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Page 1: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Dealing with Grief Dealing with Grief and Lossand Loss

By: Ms. MarkowskiBy: Ms. Markowski

Page 2: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

GriefGrief► Grief is a Grief is a naturalnatural response to loss. response to loss.

The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health, job, The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health, job, money, miscarriage, pet, lost dreams, serious illness, friendship money, miscarriage, pet, lost dreams, serious illness, friendship or safety after tragedy or safety after tragedy

► It’s the emotions and pain we feel when something or It’s the emotions and pain we feel when something or someone we love is taken away. someone we love is taken away.

► People grieve in different waysPeople grieve in different ways How you grieve depends on many factors: How you grieve depends on many factors:

► PersonalityPersonality► coping stylecoping style► life experiencelife experience► FaithFaith► nature of the loss. nature of the loss.

► The grieving process takes time. The grieving process takes time. ► Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurriedHealing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried

Page 3: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Common symptoms of Common symptoms of griefgrief

► Just remember that almost anything Just remember that almost anything that you experience in the early stages that you experience in the early stages of grief is normal – including feeling of grief is normal – including feeling like you’re going crazy, feeling like like you’re going crazy, feeling like you’re in a bad dream, or questioning you’re in a bad dream, or questioning your religious beliefs. your religious beliefs.

Page 4: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Common Feelings about GriefCommon Feelings about Grief

► Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1969) introduced what Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1969) introduced what became known as the “became known as the “The five stages of grief”The five stages of grief” Think of these more as common feelings people go Think of these more as common feelings people go

through as they cope and all, none or some may be through as they cope and all, none or some may be feltfelt

► Denial: Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”“This can’t be happening to me.”► Anger:Anger: “ “WhyWhy is this happening? Who is to blame?” is this happening? Who is to blame?”► Bargaining:Bargaining: “Please make this not be happening, “Please make this not be happening,

and in return I will ____.”and in return I will ____.”► Depression: Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”“I’m too sad to do anything.”► Acceptance:Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.” “I’m at peace with what happened.”

Page 5: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Myths about Grief Myths about Grief Source: Source: Center for Grief and HealingCenter for Grief and Healing

►MYTH: MYTH: The pain will go away faster The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.if you ignore it.

►Fact:Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. actively deal with it.

Page 6: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Myths about Grief Myths about Grief Source: Source: Center for Grief and HealingCenter for Grief and Healing

►MYTH: MYTH: It’s important to be “be It’s important to be “be strong” in the face of loss. strong” in the face of loss.

►Fact:Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help Showing your true feelings can help them and you.them and you.

Page 7: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Myths about Grief Myths about Grief Source: Source: Center for Grief and HealingCenter for Grief and Healing

►MYTH: MYTH: If you don’t cry, it means If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss. you aren’t sorry about the loss.

►Fact:Fact: Crying is a normal response to Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one. sadness, but it’s not the only one. Those who don’t cry may feel the pain Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it. simply have other ways of showing it.

Page 8: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Coping with grief and loss tip 1:Coping with grief and loss tip 1: Get support Get support

►Turn to friends and family Turn to friends and family members members

►Draw comfort from your faithDraw comfort from your faith ►Join a support groupJoin a support group ►Talk to a therapist or grief Talk to a therapist or grief

counselor counselor

Page 9: Dealing with Grief and Loss By: Ms. Markowski. Grief ► Grief is a natural response to loss.  The “loss” can be death or the loss of a relationship, health,

Coping with grief and loss tip 2: Coping with grief and loss tip 2: Take care of yourself Take care of yourself

►Face your feelings. Face your feelings. ►Express your feelings in a tangible Express your feelings in a tangible

or creative way.or creative way. ►Look after your physical healthLook after your physical health. . ►Don’t let anyone tell you how to Don’t let anyone tell you how to

feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either.feel either.

►Plan ahead for grief “triggers”.Plan ahead for grief “triggers”.

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Final Points on GriefFinal Points on Grief

► It is a tough emotionIt is a tough emotion► It is part of lifeIt is part of life► It is important to understand that It is important to understand that

everyone grieves differentlyeveryone grieves differently►Support each other and yourselves by Support each other and yourselves by

treating each other with care and lovetreating each other with care and love