Mykim Tran

Are you an independent person?

IntroductionWhat does being an independent person

means to you? Is it a person who does everything by

him or herself? Is it a person who does not ask for help?In today society, many people who

considered themselves as independent are missing the main component, which is to create and live their own lives.

Are you an independent person?

When it comes to the word independent, it means relying on yourself, and this includes creating and living your own life.

If you are copying other people life or doing what they are doing, then you are not an independent person.

If you want to know if you are an independent person or not, then pay attention to how similar your life is to other people.

Asking for help• One false belief that many people have is

that independent people should not ask for help.

• Even though independent means relying on oneself, there will always be times when you will need help because you are a human being, you will not know how to do everything.

• As a matter of fact, if you need help to live your life, but are not asking for help, then you are not an independent person.

How to ask for help• However, there is a right and wrong way to ask

for help. • An independent person will actively engage into

the process when they are seeking for help. • For example, asking for help does not mean you

allow the other person to do everything for you, and then just sit back and watch.

• The person who is helping you is only there to assist you, and not to do the job for you.

• If you did not learn anything after someone helped you, then you did not ask for help.

Purpose of asking for helpThe main purpose of asking for help is

to gain more knowledge so you can solve the same problem the next time.

As an independent person, you have to understand and believe that you are the main person who will accomplish what you want.

People are only there to show you the correct ways to accomplish things.

Action steps• 1. Write down on how you would want to live and

what you want to achieve in life• 2. Answer the following questions:– Are you living the same life as everyone else or do

similar things as them? The answer should be NO– Are you taking steps and moving forward to live the life

you want? The answer should be YES– Are you asking for help to achieve what you want in life

when you need to? The answer should be YES– Do you wait until someone else accomplished something

first before you try to accomplish the same thing? The answer should be NO

• You should answer correctly to all of the questions if you want to be considered as an independent person.

Action steps3. Make a list of the things and

ways you want to live your own life. And then come up with a plan to accomplish it.

4. Take immediate action.