Clothing Has Always Been An Issue Clothing Has Always Been An Issue If you have a daughter it is an issue.If you have a daughter it is an issue.

Clothing has caused strong feelings ever since Clothing has caused strong feelings ever since people started wearing them.people started wearing them.

Joseph’s brothers jealous of his coat/ father gave Joseph’s brothers jealous of his coat/ father gave him.him.

Marie Antoinette, 18th century French queen, Marie Antoinette, 18th century French queen, hated for Lavish wardrobe, later beheaded hated for Lavish wardrobe, later beheaded because of her frivolous spending of the because of her frivolous spending of the people’s moneypeople’s money

Blogs on Celebs – Worst dressed, What not to Blogs on Celebs – Worst dressed, What not to wearwear

We dress to feel good about the way that we look. It We dress to feel good about the way that we look. It feels good to have people look at you and complement feels good to have people look at you and complement you. you.

It is thrilling to have the guys attention on you.It is thrilling to have the guys attention on you. But where is their attention……….But where is their attention………. But those who minimize the correlation between immodesty But those who minimize the correlation between immodesty

and sexual promiscuity deceive themselves. and sexual promiscuity deceive themselves.

Sexualization of women defined as occurring when a Sexualization of women defined as occurring when a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior.behavior.

Negative consequences are documented…confidence and Negative consequences are documented…confidence and comfort with body image leading to shame and anxiety comfort with body image leading to shame and anxiety are just a few. are just a few.

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What draws your attention?What draws your attention?

Television, music video, music lyrics, video Television, music video, music lyrics, video games, teen magazinesgames, teen magazines Women are used as window dressing – sexualization Women are used as window dressing – sexualization

has set narrow standard for attractiveness….Posture, has set narrow standard for attractiveness….Posture, look, creates unreal expectationslook, creates unreal expectations

Advertisers spend millions and they understand Advertisers spend millions and they understand what works – photo of a woman increases length of what works – photo of a woman increases length of time looking by 14-30 % time looking by 14-30 %

Three most common women’s health problems, Three most common women’s health problems, eating disorders, low self esteem, depressioneating disorders, low self esteem, depression

Young ladies are trying to measure upYoung ladies are trying to measure up Hannah Montana, Lindsay Lohan, Brittany Spears, Hannah Montana, Lindsay Lohan, Brittany Spears,

Christina Agulara….Christina Agulara….BarbieBarbie……

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Speaking of Barbie…Speaking of Barbie…

HeightHeight 5’4”5’4” WeightWeight 145 lbs145 lbs Dress SizeDress Size 11-1411-14 BustBust 36-37”36-37” WaistWaist 29-31”29-31” HipsHips 40-42”40-42”

HeightHeight 6’0”6’0” WeightWeight 101 101

lbslbs Dress SizeDress Size 44 BustBust 39”39” WaistWaist 19”19” HipsHips 33”33”

Average WomanAverage Woman BarbieBarbie

What Men Think! What Men Think!

When you wear hootchie-wear, you are putting When you wear hootchie-wear, you are putting out an invitation. out an invitation. If your body is not for sale, then you should not If your body is not for sale, then you should not

appear to be advertising it!appear to be advertising it! What is really being promoted is the idea that What is really being promoted is the idea that

their bodies are for show, for the pleasure of their bodies are for show, for the pleasure of others, not sacred temples.others, not sacred temples.

God made us different….. God made us different…..

Men are visual, there is a difference between Men are visual, there is a difference between dressing attractively and dressing to attract. dressing attractively and dressing to attract.

Men are going to finish the picture, a little skin Men are going to finish the picture, a little skin goes a long ways.goes a long ways.

Let guys love you for who you are on the Let guys love you for who you are on the inside.inside.

Men give intimacy in hopes of getting sex and Men give intimacy in hopes of getting sex and women give sex in hopes of getting intimacy women give sex in hopes of getting intimacy and relationships.and relationships.

Modesty starts with the heartModesty starts with the heart David was to blame for his adulterous affair, but David was to blame for his adulterous affair, but

Bathsheba was also partly to blame…2 Sam 11:1-4Bathsheba was also partly to blame…2 Sam 11:1-4

Adorn yourselves with good works and Adorn yourselves with good works and righteous character!righteous character!

Be a light to the world! Be a light to the world! "Glorify God in your body and in your spirit" "Glorify God in your body and in your spirit"

What God Thinks What God Thinks

How to get to a Healthy Place, How to get to a Healthy Place, Start with a Heart Check…Start with a Heart Check…

What statement do my clothes make about my heart?What statement do my clothes make about my heart? In choosing what clothes to wear today, whose attention do I In choosing what clothes to wear today, whose attention do I

desire and whose approval do I crave?desire and whose approval do I crave? Am I seeking to please God or impress others?Am I seeking to please God or impress others? Is what I wear consistent with biblical values of modesty, self-Is what I wear consistent with biblical values of modesty, self-

control and respectable apparel, or does my dress reveal an control and respectable apparel, or does my dress reveal an inordinate identification and fascination with sinful cultural inordinate identification and fascination with sinful cultural values?values?

Who am I trying to identify with through my dress? Is the Who am I trying to identify with through my dress? Is the Word of God my standard or is the latest fashion?Word of God my standard or is the latest fashion?

Have I asked other godly individuals to evaluate my Have I asked other godly individuals to evaluate my wardrobe?wardrobe?

Does my clothing reveal an allegiance to the gospel or is there Does my clothing reveal an allegiance to the gospel or is there any contradiction between my profession of faith and my any contradiction between my profession of faith and my practice of godliness?practice of godliness?

Modesty Heart Check, by Carolyn Mahaney, Nicole Whitacre, Kristin Chesemore and Janelle Bradshaw

Hottie, not a HootchieHottie, not a Hootchie Our dress is a reflection of who we are – if your personality Our dress is a reflection of who we are – if your personality

is conservative, you will dress conservative; if you’re is conservative, you will dress conservative; if you’re outgoing, your dress will be “louder”.outgoing, your dress will be “louder”.

Teens are no different, except theirs is primarily based on their level Teens are no different, except theirs is primarily based on their level of self-confidence. of self-confidence.

Be an encourager, not a discourager, be careful the way you Be an encourager, not a discourager, be careful the way you speak!speak!

Change has to come from the inside outChange has to come from the inside out we cannot change them, only God can, so we need to PRAYwe cannot change them, only God can, so we need to PRAY we need to FOCUS pouring on constant encouragement and positive we need to FOCUS pouring on constant encouragement and positive

words into their lives words into their lives If you “don’t like” their dress/style, but it is modest, just get If you “don’t like” their dress/style, but it is modest, just get

over it and tell them they are beautiful. Their taste WILL be over it and tell them they are beautiful. Their taste WILL be different than yours, and that’s ok! Let her be herself, not different than yours, and that’s ok! Let her be herself, not you!you!

Is it YOUR style, probably Is it YOUR style, probably not, but is it modest, YES, so not, but is it modest, YES, so get over it! Most phases pass, get over it! Most phases pass, so be patient! so be patient!

They’re NOT you!They’re NOT you! Be a YES mom whenever Be a YES mom whenever

possible! (Don’t be a possible! (Don’t be a “because I said so” mom!)“because I said so” mom!)

Don’t major on the minor!Don’t major on the minor!

DIFFERENT can be OK!DIFFERENT can be OK!