so this childhood passion
and listening to that, I said I have got to make
sure that my grandson Christian hears the replay
of this because he just informed me that he
wants to play the guitar. So, he’s going to be tru-
ly inspired by your story.
Khaliq: Absolutely!
Raven: We’ve got a lot to cover—so those at home listening can be inspired to be a musician or song writer or singer, they’ll know how they can begin their home business. First of all, let me ask you, how did you feel, when you found out that you were getting a Grammy? Khaliq: Are you kidding? I was just—the funny thing about the Grammy, there’s two dramatic sides very diametrically opposed. One side of it
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I was just totally floored and ecstatic because
when you’re a young person, there are no limits
to your dreams and possibilities, so always
knew and told myself one day I’ll get a Gram-
my, but as you go through life, and life just
beats you down and beats you back into reality,
you have to pay the bills and all, I came to find
out over the years that while I was a good gui-
tar player there were billions of great guitar
players out here so what me alter my reality is
the engineering. That’s a smaller pond. There
are thousands of guitar players and not a whole
heck of a lot of engineers, really good engineers
are a even smaller group. So I did what I could
to try to learn how to be able to stay in the
room with the greats and learn from them and
then in the course of doing that, picking up
some of their secrets, I won’t call myself one of
the greats but at least I figured—and I was
pretty open, I was a sponge to learn some good
stuff that makes me able to still work now after
all these years.
I’m constantly trying to learn new things and
constantly trying to stay in business because
the industry is always changing so the reality of
it is, I want to do what I need to do to get the
next Grammy, the past Grammy is done and
gone. It’s a trophy on the shelf, the next is
what’s important and I don’t have that yet so
that’s my goal.
Raven: Yes, that’s common. We speak in that
in existence for sure. Let me ask you this Kha-
liq, do you work your music business from
home?
Khaliq: Partially. The nature of my business
being in the music industry and being an engi-
neer, I work with some good high level clients
luckily so they usually have their own home
Studios and facilities so I often get called to work
at their place. II was with Jeffrey Osborne when
he built his studio at his house and left Lionshare
for Jeffrey as he hired me to be his personal engi-
neer and then I worked with him for many years,
over a decade and then Herbie Hancock has a
great studio. He has a massive facility and purple
rate and all that, he has a massive facility in Min-
neapolis so I go there .
Raven: I’m glad to hear you say that because my
next question is how difficult is it to create a stu-
dio for those listening who may want to get going
in their home.
For the complete transcript or to listen to this
interview, please visit: http://www.careersfromthekitchentable.com/
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Several years ago, I was invited to do a house
concert at my old friend Lauralee Banfield’s
home in the Bay Area of California. It would take
place in the little town of Mt. View and she
thought there would be anywhere from twenty
to thirty guests in attendance. I was going to be
in the area for a few other events anyway so it
was easy for me to put it on my calendar. It
would be a great opportunity to reconnect with
some special friends from my past, make some
new friends, and hopefully raise a few more peo-
ple’s vibration with the songs and stories from
my new album and book, “The Magic of A Song”.
On the night before the concert, I got a call from
Lauralee saying that things hadn’t exactly turned
out the way she planned. There were only going
to be six people at the performance and two of
them were her own children. She said that con-
sidering the circumstances, she would totally un-
derstand if I wanted to cancel. In that moment, I
realized that it didn’t matter to me if there was
going to be one person in attendance or a crowd
of one million. If something I was going to share
in a story or a song that evening had the poten-
tial to raise the vibration in even one person’s
life, my purpose as an entertainer on this planet
that day would be fulfilled.
I showed up for my house concert in Mt. View
ready to Rock & Roll. My sister Carol was my
chauffeur and helped me carry my little PA sys-
tem in and get everything set up. I could have
gone acoustic with such a small crowd but I still
wanted to share the full scope of the performance
I had planned for the bigger audience. To do so, I
needed my sound system and computer to play
some of my backup tracks on a few of the songs I
had recently recorded in Nashville. I had the
blessing of working with some of the most amaz-
ing session players while recording “The Magic of
A Song” and wanted to make this a really special
show, regardless of the size of my audience.
Lauralee had set up a beautiful area in her home
for me to perform in. She was a singer herself
and had a little stage area set up in her family
room where she and her band would practice to-
gether. So Carol and I went to work and set up as
though we would have a full room of people. As
with most of the house concerts I do, we did a
meet and greet over cocktails and hors d’oeuvres
and then gathered in the family room for an inti-
mate evening of stories and songs. I could tell
that there was a little bit of discomfort on the
guests part seeing that I had come all the way
from Alaska, had set up such a nice stage area,
had CDs and Books for sale… and here we were in
a seemingly almost empty room.
What happened after sharing my first few stories
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The Art of Entertaining—Does the Size of Your
Audience Really Matter? By Janie Lidey
December 2015 Amazing Women 55
and songs was AMAZING! One of the guests
stood up and with great intensity said, I don’t
mean to be rude or anything but can you please
stop the concert for a little while? I am going to
go out into our neighborhood and invite people
over. This is just too dang good for anyone to
miss!” You can only imagine how that made me
feel! Of course I agreed and we extended the
cocktail hour while this kind gentleman attempt-
ed to fill the room at my littlest ever house con-
cert.
The magical connection that we as entertainers
make with our audience is something that can
literally change a life in one heartfelt moment.
I’ll never forget the lady who came rushing up to
talk with me and said that she used to be a
painter but hadn’t picked up her brushes in
years. After hearing my song, “Leap of Faith”
and listening to my story about retiring early
from a successful teaching career to become a
full time singer-songwriter, artist, author and
speaker, she decided she was going to go home,
break out her brushes and become an artist
again! You just never know what kind of impact
you might have on one person’s life.
My little house concert at Lauralee’s turned out
to be one of my favorite events of the year.
After a few more guests were reeled in from the
neighborhood, I took up from where I had left
off. (Actually, I repeated the first two songs be-
cause no one wanted the new guests to miss
out) and we had an amazing, intimate evening
filled with stories, songs and a shift in the vibra-
tion of each of us in the room, including my
own.
In the art of entertaining, you never know exact-
ly who you are going to inspire with whatever
message you are sharing. Whether you raise the
vibration in the life of one person or the lives of
millions, you are making a difference in someone’s
life!
The Starfish Story
A young man is walking along the ocean and sees a
beach on which thousands and thousands of star-
fish have washed ashore. Further along he sees
an old man, walking slowly and stooping often,
picking up one starfish after another and tossing
each one gently into the ocean. “Why are you
throwing starfish into the ocean?” He asks.
“Because the sun is up and the tide is going out
and if I don’t throw them further in they will die.”
“But, old man, don’t you realize there are miles
and miles of beach and starfish all along it! You
can’t possibly save them all!” The old man lis-
tened calmly and then bent down to pick up an-
other starfish and threw it into the sea. “It made
a difference to that one.”
Learn more about Janie by checking out her story
in the front of the magazine.
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December 2015 Amazing Women 57
This is a letter to my all of my new friends. I'd
like to share something about myself. I am a
good person, and as your friend, I will always be
compelled to do right by you. I will be as honest
and transparent as I am able, but I might be
holding something back. I have a dark and
moody side.
I carefully hide it, because I'd rather have a good
time with you and not drag you down in negativi-
ty, since I also tend to avoid drama. I'm really a
glass-half-full person, and as you get to know
me, you will probably find my dry sense of hu-
mor to be uplifting. And if you happen to be a
musician or a songwriter, we might be interested
in collaborating with each other, and we'll have
fun doing it.
But, I have a flaw that has slowed me down and
has maybe given my friends the wrong impres-
sion. I am painfully shy, and sometimes I say
awkward things because I am shy. This part of
my psyche has been with me for my entire life,
and for a long time, I suffered from a case of the
blues. Not depression, just the blues, primarily
caused by the lack of realizing my dreams. This
happens to a lot of people, I know, but I guess I let
gloom and doom take over my mindset for a
while. It was just as debilitating, and it manifested
itself through weight gain, poor sleep, and a dismal
attitude. I decided that I had better stop it.
So, how did I turn myself around? I wrote songs to
snap myself out of it.
In 1997, I was sitting in a network marketing semi-
nar. I was frustrated and dejected from years of
trying (and failing) to improve my lifestyle and
make extra money, so that I could go out and live
my real dreams. It seemed to me that, to be a
songwriter and producer in my thirties, was a pipe
dream, because I should have started when I was
junior high. A music career is uncertain, and I did-
n't want to be an irresponsible dreamer, so I set
out to build a separate income that would support
my projects. Nice try, but it didn't work the way I
had hoped. I think I was tired of the empty self-
talk that didn't pay off the way I wanted, and I
know that my lovely and supportive wife felt this
as well. So, while the seminar speaker's words fad-
ed into the background, I started scratching lyrics
in my notebook. After thirty-five minutes, I had a
complete song written, along with an arrangement
in my head. I called it, "My Mind's Made Up," a
tune that I now use as the theme for my radio pro-
gram. It's a song about my personal blues, but the
last verse is a hopeful scenario for my future,
which I paint as brighter than the present.
It helped to transform me into a more positive and
creative individual. But it wasn't an overnight
transformation. I had to grow into it over several
years, with some pain, but the penning of that
song for myself was a pivot point that I still refer-
ence to this day. Here are some personal things I
had to do to create positive change.
AMAZING MEN
I Had the Blues, But I Made it Better By Writing a Song
By Dean Olson
December 2015 Amazing Women 58
1. Look In the Mirror
I knew I needed to take responsibility for
my past, both good and bad. Most of the
emotional damage I incurred, including
dreams that I didn't fulfill or things I should
have done, was something I had to shed
before I could go forward. I had to count
my blessings, or at least remind myself of
the things for which I am proud. For exam-
ple, I was raised by two wonderful parents.
I achieved the rank of Eagle Scout. I am still
married to my first love, and we raised two
great children. I never smoked, drank too
much, or took drugs. I have faith in God,
and He has given me so much.
2. Remember Who I Am
I am artistic and musical. Part of the rea-
son that my wife loves me is because of
that. I have always had the spirit of an
artist, which I have expressed as a car-
toonist, but also as a creative audio com-
poser. That is the term I used to describe
my love of recording stuff and turning
sound effects, comedy and music into an
auditory experience. Today, I am a song-
writer, radio host and producer. I am very
good at these endeavors, but I keep won-
dering, how do I make a living and raise a
family by being an artist? The answer is:
Be my BEST artist. My art doesn't neces-
sarily have to make a profit, but there is a
place for making money with my mu-
sic. Just be honest and true. At the very
least, I can be satisfied in creating great
work, even if it is just for my own enjoy-
ment.
3. Ask God For Help
In my case, I had talks with God. And not in a
desperate pleading way, like those times I
was in a jam and suddenly asked for His help,
as a last ditch attempt to be rescued. I
learned to talk with God on a daily basis,
much in the way that we text one another on
our phones to share our thoughts. I started
to ask for strength to stop feeling sorry for
myself. I shared my frustration, my sadness,
and my disappointment. It helped, especially
when I learned to be silent and listen for his
response. That's the tricky part, and it took
some time. In the Bible, King David did this,
and a huge weight was lifted from his shoul-
ders, so I decided to try his way. And that
brings to mind that there are truths in that
good book that will help in driving away the
blues, so spend some time in the Word.
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December 2015 Amazing Women 59
4. Make Supportive Friends
The more I drowned in the blues, the far-
ther I sunk into my shell. I didn't ignore
my wife or my job, but I was so occupied
with my selfish emotional baggage, that I
became even more shy and with-
drawn. It was around that time that I got
to know two co-workers who shared
common interests, and they were willing
to create music with me. This was a defi-
nite antidote for the blues! My story
continued with ups and downs, but to-
day, I look for good friends with common
interests to keep fueling my
dreams. But, importantly, I have done
my part to support them, even if it's just
a kind word on social media. You can
never have too many good friends.
5. Don't Stop Believing
Since turning myself around, life has
been easy, except when it hasn't
been. Things happened to me, and I had
to deal with challenges and the conse-
quences of bad decisions. I took my eyes
off my faith, and remembered the disap-
pointment and sadness. But, I eventually
had to realize that believing in one's self
is like the care and feeding of a delicate
plant. You can't forget about it, or it will
wither. So, from now on, I remind myself
of my previous steps, as a way to keep
the blues away.
"My Mind's Made Up"
(words & music by Dean Olson)
My mind’s made up!
I’m gonna follow all my dreams
I’ve had enough
Of these annoying and distracting schemes
I’ll choose my friends
Because apparently they’re choosing me
The time is now
To pay attention to my destiny
It was my habit to be lazy. My dreams were
kind of hazy
I watched so much TV, that I drove my wife
crazy
It’s a shame!
It’s been a drain on my brain!
I just want my freedom, baby
I just want to win this game!
My mind’s made up!
My place of work has got me beat
I’d quit right now
But my family has got to eat
Don’t get me wrong
I like the things I do to earn my pay
The only thing
Is that I wish it wasn’t every day
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December 2015 Amazing Women 60
AMAZING MEN
Because my job is like a prison. My boss, he
doesn’t listen
We often tend to fight, and then I gotta say he’s
right
It’s no fair!
Ah, but he don’t care
I say, I just want my freedom
I don’t have to be a millionaire...
So there!
Because my paycheck’s a joke. It always leaves
me broke
I’m stressed, I shake and cough a lot, and I don’t
even smoke
I got the blues!
But I know it’s self-abuse
I really gotta have my freedom
But first I gotta pay my dues
My mind’s made up!
I finally got my butt in gear
My bills are paid
Because I made a hundred grand this year
I quit my job
Now I’m the boss of my own art
I’m feelin’ cool
Because I bought myself a brand new start
And now, I changed my old habits. I’m moving
like a rabbit
The world is waiting for me. Gonna reach out
and grab it
I’M STRONG! --
Why did I wait so long?
I had the blues, but I made it better, baby --
And that's why I wrote this song
(And now you can sing along)
MY MIND’S MADE UP!!
(I don’t have to be a millionaire. I just want to be
free.)
© 1997 MonaMe Music / BMI - All Rights Re-
served
My radio show is about encouraging artists who
make music. I hope I can help make the blues
better for you. If we aren't friends yet, come see
me!
My Facebook page is https://www.facebook.com/
StrongWriter and you can listen to episodes of my
program "StrongWriter On the Radio" at http://
strongwriter.com/
Dean Olson is an independent songwriter, radio host and pro-ducer based in Orange County, Cali-fornia. His weekly pro-gram "StrongWriter On the Radio" airs on the Amazing
Women Of Power Radio Network. Dean gains knowledge, insight and inspiration from his fea-tured guests and passes it along to the listen-er. His interviews range from indie musicians, record producers and engineers, to established composers and songwriters including Richard M. Sherman, Charles Fox, Shelly Peiken and Bunny
December 2015 Amazing Women 62
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HOLIDAY RECIPES
Christmas has always been a wonderful time for
our family. As the youngest of five, I was so
lucky to have siblings that kept the magic of
Christmas, Santa Claus and flying reindeer alive
and well through my youth. Christmas Eve was
filled with excitement in our neighborhood as
Santa Claus came to our home and delivered a
special “pre” Christmas gift directly to all of us.
After a turn on Santa’s lap, we dashed off to bed
with anticipation, knowing Christmas morning
would be filled with special family time and, oh
yes, Gram Helen’s Christmas Braid.
Gram Helen always came to spend the holidays
with us. She was the quintessential grandmoth-
er, sweet and loving and spent loads of time in
the kitchen baking us all special treats. I used to
spend a lot of time in the kitchen with Gram
watching and learning how to bake. It was ap-
parent from the start that measuring, mixing,
kneading and decorating were all to be done
with a keen eye and bare hands. “It tastes better
that way”, Gram would say. And that makes me
smile thinking back to my mom following us
around the kitchen wiping down the refrigerator
handles and drawer pulls that were smeared
with fresh butter and dusted with flour.
Iced box cookies, applesauce cake, and fresh bis-
cuits were some of my favorites, but our families
Christmas braid wins first prize in our home every
time. The smell of cardamom and cinnamon in the
air and the giggling that would ensue as I would
sneak a peak at the bulging bowl of rising dough
brings me back to my childhood and fills my heart
with warm memories. Christmas morning was the
only time we had this wonderful bread, which, I am
sure, added to it being so special and tasting so de-
licious!
Fast forward 40 years, I have carried on the Christ-
mas Braid tradition for my family and close friends.
I know Gram Helen is with me when I make the
dough on Christmas Eve and I see the enjoyment in
my children’s eyes that I am sure Gram saw in
mine when I was a young girl. My daughter loves
to bake along side me and I know it will be a tradi-
tion she carries with her for years to come.
I am thrilled to share this family recipe and I hope
you enjoy it is as much as our family has during the
holidays. Have a magical holiday season!
Gram Helen’s Christmas Braid (Swedish Bread Reci-pe)
Bread Ingredients:
1 Cup of milk
¼ Cup of water
6 Tablespoons of butter
1 Teaspoon of salt
1-1/2 packages of yeast
¾ Cup of sugar
4 Cups of flour
1 heaping Teaspoon of cardamom
1 egg
Gram Helen’s Christmas Braid - Swedish Bread
December 2015 Amazing Women 65
HOLIDAY RECIPES
Topping:
203 Tablespoons melted butter
1-2 Teaspoons cinnamon & ¼ Cup sugar com-bined
Heat milk, water, & butter to 120 – 130 degrees
Blend: sugar, salt, cardamom, yeast and 2 cups
of the flour. Add to heated liquid. Beat all with a
mixer. Add egg and remaining 2 cups of flour
and then stir by hand. Let rise until double the
size. After dough has risen, put on board and
knead (you will need to sprinkle heavily with ad-
ditional flour to avoid sticking). Divide dough into
two equal parts. Then divide each into three
parts to make two braids. Place braids side by
side in 9X13 casserole dish or metal baking pan.
Brush with melted butter and sprinkle with cin-
namon/sugar mixture. Let rise again to double
the size. Bake: 350 degrees for 25-30 minutes
until light golden color. Remove from oven and
serve warm or room temperature.
Courtesy Carol Casas
Cream together:
1 cup sugar
1/2 cup of soft butter
Add 4 eggs lightly beaten
Add 3 Tbls milk
In a separate bowl mix:
3 cups self-rising flour
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp nutmeg
1 tsp cloves
Place 3/4 box of golden raisins
1 pound candied fruit (mixed)
1 quart chopped Pecans
1 cup 100% Bourbon
Let set overnight
Next Day:
Mix fruit and with sugar and butter until complete-ly mixed
Slowly blend in dry mixture until completely mixed
Preheat oven to 250 degrees
Drop teaspoon size mixture onto cookie sheet an inch apart.
Bake 15 minutes
Yields about 12 dozen
This family recipe has been used for over 40 years!
Courtesy: Barclay Fisher
Barclay’s Fit Cake Cookies
