conflict management conflict perceptions, styles and power
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Perceptions Standpoint Theory
Originated with George Freidrich Hegel through observations of slaves and masters
Each has difficulty viewing conflict situations from the other’s perspective, the other’s standpoint
Those on the bottom of the social ladder have a clearer view of what is really happening because it is in their best interests to do so
Standpoint Sandra Harding (1991) explains that people
on the lower end of the social spectrum have more accurate views People with subordinate status have a greater
motivation to understand powerful groups than vice-versa
Economic security, survival, material comforts depend on understanding the powerful
Subjugated groups have no personal investment in maintaining the status quo; powerful groups do
Standpoint Donna Haraway (1988) coined the term,
situated knowledges to emphasize that knowledge comes from one’s social circumstances
Sara Ruddick (1989), for example, found that “maternal instinct” was derived from social groups of mothers and women who cultivate skills in nurturing. In other words, “maternal instinct” grows from where a person in situated in society
Standpoint Theory Hegel used the term “thrownness” to
suggest that all of us are thrown into a position in society
That position gives us a particular vantage point that others within the social system do not have
This suggests that all views are partial
Perceiving reality is confusing From one vantage
point the elephant looks like it has four legs
From another it looks like it has five
What vantage point is the “right” one?
Making sense is difficult Sometimes
perceiving reality around us requires thought and attention
Still it is difficult to think in ways we are not used to thinking
We only see the surface No matter how hard
we try, we can not see everything
There is more to the reality around us than we think
Seeing things closer to the way they really are takes work
Working for Understanding As we try to shift our perspective by
standing in a different position Trying to see things from another’s point
of view Understanding emerges
Mindfulness We have implied that understanding
takes work We have a tendency to think on
autopilot We perform mechanically Being “mindless” is easy, and
comforting; we don’t have to think
Mindfulness Ellen Langer coined the term,
mindfulness and mindlessness The concepts are closely aligned with
Buddhist thinking Put very simply mindfulness is working
to be aware of other perspectives through examining the standpoints from which other people view reality
Thinking Mindfully in Conflicts In conflicts choices need to be made We can not respond on automatic pilot,
the way we have always responded We have to think of what style of conflict
management is right for each situation
Conflict Styles People typically fall into “conflict style
ruts” These are conflict styles where we feel
the most comfortable We tend to use them over and over The rut is comfortable and it is scary to
try something new
Typical Conflict Styles Avoidance
We ignore the conflict, sweep it under the rug and hope it goes away
Least preferred style because nothing gets done
Suppressed conflicts can emerge later and become detrimental to the relationship
Avoidance Identifying avoidance behaviors
People act too nice They attack behind the other person’s back The use joke or sarcasm to hide the real
issue They suggest the issue is “unimportant” The evade sensitive topics
Competition Competition sets up a win/lose
dichotomy Competitors are concerned with their
own issues and successes Negative conflict spirals result from the
use of this style
Competitive Tactics Dishonesty Hiding your own interests Shifting blame and responsibility Hostility Threats and bluffs Personally attacking the other person
Accommodation Bending over backwards to give in to
the demands of other people Not doing what you believe is right Allowing people to “walk all over you”
Accommodation Tactics Saying words like “It doesn’t really
matter” Using nonassertive gestural and other
behavioral patterns Not making eye contact Low vocal volume Hesitant speech patterns, hedges and
nonfluencies
Compromise Compromise is a win-lose position Not a complete loss, but not a full-
fledged win either It is somewhere in between
Compromise Tactics Saying things like “Let’s split the
difference” Parties are getting tired of negotiation
and compromise to make a quick resolution of the issue
Collaboration Ideal cooperative strategy Theoretically everyone emerges from
the conflict as a winner Win-win It takes time, creativity and effort
Collaborative Tactics Honesty Doing complete research on issues Use a problem-solving stance Involves all parties Seeks creative solutions for tough
problems Roll up shirtsleeves and work
Collaborators Listen well to others, so well that they
are articulate the other person’s position accurately
Flexibility is most important There are times when you may need to
use any of all of these conflict styles This is where standpoint theory and
mindfulness come in You try to see things from the other’s
position You are mindful of the situation so you
perceive it accurately
When to Use Avoidance When the issue is trivial When you really don’t care When potential violence threatens To let people cool down To gather more information
When to Use Competition Against other competitors who do not
respect other conflict styles. Once they do respect you, go to collaboration
In emergencies when quick decisions are necessary
When to Use Accommodation When you are wrong Make it right! When you really don’t care When you know you will build credits for
later issues that are more important to you
When to Use Compromise When complex issues need to be
resolved quickly As a “stop-gap” measure to revisit later To arrive at an expedient solution under
time pressure When opponents of equal power are
committed to equally exclusive goals
When to Use Collaboration When all parties need to
be involved to achieve buy-in to the final solution
To merge insights from diverse people
To achieve a win-win solution where everyone walks away feeling good about the conflict
To achieve consensus
In Summary Each of the conflict styles is useful
depending on the situation Although you have a style in which you
feel most comfortable work to obtain greater flexibility in how you respond to conflicts
Power Is part of the relationship You have power if other people value
what you have French and Raven isolated five sources
of power
Sources of Power Reward power: the power to give rewards Coercive power: the power to punish Legitimate power: the power that derives
from a position you hold Referent power: power you get from who you
know Expert power: power you receive because
you know something others don’t know
Other Research on Power Includes These Sources Control of tangible resources
Money, property, land Authority
Titles, ranks positions Expert knowledge Control of resources
Making work easier, ensuring cooperation
Power Sources Links to community and access to
people Endurance, stamina, will Cultural traditions and history Communicating skills Traditional logic and reasoning skills People skills and helping people bond
Power Sources Personal competence and dependability Self-worth, integrity and self-esteem An ethical sense of community and
morality Openness to wisdom through spirituality
Folger, Poole and Stutman, 1997