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Features32 FallingForIt Sophisticated autumn dcor ideas

44TheMaineAttraction Wedding venues in Maine

52FallFantasies Gorgeous autumn weddings

FeaturedVenues

60 Crystal Lake Golf Club

66 Publick House

70 Vals Restaurant

Articles36 WeddingPlanning2.0 Using social media to plan your wedding

40 WeddingContracts Reading the fine print

48 GoLocal,GoFair Going beyond green

56 BryansBliss Interview with celebrity wedding planner Bryan Rafanelli

74 FamilyFeuds How to minimize conflict during wedding planning

Honeymoons84 WaikikiandBeyond A honeymoon in Oahu

88 LoveandLuxuryinCancn A first-class honeymoon in Mexico

Planning Guide76 HandletheStresswithFinesse 9 ways to stay calm during the wedding planning process

80 EditorsPicks Product reviews

82 InspirationRound-Up

In every issue10 LetterfromtheEditor

12 TyingtheKnot Recently engaged local couples

18 B&GQ&A Ladybug Florists

NearbyNuptials20 Jenifer & Manny

24 Joanna & Mentar

28 Tessa & Justin

Directories92 FunctionFacilityGuide

96 WeddingResourcesGuide

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Happy fall! Im thrilled to introduce my-self as the new Editor of Bride & Groom. Im looking forward to helping you achieve your perfect wedding goals by providing you

with loads of useful planning ideas, inspira-tion, and advice in every issue. While planning my wedding last year, I

often found myself stopping and thinking, Why am I even doing this? I was con-stantly stressed, the bills kept creeping up, and at night my mind raced with all kinds of doubts: What if no one shows up? What if it rains? What if someone hits a moose on their way home from the reception? (You read that rightI actually freaked out about moose. It was a rural Maine wedding, alright?).Every bride experiences some variation

of these same doubts in the months, weeks, days, and even hours leading up to her wed-ding. However, one thing rises above these fearsreal and ridiculousto lift us up and remember why we put ourselves through all of this: Love! Love for our fiancs, love for our families, and love for our dreams. What better way to express your huge, enormous, words-arent-enough feelings for your one

and only than through a meaningful ceremo-ny and a big party? What better way to show your parents how much they mean to you than by letting them be part of one of the most important moments of your life? What better way to fulfill your childhood fantasies than by stepping out in an ensemble that makes you feel amazing?In this issue well help you discover ways

to fulfill all of your dreams while also help-ing you head off some of the stresses that come with planning the biggest party of your life. On page 32 youll find ideas for deco-rating the oh-so-beautiful New England fall wedding, as well as a pictorial on page 52 featuring scenes from actual fall weddings shot by some of the best photographers in the biz. And make sure you check out Nearby Nuptials on pages 20, 24 and 28 for advice and inspiration from real New England weddings.Before I go, Id like to say how excited

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Tracy Clark and Justin Eisnor Worcester, MA

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lowers: Theyre more than just an accessorythey serve as an accent; a highlight; a colorful flourish to your wedding. When you walk down the aisle, your guestsapart from oohing and aahing at the sight of youtake note of your elegant bouquet; as they take their seats at the reception, they marvel at the colorful center-pieces. So when it comes to blossoms and blooms, theres no doubt that you want to make an impression. LadybugFlorist in Oxford, Massachusetts can help you do just that: Since June

2005, under the tutelage of owner Mary Tolic and with the designs of Heather Shee-han and Stacey Towle, the shop has crafted hundreds of beautiful arrangements for weddings large and small. From simple bouquets to elaborate centerpieces, Ladybugs talented designers can bring practically any vision to life.We talked with manager Heather Sheehan to get the inside scoop on Ladybug

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materials. We are seeing more and more nat-ural organic hand-tied designs. The brides are gathering ideas from social media sites such as Pinterest. Pinterest allows them to explore the most updated flower trends that the traditional wedding books dont offer.

How far in advance should couples order their flowers?

We suggest six to twelve months, just to get the process going. Then we finalize things about eight weeks before the wed-ding . . . Sometimes, by then, couples have completely changed their minds about what they want.

What sets Ladybug Florist apart from other florists?

We pride ourselves on friendly, per-sonalized service. Our confidence lies in the many years of experience in the floral in-dustry. Our attention to detail is second to none. From hand-picking our flowers from our trusted suppliers to ensure only the finest and freshest stock are utilized in our designs, to pinning the boutonnieres on the wedding party, we are there from start to finish.

Our goal is to exceed the expectations of our valuable clientele. We understand that flowers are but one important element among many on the Big Day. We want our brides to be confident that they can con-centrate on having the time of their life on this most memorable day and that every-thing is perfect. We are also proud recipi-ents of 2012 Peoples Choice Award and the 2013 One Enchanted Evening - Dream Wedding Award.

Whats your advice for couples on their big day?

Its one of the single-most defin-ing days of your marriage. You want it to be memorable. You just want to relax and enjoy the day. Let everybody else take care of the details.

How did you get into the flower business?

I grew up in it. My grandfather owned greenhouses, and then my mom had a flower shop. Ive been in it for more than twenty years. Whats kept me in it is my love of flowers, the gratification. I love what I do.

How do you work with couples to create their perfect arrangements?

During the initial consultation with our bride, the main goal is to pinpoint the vision she has. Every bride is as unique as the end product of our floral designs. After learning exactly what the colors of

the wedding parties attire is, we offer our bride a color pallet to work with. We edu-cate our bride of all the varieties of flowers available, glassware, and added accessories desired while keeping in mind her budget.It is most important that our bride gain

a true understanding for the color scheme, variety of flower, and style of arrangements available to her, among other things. We want her to be well aware of current trends so she can be confident when her final deci-sions are made. From the bridal party, cen-terpieces, and cake decorations, we lay out all the possible options. After our initial meeting, the Ladybug staff and our bride have a sound foundation for a working plan to bring together all she dreamed of for her Big Day.

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Their storyJenifer Teran and Emmanuel Olivier met under what some might consider slightly unusual cir-cumstances. Many couples speak dreamily of their first date as a carefully planned event pre-ceded by hours of meticulous preparation. Not so with Jeni and Manny.After a sleepless night on April 1, 2009, Jeni

answered the door for the cable installer, whom she had been expecting. I didnt care if I was just rolling out of bed when someone came to install my cable, says Jeni. I rolled out of bed, no makeup, sweatpants, messy hair with a base-ball cap thrown on. When I opened the door, it definitely wasnt the fat old man I had planned on. It was a guy my age, and good looking, too! I was caught off guard for sure!Manny was also caught off guard. It was

April Fools Day and my co-worker asked me to take his job because he was running behind, says Manny. When I got there, I saw this beau-tiful young lady looking like she just got out of bed. So I proceeded to do the job and I told her I would give her a call to make sure that she was all set and weve never stopped talking.

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Jeni and Mannys engagement was as un-derstated as their first meeting, but definitely not lacking in romance. One night while preparing to watch a movie, Manny asked me to go into the kitchen to get him some iced tea, says Jeni. When I came back into the living room Manny was on his knees in front of the couch. I didnt think much of it, because, being a cable guy, he was always crawling around messing with wiring or something else. When I sat back on the couch and looked up at him, he was there with my dream ring, asking me to spend the rest of my life with him.After four years, being with Manny

still gives me butterflies, says Jeni. I cant imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. I finally found my man. Says Manny of his fairytale relationship with Jeni: I guess you never see it coming but Im glad it did come my way. Im talking about love. What a wonderful feeling! Im so happy to have someone special who I love more than words can say.

PlanningJeni and Manny spent just three months planning their wedding. Yup, Im crazy and work best under major pressure, says Jeni. We were paying for everything ourselves and on a tight budget, which would have disappeared on bills and life had we taken too long to put everything together. Jeni did the majority of the planning herself, but re-lied on her mother for support throughout the process. She was a major support and help through everything. Manny didnt play much of a role. Not because he wouldnt, but because once I have a vision I run with it, and he was more than happy to let me do that.Many brides would admittedly crash while

flying solo through a whirlwind engagement, and while stress did peek its head out from time to time, Jeni has no regrets concerning her decisions. It was a busy three months, but it worked out great for us. After going through that madness and knowing what I know now, if given the choice to go back and re-do it, I wouldnt change a thing!

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DetailsJeni and Manny knew that their wedding would be anything but typical. I knew I wouldnt be having a traditional day or wearing a white dress, says Jeni, so the search was on for a wedding-worthy purple one. When she couldnt find a dress that fit within her budget, Jeni took matters into her own handsliterally. My family thought Id gone off the deep end considering Ive never sewn in my life. My inspiration gown had material that flowed like feathers, so I thought, why not make my gown with actu-al feathers? I started with a very simple and plain purple dress that I purchased online, and turned it into my dream dress. Jeni was so inspired by the results of her

handiwork that she let her unique vision flow into the design of the overall dcor as well. The feathers on my gown sparked inspira-tion for a lot of the other dcor. It was fun

and creative and replaced any flowers that you would typically see for things like bou-quets and centerpiecesI wanted my wed-ding to be different, but class and elegance were still very important to me. I think my vision was accomplished nicely.

AdviceTake time away from everyone, just the two of you, even if its only five minutes away to reflect on the day, says Jeni. Id also like to add that couples on a very tight budget can have a beautiful wedding if they are willing to be open mindedEven though we didnt have some costly extras or the fanciest reception site, it was us and it was perfect. It really is only a few hours and most of it is hard to remember. What was most impor-tant to me was that I ended up married to the man I love.

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Their storyJoanna Trainor and Mentar Dukas story began at a Boston Bruins game in 2010, where they met through Joannas friend, Gledi, who is also Mentars cousin. The two met again a few weeks later at Gledis birthday party. Joanna was dazzled by Mentars outfit (a three-piece suit with a hot pink tie) and the two chatted and flirted over Jack and Diets. The rest was history.Two years later, Mentar surprised Joanna

with an after-work dinner in Boston. Joanna was admittedly confused when they arrived at Top of the Hub, a place the couple normally only frequented on special occasions. I didnt have a clue what was happening, says Joanna. At the table, Mentar asked to speak to the

Sommelier. After a long conversation, they set-tled on a French red wine that the Sommelier said had changed his life. Mentar replied, Who knows, man? Maybe my life will change, too. I thought it was odd, but then the food arrived so I forgot about it, says Joanna.

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Between courses, Mentar reached into his pocket, pulled out a box, and asked Joanna to be his wife. Her answer: Seriously?

PlanningWe started planning the wedding the day after we got engaged, so it took about ten months to pull all the details together, says Joanna. Both Joanna and Mentar took an equal part in planning. Splitting up tasks and making decisions together made the day that much more special to both of us.Of course, the couple experienced the

requisite wedding-planning stress, but their eyes on the prize attitude kept them posi-tive throughout the entire process. Some-times you get stressed out, but it is such a good feeling because its something I used to dream all my life to get married to the woman I love, says Mentar. Says Joanna of the stress: As much as it was stressful, ev-erything truly fell into place for us. We had a vision and kept going back to it. We tried to make the ten months of planning into a long celebration rather than let the stress get to us.

DetailsWith Joannas Scandinavian roots and Mentars Albanian heritage, their wedding was truly a blending of cultures. We have been to Albanian/American weddings in the past that were very segregated, and that was the number-one thing we did not want, says Joanna. We wanted as many people as pos-sible at our wedding as a way to thank them for being an integral part of creating who we are as adults, she adds. The couple kicked off their reception

with a slideshow showing hundreds of pho-tos from their childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood. It was a total hit, and hilarious! says Joanna.In order to include their friends and rela-

tives who couldnt attend their wedding in person, Joanna and Mentar streamed their wedding live online. At first, live streaming seemed a bit over the top, but when we real-ized how many friends and relatives all over the world would not be able to travel to Bos-ton, we felt it was really important for them to witness our vows. We heard from relatives on both sides of the family who enjoyed be-ing there virtually!

Johanna and Mentars united celebration wouldnt be complete without some tradi-tional Albanian dancing, so they helped their guests perform the Valle, a dance that re-quires all the wedding guests to go around in circles using a few steps. To be sure that all our American guests felt welcome, we called up some Albanian friends to help teach ev-eryone the steps. The highlight of the reception was a trib-

ute to Joannas father, Jerry, who passed away eighteen years earlier. Jerry was the

manager of a softball team, so Joanna couldnt think of a better way to honor her father than to have the his team members be a part of her father-daughter dance. Joanna danced with five of her softball dads to the

We tried to make the ten months of planning into a long celebration rather than let the stress get to us.



song, Roots before Branches. In addition to the dance, Joanna and Mentar honored Jerry with a tribute video put together by Jerrys lifelong friend, Jack.

Guest commentsIm sure all couples say this, but everyone we run into since the wedding says it was the most fun theyve had at a wedding ever. The second compliment is for the media and pictures we includedthe video about my father and the slideshow of everyone grow-ing up were really moving tributes to our families.

AdviceDo as much as you can early on, says Joanna. Theres no need to wait on some thingsAlso, pay your bills early. Its so much harder to enjoy that last month as you are shelling out cash left and right.The couples last piece of advice: Write

thank-you cards as you receive your gifts. We were diligent in writing down each gift we got, but why didnt we write the thank-you cards as we opened the presents? Leave a pile of thank-you cards wherever you are opening your gifts.

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Photographer: Kristin Griffin Photography, Halifax, MA. kristingriffinphotography.com

Cake: Montilios, Braintree, MA. montilios.com

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Videographer: Ware River Studios, Rutland, MA. wareriver.com

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Their storyLike so many modern couples, Tessa Landry and Justin Marcoux initially connected online. After a virtual wink and an e-mail, the couple met up for their first date at Applebees during the summer of 2010. Tessa braved the blind date alone, but Justin brought his best friend. My first impression of Justin was that he was very handsome and funny, Tessa says. He was down to earth, smart, and I loved how our con-versations were never boring. I think he was more nervous at that first meeting than I was.Justin and Tessa got engaged on a warm sum-

mer night about a year after their first date. After hitting a bucket of golf balls at a local driving range, Justin spontaneously suggested the two take a drive. I found this strange because Jus-tin never likes to aimlessly drive around, Tessa says. We ended up at Common Fence Point in Portsmouth, Rhode Island. Tessa fondly recalls the magic of that evening: The Mount Hope

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bridge was shining in the background and the weather was clear and warm. Justin got down on one knee and asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. At first, an incredulous Tessa thought Justin was joking, but she soon realized that this was no joke. He got up, we kissed, and fireworks went off by the bridge! It was so incredible, since he hadnt planned for the fireworks at all. Afterwards, the couple went to Justins fam-ily home to share the good news. It turned out that spot runs in the familyhis parents got engaged there many years before!

PlanningWe booked our venue exactly one year to the date before our wedding, and we had been making plans for about two months before we settled on the location. Planning for over a year really helped us make calm

and considered choices, and we didnt have to feel rushed.Teamwork played a big role in the plan-

ning of Tessa and Justins fall affair. We planned the wedding together, says Tessa. I handled all the aesthetic details and deco-rating, color choices and flowers, while Jus-tin kept track of the finances. I was fortu-nate enough to have a wedding planner in the family, so I went to her for advice. Says Justin of their team approach: It helped to break down the tasks between us and focus on our strengths.To keep costs down, the couple went the

way of the DIY movement, taking the mak-ing of some of their wedding elements into their own hands. I took small gourds and attached round tags to them to display the table numbers, then included maple leaves we made with a paper punch. For our favors,

we did a candy buffet, which was a huge hit with our guests and featured some of our fa-vorite sweets.

DetailsTessa and Justin had no doubts about what kind of ceremony they wanted. Justin and I wanted a traditional Catholic Church wed-ding, Tessa says. It was very important to Justin to be married at St. Annes in Fall River. Both of us went to Catholic school and we wanted to receive our sacrament of marriage in the church. Tessa expressed her closeness to her family

throughout many facets of the ceremony and reception. Unfortunately, my father passed away in 2006, so my brother, Jason, walked me down the aisle, says Tessa. I shared my father-daughter dance song with my other brother, Matthew. The DJ displayed a slideshow of photographs of the three of us growing up during the dance, which was a surprise to my brothers, and everyone en-joyed it. My bouquet was also very special to me, since we attached my grandmothers handkerchief that she carried to my aunts wedding. Since my grandmother couldnt be with us on wedding day, it was a great reminder of her.When choosing a song for their first dance,

Tessa and Justin harkened back to their early days as a couple. When Justin and I first

Everyone will have advice for you, but its your day, so do what makes you happy.



started dating, we made each other mix CDs with our favorite songs that reminded us of each other. The CD I made for Justin was filled with sappy love songs, while his had more classic rock. One of the songs on his CD was Tangled up in You by Aaron Lewis. When it came time to choose our first dance song, we immediately went back to Lewiss song. It was simple and fit us well.

Favorite part of the dayIll never forget the first-look moments we did with my brothers, says Tessa. It was so

special for me to see their reactions to their little sister all dressed up for her wedding. Ill also never forget the first words Justin said to me as I met him at the altar. He said that I looked beautiful, and at that moment all my anxiety just disappeared. During the reception, Justin and I got some time to our-selves on the deck of the country club. It had been raining all day, but the weather let up, so we went out for a quiet moment and a few photographs together. It was great to have some time to reflect and be together in the middle of the day.

Guest commentsI think the most talked about detail of our wedding was my blue heels, Tessa says. I wanted to wear something blue, and on the morning of the wedding, my bridesmaids put rhinestones on the bottom of the heels that said I Do. It was very cute.

AdviceIf I could give any advice to engaged cou-ples, it would be to tell them to stop and take a moment during the wedding day to relax and take it all in, says Tessa. Everyone will have advice for you, but its your day, so do what makes you happy. It might seem silly to others, but if something makes your day more meaningful, then go for it. Invite those that mean the most to you and just have a great time.

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Sophisticated Autumn Dcor Ideas

Falling For ItF all is quintessential New England. The blaze of colors, the apple-picking, pumpkin carving, the crisp air . . . all are reasons thousands

of visitors are drawn to the region during the few fleeting weeks of

autumn each year. And if you choose to wed during New Englands

most cherished season, there are many subtle and sophisticated ways

you can work its splendors into the ambiance of your celebration.

Its a fabulous time to visit the area, says Paula Marrero of

Marrero Events, based in Boston and Danvers. Its just a great time

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Start with InvitesInfuse fall into your festivities from the get-go with your save-the-date announcements and invitations, which set the tone for your wedding. There are numerous fall-oriented options available through stationers such as Wedding Paper Divas and Invitations by Dawn, which offer dozens of choices that feature backgrounds of mums or fall leaves and trees, all set to hues of brown, orange, muted yellows, and greens. You might also consider working in small fall elements, such as an abstract leaf-like liner to the inner en-velope, suggests master bridal Ccnsultant Alexis Eliopoulos OMara, of the Boston-based Unique Weddings by Alexis.

Pick a Rich Color SchemeNextand cruciallycomes the color theme, which ultimately sets the tone of your event.Eliopoulos OMara suggests deep orang-

es, eggplant, and bordeaux, or jewel tones such as emerald, amethyst, or garnet. Of the jewel tones, she notes, the colors are bolder and richer, and not as deep and dark as tra-ditional autumn tones. Meanwhile, darker linens can give a room a rich appearance, she says. Marrero agrees on the use of deeper

colors, and cautions about orange, which can become too literal (that is, carved-pumpkin orange, or Halloween-y unless, of course, thats what youre go-ing for). Instead, she says, think along the lines of burnt orange, spice, cinnamon, paprika, and terra cotta, which can then be mixed with bolder colors like gold and burgundy.

Go Bold with FlowersWhy did you choose the fall? Chances are because you love the vibrant colors outside, says Marrero, who urges brides to go beau-tiful and bold in their bouquets, and add elements such as dusty miller to create more texture. As for centerpieces, dont be afraid to

stray away from the traditional bouquet-at-table-center, and dont hesitate to mix things up. Marrero notes that its much more ap-pealing to have a well-designed table-scape, as opposed to offering up the same centerpiece plopped in the middle of every table. She suggests filling glass vessels with green moss, orange flowers, single orchids, or hydrangeas. With an orchid, for example, submerge one in water along with a floating candle; its elegant, yet simple and inexpen-sive. If flowers are subtle and spread around the room, they can create a real pop in un-usual places, she says. Eliopoulos OMara points out the subdued appeal of calla lilies, spider mums, and dahlias for fall weddings, as well as various in-season berries, and even fiddleheads.Manzanita branches can also be a beauti-

ful, versatile accessoryset them as center-pieces at the place card table, or use them to hang escort cards, candles, or flowers. Be-yond that, some couples are drawn to drift-wood and birch, which can be interspersed with flowers on tables, or cut to fit candles and various blooms. Rustic is very preva-lent, says Marrero.

Create a Warm Environment Throughout your dcor, be liberal in the use of candles and bottles, says Marrero. To fit with the season, fill jars with lentils or candy, or sprinkle orange pumpkin candy between place cards to create just a little tease.Scented candles can create even more am-

biance, Eliopoulos OMara notes. Consider yummy smells such as apple pie, spiced pumpkin, and hot chocolate, which all remind guests of the fall. continued on page 34


Other flairs could include wreaths made of leaves, poured-wax votives, and gold-painted pumpkins, she says. As for light-ing, keep it soft: amber hues can be warm and inviting (which is the essence of fall, after all).And stay with the theme in your favors

consider edibles like honey, maple sugar candies, cider donuts, or caramel applesas well as your food offerings. Your guests will love the graceful addition of butternut squash soup served in baby pumpkins, local cider, or apple pie or pumpkin tartlets, says Eliopoulos OMara.No matter the season, though, you should

keep several things in mind to make your wedding the best day possible. Beyond hir-ing a planner or wedding-day coordinator, Eliopoulos OMara advises that couples keep up with plans, and make lists well in advance. Also, dont leave things to the last minute, as this will only cause you stress. In choosing your wedding party, she adds, dont do so out of obligation; opt for friends and family who will truly help and will keep you (relatively) stress-free.Have a plan, have a timeline, and realize

the wedding starts the day your first guest comes to town, Marrero says. But the ulti-mate key: relax. If youre not at ease by the start of the rehearsal dinner, youre wasting your time, she says. You have to be able to let go.

Taryn Plumb is a regular contributor to BRIDE&GROOM Magazine. She writes from Worcester, MA.

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Wedding Planning 2.0Staying organized with Social Media

by Andrea E. McHugh

h, the wedding binder. Its a rite of passage for many brides, preciously hous-ing the ripped-out magazine pages full of inspiration, wedding-day timelines, check-lists, fabric swatches, vendor contracts, and so much more. Some brides invest in the illustrious Martha Stewart pre-organized wedding binder, while others customize theirs with finds from the craft store or sim-ply use a three-ring version from the local office supply store. But one trend remains universal when it comes to todays wedding binder: Its shrinking. Since the introduction of sharing sites like

Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and a virtually endless selection of wed-ding-related smartphone apps, todays bride is heading toward an increasingly paper-less place. With just the touch of her finger, she can show the florist, stationer, wedding planner, or cake designer specifically what kind of aesthetic shes looking to create on her special day.The Pinterest app on my iPad helps to

keep me very organized, says Boston-based blogger and bride-to-be Angel Babbitt. Al-though I still have a three-ring binderits a small, half-inch binder just used to keep track of receiptsI rely on my Pinterest app to show friends, family, and vendors the vi-sion of our wedding day when Im on the go.Angel, who is best known as the mind

behind the popular wedding-planning blog, The Bridal BFF (thebridalbff.com), em-braced wedding-based social media long before becoming engaged. I started The Bridal BFF in 2009 as a budding entrepre-neur starting my own wedding-planning business, she says. After a few years of


wedding planning, I got engaged in May 2012 and will be getting married in October of this year. I love writing, so that is a reward in itself, and sharing my love for weddings, especially now as a future bride, helps me connect and relate to brides everywhere.Angel uses social media platforms like Twit-

terwhere she has close to 2,000 followersto share blog posts featuring topics ranging from her newest bridal makeup finds to her favorite wedding dresses. She also turns to Twitter to engage in conversations with other brides, asking them questions and sharing wed-ding-related joys, gripes and industry trends. Newlywed Erin Wilson says Pinterest played a pivotal role in her wedding planning. I started a Pinterest board almost immediately after I got engaged, she says. She credits the

popular sharing and organizing site with con-necting her with vendors and helping her find useful planning blogs. I even had a conversa-tion with my mother during the whole plan-ning process about how people found ideas and vendors before the Internet. Her response was, Weddings didnt look like this when I got married. Its so true, though; I would look up the burlap and lace theme that I wanted to go with on Pinterest and there was an assortment of different ideas from centerpieces, to bou-quets, guest books, and shower favors. I was in wedding heaven!It was on Pinterest that Erin discovered a

free app called Wedding Party (wedding-partyapp.com), which collects photos from your guests and puts them in one place for everyone to view. While it is by no means a replacement for a professional photographer, the app allows brides and grooms to see their wedding through the eyes of their guests. I immediately knew this was something I want-ed to have because our wedding was a week-end affair with a majority of our guests coming from out of town, says Erin. We had events


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vendors specifically what kind of aesthetic shes looking to create on her special day.


beginning on Thursday, and I wanted a way to capture all of the moments that the pho-tographer wouldnt be around for. Once Erin downloaded the app and created a wedding name, she shared the access info with her guests online through social media, as well as on the wedding programs. People loved it! We had so many guests posting pic-tures that the photographer didnt capture

and different quotes throughout the night that myself or [my husband] Tim werent around to hear. It was awesome! One of Erins favorite benefits was being able to see guests excitedly getting ready for the big day. I loved that part. It was amazing to be waiting at the airport before leaving for our honeymoon and seeing that everyone had such an amazing time.

The popularity of sharing sites has vastly changed the typical wedding vendors busi-ness model as well. Binita Patel, owner of Binita Patel Photography and Cinematog-raphy in Boston (binitapatelphotography.com) says that establishing a personal con-nection with her clients is crucial. Learning more about brides and groomstheir in-dividual styles, tastes, and passionsplays an important role and yields extraordinary results. Beyond my photography work, I love that Pinterest gives people another way to see how I visually connect to the world, says Binita. She uses social media to promote her work and build her brand by sharing and connecting online. Facebook in particular has played a vital role in how our photos, videos, and slideshows reach a massive audience. For example, when we release a real wedding on our own blog, well be sure to share it consistently via Facebook, Pinter-est, Instagram, etc. Social media platforms have allowed us to take the sharing of im-ages to a whole new level.Event planner Stephanie Frazier Grimm,

owner of the Newport, Rhode Island-based Couture Parties (coutureparties.com), says that Pinterest is an effective tool for clients who want to organize all of their ideas in one place. She started using the site two years ago and immediately found it expo-nentially easier to exchange ideas with cou-ples than in the past when they would have to send images back and forth via e-mail, which would sometimes be too large to de-liver or would crash the computer. Today, a single link to a brides Pinterest board gives Stephanie an instant, intimate view of her clients wedding aesthetic. My couples still want their wedding designs to be a surprise to their guests, so we create secret boards, create fake accounts, and I still do it the old-fashioned way with design boards, she explains. But Stephanie says that brides and grooms should also approach Pinterest with a degree of caution. [Its] great, but you have to be careful of all the ideas out there; it can start to become overwhelming, and we have to streamline. Besides, who wants to copy someone elses exact wedding? Make it your own!

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Wedding Contracts: Reading the Fine Print

How to Stay Ahead of the Game When Booking Vendors for Your Big Day

by Cindy Papish Gerber

ongratulations! If youre reading this, youre probably already in the throes of planning your dream wedding. Youve set the date and are in the first stages of interviewing vendors. But before you make deposits and sign on the dotted line, its important to learn what your contractual responsibilities really are.

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Pay Attention to DetailsParticular attention should be paid to your can-cellation rights; how long beforehand you can cancel without consequence, and your damage exposure if you cancel prior to the big day, says Alan G. Schwartz, a partner in Wiggin and Dana Law firm in New Haven, Connecticut. Make sure everything is precisely defined, Schwartz stresses. While obtaining legal help to peruse most wedding contracts isnt necessary, you should always make sure you understand what you are paying for, when its appropriate to ne-gotiate, and why your deposit is probably non-refundable. According to the online planning resource,

Massachusetts Wedding Guide, If the person/persons youve chosen do not have a contract, consider finding another wedding professional. Not only will these contracts protect you and the vendor from any miscommunications and re-sponsibilities, they should also list all the details that youve discussed. Such details include contact information, dates and times, location, itemized and backup services, hourly rates, dress code (if applicable), specifications regarding goods (including size, quantity, amount, and color), delivery info, payment/deposit/refund amounts, and cancellation deadlines. When mak-ing payments, be sure to use a credit card in place of cash or checks. If a vendor doesnt honor his or her contract obligations, you will have your credit card company to turn to for help. If you pay in cash or check, the vendor has your money and you will have to file a claim against them.

Dont Be ShyBeing prepared is your best defense. Take notes, ask lots of questions, and listen carefully. Good communication is key. Do your homework and meet with several vendors in each service category, advises Christopher Wakeen of Wakeen Photography in Grafton, Massa-chusetts. Be sure you actually like the people youll be spending the day with. If were not getting a good vibe from the prospective client, then we probably shouldnt work together. Wakeen, who has never encountered a single issue with a wedding contract, has heard tales of vendors who double-book jobs, are tardy, dont return phone calls, or fail to complete orders on target. Experienced professionals, he maintains, know how to walk the couple

through every stage of their planning and keep them updated as the date draws near.Steven Gray of Grays Limousine in Boylston,

MA, insists on meeting prospective clients in per-son. Dont go by ads, use the telephone, or web-sites for transactions, he cautions. Whether at the bridal expo, or at our office, we invite cou-ples to talk to us, see our cars, and go home and think about it. According to Gray, this approach avoids a bait and switch.

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keep you from losing money in a crisis situ-ation. Similarly, vendors rely upon contracts to protect their bottom line. We have to run a business, offers Yvonne Caole, Sales and Marketing Manager at The Beechwood Ho-tel in Worcester, Massachusetts. Couples should know that since we are reserving a date for them, we are withholding from booking additional events. We have a three-month, two-month, and a single-month be-fore cancellation policy, outlining when all percentages are due. Anything before three months gives us time to rebook.

It isnt uncommon, shares Caole, to work with couples whove had to deal with unforeseen situations, or have something pending. In those instances, she recom-mends adding a clause to the contract. Clauses can identify any number of issues, from military deployment, illness, or com-mon things, like negotiating food and bever-age minimums. But couples have to under-stand they cannot delay contract signings simply because their various wedding com-ponents havent been finalized.When parents foot the wedding bills, they

must be included in every step of the con-tract process. Everything in our contract was clear, and we worked with a wonder-ful person who we had a great relationship with, recalls Jodi Pollack, a Connecticutbased mother of the groom who worked hand-in-hand with her future in-laws to plan (what they hoped) would be a dream recep-tion at a reputable venue adjacent to New York Harbor. Months before the wedding, she shares, we informed the venue that we needed to canceldue to the fact that the brides father was terminally ill. Despite the sad turn of events, the managerial team was inflexible. More trouble ensued when Hur-ricane Sandy caused structural damage to (and temporarily closed) the facility. They cut off all ties with those who had deposits on events, says Pollack. Her advice to those considering indoor/ outdoor wedding venues is, to look into what their coverage is, in case they have to cancel your event!

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Get HelpStriking a balance between planning your wedding and managing your life can be a difficult feat for any couple, so sometimes hiring a professional wedding planner is your best bet when trying to ensure that no detail is overlooked. An experienced wed-ding planner will work as a mediator be-tween you and your vendors, which helps immensely, says Mauryn Kkira, Creative Director of Boston-based wedding planners, Creative Wedding Solutions. Planners know the inner workings of the wedding business, speak the same language as the vendors, and have a clear understanding of business contracts. We help you navigate all the things you dont know to look, expect, or plan for, she counsels, to uncover tiny details buried within the fine print.

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Cindy Papish Gerber is a regular contributor to BRIDE&GROOM Magazine. She writes from Connecticut.

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The Maine AttractionMother Nature Rolls Out the Green Carpet Under a Canopy of Blue Skies by Stacey Marcus

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aine: Its about much more than just blueberries, log cabins, and moose tracks. We scoured the state and discovered five sparkling gems offering couples enchanting options to tie the knot in a state fragrant with fresh air and brimming with romantic spots to wed. Whether you want to get hitched in a timber-frame barn, exchange vows in a lovely garden, or trade hearts inside a gracious inn, youll discover a myriad of unique wedding venues in Maine.

Stone Mountain Arts Center, BrownfieldCreative couples, especially songbirds, will adore the Stone Moun-tain Arts Center in Brownfield. When recording artist Carol Noonan got tired of being on the road eight years ago, she transformed an old barn into a performing arts center that offers many options for couples looking for a secluded and unique wedding venue. There are no cookie-cutter weddings at Stone Mountain Arts Center, says Hannah Babineau, Stone Mountain Arts Centers Wedding Coordi-nator. With two beautiful timber-frame barns, we have something for every couple. That is, if youre a couple that likes beautiful barns, the Maine countryside, and being surround-ed by the echo of legendary musicians from every genre.Primarily a per-

forming arts venue, Stone Mountain Arts Center hosts wed-dings year-round and strives to make the planning process as easy as possible with affordable packages ranging from the DIY to the all-inclusive. An in-house wedding co-ordinator helps make the process all the more pleasant. At the end of the day all we want to hear is, I cant believe how great that was and know that we helped to make that happen, says Babineau. A unique feature of the venue is the green room, where brides and grooms can get ready for their big day like rock stars.

The White Barn Inn, KennebunkportThe White Barn Inn in Kennebunkport is an ideal destination for couples who want an intimate and custom experience. Luxurious and charming, this Forbes Four Star and AAA Four Diamond ranked inn is a member of the prestigious Relais & Chteaux. Renown for its personalized services and award-winning cuisine, The White Barn Inn has several stunning spots to say I do, and the intimate setting combined with cuisine by Chef Jonathan Cartwright make for an unforgettable wedding. The garden, infinity pool, and rustic barn are all options for a beautiful backdrop on the couples big day, says Inn Keeper Corinne Finn-Heyl. The inns Tuscan wine cellar is a great spot for pre- or post-reception celebrating.

Black Point Inn, Prouts NeckMany people associate Prouts Neck with the great American painter, Winslow Homer, whose love of the sea was integral to his craft. Lucky couples who select Black Point Inn can celebrate the same Atlantic Ocean and their nuptials in a gorgeous and gracious inn. Couples are attracted to the Black Point Inn because of the classic, old world feel of the property. They want their guests to experience the Maine coast the way it has been experienced for generations in a serene and stunning location, says Landace Porta, Black Point Inns Sales and Events Manager. The perfect complement to the location is the intimacy created for a wedding when they have taken over the whole property. Guests can enjoy the private beaches, bicycles, tennis, golf, cliff walk, dining in our restaurant, and simply being together. Hope-fully what they remember when they leave is the way they felt while visiting usrelaxed and exceptionally cared for.

Whether you want to get hitched in a timber-frame barn, exchange vows in a lovely garden, or trade hearts inside a gracious inn, youll discover a myriad of

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Inn by the Sea, Cape ElizabethInn by the Sea in Cape Elizabeth is a stylish and secluded slice of paradise where couples can unite. Whether you choose a space in-doors overlooking the ocean, the outdoor terrace, or the lawn, you will launch your life in style and serenity at Inn by the Sea. Getting married at the Inn by the Sea offers the bride and groom great ocean views, a sandy, unspoiled beach to relax on or to use for gorgeous photo ops, and the couples room at the SPA is a wonderful place to rejuvenate after the celebrations are over, says Rauni Kew, P.R. and Green Programs Director at Inn by the Sea. The new beach suites have indoor-outdoor fireplaces, furnished ocean view decks, and full kitchensthe perfect gathering place for the bridal party. This pet-friendly inn is a great place for couples who want to canoodle with their canines.

The Inn at Oceans Edge, LincolnvilleThe Inn at Oceans Edge and its breathtaking grounds are the perfect place to host a tranquil and private affair. Couples who get mar-ried at this lovely inn can have exclusive use of the property and all thirty-two rooms. Imagine the joy of having all of your guests under the roof of one exquisite inn, enjoying a bountiful breakfast and savoring all the wedding bliss. Oceanfront lawns are available for seaside ceremonies and tented receptions. Your exclusive weekend wedding destination at The Inn at Oceans Edge offers a culminating experience in a tranquil atmosphere with breathtaking views, says Heidi Burden, Event Coordinator.

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Stacey Marcus is a freelance writer based in Marblehead.

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Go Local, Go FairThe Newest Trend in Weddings Goes Beyond Green

by Marcelia Muehlke

Environmentally-conscious weddings have exploded over the last several years, and today almost half of couples use at least one green product or service at their wedding. Whats next? A broader definition of sustainability that considers the planet and people: The ethi-cal wedding. Ethical weddings come in all shapes and sizes and add to the meaning and joy of your big dayfor you and ev-eryone involved. Curious about how to plan an ethical wedding? Think local and fair trade. If you arent totally sure what fair trade

is (but know it means excellent coffee or chocolate) youre not alone. Fair trade uses the power of commerceyour ability to vote with your dollarsto ensure safe, fair, and empowering work conditions and trade relationships for groups in develop-ing countries. Fair trade strengthens social justice, economic development, and envi-ronmental protection. Here are plenty of tips on how to find

great nearby and ethical vendors in the Northeast, as well as wherever local is for you.

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DressesWhen I got engaged and called my mother, the first words out of her mouth were, CongratulationsMarcieWhenIsTheDate?! While my mother was focused on logistics, all I wanted to do was look at wedding dresses! So lets start there. Most dresses are made from polluting petroleum-based polyester and are sewn overseas under questionable circumstanc-es, but Im happy to report that there are many beautiful, eco-friendly, and ethical options in your area, and even as close as your mobile device.Local: Look for a dress that was made in the

United States at your local bridal shop. Some great American-made brands include Aria, Lela Rose, Vera Wang, Jim Hjelm, Alvina Valenta, Judd Waddell, Amsale, Kenneth Pool, Christos, Tara Keely, Lazaro, Oscar de la Renta, Mo-nique Lhuillier, Reem Acra, and Carolina Herrera. Want to stay even closer to home? Some bridal shops make custom dresses, or you can

even ask around for a trusted seamstress in your area. You might be surprised by what you find with a simple Google maps search for seamstress. Want made in the USA and green? All Janay A Handmade wedding dresses are made by

hand, to order, by the designer herself and her team their Kansas City studio. All of Janays gowns are made from certified organic fabrics and silk/hemp blends. Fair: As far as I can tell, the only company selling fair trade wedding dresses in the United

States is Celia Grace. I started Celia Grace after my own experience as a bride. I wanted a more meaningful, handmade wedding dress than what was available, and I wanted to feel a connection with the women who made it. Each Celia Grace dress has a story behind it that is as beautiful as the dress itself, starting with exclusive, hand woven, heirloom eco-silk. Each dress is sewn by a womens sewing group where seamstresses are paid living wages, receive benefits, and work in safe and healthy conditions.

FlowersIs there anything dreamier than flowers? Flowers on tables, flowers in your bouquet, flow-ers in your hair, or even on your cake. But wait! Flowers are often sprayed with toxic pesticides, grown under unsafe and unfair conditions, and then shipped halfway around the world. Fortunately, there are many great eco-friendly and ethical alternatives available.Local: Visit your local farmers market and work directly with a grower, or ask local

florists if they can use local flowers for your wedding. Using local, in-season flowers is not only eco-friendly and ethical, it will also save you money. The Painted Tulip, a floral and event design business located in Waterbury, Vermont is a great option for the local and eco-minded bride. Fair: If you have your heart set on those ex-

otic flowers (in addition to your betrothed, of course) or are having a winter wedding, con-sider using a company like One World Flow-ers, which offers environmentally sustainable flowers that are grown in a way that promotes social justice around the world.


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FoodEthical food is a real treat. Be it local or fair, ethical food is usually excellent because youll get the best and freshest ingredients culti-vated by people who really love food. Why think about all those pesticides and unhappy farm workers (not to mention the carbon footprint those January strawberries leave behind) when there are so many enticing alternatives out there?Local: Visit your local farmers market, search for nearby res-

taurants that use local ingredients, or ask your caterer to use local, organic, or in-season produce for your reception. Getting married in the Boston area? Chive Sustainable Event Design & Catering of-fers personalized menus based on what is in season at local organic farms. They also offer flowers, rentals (very eco!), bar options, de-sign, and much more.

Fair: Unless you live in Hawaii, there is no way to get locally-grown coffee in the United States, so why not serve delicious, feel-

good coffee like Deans Beans Organic and Fair Trade Coffee at your reception? Organic means it is healthy for you and the families who grew it, and fair trade means the farmers were paid a fair wage. To top it all off, Deans Beans coffee is roasted in Massachusetts. You can also ask your local coffee roaster what fair trade coffees they offer and ask your caterer to use fair trade coffee and tea for your event.

At the BarLocal: Using a local brewery or winery for your wedding reception isnt just smart; its fun, too! A local beer or wine adds local flavor to your event and will be bright, fresh, and organic. What is my favorite beer here in western New England, you ask? Peoples Pint! Take a drive out to their Greenfield, Massachusetts restaurant to sample their delicious brews. Better yet, ride your bike and get a discount! Fair: Want to offer a truly unique cocktail? Try

an ethical elixir made with Fair Spirits award-winning quinoa-based vodka. You can also find several fair trade wine options at your local Whole Foods Market, or ask your venue if they can source a fair trade or organic option. Even if they cant, youll get them thinking about it for the next couple that asks, so kudos to you!

JewelryLocal & Fair: As far as I know, local gold doesnt really exist, and mining this precious metal is extremely polluting. It is best to stick with recycled gold or choose something else whenever possible. The United States is full of amazing local jewelry makers, so look and ask around to find out if they will repurpose your old family jewelry or use recycled metals and stones. There are also some great options for companies that specialize in recycled gold jewelry made in the USA, like Green Karat Jewelers, Barbara

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Gifts & DecorationsLocal: There are tons of wonderful eco-friendly decoration and gift options that support your community and local artisans. Westborough Wicks offers beautiful, 100% handmade soy candles that come in a myriad of scents and col-ors. Each candle is hand-poured right in their Westborough, Massachusetts shop. Green Amer-icas National Green Pages and Etsy Local are also great resources, as is your local Chamber of Commerce or a craft fair. Look for recycled, local, or organic content. Fair: Fair trade chocolate is a delicious way to

end your big day. Minis from Equal Exchange and Divine Chocolate are delicious and budget-friendly options. For gifts, visit Ten Thousand Villages, SERRV, and the Fair Trade Federation. My favorite option is the perfect combination of local, eco, and fair: Prosperity Candle chooses fair trade candle vessels, helps the local Mas-sachusetts refugee population, and uses wax and wick options that are good for you and the planet.

Want to learn more?Visit In Tandem Fair Trade at intandem-fairtrade.com, or The Green Bride Guide at greenbrideguide.com.

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Bryans BlissCelebrity Planner Bryan Rafanelli Shares His Secrets for How to Wed in Style

I s it your secret wish to have a dream wedding like one of the A-Listers you see splashed on national magazine covers? If the answer is yes, then keep reading! We asked Bryan Rafanelli, president and CEO of

Rafanelli Events, to share some inside trends and tips with Bride & Groom readers. Rafanelli works hand-in-hand with his clients to transform their visions into unforgettable experiences. Known best for his custom-ized approach to every project, Rafanelli marries a unique and exquisite sense of style with careful atten-tion to detail to ensure each event is truly exceptional.With more than twenty years of experience,

Rafanellis name has become synonymous with per-fection, making him the go-to event planner for many of the nations most exclusive and high-profile events. Notably, Rafanelli and his team lead the concept, de-sign, and strategic planning for the wedding of the de-cade, as former First Daughter Chelsea Clinton wed Marc Mezvinsky in 2010. Rafanellis expertise also includes private events, corporate functions, and non-profit fundraisers for high-profile clients such as Presi-dent Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama, Arianna Huffington, the Boston Red Sox, Louis Vuit-ton, Dana-Farber, and Massachusetts General Hospi-tal for Children, to name a few. Here is his exclusive interview with Bride & Groom:

by Stacey Marcus

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planning, important guests, and two stars.

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B&G: Can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and how you got into the events-planning business?

Bryan Rafanelli: I grew up in a large Ital-ian family, and my mother was always find-ing reasons to throw parties for the people she loved. Somehow the sense of community and of bringing people together to have a good time just for good times sake has al-ways been inside of me. I launched Rafanelli Events in 1996 as a three-person operation executing a half-dozen events per year. Over the past seventeen years, weve evolved into a full-service event design, strategy, plan-ning, and production company. Rafanelli Events now orchestrates more than 100 events annually in venues around the world and has offices in Boston, New York City, Washington, DC, and Palm Beach.

B&G: Where do you find inspiration for weddings?

BR: Weddings are very personal and roman-tic; a real reflection of two people and their style as a couple. Our very first inspiration comes from listening to, respecting, under-standing, and complementing the couples unique ideas, personality, and tastes. We present ideas to the family that reflect

who they are. We often state that there are no real rules in the ceremony anymore, un-less you are strictly observing your religion. Spoken word, pop music, and brass bands are all unique and unconventional ways of telling the story of your union. For example, telling the story of your love or your par-ents or grandparents union at your cer-emony gives the guests a sense of history and commitment.

B&G: What are some current trends in weddings?

BR: Privacy is the order of the day. None of our clientswhether they are perceived as celebrities or notproclaim every detail of their wedding to the world before the big day. We all deserve to surprise and delight our guests whenever we choose to reveal those surprises.Non-floral elements for dcor are coming

out in a big way. Something I like are pa-per heart boutonnieres for the men as well as other non-floral flowersceramic, paper, wood, and leather.

We also are seeing many cer-emonies where friends or relatives officiate. Its another way couples are making their wedding more personal.

B&G: What are some of your fa-vorite timeless trends?

BR: The most timeless is when the bride walks down the aisle and re-veals herself to the congregation for the first time. It never gets old.We also love old classics made in a new

wayclassic cars, classic drinks like Tom Collins or Manhattans, geometric containers for floral, the use of surprising materials in the design. These all give a timeless feel that reflects the couples personal style.

B&G: How can our readers emulate the feel of a celebrity wedding?

BR: Customization. Create anything custom, from a logo to table linens. It makes for a one-of-a-kind wedding. Most wed-dings dont have the high levels of security, privacy, and sought-after press as celebrity weddings do. But all weddings have thoughtful planning, important guests, and two stars.


1. Connect guests to the city and to your event by having personal-ized maps distributed upon hotel check-in.

2. Use technology; from an e-blast save-the-date revealing the city skyline, to custom animation on the marquee at the wedding venue, to celebratory messages on the ticker at the ballpark, where guests are treated to a game.

3. A strong transportation plan is essential to move your guests from place to place!

4. Incorporate an urban tone into the reception design through stationery, lighting, floral, and/or other specialty dcor.

5. Enlist a trusted local to recommend special treats to include in the welcome bags, such as the most flavorful macaroons in town or the most decadent truffles from the best chocolatier.

6. For those traveling from out of town, include a range of lodg-ing options organized by price as well as by proximity to the train station and airport.

7. Take advantage of local entertainment. Whether that means researching a local finalist from The Voice to perform at the reception, or a touring cover band to play at the after party!

8. Build in downtime for the wedding couple and their guests. Dont let the often hectic urban pace drag you along with it (unless you want it to!).

9. Kick off the wedding weekend by taking your out-of-town guests to a sports game, food festi-val, or museum tour to get a feel for the citys culture.

10. Let your guests and wedding party express themselves in their city best. Dont confine them to a specific color scheme or formal attire.

To find out more about Bryan Rafanelli and Rafanelli Events, visit rafanellievents.com.

Stacey Marcus is a freelance writer based in Marblehead.

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magine a grand entrance before your assembled

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The 23,000-square-foot facility, which opened in May 2004, can accommodate up to 200 guests and offers several graceful settings for your ceremony, reception, and other pre- and post-wedding fes-tivities. Ceremonies are typically held beneath a gazebo surrounded by wooden benches and overlooking the 70-acre Crystal Lake. The patio of the Waterfront Roomwith its sweeping views of the lake belowis another popular spot to say, I do. Guests begin their post-ceremony celebrations in a newly con-

structed cocktail room with a bar, vaulted ceilings, wood-paneled walls, and high-top tables, followed by dinner and dancing in the Waterfront Room. A handcrafted bar, detailed woodworking, cathe-dral ceilings, and a central dance floor make guests feel warm and welcomed. You almost feel like youre inside somebodys house, says Hill.Naturally, the lakefront setting of the Crystal Lake Golf Club pro-

vides numerous backdrops for great photos. Photographers can cap-ture your wedded bliss in waterside nooks, out on the dock or the patio, in front of or inside the antique cars or pontoon boat, and out on the pristine green. In certain cases, Hill says, couples can have limited use of a golf cart to go out on the course and get that special picture.Crystal Lake offers an assortment of mouth-watering hot and cold

hors doeuvres for cocktail hour, including gourmet cheese or fresh fruit presentations, scallops wrapped in bacon, and baked goat cheese and raspberry tarts. These delicious morsels range in price from $1.50 to $3 per person. For the reception, couples can choose between a three-course banquet menu and a buffet menu. At $30.95 per person, the buffet includes numerous salads, vegetable, potato, and starch sides, and entre choices such as roast sliced turkey and grilled Atlan-tic salmon with citrus salsa. The banquet offerings range from $26.95 to $36.95 per person and include delectable plates like surf and turf and chicken Florentine with a mushroom cream sauce. The club is best known for its prime rib, which Hill says is quite popular with weddings, while the baked stuffed haddock is simply delicious.


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Ceremony fees are $450, with antique car and pontoon rent-als available for an additional $200, and reception blocks range from $500 to $950. Use of the cocktail room can be purchased at a rate of $200 per hour. All fees include an on-site coordina-tor; hors doeuvres for the bridal party during photos; use of a private bridal suite; table linens and choice of colored napkins; use of china, stemware, and silverware; a greeter; cake cutting and serving; a champagne toast for the head table; and a round of golf for the couple.In addition to their sixty-five weddings per year, Crystal Lake

also welcomes bridal showers, baby showers, and rehearsal dinners. Its never to early to call and book that special event, says Hill.Overall, couples, their families, and guests who experience a

wedding at Crystal Lake love the customer service, says Hill. My staff is awesomethey are accommodating and go above and beyond to make things comfortable and be accommodating. Because she spends so much time with bridesfrom the very first tasting to the last moments of the receptionHill happily admits a lot of them become my friends. And along with the gorgeous setting and upstanding service, Crystal Lake is an affordable choice. Were priced very reasonably for what you get; what you get is great service and its not going to break the bank.

Taryn Plumb is a regular contributor to BRIDE&GROOM Magazine. She writes from Worcester, MA.

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Publick House Historic Innby Taryn Plumb

tep back to the eighteenth century, where youll

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From a picturesque meadow to a historic barn (complete with stables), the Publick House offers a variety of settings where brides- and grooms-to-be can say, I do. The Garden and Hillside Gazebossurrounded by hanging pots and whiskey barrels bubbling over with fragrant flowers and greenslend themselves beautifully to traditional garden-style ceremonies. Or, cou-ples can exchange vows beneath a picturesque oak tree that presides over the Meadow. Couples seeking an indoor ceremony have a number of private rooms to choose from, including Paige Hall and the Historic Barn. The Publick House offers two historic settings

in which couples can celebrate their nuptials. Set with wrought-iron caf tables and surrounded by lush bushes and colorful gardens, the Little Red Barn and brick patio offer an intimate out-door location for cocktails. From there, guests are invited to dine and dance under the magnifi-cent Garden Tentthe quintessential site for a true garden wedding. Accessories can be added to upgrade and enhance the neutral backdrop of the Garden Tent to create the wedding of your dreams, OBrien notes.Couples who opt for an indoor celebration

can do so in the Historic Barn, where an entic-ing display of hors doeuvres are set out on an antique wagon cart. Cocktail hour is followed by dinner and dancing in the adjoining Paige Hall where guests are welcomed by abundant antiques, and post-and-beam ceilings. Couples have several wedding packages to

choose from at the Publick House, which range from $35 to $68 per person and are eligible for a variety of upgrade options. The new Wonder-ful Winter Wedding package allows couples to book their wedding at a rate of $28 per person in January, February, and March. Even better, winter weddings booked by January 31, 2014 will be placed in a lottery drawing to win their package for free. Menus include such entres as baked-stuffed

chicken breast with spinach, goat cheese, and sun-dried tomatoes; roasted pork loin with pan gravy and spiced apples; and pan-seared salmon with citrus thyme beurre blanc. The tried-and-true favorites, OBrien notes, are the prime rib and the Thanksgiving-style roasted turkey ac-companied by cornbread, sausage stuffing, gra-vy, and cranberry sauce. No meal is complete without the Publick Houses famed pecan sweet rolls, which diners travel far and wide to savor.


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Ultimately, the Publick House makes the perfect weekend retreat for a destination wedding. A one-stop venue, this historic inn includes seventeen rooms, ninety-two in its country lodge, and six suites at its Cham-berlain House. While the inn exudes Revo-lutionary-era charm, each room is modern-ized with twenty-first-century conveniences, including private baths, air conditioning, flat-screen televisions, and free wireless In-ternet. Guests will also enjoy two charming restaurants: the Tap Room, with its original wide plank floors and open-hearth stone

fireplace; and Ebenezers Tavern, with its oversized wingback chairs and vintage brass beer taps. The Bake Shoppe will entice your guests with its irresistible home-baked pies. And, as OBrien notes, because its just off Route 84 and the Massachusetts Turnpike, the Publick House is merely minutesnot to mention centuriesfrom points north, east, south, and west. All told, its very warm, welcoming, pro-

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