TRICK OR TREAT

Have women forgotten about being beautiful for their men or are the men just learning the truth about beautiful women?

Remember when he first proposed to you? Can you remember the feeling? How about leading up to the proposal? You would never let him see you not looking your best. So what happens to women after they take the vows and promise to love him forever and ever? Is this their right of passage to mediocrity? Funny thing because many married men engage in conversations with the fellas about how their woman isnʼt sexy anymore. They complain about how she wears rollers in her hair to bed or doesnʼt put on the fancy nighties that he once looked forward to seeing each time he spent the night or they shared sleeping space. Has the novelty worn off that fast? Is the honeymoon over or was the dressing up and looking her absolute best all a ploy to get the ring and now that she has it, well.....!

For some men this can be quite aggravating, but for the woman, she really hasnʼt changed at all. Here are some secrets that may cost me a few female friends. WOMEN DONʼT WAKE UP PRETTY! Nope! This is all a myth. Some of us will get up extra early to look good for our guys especially at the beginning of a relationship. We will go out of our way to ensure that each time the new guy sees us, he seeʼs beauty. However, those nights when youʼre not sleeping over, we are putting on facial masks and creams, we

have our retainers and invisalign in our mouths, weʼve got on the mismatched pajamas and panty sets and most important of it all, we look a total mess. Have you ever been preparing to go out on a date with a woman and told her a specific time youʼd be picking her up? Did you ever show up thirty minutes early? What happened? I can almost bet you that she didnʼt answer the door and while you were on time, you found yourself waiting in the car or being entertained by a member of the household (hopefully one that was friendly)! LOL. There is a method to our madness. We canʼt expose who we really are just yet, it may scare some of you off and women everywhere would forever be single. Instead we put our best foot forward and at the point when we become “comfortable” our strong beauty standards that once plagued the relationship early on are a lot more relaxed. It isnʼt that we deceived you into thinking we were someone we are not. The reality is that in order for women to look the way they look when guys see them, thereʼs some behind the scenes work that needs to get done. Now that you are married or co-habitating, you are just seeing what goes on behind the scenes. By the way guys, we learn a few not so pretty things about you too.