Are you playing to win or playing not to lose

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We're all playing the game of life...but how are you playing it?


<ul><li><p> 1 </p><p>Are You Playing the Game to Winor Playing Not to Lose! </p><p>On this adventure of life, what is the game youre playing? The first and most common game is Playing </p><p>Not to Lose the second and more exciting, more daring, rarer game is Playing to Win! </p><p>Which game are you playing both personally and professionally? </p><p>Lets look at each of these games for a moment </p><p>Playing Not to Lose </p><p>Playing Not to Lose is ultimately about avoiding fear. However, saying that if you ask people if they </p><p>experience fear in their personal or professional lives they will most likely tell you not. </p><p>Heres why </p><p>We are bright people, and most of us learnt long ago to avoid situations in which we fear. These could </p><p>have been situations which we personally experienced, or situations we heard about through others. </p><p>For example, youve had a long term relationship, you split up now your mind creates an association of </p><p>fear and pain with relationships. And so, theres now a little voice inside your head which says to you </p><p>dont go there again, dont expose yourself, dont step outside your comfort zone, and dont expose </p><p>yourself to that pain. </p><p>In many situations this makes eminent sense. Playing Not to Lose is about avoiding situations where we </p><p>might lose, fail, be emotionally hurt, or even be rejected. </p><p>Our bodies have built in early warning systems that alert us to these kinds of situations, so that we can </p><p>avoid them and thereby avoid experiencing fear. </p><p>Heres the critical part </p><p>Unfortunately, this early warning system often leaks over into other areas of our lives where we arent </p><p>at true risk </p><p>Playing to Win </p><p>Playing to Win is about consciously choosing not to automatically avoid situations in which we might </p><p>fail, be embarrassed, or rejected. </p><p>Why on earth would we consciously choose to do something that could lead to failure, rejection, </p><p>embarrassment or even worse? </p><p>Because our goal is to grow! </p></li><li><p> 2 </p><p>Playing to win is about; engaging with life, stepping outside your comfort zone, taking calculated risks, </p><p>learning to become comfortably uncomfortable, learning to thrive on the adventure of life and seeing </p><p>the unknown as your friend not your foe </p><p>Its about being comfortable with uncertainty knowing that uncertainty is the catalyst for growth. </p><p>Playing to win means consciously choosing to experience those situations that will help us grow. </p><p>Furthermore, it means going into those situations wholeheartedly, committed to going as far as we can </p><p>with all that we have. </p><p>A Conscious Choice </p><p>We choose to play not to lose because we believe our emotional survival is at stake. We choose to play </p><p>to win in order to learn, grow and thrive. Although its not often that black and white, the critical </p><p>moments of our lives and careers often come down to a choice between the two: </p><p>- Which are you going to choose today? </p><p>- Are you going to consciously decide to play to win or play not to lose both personally and </p><p>professionally? </p><p>Playing to win definitely seems like the better game to me! </p></li></ul>