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Brian,

I thought that you might possibly take the time to read this since you avoid all face to facediscussions entirely and can’t seem to stay on the telephone long enough to actually get anything discussed. The first mention of anything you did or didn’t do that you should havedone in the first place and you beginning berating me then hang up. At least in writing, you’ll

be unable to deny that you knew what was going on. And there is many things that need tobe discussed. First, I’ll get the short winded problem over with. Why do you refuse to signa promissory note for my mother? She was generous enough to lend you money when youneeded it, but you’re too ungrateful enough to assure her she will be repaid. I think youborrowed the money with the intentions of not repaying her at all, and that is why yourefuse to sign the note. It wouldn’t be the first time you’ve gotten money from my familywith the promise to repay them and never giving them a penny. Unfortunately, I wasn’taware of these loans until after Aunt Omie’s death, however I am aware of this one and willdo whatever necessary to ensure you don’t take advantage of my mother’s kindness..

With that out of the way, on to our daughter. To begin, this entire situation could havebeen prevented, had there had not been so much deceit. You can say you weren’t aware ofher seeing this boy all you want, but we both know that is a lie. You allowed her to. Andeven if you didn’t giver her permission, I had explained to you on more than one occasion,the role this boy had played in her life here, he was one of the reasons, she had becameuncontrollable, she was one of the people she should not be allowed to associated with andher not associating with him was one of the reasons I had felt her living with you might begood. Also, you had been told by myself that I had heard she had been seeing him, andspeaking to him regularly on the telephone. We discussed you checking her phone records.You knew she was seeing him, lied to me about it and now having Brianna, lie saying you didn’tknow. Look at it Brian, even if you weren’t aware of the situation you were given ampleopportunities to become aware of the situation, and did not bother with doing so. Hell, Ieven gave you the boy’s telephone number so you could check the records, but you knowwhat, you didn’t even write it down, you were driving down the road during the conversation(it was one of the recent recordings I had listened to and thought it odd that you hadwritten the number down so easily while driving, fact is you knew she was seeing him anddidn’t need to check the phone records). But claim what you want brian. Either way it lookspretty bad for you, you were made aware that I had heard she had been seen with him, andwhat, you didn’t care enough to look into it? You and I both know the truth of the matter,as you have done so many times before, as long as it defied me, consideration to theeffects on your children were never taken into account. So say what you want Brian.

Either way it doesn’t look very good on you, and having Brianna lie to cover your wrong doings just makes you look worse. So yes, I do place a good bit of blame on you and with right

cause.Next, as I said Brianna will no longer be working, think what you want about my involvement,but I have good reason. She is going to have a long hard road ahead. She, like or not, isn’tgoing to be able to call the shots any longer. Brianna doesn’t like being told what to do andwill stop at nothing to not follow someone else’s rules. I will not give her any opportunity tohave the resources on hand to think that she can run away and do as she pleases. Shethreatened to do that last night on the telephone, so I’m nipping that in the bud right away.

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I want to say that any one involved in this issue is going to regret their involvement. I amangry. Very angry. As I said over and over, your dishonesty played a big role in creating thisdisaster. You would have thought you could have learned at least now, but still you continueto lie. But, you’ve told so many lies to me that you don’t even know what the truth isanymore. Back to the involvement of outsiders who had no business being involved in the

first place. Someone, took my daughter to a doctor, without the parental permission. Thatperson will be prosecuted. Who could that have been? We had discussed Brianna going tothe doctor a few months back. You told me your mother was taking her. Yet again that wasnothing more than a straight out lie. Your mother would have known about the pregnancyhad that been the case? Wasn’t you. According to you, you only found out within the lastweek. So who could it have been? I have asked Brianna, but she refuse to tell me. Notvery smart on her part. See, I’m not ignorant, I know as well as you who it was that tookmy daughter to the doctor, and even if you gave her permission, you didn’t have theauthority to do so. Remember I have the final say in all matters concerning my children andthis is a prime example of why it will be over my dead body that that will ever be anydifferent. Brianna was a minor, 15, and whoever took her to the doctor had no right to do

so and will be rightfully prosecuted for doing so. There’s no doubt in my mind, that you andshe will never tell me who it was, but especially with your custody case you will have noother option but to do so. If nothing else, I will request production of medical recordsthrough the court. And Brian, why you feel it necessary to protect this woman, is beyondme. She outright deceived you, you weren’t even informed of the pregnancy she knew aboutuntil it was too far along for an abortion which could possibly been forced consideringBrianna’s age. And any lame excuse she gave you such as promising brianna is nothing butlame. Any adult in their right mind would not keep something as life altering as this from aparent. But you go ahead and stick up for her, you deserve someone that’s as deceitful as yourself. And any way it doesn’t matter how much you choose to defend her actions, youhad no rights that gave you the authority, once again my final say will never change and

there isn’t a court in the country that would change it now. Not too hard to prove why thatcondition was put into the order considering what has happened while in your care, and yourignorance to it. So continue to take up for her as long as you like, it is only going to helpprove my other cases, and might even give reason for more actions to be taken. You’vereally made a fine mess this time, you would think you would have learned that lying onlymakes things worse, but you can’t seem to comprehend that, so don’t worry I won’t let youforget. I have told you many times, that one day all of your lies, deceit and dishonesty weregoing to come back and smack you right in the face. That time might be now. In fact it hasalready done that. Your daughter is pregnant by someone that most likely has nothing butprison in his future. Happy?

Oh, and by the way, thanks for filing for revision of our divorce decree, I know it will make

 you sick to realize you actually saved me a few bucks, but your filing saved me the $110filing fees and also opened up the doors to have other conditions of the decree to bequestionable and revised. And I will gladly give you your requested production andinterrogatories, cause now I have the chance to ask for you to produce what I want. And you may not even be able to request anything such as my property records because, theyhave nothing to do with custody, but the things I want do have a lot to do with showing yourtrue character and not only that. It will be recognized in the courts that you weredishonest about your income, not once but three times. Might end up with more child

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support and even alimony. And let’s not forget to mention how many of the court’s orders you are in contempt of. It’s an open book now. Thanks again and be sure to thank who everit was that convinced you to file this case. Their ignorance to the law persuaded you to tryto gain something you already had and reason to believe you needed something that wasn’tan obstacle in your having Brianna live with you or your day to day decision making

concerning her. And look at it now. You should really appreciate this person’s concern andcare, they have helped make an entire mess of all of our lives. We’re all losers in thisbattle, but you know who has lost the most? Brianna. Is this whole mess enough to show you once and for all that you need to admit your mistakes and that your dishonesty onlymakes matters much worse.

When Bri came to live with you I had thought at the time it was going to be in the bestinterest of her well being. Right from the start however, things began to happen thatmade me doubt this. I was never able to contact her, you refused to give me her cell phonenumber, I wasn’t informed of her court date, you even refused to tell me what school shewas enrolled in. You continuously avoided meeting me to discuss anything, many times justnot showing up or refusing to answer the telephone when we had agreed to meet. You

refused to administer any punishment for her actions (another example on how yourpunishment on me came before your child’s best interest). There was also improperconduct when lexie visited. Not to mention what I learned later; that you lied to me aboutwhere she was living, lied to me about where you were living, and even had your step motherconfirm these lies. Then I learned that her cell phone had previously belonged to JamieMcginnis, your girlfriend’s son, which I might add ran me off the road intentionally, stalkedme long enough to find out where I was staying the night, then a week later called andthreatened me and L.V. Even though I had informed you of his actions the followingmorning after the incident of him running me off the road. What good was that though?Instead of being upset that he had purposefully tried to harm your family, you still hadassociations with him. And that wasn’t all, but there will be other occasions where we’ll be

able to discuss these. Then, things seem to change involving your living arrangements andcommunications between us improved. I convinced my self your improper conduct had beendue to outside influences and that things were being handled differently. I became morecomfortable with the living arrangement.

Then out of no where you filed a change of custody. And as I said before, changes thatwere absolutely not needed for your day to day dealings with Bri. We talked, we discussedthings and the custody change came to a halt. You had me convinced that your honestintentions were based on raising our children cordially and communally. Then all of asudden, I am falsely and I will repeat falsely accused of stalking what you said to be yourex-girlfriend. You adamantly denied knowing anything about the accusations and even triedto manipulate me into not showing up in court. Even though I had thought it very odd that you did not seem to care that she was making false accusations to the extent that it notonly would effect me, but Lexie as well. You didn’t seem to mind that her improper conductwas costing me a wad of money. I guess I will never understand how a man could turn hisback to someone callously trying to cause harm to his family and still be able to look athimself in the mirror. Then in court with her, I became aware of not only your involvement,but our daughters’ involvement as well, still both of you denied knowing anything concerningthe situation and I put it to past experience with you going to all extremes as to not

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implicating yourself even in the most minor of circumstances. You even had me convincedthat she was doing this because you and she had “broken up” and that she would not evendiscuss the matter with you. You even told me yourself she had not spent one restless nightbecause of me as she had stated in court. But all along you and she were having opencommunications. And you? You were consistently lying to me. About everything. I still

cannot help but to believe the whole state of affairs was due to the betterment of yourcustody case had I been convicted of a act of domestic violence. But you weren’t so luckythis time, and a restraining order was placed on her. It was during court with her that Igained the knowledge of prior living arrangements for Brianna and that you had lied to meabout them, and had had Brianna lie to me as well. And let’s not forget, Lexie was told todeceive me as well. Considering Sharon’s unacceptable behavior previously, and theknowledge that she had interfered with my relationship with my daughter, I insisted thatshe have no contact with my daughter what so ever. Once again, you purposely ignored mywishes and lied to me, and once again had your daughter lie to me. Did it stop there no. Thevery first time I bring Lexie to visit you, what happens? Your supposed “ex” girlfriend callsme and physically threatens me. And since you insisted that neither you nor Brianna had any

contact with her, the only way she would have even known I had been at your house was tohave unknowingly visited the property while I was there. I think the term for that would bestalking. Your admittance of how you and she had become acquainted, and your revelationthat she had physically attracted you was reason enough to have been opposed to her beinginvolved with Brianna. My concern for Brianna’s safety grew even more so when I came to you with the problem thinking you would be disturbed about her threats. You immediately

thought I wanted you to protect me physically, and stated that I shouldn’t mess with herthat she was “mean” and could truly cause severe physical harm to me. You say mean, I sayviolent. Her voice on the message had sounded as if she had been highly intoxicated at thetime of the call, but you maintained that she did not drink. It bothered me terribly that aperson in a sober state would act so violently, but you assured me she was just mean. You

say mean, I say violent. Due to the possible stalking and your statements of her violentpersonality, I felt a restraining order was necessary to ensure our daughter safety. But youhad entirely no worry about bri’s safety and refused to take actions to make sure Briannawas protected from this woman you had confessed was known to be violent. I will neverunderstand how you can be so reluctant in protecting your family, that says so much aboutthe kind of person you are. Things calmed down and I decided not to press charges againsther. I had thought let sleeping dogs lie. My sole purpose and desires were to be able toraise our children together, giving them the best of both worlds. Then out of nowhere youdecided we were all going to move in one house and become a family together. I still haven’ta clue as to where that came from, and can’t help but believe you had some hidden agenda inthe works and once again trying to manipulate me in order for your own betterment. Then

we had Thanksgiving. I won’t go into the details, we were both there. Your actions that daywere totally unacceptable and unfit as a parent. You inflicted emotional injury on both ourchildren and physically endangered them. This along with other circumstances I hadrecently became privy to made me know that Brianna was not better off by living with you.and in fact was placed in the possibility of being physically harmed not only by yournegligence but by your associations and chosen lifestyle as well.

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On more than one occasion I have told you my concerns and asked that Brianna be returnedhome. But you have repeatedly ignored any and all of my requests. You still continue todeceive me, you condone Brianna’s disrespect towards me, you involve her in yourmanipulations, and blatantly disrespect me in her presence . And all of the above is in directcontempt of court orders. But none of that seems to matter to you. What seems to be

 your main concern is denying and hiding any involvement in matters. I sorely regret everbelieving that you ever had any intentions of doing what was best for our children and nottaking action to do something about it many months ago. But you continuously misled mefrom the true conditions making me trust things were much different than they actuallywere. And now. Now what a fine mess you have made. What’s to happen now Brian? Youractions and lack of actions have really put a damper on our daughter’s future. Not tomention, caused grief for our entire family, your parents as well. But still you won’tacknowledge how your mistakes not only helped create the situation but worsened theproblem. And never once did you give any thought to causing ruin to bestow but yet anotherholiday. Well I hate to say it but this is one screw up that you’re going to have to face. Ido not feel that Brianna is in a safe and supervised environment living with you. and you

stated that you were unable to control her. But I don’t think she can return here. I will notinflict Lexie with the hostility and disruption. So where’s she to go? I guess that will bedetermined to DFACs. She will remain in your home until that decision is made. However, Imust insist that certain conditions apply. One she is to avoid all contact with Justin, any ofhis associates and family members. There is to be no contact with anyone from Dawsonville.Two, her cell phone is to be taken away (she threatened to kill me on it, was extremelydisrespectful towards me using it -which by the way you should have punished her for bothof these reasons on your own and that way we can be assured she has no means ofcontacting any of the people I am forbidding her to associate with. Three, a restrainingorder will be placed on Sharon Shirley to ensure there’s no more involvement in Brianna’slife and for protection from the volatile behavior revealed by her past actions. Four -

Brianna is grounded, no going out with friends, if you knew nothing of her involvement with justiin then she has been lying to you about her activities away from home and cannot betrusted to do what she tells you she will be doing. Five she is to have supervision at alltimes. you will not leave her at home alone for more than a half hour. That gives you plentyof time to get home from work considering her bus runs so late in the afternoon and allows you plenty of time to run quick errands on your own. All of these conditions are to be putinto effect immediately and all are non-negotiable. Brian I do have the right of final say indecisions involving her and will not hesitate to enforce that right with whatever meansnecessary to enforce this right. It really saddens me Brian, that your own selfishness andarrogance could not be overcame. It has deprived our family, our future, our marriage, andespecially our children. I pray one day you develop a conscious.