B a s I c E l e m e n t s o f

CounselingCounseling

What is Counselling?

Counseling is a process whereby a trained,

competent counselor will help or assist an individual who is seeking help in gaining greater

understanding of selfunderstanding of self, improved decision-making and behavior changes,

to overcome his or her problems.

Counseling is Counseling is NOTNOT

Giving of advice

Giving of informationInfluencing attitudes, behavior or beliefs by Influencing attitudes, behavior or beliefs by

persuading or convincing.The selection of and assignments of individuals for

various jobs or activities.

Interviewing, even though sometimes interviewing may be part of the process.

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It’s Only Possible, if

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◦ Builds Rapport

◦ Listens unconditionally

◦ Has Confidence / Trust

CounseleeCounseleeCounseleeCounseleeCounseleeCounseleeCounseleeCounselee◦ Is Willing to Unwrap / Open

one’s self

◦ Is Confident / Trusts one’s

self◦ Has Confidence / Trust

◦ Gives enough time

◦ Analyzes the problem, &

◦ Explores Possibilities

self

◦ Makes time

◦ Works on the possibilities

◦ Remains Positive &

Optimistic

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Basic Skills of Counselling

L for Listen

Understand the verbal and

nonverbal informationnonverbal informationOften Non verbal skills are more indicating

of the person’s internal struggle and real

emotions.

I for InvestigateGet the Counselee to Talk

Open-Ended Questions –

“Tell me about your family while you were growing up”, “Why is that important

to you?”to you?”

The purposes of Open-Ended Questions are the following:

Begins an interview

Encourages client to elaborate on their situation

Elicits specific examples

Motivates counselees to communicate

V for VerifyThe ability to perceive another's experience and then to communicate that

perception back to the individual to clarify and amplify their own

experience and meaning, also calledParaphrasing.

There are four steps in effective paraphrasing:

Listen and recall

Identify the content

Rephrase.

Perception check.

E for enlightenEnlightening the Counselee or Summarizing is

condensing the client’s messages in the session.

Purposes of a SummaryPurposes of a Summary

To tie together multiple elements of client messages

To identify a common theme or pattern

To interrupt excessive rambling

To start a session

To end a session

To pace a session

To review progress

To serve as a transition when changing topic

S for SEE the whole

Reflection helps clients to feel understood,

expresses more feelings, manages feelings,

differentiatesdifferentiates among various feelings.

Empathize with the Counselee and the problem/issue.

Knowledge & Sound mindAcceptanceListening

CommunicationPatience

Good body language and eye

Confidentiality

Flexibility

Empathy

Self control

Observation

LIVES include

Good body language and eye contactHumor

Observation

Analyzing skills

Non Judgmental attitude

Self awareness

Cultural Awareness

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LIVES

V means to VerifyE means to Enlighten

S means to See the Whole

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