Dealing with frustrationNora Femenia, Ph.D

There are plenty of sources offrustration in our lives!

1st Step: Detach

• Take nothing personally. If you get frustratedbecause someone let you down, or a loved onedid something aggressive to you, calm down. Youshould detach from anything people do, even as itlooks like they directed that phrase as a directaffront to you.

• People have their reasons for the way they act;their behavior has nothing to do with you andeverything to do with their emotional mind-set atthe time you crossed their paths.

2nd Step: Take perspective

• Accept life as it is. In the game of life there arenot guarantees, and you could be dealt a badhand from time to time.

• Identify previous difficult moments in yourlife, and remember what you did then to getout.

• Now, you know what you can do to changeyour current state of affairs.

3rd Step: Play the game of life!

• Recognize that you can be the frustratingentity for someone else…

• We are learning in life by our interactions, andhere the lesson is: don’t get wrapped up infrustration: Ask yourself

• “What do I have to learn here”?

4th Step: Your Lesson

• Now you are happier because you havetransformed frustration into learning…

• It’s good to be wiser, because you will not yield tothe feelings of frustration again…

• So keep breathing deeply, and enjoy your newlesson!

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• "I wish I had know from the beginning what I know now. I feel things would havebeen so different, and I would been spared the amount of pain, drama andhumiliation I suffered in my married life, since according to him: "everythingwas my fault”, of course.

• I was a perfect personality type to be the victim of an aggressive boyfriend, asmy mother and other relatives were too in my childhood. Ironically, this hasbeen the cause of my painful inability to establish a positive self-esteem andfind happiness in my life. I feel so blessed to have found your help.

• Nora, you are a great coach. I now have permission to fight back! The awarenessyou have given me has changed my life. I am no longer a victim of otherpeople’s aggressive behaviors, and it feels wonderful!"-

• Denise Withers, Pennsylvania

Testimonial from a person lacking self-respect

• “I was in a miserable situation. I never understood what I did todeserve being yelled at by my husband and made fun of when hewas drinking with his friends.

• I would make myself sick from crying; both my body and heart weretired and I was completely unhappy.

• I didn’t understand that I had an obligation to myself to stand up andsay NO to this behavior in my husband and by any other person.

• Nora, you gave me the right to defend myself with grace. Now, he’sactually apologizing to me and being gentler and attentive!”—

Terry Nichols, Naples, FL