beyond the books - peter buckley - how to make friends and communicate effectively
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HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AND HAVE CONSTRUCTIVE CONVERSATION
Embrace the Awkward
This feels weird, but I’m OKAY!!!
Take Yourself Out Of The Equation
Breath to RelieveEnsure full, steady breathing before and during. Why?
o Lowers the heart rate so that there is less chance of speaking too quickly!
o Maintains a good supply of oxygen to the brain for concentration and clear thoughts
o Generates rib cage movement which decreases tension, aiding in relaxation and calming of nerves
The PosturesPhysical
Maintain a Posture of Excellence –walk, sit or stand tall with shoulders back. Why?
o Enhances self-confidence and demeanouro Improves breathing ability and therefore the
calming of nerveso Creates a confident presence
The PosturesMental MindsetMaintain strong, positive thoughts. Why?
o Helps to calm nerves
o Supports the verbal and physical postures
o Counters insecurities
The PosturesVerbal elegance
Use positive words and sentences. How? o Speak with at least a slight smileo Use positive words to create warmth with your
audience or the person you’re speaking witho Upbeat speaking supports mental and physical
postures
Familiarity Breeds DelightFamiliarise yourself with your speaking environment. Why?
o Counters confidence-sapping surprises
o Eases tension
o Makes for more comfortable and successful delivery of presentation/discussion
Happy Faces – Happy Places
Happy Faces – Happy Places
Doubts vs Delivery
o Avoid negative self-assessment and questioning while delivering a presentation or speaking with people
o Never presume you know what the audience or the other people are thinking or accepting
o Refer to the three postures and simply deliver your presentation or chat with the people you’re with
Finish Strongly &Accept Accolades
o Finish your speech/discussion strongly.
o Accept accolades graciously and confidently.
o This leaves a solid impression on your audience or the people you’re speaking with.
Embrace It – Do It!
Embrace the awkward!
Embrace the process of how and what you’re going to say or hear in the discussions!
Embrace the thoughts of nervous excitement and put your hand up to do more!
Coaching and Mentoring in Talent DevelopmentSpecialising in Presentation Performance Techniques
Constructive Conversations
Essential Confidence
