Controlling our Anger Before it Controls Us

By Qasim ali

Anger• Definition 1. A strong feeling of displeasure or

hostility.2. Anger is a negative feeling which

often happens when a person thinks that someone or something has done wrong, bad or which puts them in danger

The emotion of anger has many purposes, some of which can serve us well. Anger can be used by others to confuse or control you. In conflict resolution anger is a useful emotion when used to support yourself against attack by others.

Anger is a valuable signal, because it lets us know when something is wrong or a problem , even then It does not

solve the problem. Often when we are angry, one of these things is happening:

1. We want something and are not getting it.

2. From past experience, we expect trouble.

3. We have feelings of powerlessness.

4. Sad feelings.

5. Depression.

In confronting anger, remember you have three options:

1. You can choose to react angrily or not. 2. You can become aware of what you are feeling. 3. You can be aware of the intensity of your anger, if you are in control of your anger, or if it controls you.

The Major Causes of Anger Are:

1. Dependency Relationships

2. Resentment

3. Grief

4. Victim Mentality

5. Abusive Relationships

6. Low Self-Esteem

Steps to Control Your Anger:

1. Make a list of things that make you mad, and memorize it.

2. Talk about you feelings, let people know when things bother you.

3. When you feel angry, do something with the energy. Slowly breathe in and out ten times.

4. Notice if you feel like yelling, screaming, or hitting. Before you act on your anger, think of why you are angry.

5. Make peace with yourself and the person who is the object of your anger. Forgive yourself first. Then apologize to the other person for your lack of control.

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