chapter 8 managing conflict in relationships managing conflict in relationships
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Chapter 8Chapter 8
Managing Conflictin Relationships
Managing Conflictin Relationships
The Break Up (2006)The Break Up (2006)
A negative interaction between two or more interdependent people, rooted in some actual or perceived disagreement
A negative interaction between two or more interdependent people, rooted in some actual or perceived disagreement
ConflictConflict
The way we engage in conflict and address disagreements with our relational partners
The way we engage in conflict and address disagreements with our relational partners
Conflict ManagementConflict Management
Unproductive ConflictUnproductive Conflict Conflict that is managed poorly Has a negative impact on the
individuals and the relationship Can lead to health problems Leads to aggression in the
relationship
Conflict that is managed poorly Has a negative impact on the
individuals and the relationship Can lead to health problems Leads to aggression in the
relationship
Productive ConflictProductive Conflict Conflict that is managed
effectively
Fosters healthy debate
Leads to better decision making
Spurs relationship growth
Conflict that is managed effectively
Fosters healthy debate
Leads to better decision making
Spurs relationship growth
Inaccurate perceptions
Unbalanced costs and rewards
Incompatible goalsProvocation
Inaccurate perceptions
Unbalanced costs and rewards
Incompatible goalsProvocation
Conflict TriggersConflict Triggers
Power DynamicsDifferences in power
related to: Resources Feelings Anything the other
values
Power DynamicsDifferences in power
related to: Resources Feelings Anything the other
values
Factors Affecting ConflictFactors Affecting Conflict
Attitudes Toward Conflict Affect how willing you are to
discuss disagreements Affect how productively you
handle conflict Communication boundary
management
Attitudes Toward Conflict Affect how willing you are to
discuss disagreements Affect how productively you
handle conflict Communication boundary
management
Factors Affecting ConflictFactors Affecting Conflict
Culture and Conflict Individualistic cultures
Emphasize personal needs, rights, and identity
“I” attitude
Collectivistic cultures Emphasize group identity and
needs “We” attitude
Culture and Conflict Individualistic cultures
Emphasize personal needs, rights, and identity
“I” attitude
Collectivistic cultures Emphasize group identity and
needs “We” attitude
Factors Affecting ConflictFactors Affecting Conflict
Culture and Conflict Religious differences Gender differences
Criticism and complaints Contempt Defensiveness Stonewalling
Culture and Conflict Religious differences Gender differences
Criticism and complaints Contempt Defensiveness Stonewalling
Factors Affecting ConflictFactors Affecting Conflict
Communication Channel Poor channel choices can lead to
conflict Appropriate Channels?
Communication Channel Poor channel choices can lead to
conflict Appropriate Channels?
Factors Affecting ConflictFactors Affecting Conflict
Escapist Strategies Try to prevent or avoid direct
conflict Can be safety reasons, practical
reasons, or strategic reasons for this strategy
Escapist Strategies Try to prevent or avoid direct
conflict Can be safety reasons, practical
reasons, or strategic reasons for this strategy
Strategies for Managing ConflictStrategies for Managing Conflict
Challenging Strategies Assertiveness Get what you want without
letting anxiety, guilt, or embarrassment get in the way
One partner wins and the other loses
Challenging Strategies Assertiveness Get what you want without
letting anxiety, guilt, or embarrassment get in the way
One partner wins and the other loses
Strategies for Managing ConflictStrategies for Managing Conflict
Cooperative Strategies Focus on issues Debate and argue Consider options and alternatives Consider the importance of the
outcome Reassure your partner
Cooperative Strategies Focus on issues Debate and argue Consider options and alternatives Consider the importance of the
outcome Reassure your partner
Strategies for Managing ConflictStrategies for Managing Conflict
Compromise Both sides give up a little to get a
little Can be arrived at through:
Trading Random selection
Has disadvantages for long-term important relationships
Compromise Both sides give up a little to get a
little Can be arrived at through:
Trading Random selection
Has disadvantages for long-term important relationships
Conflict OutcomesConflict Outcomes
Win-Win Both parties meet their
own goals Each party helps the
other party with his/her goals
The relationship is improved
Win-Win Both parties meet their
own goals Each party helps the
other party with his/her goals
The relationship is improved
Conflict OutcomesConflict Outcomes
Lose-LoseNeither party gets what they want
SeparationRemove yourself from the situation to
end the conflictAllocation of Power
Take responsibility for some decisions
Lose-LoseNeither party gets what they want
SeparationRemove yourself from the situation to
end the conflictAllocation of Power
Take responsibility for some decisions
Conflict OutcomesConflict Outcomes