conflict management decision making
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Conflict Management Decision Making . “I’m SO Angry!”. “What are we so mad about anyway? (examples). Which movie to go see Cut off in traffic Someone spreading rumors ‘Stay at home mom’ or a career How late you can stay at a party Spending money How and where to spend your time - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Conflict Management
Decision Making
“I’m SO Angry!”
Which movie to go see Cut off in traffic Someone spreading rumors ‘Stay at home mom’ or a career How late you can stay at a party Spending money How and where to spend your time Parents disagree with clothes/ hairstyle Can’t go to a school event because it falls on a
religious holiday You were excluded from a group
“What are we so mad about anyway?(examples)
◦ Conflict: a disagreement between people with opposing view points, ideas, or goals.
◦ Conflicts can be an exchange of words◦ Group confrontations can be ongoing◦ Conflicts that involve weapons can be serious◦ Normal?
What is Conflict
Some conflicts are with YOURSELF!
1. Resources: something usable, such as goods , property, money or time.
Examples??? Couples who fight over finances, which restaurant, flu shot dispensed, study or go mall with mom, fighting over the
computer…
2. Values: your beliefs and ideas you consider important
Examples??? Browns fan, daily PE class
3. Emotional Needs: the need to belong and feel respected and worthwhile
examples??? Left out, dis-respected, put down, feel it’s unfair didn't make the science Olympiad, sports team etc…
Three Causes of Conflict
Think of a conflict you’ve had recently and briefly describe.
Answer the following questions in your notes.
1.What was it about?2. What caused it? (Resources, Values, Emotional)
3. Was it resolved? Explain.
Journal Activity
Managing my Anger/ConflictIf I learn to manage my
anger then…If I don’t and conflicts get
out of hand then…
Release frustrations of life.
Calls Attention to Problems
Helps us understand self and other’s values
Increases motivation to take action
Brings about change Healthier relationships
Anger can build and boil over
Can lead to violence Irrational thinking Not pleasant to be
around Lead to depression
(esp.boys)
Calm. It. Down.
Brainstorm
Ask Questions; to learn the other
person’s point of view
Attack the Problem- not the
person!
Explain how you feel; Let each
person tell their side
Talk to a trusted adult
Positive Ways to Manage Anger
Take a time out to cool down
COOL OFF– Calm Down
Make a list Find a middle ground Find a creative solution
Brainstorm reasonable ways to handle the situation
Explain how his or her actions make you feel
“I Feel…”
“hmmm how would I feel”Ask Questions
Learn the other person’s point of view
If you cannot resolve the problem yourself.
Ask for Help
State the Situation ◦ (Identify, ask yourself questions, what choices do you need to make and
who else if anyone is involved) List all possible options.
◦ (List everything, ask for suggestions and make sure they are safe.) Consider the consequences for each option.
◦ Weigh the pros and cons Consider your personal values
◦ (honesty, respect and trust) Make a decision and act. Give specifics.
◦ (Ready to take action, choose a course that supports your values, the impact of all choices on self and others and ask a trusted adult if unsure.)
Evaluate the outcome.◦ (Reach expectations, how did it affect others, how you feel about yourself
and what could you do differently)
Decision-making skills