chris miller's big five for life
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A Letter to My Board of Advisors
The purpose of this letter is to let you know of my continued commitment to improving upon myself. I am
revamping my board of advisors that includes successful individuals from various industries and all walks of life to
exchange ideas, critique my strategies, and help me learn the necessary skills to accomplish both my personal and
professional aspirations. I have a deep respect for your success and would like to draw upon your experience and
wisdom as I take on the project of continuous improvement of myself and the world around me.
Your participation would require that you meet with me individually once a year for lunch or dinner (unless Ive
already arranged more frequent meetings with you in particular). At this meeting, I will do my best to pry more on
the topic of you rather than the contrary. Given enough time we will discuss my vision and introduce my strategies
for the coming year. In addition, I will share with you the problems that I am facing and would like for you to help
me find ways around these problems to allow me to continue to grow.
In exchange, you get a free meal and my undivided attention as to how in the world I could help you and your
organization move forward as well.
Most of the following will be discussed in the first meeting, however writing it down sure helps me stay on track.
If I Had $200,000,000
At the age of 19 years old I picked up a book called Tested in the Trenches. TNT was written by Ron Carson, one of
the top 100 financial advisors in the world, just so happened to have his office a few streets away from the bank I
was working at the time so I was curious. Rather than getting lessons on investing and time management, the
book hit more on the subject of life priorities. A question was posed in the book that has forever changed my life.
If you had $200,000,000 (Two Hundred Million) and 5 years to live, what would you do? And a further catch is that
your to-do list can only be 5 items long. Choose Wisely
A self-imposed bucket list of sorts designed to guide your life in a more meaningful way. As instructed, I took out apiece of paper and wrote down my list, made a bunch of revisions, and eventually came to:
1) Make Sure all the People in My Life I Care About Most Know What they Mean to Me
2) Quit my Job
3) Buy a House
4) Buy a Corvette
5) See the World
After I finished my list I got to it right away (I only had 5 years and the clock was ticking!!!) I began typing an email
to the girl of my dreams who had recently broke up with me. That email turned into my first published book that
gave credit to my family, my siblings, and my closest friends for being the wonderful people they are. The book
also achieved its underlying purpose, which was to force myself to be in a position where personal shame and
hesitation to chase after what I wanted became a thing of the past.
That one house I bought after I quit my job working at the bank has turned into my first baby business that is now
all grown up and taking care of itself. It afforded me the opportunity to buy a shiny yellow corvette that I have put
50,000 miles on in less than a year and a half seeing as much of the world as possible. I made the promise to see
all fifty states before I used my passport, so I intentionally handicapped my geographic reach. Although we have
some unfinished business with the last item, I am blessed to have had the opportunities and am proud I took
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advantage when action was needed, and in turn I have been able to cross off every item of this list. I have zero,
zilch, none, not even a sliver of regrets of the things I have done with my life ever since I put together that list.
Mistakes were inevitable and I may have set a record for how many mistakes can be made in such a short time
span. But they were important to be made and I am glad to have made them early.
Besides making a dumb promise to wait to use my passport, I feel I made two tragic mistakes with my original list.
First, the goals werent big enough. I bargained with life for a penny, and that is all it was willing to bear. Second,
the to-do list items all had an end game, a finish line, a stopping point (although one house has turned into a
handful, and lord only knows what my corvette collection will turn into) at any rate I need a new to do list that will
keep me out of trouble for the rest of my life, one that may never be fulfilled.
Part of my quest to cross off #5 led me to spend much of my time living in Tampa, FL. There I bumped into an
angel of a human being in meeting Carissa Caricato. Little did she know about my own list, we had dinner one
night and she shared with me a philosophy called the Big Five. The phrase Big Five game was coined by big game
hunters and refers to the five most difficult animals in Africa to hunt on foot. Subsequently the term was adopted
by Safari tour operators for marketing purposes. The term is still used in most tourist and wildlife guides that
discuss African wildlife safaris. The idea is that no one flies halfway around the world to eat a Big Mac and to get a
sun tan. More important things are to be had, like seeing the Big Five! This is a philosophy that should be applied
to everyones lives, not just to our African itineraries.
The collection consists of the African elephant, black rhinoceros, Cape buffalo, lion, and the leopard. The members
of the Big Five were chosen for the difficulty in hunting them and the degree of danger involved, rather than their
size. Much like a safari, our lives may be better served focusing on chasing down our own Big Five, and the higher
the difficulty, the higher the fulfillment once caught!
Shortly after I had begun to see my old list completed, I started to get bored, depressed, bitter, and a bunch of
other unpleasant things. After taking some time to step away from the hustle and bustle of my life, I have
determined it was time to throw out my old list and create something new.
Without further ado, I give you
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MY NEW BIG 5!!!
#1 - See the World!
No better way to start off the next list with what you feel didnt get fully completed off of the last list (one way
management consultants and efficiency coaches have taught me to make my daily to do lists). Although I have
traveled nearly every interstate our great nation has to offer, will have stepped foot in all 50 states by the end of
this summer, and seen things I never thought I could imagine without ever leaving the borders of the United States
of America, the time has come. I must use my passport. Bring on the new languages, new currencies, and possibly
new diseases my body can in no way prepare for on its own. I could not be more excited at this point in my life to
do anything else. Italy, Switzerland, Germany, Czech Republic, Brazil, Ecuador, Guatemala, Nicaragua, Venezuela,
and Australia round out my top ten list. I cant wait!
#2 - Invest Quality Time with Those That Are Moving Boldly Forward in Life
Besides traveling, nothing brings me more happiness than being around other people that make me feel like I am
moving too slow or being too cautious. Nothing brings me more frustration or pain than being around those who
live their lives in fear and caution and try to impose that fear and caution onto others, regardless of how educated
or caring their opinion is. Although the pedal cant be placed to the medal at all times, it is obvious which
individuals live their lives in a fulfilled, outwardly way rather than in a way that makes them and everyone around
them shrink. If nothing else happens the rest of my life other than meeting more wonderful people that are boldly
moving forward, I believe the rest of my life will be assuredly exciting, fulfilling, memorable, and meaningful.
#3 - Find Herand Catch Her
Over the years Ive been kicked in the teeth and all for the better when it comes to women. I have learned finding
the one isnt all that difficult, its the sticking together and having them love you back the same way is the tricky
part I have yet to master. Three times I have had found the one and was prepared to spend the rest of my life with
them. They had other plans, and I congratulate them for moving on at the time and doing what their heart told
them was right, even though it busted mine into two. As business proceeded and my personal development
matured, I have become somewhat picky, but extremely sure of what I am looking for in a better half. Previously, I
was after someone who had the qualities of confidence, tact, and humor. Pick two out of the three and you have a
wonderful girl, but two and only two leaves problems being passive or weak without confidence, being cocky and
rude without tact, and being no fun without a little bit of humor! I see so many of my peers settle down with
significant others that didnt seem to have everything they were after, and I hear them find ways to justify how
they didnt have forever to pick a the perfect one or had to settle for this reason or that or justify ways of how she
is perfect for him, the clock was ticking and they had to choose or lose I dont subscribe to that nonsense. Find
exactly what you want or dont settle with anything at all! (But do die trying).
Add to that list of characteristics my biggest pet peeve in life wherepeople know what they want, have it right in
front of them, but dont take action to get it. Well, when you apply action:
- Confidence Becomes A Strong Leader
- Tact Creates Someone with A Big Heart
- Humor Blossoms into A Free Spirit
These are the three biggest things I try to facilitate not only in my life, but also in the lives of others, and I believe
they are the things I would value above everything else when it comes to a relationship. My aim is to find a
woman that naturally embodies these three values and recognizes and appreciates them in me just as I do in her.
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#4 - Create an Institution That Leaves a Legacy
Gentleman not too distant from me have created some amazing things in one lifetime from scratch! Things like
Berkshire Hathaway (Warren Buffett), the Nebraska Football Team (Bob Devaney and Tom Osborne), BoysTown
(Father Flanagan), the Collegiate Entrepreneurs Organization (Gerry Hills), all amazing organizations that continue
to positively change the course of peoples lives and will continue to do so long after the gentlemen behind thefounding efforts are long gone from this world.
I keep coming back to one idea: How are any of these gentlemen any different than me?
They had 10 fingers and toes just as I do, and more importantly they were visionaries who fought to find and
facilitate the good in others (a strong suit of mine I believe), never settled for the status quo, and werent afraid to
sacrifice everything they had for the betterment of the organizat ion, something Ive proven to do time and time
again without hesitating.
The things getting in my way however, may be lack of focus, too much generosity at times, lack of life balance, and
short term obsessive thinking paired with a shiny object syndrome rather than alignment with one end goal.
Communicating the vision, executing the plan, and sticking to the core values are what I mostly need help with.It is inherently what I am most interested in learning more about you. What is your vision for the future? How
might I help you execute a plan of your own? What are your core values? This kind of stuff really excites me!
#5 - Continue to Learn
Whenever I get too far away from accelerated learning, my life becomes much less fulfilling. I may never become a
professor, but if it werent for business that would be my dream profession. The classroom is a place that has a
soft spot in my heart, as it has failed to stop opening my mind as well as opening doors of opportunity. Recently,
however, I have become a bit lost as the typical classroom, even at the MBA level (both at UNO and the University
of Tampa) things are no longer opening my mind the way the classroom has in the past. I have climbed the
learning curve of a beginning entrepreneur and run of the mill business books that teach important skills are no
longer interesting to me (as well as professors that do not have an amazing story to tell)
After looking around at all my different options for a masters level education (MIT, Harvard, UC-Berkeley, UNO,
University of Tampa, etc) Ive actually come to realize I am selling myself short much in the same fashion I pigeon
holed myself by traveling the 50 states first. Ive discovered some interesting abnormalities in the difference
between price and value between the educational options America has to offer vs. Europe, especially if you
compare the ETH of America (MIT) to the cost of attending the real ETH in Zurich, which is also home to some of
the most powerful banks in the world. Other than some of the best banking institutions, Switzerland has some of
the greatest minds when it comes to philosophy and engineering, I think I will be a fish in water there. I hope the
next five years leaves me feeling just as alive as the last five years have when it comes to the classroom.
Conclusion
Hopefully, this letter shows you the direction that I intend to steer my life. Ive been given a wonderful
opportunity to have an important impact on the world. Thanks to kind individuals such as yourself you have
helped me reach my dreams at a very young age, and I strive to put just as much back into the system as I take out.
Its my pleasure to grow closer to you and spend more time with you to take advantage of that opportunity. I will
not be offended in any way shape or form if your life obligations and goals or your mindset does not align with
mine. Please do not be offended if I learn through our meetings that mine may not be aligned with yours.
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Top Advisor Recruits
Returning Faces
Name (Profession or Characteristic Id Like to Glean From) Purpose of Our Meetings / Skill Desired
Ted Vasko (Banking and Commercial Real Estate) Putting Family First While Building a Successful Business
Dana Webb (Financial Advising) Personal Financial Strategy and Capital (Cash flow) Management
Van Deeb (Sales and Motivation) Ethical Guardrails, Believing in and Developing Others
Brian Petranick (Franchisor) Scalability of Business, Systems and Processes
Frank DeMonbrun (Corporate Strategy) Discipline in All Things Business / From Launch to Scale
Jerry Reimer (Real Estate Developer)Project Management and Creating the Conditions
New Blood
Bert Murray (Contracting) Being Fair, Firm, Friendly, and True to Your Faith All at the Same Time
Carissa Caricato (Non Profit Leadership) Enlightened Leadership and Spiritual Development
Fritz Disque (Tech Startups and Financial Literacy) Hedging the Systems, World Travel
Rob Nicholson (Vertical Integration in the Public Sector) Mentoring and Developing Young Managers/Champions
Duane Spires (Marketing) Bold, yet Common Sensical Marketing Strategies
Ron Osborne (Technology Development)Enduring Towards a Vision, Applied Technology
Rodger King (Nuclear Engineering) Applying an Education from Harvard into the World of Business and Finance
Daniel Gomez (Green Energy and Social Networking) Life Balance
Ray Land (Travel and Tourism and iOS App Dev) How to Enjoy Every Day to the Fullest
Syl Orsi (Lawyer/Securities Law and Real Estate Development) Legal Matters and Giving Back to the Community
Keith Hemmer/Regan Else/David Drobnik (CPAs) Tax Matters and Managerial Accounting
My Favorite Italian Gal, Nancy Calinger (Art of Dealing with People) How to Win Friends and Influence People /Italian Language and Culture Immersion
My Favorite German Gal, Gerda (Old Fashioned Work Ethic) German Language and Culture Immersion