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<ul><li> Anger and its Management 1 </li> <li> 2 </li> <li> What is Anger? Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage." 3 </li> <li> Anger Is an emotion Is common to every person Is found in all temperaments 4 </li> <li> I feel Furious Spiteful Grouchy Frustrated Enraged Annoyed Irritated Mad Irate ANGRY 5 </li> <li> Fight, Flight or Freeze Three instinctual responses when faced with an angry or aggressive individual. 6 </li> <li> How do you experience anger? 7 </li> <li> How do you feel it physically and emotionally? What changes do you notice in yourself when you become angry? __________________ __________________ __________________ 8 Complete the checklist on the next slide. </li> <li> Objectives: 1. 2. 3. 4. 9 Identify your anger triggers Know your anger cues Know your anger style Deal with your anger effectively </li> <li> TRIGGERS What bugs you? Something that happens that makes you angry What triggers you does not always trigger someone else. 10 </li> <li> Psychologists often call that right before event a trigger. The scene has been set by previous events and your mood, and then something triggers your response of anger. 11 </li> <li> For example, maybe you have had a bad morninggot up late and felt groggy, spilled coffee and had to change your shirt, tired from the day before, a little worried about a paper you need to writeand then, the trigger: someone cuts you off in traffic. 12 </li> <li> Thoughts Matter Triggers are accompanied by thoughts, including thoughts that you have so quickly that they are almost automatic and you may not even notice them. 13 </li> <li> 1. You have the highest average on social studies tests, but when report cards are handed out, the teacher gives someone else a higher grade than you because he participates in class more than you do. a. b. c. 14 not at all angry somewhat angry very angry </li> <li> 2. Your best friend has a secret that she tells to two other friends but not to you. a. b. c. 15 not at all angry somewhat angry very angry </li> <li> 3. Someone in your class spreads a rumor about you. a. b. c. 16 not at all angry somewhat angry very angry </li> <li> 4. Your older sister keeps interrupting you when youre trying to tell your mom something. a. b. c. 17 not at all angry somewhat angry very angry </li> <li> 5. At the pizza place, you have to wait ten minutes before your order is taken because the man behind the counter has served two people who came in after you. a. b. c. 18 not at all angry somewhat angry very angry </li> <li> MAKE A LIST 19 If you know your anger triggers, then you can either: 1. Try to avoid them 2. Learn how to deal with them. </li> <li> Clenched fist Loud voice Racing &amp; pounding heartbeat Sweat 20 Your body sends you signals, when youre getting angry. Red face Upset stomach </li> <li> Complete the Checklist What are your anger cues? 21 </li> <li> Whats your anger style? When your anger is triggered, youre going to react in some way. The way you react is called your ANGER STYLE. Dumping Acting Out Burying 22 </li> <li> ACTING OUT 23 Easiest to recognize Its when you strike out at the person you are mad at: physically or verbally. YOURE OUT OF CONTROL!!!! </li> <li> Consequences You get in trouble Problem is not solved 24 </li> <li> DUMPING DISPLACED ANGER Shifting your feelings to someone you feel its safe to be mad at. Ex. Guy gets mad at his boss, comes home &amp; yells at his wife, who yells at the kids, who kick the dog!! 25 </li> <li> Consequences You hurt innocent people Problem is not solved 26 </li> <li> BURYING (ignoring) When you hold your anger down inside yourself because you think it isnt nice to have those feelings. Denying your angry isnt dealing with it. It can come out in other ways: headaches, stomachaches, anxious, depressed One day you might explode!! 27 </li> <li> Consequences You hurt yourself You may hurt others when you EXPLODE Problem is not solved 28 </li> <li> Expectation breeds frustration. Frustration breeds anger. 29 </li> <li> . There are two choices You stay angry---------- nothing good happen Feel calm---------------anger is fixated 30 . </li> <li> Why do we get angry? We are predisposed to become angry when we appraise an event or a person as a threat to one of our basic needs such as food or shelter, or more mature needs such as identity, recognition, achievement, and social affiliation. 31 </li> <li> When do you get angry? 32 </li> <li> Think about these reactions. Are they good for youyour health? your relationships? Your success at school and in life? 33 </li> <li> How Do You Act When Angry? How do you typically act when angry? __________________________ __________________________ __________________________ 34 </li> <li> ? Do you Show it on your face? Grit your teeth? Grin? Turn red? Criticize the cause of your anger? Physically attack the cause of your anger? Curse or Swear? Walk out? Withdraw from others? 35 Yell or Shout? Complain? Clench your fists? Make aggressive gestures? Threaten others? Punch or Throw objects? Stomp your feet? Slam doors? Brood? </li> <li> What are the short term effects? ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ For example: Do you experience relief? Do you become angrier? Depressed? Does your anger influence other situations you encounter or your interactions with others? 36 </li> <li> ? What are the long term effects? For example: 37 Do you become angry again in a similar situation? Do you continue to experience the same problem as before? Are there significant long term effects, such as lost friendships or jobs, a drinking problem, or a court appearance? </li> <li> Out-of-control anger leads to a pattern of negative behavior that can hurt your relationships, career, even your mental and physical health. 38 </li> <li> Can Anger be a Positive? Although anger is often viewed as a negative feeling, it can be used in a positive way 39 Anger provides cues that there is a problem Anger provides energy and can help motivate action Anger encourages the expression of feelings </li> <li> 40 </li> <li> Advantages of Anger Feelings of power Self righteous Get peoples attention Make them do what you want 41 </li> <li> Disadvantages of anger Physical symptoms Tension Fatigue psychological symptoms Remorse guilt may cause fear rather than respect 42 </li> <li> Facts about anger Anger is not A reflex Automatic Caused by others 43 Anger is A result of thinking a choice controlled by your own thinking </li> <li> What Is Anger Management Anger management refers to therapeutic strategies that allow people to overcome excess feelings of anger. It help to control destructive impulse that anger may cause. 44 </li> <li> Benefits Of Anger Management Judgment Fewer Disputes Closer And More Healthy Relationships Better Communication Stress 45 </li> <li> Anger can make you ill When we are angry The body releases stress hormones, such as adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol. The heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature and breathing rate increase. Regular episodes of anger can eventually make people ill. 46 </li> <li> 47 </li> <li> Questions to Ask Yourself When Angry Am I angry at the right person? Am I angry for the right reasons? Do I have the right amount of angry? Is the anger causing situation within my control? Would I still be angry in a week, month, or year from now? Do I have any physical conditions such as pain, fatigue, or mental illness that are leading me to be angry? What action can I take that will likely have the most positive outcome? 48 </li> <li> Do I need help The following may indicate that you need anger management help You have numerous arguments with people around you, especially your partner, parents, children or colleagues. You find yourself involved in fights. You hit your partner or children. You threaten violence to people or property. You lose your temper when driving and become reckless. You think that perhaps you do need help. 49 </li> <li> 50 </li> <li> Anger Management Its not them, its you 51 </li> <li> Does everybody experience anger? Everybody gets angry. That is okay. Youre going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences. 52 </li> <li> EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY Thats just how it is. The difference comes in what you do about it. SO: 53 GET A GRIP!!! </li> <li> 54 </li> <li> 55 </li> <li> 56 </li> <li> Remember that getting angry is not going to fix anything, and it won't make you feel better. Uncontrolled anger may actually make you feel worse. Learn to control your anger and don't let anger control you. 57 </li> <li> Eating rat poison and wait for rat to die. Container that hold lava hurts most and container on that lava falling temporary hurts. 58 </li> <li> Anger Management Skills 59 </li> <li> Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) 60 </li> <li> REBT Albert Ellis by REBT It is humanistic approach that emphasis individual s capacity for creating their own self enhancing and self-defeating emotion. 61 </li> <li> Goals of REBT Minimize emotion disturbance, decrease the self- defeating behavior and become happier. REBT teach how to deal with negative feelings such as: aggression 62 </li> <li> ABC Model A:Activating event B:Belief about the event. C:Beliefs will lead to the consequences. 63 </li> <li> ABC Model ABC Model helps people understand the connection between the belief and consequences. The ABC Model shows that A does no cause C. It is B that cause C. 64 </li> <li> Example A:Your best friend has not attend your phone calls for several days. B:You think______. C:What is the consequences of that belief? 65 </li> <li> Three Core Demands(Must) Self-Demand: I must do well and approved by significant others. Other-Demand: I must be treated fairly by other. Other are damnable ( Hateful) if they do not treat me fairly. Demands of the world/life condition: Life condition must be absolutely the way that I want them to be. 66 </li> <li> Ways of Thinking There are two ways of thinking. Irrational way of thinking Rational way of thinking 67 </li> <li> Irrational way of thinking Inconsistent with the reality. Lack empirically validity. Illogical. Non flexible. Demanding. State demands rather then a desire 68 </li> <li> Rational Thinking Consistent with reality. Empirically validity Logical Flexible Preferential: Express a desire not a demand 69 </li> <li> Now check your rational and irrational thoughts and decide which is better for you. Accept that you are not God or people are not your reborts, both of you are human beings If one make mistakes, other have to accept it, forgive it for betterment 70 </li> <li> According to Islam Motive of REBT is to realize you are destructive to yourself. Dont with your own hand cart yourself into destruction. S2 -V195 71 </li> <li> Nay whoever submits himself entirely to Allah and he is a doer of good to others, he has his reward from his Lord...</li></ul>